Good move. If she replies negatively or totally neglects it, then move on. It would only go downhill once school began if she is this challenging this early on.
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Good move. If she replies negatively or totally neglects it, then move on. It would only go downhill once school began if she is this challenging this early on.
Mmm... Good enough response, not gonna nit pick it. Glad you're starting to get your own flavor! That's important too, so you don't sound like a recording.
Gucci Messiah
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ClovingWestbrook
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lolz
Gucci Messiah
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funny pic brah
Ah cool, if you want to meet up when you get here, then let me know. (just another option).
But yes, be breaking out the ledge for the write off.
I think you can have something in common when texting. Just my.02. Ive met a girl once in person, very drunkenly, started texting, it turned into texing books, and when we saw each other we hit if off. Happened more than once.
So ya know, there is that...
ClovingWestbrook
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Her response:
"Me too! I just don't want you to be mad if it takes a while, since i'm currently like more than an hour away from hartford :/"
What I'm going to say:
"I wouldn't be mad. So, where do you live?"
nvm
I'm not, I just think he's being more misogynistic than the situation would call for.
Vermillion
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Yes, but now it just sounds absurd.
I wouldn't ask where she lives.Her response:
"Me too! I just don't want you to be mad if it takes a while, since i'm currently like more than an hour away from hartford :/"
What I'm going to say:
"I wouldn't be mad
"nah, I don't get mad like that. I'm just getting to know you, there's no rush."
If she wants to divulge where she lives, go from there.
She's playing games with one of our own. I look down upon her. Would it be better if I called her a dick faced butt licker?
BTDUBS, you have been on my case in like most of the threads i post in.
Enjoy being strung along.
Vermillion
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Well, it's 50% a "really man" and 50% "you'd get banned for either word and you used both. Plus you're a junior, so that's a permanent ban."
ClovingWestbrook
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Sure, it would sound immature but idc about that.
Normally I don't really care about gender specific insults because the point is it's an insult, just your algamesh was absurd.
Really? REALLY?
I stand by earlier assertion about you people needing therapy.
I take it back.
I like that I'm being singled out for using what could be described as just a stupid word, but this thread has actual advice that is incredibly misogynistic.
To be honest I don't know what that is.
Vermillion
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Such as?
(Also, you might wish to edit that out and ask the people who quoted you to do the same)
I've never heard about this but it seems I do this mentally. I know a lot of guys who do too.
I think the theory is absurd, you can be friends with a girl and not have sex. However, yeah most guys would fuck anything with two legs and a hole.
foodtaster
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What I meant by my other comment was that actively pursuing women is kind of silly. It's far more productive to work on yourself. Things like getting in shape, pursuing your hobbies, having a healthy social life, etc
After all, build it and they will come.
After all, build it and they will come.
well most pick artist stuff that people have recommended is an example.
ClovingWestbrook
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Such as?
Vermillion
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Player, game, you know what it is.
Different things for different women, etc. Just don't sexually assault/harass anyone and you're good.
Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
"
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
"I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
Vermillion
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Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
It seems like she's making a lot of excuses, and with each text, you seem more and more desperate. Probably best to cut it off now, but do what you will.
ClovingWestbrook
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Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
STOP. SERIOUSLY. STOP. Move on man. Why are you limiting yourself to this one woman who you have only been speaking to for 72 hours? Take a step back! You don't know her. She lives more than an hour away. Just move on, have fun at Cape Cod, and when you come back, talk to other people. Seriously.
Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
That's fine, the response matters less than your attitude about it. Don't worry, put her in the back of you're mind and worry about other girls. Be polite to her, but don't carry on conversing with her a lot via text.
Bam Bam Baklava
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He's right you know. Gotta let it go.
I looked it up. I have plenty healthy platonic relationships with women, but I do believe people surround themselves (men and women) with people they are physically or mentally attracted to. They just don't want to fuck most of them.
So are you going to fawn over this girl until she is closer or are going to keep seeing other people?Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
I had 3 girlfriends and I'm married and I cared about them. In my experience you need to have a balance between caring for her and caring for yourself.
As for the issue with celebi23, whats wrong with asking where she lives? What does he have to lose??. If you want to hide it then you could try and guess where she lives so that she tells you if you're wrong or right. It may sound fishy if her profile says she lives somewhere and says she doesn't but something important here is that she's continuing with the texts with you so my advice is just to have fun, keep texting trying to get more info about her and if you like what you are seeing the continue some more!
ClovingWestbrook
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No. He shouldn't even be worried about where she lives at this point. Move on.
Her response:
"In the farmlands north of springfield like close to an hour away
I'm torn, we seem to have a lot in common and she seems sweet yet, not mentioning that you're not living in Springfield until the end of August is a pretty big omission, you know? How's this:
"I'm just getting to know you, don't worry about it"
So she lives in the Hampton area it sounds like. Just act casual with her and let it go its course. Don't push it or anything. Let her come to you as well.
Lol This is kind of a lame situation. I'm 100% sure that most guys who would have this happen to would either say:
1. what the fuck are you doing
2. nothing
(this is counting every male minus gay males), and their reaction would be "well I'm not gonna pass up sex". Even if she's unattractive or I don't like her" unless they had a really good reason.
Bam Bam Baklava
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I'm not sure I would do it either.
Yo Dating-GAF, first post on this thread. I've seen some fantastic advice and discussion being given out around here, so I thought I'd share a conundrum that I've had for the last few weeks:
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
ClovingWestbrook
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Yo Dating-GAF, first post on this thread. I've seen some fantastic advice and discussion being given out around here, so I thought I'd share a conundrum that I've had for the last few weeks:
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
Nothing wrong with you, man. Some folks just aren't too focused on finding someone to have a relationship with or have sex with. As long as you're happy with your life, have a positive self outlook, socialize, etc., don't worry about the other shit. Just enjoy your life. If you end up wanting to meet someone, you will. If you don't, there isn't anything wrong with you.
Don't stress about it man. Sometimes people just don't want to date, and that's okay.Yo Dating-GAF, first post on this thread. I've seen some fantastic advice and discussion being given out around here, so I thought I'd share a conundrum that I've had for the last few weeks:
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
Look, the most important thing is figuring out whether or not that it's you don't want to date, or if it's that you are trying to protect yourself from getting hurt by adopting apathy. If it's the latter, take some time and really do some soul searching. Figure out what it is you want exactly, and we can help you from there.
Man seriously there's nothing wrong by asking her at this point if he wants to know it since there hasn't been a point to being with, no date has been set, no commitments, nothing. It's just a casual friendly texting with a girl.
I agree.
Bam Bam Baklava
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Yo Dating-GAF, first post on this thread. I've seen some fantastic advice and discussion being given out around here, so I thought I'd share a conundrum that I've had for the last few weeks:
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
I think a lot of guys want girls because they're young and their hormones are basically like telling them to go for it. At the end of the day this whole little charade is just our hormones telling us what to do. Do you want a girlfriend or sexual interaction with girls or are you completely apathetic? That's really the only explanation I could think of unless you're life is just so damn fulfilling and awesome that the idea of having a partner isn't appealing to you...there are people out there like that.
Yo Dating-GAF, first post on this thread. I've seen some fantastic advice and discussion being given out around here, so I thought I'd share a conundrum that I've had for the last few weeks:
I'm not sure if I care enough about dating or relationships in general.
I won't beat around the bush, I'm a virgin at 18. I don't have a problem with that personally, my time will come and that fact not really my main reason for being a little confused. It's more the fact I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 8, so that doesn't really count.
I'm generally a confident person with girls: I can be shy but I come out of my shell pretty quickly once I start talking. I have a lot of female friends, and I suppose that could be be pointed as part of the reason why I haven't had a girlfriend. But the thing is, even taking into account those that I was interested in, I've never really got too hung-up on being caught up in the friend-zone. It's just never really bothered me, and that's sort of concerning.
I know it sounds like a really silly problem to have. The obvious answer is that maybe I should try and make more of an effort, maybe be more assertive with those who I have an interested in. But I've just never really been concerned about being in the friend-zone with these girls.
I've tried to rack my brain for some possible reasons. My life at the moment is pretty fulfilling, I have a good part-time job, I'm hopefully going to Uni this year, I socialise quite pretty frequently, I go to the gym, I think I look good, I have a decent fashion sense etc. Is it that I just don't feel that I need to date a girl at the moment? Or is it because I have some confidence problem that I'm just blind to? Is it my sexuality? I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I've heard stories of sexualities and mindsets changing even later on in life. I just don't know.
That's why I've come here. Again, I know my problem sounds a bit silly, hell it's bordering on illogical. Obviously I need to care more to be more successful, but I just don't know why I don't care as much as I should. I would like your opinion, might help me shed some light on things.
Thanks for reading, if you did.
I was in the same position you are when I was 18, I had several female friends who may had been interested in me but I was not very assertive with their hints and by the time I saw them differently it was too late. I'm still friends with them but I do kinda regret that I had opportunities and didn't saw them. So my advice would be that you make an effort in being more assertive with girls so that you can decide if you want to try dating/going out or do nothing and chill out. This will help a lot in your college years.
ClovingWestbrook
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Oh cool, another person who assume pua is bullshit and treats women poorly. It's been a while, hasn't it?
So what you're saying is that you implement pick up artist 'tips'?
Oh cool, another person who assume pua is bullshit and treats women poorly. It's been a while, hasn't it?
PUA?
Really??
Oh, okay
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