I try getting more shirts these days that I don't find bland. This shirt got me a big taste of a free rum coke mint drink last night. Close to 10 different people made some kind of positive comment on it. Always funny when people try to be clever and say "hmm, I get the feeling you like *band x*" xD
Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy
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Vermillion
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Mm. Problem is I'm not big into bands these days. I've no idea what type of shirt I could get...
maquiladora
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Gambit shirt?
Sub_Level
wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Anyone here have input on rejecting a girl?
Fat chick (only specifying that she's fat because that's primarily the reason I didn't wanna go with her) invited me to coffee on facebook. So I told her that "I was sorry but I wasn't interested, unless she was wanting to go just as friends to chill". I've known her for a long time since elementary school.
I don't like being led on by girls so I just gave it to her straight so it wouldn't be like I was leading her on, but could I have handled this in a better, more sensitive fashion?
Fat chick (only specifying that she's fat because that's primarily the reason I didn't wanna go with her) invited me to coffee on facebook. So I told her that "I was sorry but I wasn't interested, unless she was wanting to go just as friends to chill". I've known her for a long time since elementary school.
I don't like being led on by girls so I just gave it to her straight so it wouldn't be like I was leading her on, but could I have handled this in a better, more sensitive fashion?
Vermillion
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I try not to show much geekiness as is.
You were sure that she was asking you out? If so, you should have stopped at "interested."
Shy/sensitive/introverted guys please avert your eyes.
I agree with the message, but fucking bullshit man.
Vermillion
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I agree with the message, but fucking bullshit man.
It's the quotes. It causes it to look for those words together in a sentence. You searching it without the quotes means you just found the four words separately.
You must become stronger in Google-Fu, my son.
maquiladora
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I'd go for a subtle geeky shirt that still looks 'normal' but someone who recognizes the reference would get it. Like the type on lastexittonowhere.
Probably not a good idea to completely hide your geekiness. You don't want to end up feeling you have to hide part of who you are to be with a girl. Much better you meet a girl who points at your Nostromo shirt and says "Awesome, I love Alien!" and get talking about things in a more relaxed, fun, mutual manner.
maquiladora
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I just thought it was funny. But yeah, there are no Google results for the exact phrase "i hate assertive men".
But at least there are 2 results for "i don't like assertive men"
The thing is, I never, and the Rock means never, bring up anything nerdy in conversations, nor when they are brought up, I never go into detail about them. I won't deny I like something, but the flaw of the nerd is that they are too passionate, and they love to over-explain things to the layman. Go into too much detail.
I would never wear a geeky shirt either, as that seems like it'd already be shooting down any possible slim chances I may have had at the start.
I agree with the sentiment, I just think it's a poor way of expressing it though.
I would never wear a geeky shirt either, as that seems like it'd already be shooting down any possible slim chances I may have had at the start.
I just thought it was funny. But yeah, there are no Google results for the exact phrase "i hate assertive men".
But at least there are 2 results for "i don't like assertive men"
I agree with the sentiment, I just think it's a poor way of expressing it though.
Sub_Level
wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Funny that you mention Alien. I have this shirt
and it has been a conversation starter with girls a couple times.
I just thought it was funny. But yeah, there are no Google results for the exact phrase "i hate assertive men".
But at least there are 2 results for "i don't like assertive men"
Did some research and it was a nun and a cat lady.
Fangamer is good for this for gaming related shirts. Some of the designs are pretty overt, but there's quite a few that are relatively subtle as well.
maquiladora
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It's even worse than that. I compared the IP addresses. They matched.
It's the same woman with two different user names.
GhostWriter24
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I was a "nice guy" at the bar with my friend last night...a lovely Latin girl with some gorgeous curly hair was standing next to me ordering a drink and I said hello, asked her name and told her she had great hair. We talked no more than 30 seconds but she came back maybe 20min later and put a small sheet of paper with her number on it in my hand.
Another blonde girl gave me her business card later that night after we talked for about an hour about her aspirations for opening a, ahem, unisex underwear store. She asked me if I wanted to "see the product outside" but I wanted no part of it really. Nice girl though.
Another blonde girl gave me her business card later that night after we talked for about an hour about her aspirations for opening a, ahem, unisex underwear store. She asked me if I wanted to "see the product outside" but I wanted no part of it really. Nice girl though.
Vermillion
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True, I guess...
They don't seem to have that large of a selection, actually. And I realize how many things I only know by way of other people. I don't watch a bunch of movies, for example, so while I get references like HAL and Doc Brown, I've not seen Space Odyssey or Back to the Future (sorry guys).
These are the best I could find:
And #3 isn't my style, I think, #2 seems sorta feminine, and that leaves #1 which may be too... I dunno. Anyone have any other sites or something?
Shy/sensitive/introverted guys please avert your eyes.
what do you mean by "avert your eyes"?
Meaning, don't look at this, or you'll see the consensus that women want assertive men, not shy, meek, timid, unassertive ones.
Google hits for "i hate unassertive men" - 1.
Google hits for "i hate shy men" - 781
Google hits for "i hate meek men" - 1
Google hits for "i hate timid men" - 2
fail
It's because people don't use those adjectives in place of unassertive, and it also goes to show that Google search doesn't really help give a consensus of what a certain group of people think. I used timid and meek, because they were apt for the description, but they're not something that would be used in lieu of unassertive.
By the way, fail? Really? Grow up dude.
maquiladora
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I like the first one.
I don't know any sites that do subtle comic book reference shirts, I only know the movie based ones. I'm sure there has to be some out there though.
Excellently done man. Just remember this, and everyone else should take note because this is what is not only possible, but waiting for you out there. You just gotta find the right person(s).
Lol, this seems like a movie scene.
Very well done. Dancing in public is something a lot of people in relationships aren't brave enough to do.
Lol "I like shy men" 41,200 results. WHELP
That's what it boils to. The idea of the original google search was kinda nice, but it doesn't work. In short: a failing.
What I find interesting is that there are at least a few thousands hits on "i hate bald men". I also get almost 10.000 hits on "i hate fat men". Of course, searching for the opposite ("i hate fat women") returns around 3 times as many hits.
In any case, why would anyone even write "i hate XXX men" or anything like that. Being shy just means that you won't talk with as much new people as someone not being shy. Which of course may give that person less possible chances and that's basically it. Shyness stops after getting to know someone normally. And shyness also doesn't mean that a shy person is kind of "weak" or can't stand his ground.
Oh come on. Geek is chic these days. (ugh) I've worn video game shirts to a night club and got more complements on it than my female companions that were dressed fashionably.
That is the way you do it. As much as people are giving these techniques shit, once you get them down they work.
I wear polos on 'dates', or a button down, geeky shirts on anything casual.
I haven't followed since the beginning, but I read his "crush", and assumed it was just some girl he likes, not that they have a relationship. Women want men who can be their rock, not some wimp who will run out and buy them stuff every time they shed a tear for whatever reason, especially when they don't have any type of relationship.
As far as the whole secure part, what you said is true, but buying some corny gift or doing something cheesy for a woman when she's going through a hard time in her life doesn't make her feel "secure", it makes her feel stupid.
If you want to give her the best gift she can have right now, just sit there and fucking listen to her for an hour or two and let her pour her heart out to you without trying to finger her or whatever, and don't offer criticism or advice, just listen and throw in an occasional "Hmm" or "I see".
That's all you need. Keep your money in your wallet, women don't care about gifts for the most part.
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Etrian Oddity
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Feels good man. Some nights the stars really are aligned: You're on your A-game, there are a ton of beautiful girls, and they feed off your vibe and stick with you the whole time.
I love my gaf shirts
no one gets it but I haven't had a bad night in them. Strong colors, interesting patterns or motives is what I go for these days. Polos can gtfo, I feel enough like a nerd without them.As for being a nerd/geek, I can get that it's an uncomfortable topic and side to show. I usually get very apprehensive when I have to explain what I'm studying because believe it or not, the stigma is VERY much alive (I've been dumped right in the middle of the last song on the dance floor because of it). With guys I get surprised when they act repulsed, and the other way around with women unfortunately. That's two years of social programming ("Lie about your major, or you won't get laid").
Those shirts are awful. Women that like nerds like them because they are passionate about something, not because they are buying into the culture fad.
Also, about the assertiveness - Girls have flirted with me even when I showed no interest. You don't have to be super assertive, although you probably will have to ask for the date.
Also, about the assertiveness - Girls have flirted with me even when I showed no interest. You don't have to be super assertive, although you probably will have to ask for the date.
You always want what you can't have. Sure, I could've been more assertive last night, but at the same time I started showing way too much interest, and she lost interest and went home ("I have to get up early to go to work").
To update from this....my roommate is dating this girl that I'm interested in's best friend. With just a little bit of casual conversation, he tells me that "apparently"/he thinks this girl likes him, which is causing some kinds of drama because he's already dating her best friend.
This girl is really bad at lying so apparently to him and to his girlfriend, she's having a hard time trying to mask her feelings for him.
It's kind of confusing to me because I could have sworn that maybe she liked me instead.
She's still not back from her 1 month camp, but at this point I'm not sure if I should insist on making a move if she likes my roommate instead and if it's going to cause more weird problems.....what should I do?
eh
i don't come off like a nerd, but my nerd shirts are awesome
i think the biggest thing with those type of shirts is that some of them simply try too hard to reach everyone outside of their niche. also, a lot of people want to wear that kind of stuff but still don't know how to look comfortable and confident in it.
WyndhamPrice
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I own several Mega64 shirts and they always get a good reaction because they're super stylized and abstracted from whatever they're actually about. There's also one that just says "HAT" on it and while that's a really specific Mega64 reference most people just think it's being ironic (it's a shirt that says hat, lololol).
Haha yeah, a class mate has a black tshirt with "PANTS" on them in white. It gets attention at least.
I bought a Mega64 shirt for a hot girl I was dating, not even really a gamer girl, and she loved it.
But realistically you don't have to be so stealthy about your nerdiness, as long as the shirt is actually cool & to your liking.
FO-totality
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all my band tshits are death metals bands and hardcore bands.
good idea or best idea?
good idea or best idea?
Glorified G
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If you like em, then that's all that matters.
I never entered this threads before, so hi everybody! A few weeks ago the girl who I've been together for some time dumped me, and yes, the first days were kinda shitty, I didn't want to go out with friends, just stay at home and write (one of my hobbies), but now I'm feeling a little better. Went out with friends almost every day the past week or so (and by going out I don't mean disco and stuff, just going for a few drinks somewhere, gathering in someone's house, etc) and after thinking over and over it, I think that the best I can do now is meeting new people.
The fact is that when I go out I always notice that some girls, not all obviously, but some of them look at me and sometimes they keep staring, like they want me to approach or something. While in some cases it was just my imaginantion, in many others at the end of the night my friends would come and say "wtf dude why did you not talk to her or something?", and I go with a "I don't know". So basically my 'problem' is that often I'm not really sure if I like a girl, and if I do, I don't know how to talk to her o what to say.
Anyway, I'll be coming from time to time to read your stories and share my experiences, even advices (if I have any), but basically to 'learn'. Anyway, hi again!
The fact is that when I go out I always notice that some girls, not all obviously, but some of them look at me and sometimes they keep staring, like they want me to approach or something. While in some cases it was just my imaginantion, in many others at the end of the night my friends would come and say "wtf dude why did you not talk to her or something?", and I go with a "I don't know". So basically my 'problem' is that often I'm not really sure if I like a girl, and if I do, I don't know how to talk to her o what to say.
Anyway, I'll be coming from time to time to read your stories and share my experiences, even advices (if I have any), but basically to 'learn'. Anyway, hi again!
just talk to her. If it turns out not right there always be another one.
Yeah, I know, but most of the time I don't really know how to start the conversation, and basically that's because I almost always think 'no way she's looking at me/she likes me'. Everybody I met told me that they have fun when they're with me and that I'm an interesting guy, but my brain says 'no! you're not'. But yes, I'm trying to fix that!
CrushDance
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Some guidance here please.
So we've been talking and talking for about four? days now. We're really enjoying talking but haven't actually gone out yet. I'm not sure how to bring it up because she seems quite nervous and shy. Like I said earlier, she's quite the introvert. What could I suggest that would make her feel comfortable and not too intimidating for her? I really want to just go out with her and do something but she keeps being very shy. I don't want to scare her off or seem pushy.
So we've been talking and talking for about four? days now. We're really enjoying talking but haven't actually gone out yet. I'm not sure how to bring it up because she seems quite nervous and shy. Like I said earlier, she's quite the introvert. What could I suggest that would make her feel comfortable and not too intimidating for her? I really want to just go out with her and do something but she keeps being very shy. I don't want to scare her off or seem pushy.
Etrian Oddity
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"...oh by the way, this coffee/yogurt/ice cream/etc place is really good. I'm gonna go this Saturday, I think you'd really like it if you came along!"
Sort of long for a text, but you get the point.
Maybe something you both can enjoy? I don't know, for example, if you both like reading just tell her if she wants to go with you to a bookstore or whatever, to help you to pick a book (the example is quite bad, but I hope you understand what I mean). Tell her to go to some place where you both can feel good..
maquiladora
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What are your common interests? Movies? Go see a movie, an early screening so it won't feel like a "date". Music? Maybe some interesting live music nearby you can ask her if she'd like to check them out. etc. Find something that you're both interested in or at least something you know she is interested in, and use that to come up with a way of meeting up and doing something together.
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