Agreed.
Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy
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Agreed.
Nerds with Guns
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Two years.
I did.
She said if meeting up for drinks is a bad idea we don't have to do it.
I didn't respond with anything.
I'm going to bed.
Tell her it's cool and set a date you fool.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Calmez-vous mon frere. Chill.
What the hell?
YES.
NeOak
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Congrats for almost certainly killing the chance she wanted to lighten the mood for both of you and talk to you about that subject.
Here is what you're gonna do: Meet with her for drinks, and when she wants to talk, you listen to her and dont answer with words. Nod for yes, move your head for no. But do not interrupt her.
I say this because some like to drink to be able to say heavy stuff like for example her relationship.
When she is done talking, then you make the decision to get laid or not.
Why you should do it? It's a pretty good learning experience.
Youth, it's wasted on the young. I understand it now.
Smh son, smfh
NeOak
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Nerds with Guns
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I said it was cool.
Meeting up at 9pm.
Will keep this thread updated
now I'm out
Meeting up at 9pm.
Will keep this thread updated
now I'm out
You beautiful bastard.
You are a god damn fool, she's signalling that she's into you because she is probably gonna split with her BF. It's very likely there are problems there and she wants out. Don't screw it up by bringing the BF up. As far as you're concerned, he doesn't exist.
DON'T BRING UP THE BF EVER AGAIN.
DON'T BRING UP THE BF EVER AGAIN.
NeOak
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Good.
And whatever you do: Do NOT bring the boyfriend subject. Let her do it.
Seriously don't. She already said that she will talk to you about it, so just be patient.
If she is indeed soon splitting with her boyfriend, then you could very well find something in this girl.
Personally, I am against the idea of going after people who are in relationships though so I'll simply stay out of this one any further.
Good luck to you in whatever happens, though.
Personally, I am against the idea of going after people who are in relationships though so I'll simply stay out of this one any further.
Good luck to you in whatever happens, though.
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ZombieFred
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I'm an idiot, a big silly twit. I contacted my ex, from a very hurtful relationship, because I'm stupid and she still had that superior complex and how liberated to her sexuality for going with girls and so fourth she is and how she's very happy, which I am glad for but still hearing from it is like a knife to the wound. I think I should block communication again for good and just avoid all that hassle because I don't think we can ever be friends.
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ZombieFred
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I am and will, it's just that I had some stupid thought we could be friends again and I sould have listened to that big voice saying no. Blocking communication such as removing her from being able to email or contact me online is what I will do, it's the sane thing, and she respectfully understand why. She's happy in life right now and I am happy too in some ways but I still need to work on improving some areas of my life.
At least you can recognize that and work on it. Good for you, I wish you luck.
Lone_Prodigy
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Normally I would recommend not being that guy. But she's initiating everything, so I don't know. On the other hand, it takes two to cheat.
Ghost_Protocol
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DON'T BRING UP THE BF EVER AGAIN
So, I might be meeting a girl for coffee soon 
I had been chatting with online for a decent amount and then she suddenly stopped responding about a month ago. So, today, I sent her a message asking "Hey, what's up?"
She said "hey there. just relaxing now, whats up with you?"
I said "Eh, not much. Just trying to get back into some type of exercise schedule. I was wondering (if it's not too forward) if you'd like to hang out sometime?"
She said "sure I would, coffee?"
And then I said "awesome Um, sure, that works. There's a Starbucks in the Center. Is that ok?"
I'll keep you guys posted.
I had been chatting with online for a decent amount and then she suddenly stopped responding about a month ago. So, today, I sent her a message asking "Hey, what's up?" She said "hey there. just relaxing now, whats up with you?"
I said "Eh, not much. Just trying to get back into some type of exercise schedule. I was wondering (if it's not too forward) if you'd like to hang out sometime?"
She said "sure I would, coffee?"
And then I said "awesome
Um, sure, that works. There's a Starbucks in the Center. Is that ok?"I'll keep you guys posted.
So, I might be meeting a girl for coffee soon
She said "hey there. just relaxing now, whats up with you?"
I said "Eh, not much. Just trying to get back into some type of exercise schedule. I was wondering (if it's not too forward) if you'd like to hang out sometime?"
She said "sure I would, coffee?"
And then I said "awesome
I'll keep you guys posted.
There is no might here. You nutted up and asked a girl to coffee. Go in there with that knowledge giving you a confidence boost. You're having coffee with a girl, this is a good opportunity to meet someone new and talk. If you like her? Make a move, if not - you met someone new and are all the more worldly for it.
Thanks
I just needed someone to tell me that. No response from her yet. Will keep you all posted 
Thanks
The -one- bit of advice I would give you is, if this opportunity presents itself again, take a touch more charge. Instead of saying "there is a starbucks at so and so, is that okay?" - say something along the lines of "There is a starbucks at so and so, lets meet for 6!"
Honestly though, that's not advice I'd swear by, you already did most of the heavy lifting and important stuff, everything else is icing.
Thanks
I really haven't been in this situation in a long time so, it's nice to know that I haven't completely fucked it up yet Thanks
Get those thoughts out of your head! Self-deprecatory humour has a time and a place, but not when you're getting back into the dating game! Make the -opposite- sort of jokes. You ball so hard , it's no wonder she said yes.
Ok, those thoughts are gone from my head. I just really wish she'd get back to me. I hope coffee at Starbucks is ok. Honestly, I'm kinda nervous about this potential meeting for coffee. I haven't done something like this in a long time. It doesn't help that I don't drink coffee :/
Well no matter what, don't text her again asking her what her status is. Just relax - if she is interested, asking her again will only reduce her interest. If she's the sort of girl who gets nervous and rather than communicates her issue, just cuts contact (I know many girls like this, ugh) then it's her loss and your gain... cause trust me you don't want to deal with that.
The only thing you need to focus on is being happy that you took the step you did. Be proud of yourself and now that you know you can do it, it'll be easier doing it from now on.
Also, your situation reminds me of the first date I had after breaking up with my ex (of 7 years) last spring. In the summer I asked a girl out, was terrified - she suggested coffee and even though I don't drink Coffee I was all "Yeah sure! Coffee!". We met up, and immediately... I relaxed. I don't know what came over me but I was just so proud of myself for getting that far... I had only ever been with my ex, and I've never gone through the 'asking a girl out' process. So I was happy with myself.
When I went up to order, I got an orange juice - girl asked 'orange juice at a coffee place? Do you not like Coffee?" "Not really" "Then why agree to meet up for coffee?" "Well you're so damn good looking, didn't care what we did
". Bit of a dangerous move saying that, but it worked out.Sanky Panky
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So, I might be meeting a girl for coffee soon
She said "hey there. just relaxing now, whats up with you?"
I said "Eh, not much. Just trying to get back into some type of exercise schedule. I was wondering (if it's not too forward) if you'd like to hang out sometime?"
She said "sure I would, coffee?"
And then I said "awesome
I'll keep you guys posted.
Another advice is, unless working out has been a thing in common for you too in the past, be mindful of what you say to girls before the first meeting. Not only was this irrelevant info to start a convo with, but it may plant in her mind that you are out of shape and don't take care of yourself. It's all about perception.
I know it sounds like a petty thing to harp on, but girls pick up stuff like that. Otherwise good job on taking action!
WyndhamPrice
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Made a hilariously forward pass at this girl from one of my classes while we were walking home pretty fantastically drunk from the bar last night (turned out we live a few houses down from each other).
Struck out, we both laughed about it right after it happened. No weirdness. She gave me her number anyway (without me even asking for it).
It's only weird if you make it weird!
Struck out, we both laughed about it right after it happened. No weirdness. She gave me her number anyway (without me even asking for it).
It's only weird if you make it weird!
TheSchwab_7
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Is it normal for your girlfriend to constantly complain about her job, family, etc every day? I know im her boyfriend and I listen, but damn sometimes it just seems like she needs to be more positive and let some things go.
Just watched a kid get clowned on the bus. Cute girl is sitting against the window, open seat to her left. Kid takes his shot after being on the bus a few minutes and sits next to her. Says his line (which unfortunately I couldn't hear) and she puts in her left earbud. I'm dying. Took him a good 3 minutes to cut his losses and move.
Etrian Oddity
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Or if you don't pass her "would fuck/would not fuck" judgment. We don't even need to start the subject of creepiness based off a girl's attraction to a guy. :\
So far, today is going my way. Got my car serviced and nothing was wrong with it I joined a couple of other dating sites, went through a billion profiles on them, and found nothing I wanted.
I'm starting to realize that everyone that told you back in elementary school that being different was a good thing was wrong. Everyone really seems to want the same thing, which is the people in the crowd. Unfortunately for me I'm not like them, therefore I'm alone. Fuck everything.
I'm starting to realize that everyone that told you back in elementary school that being different was a good thing was wrong. Everyone really seems to want the same thing, which is the people in the crowd. Unfortunately for me I'm not like them, therefore I'm alone. Fuck everything.
Vermillion
Banned
Question: Girls who have fuckbuddies - go or no go?
The guy looks fine, but he fucking hunts ghosts for a living.
No go. Who wants to be a side dish?
The Anti-Monitor
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I'd assume the expectation would be that they stop being fuckbuddies if you start dating.
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ZombieFred
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No son, trust me. You want the full platter, not be a side dish that makes you feel undermined and not get the full course. You're better than that and will have many better opportunities.
whoops she actually just told me I was cute straight up. I'm not really interested in her but that's still really kinda awesome to hear. It's kinda weird that this just happened after date gaf has told me all this stuff.
I think most expect that but it's not always how it works out lol.
Is she attractive AT ALL?
sadly no, I don't wanna sound like a dick judging people but she's a bit overweight.
oh yeah definitely still made me feel real good which is nice.Well at least you can take some comfort in the compliment and apply some positivity to future prospects.
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