Something´s grinding my gears and I need an outlet, so I´m going to post it here. Its about ex girlfriends, so if you dont have any interest in that, skip my post.
Me and my ex broke up about two months ago after two years of a pretty intense relationship. With lots of passion but also lots of arguments, semi break ups and what not. At first I was devastated that we stopped for good but after a few weeks I started to feel a lot better and saw we weren´t compatible at all. For starters, she´s 20 and I´m 28. She also tried to manipulate me a lot in the relationship, threatening to leave me or to walk out when I didn´t do this or that. At the end of the relationship, she complained about every little detail of what i did wrong.
So, I´m better off for sure.
We agreed no contact, and that was working out fine. I started hanging out with old friends, making new ones, also a lot of new female friends, with some obvious lover material here and there. Been on a few dates with some different girls as well, actually have another one sceduled tomorrow. No troubles here.
However, the shit started again when she started to email me last weekend. We go out at the same place, theres no way around that, and she said she saw how much fun I was having with one particular lady. This is not her business and we agreed on no contact, so I ignored the mail. Cue the day after, when she starts emailing again, and after that sends me some messages on my phone. I keep ignoring it. The day after, she tries calling me three times. I ignore it.
So on monday I cave in and I say I dont want any contact. She keeps up the contact (at a low pace) for the rest of the week though and I react very short and uninterested. Of course Im not a robot, I dont feel completely nothing, but I don´t want to show her my feelings or get back together, so I keep it all very general.
So this morning she contacted me again, said she dreamed about me three straight nights in a row. I say, oh, thats too bad, I dont dream about you at all. She then says yeah, the dreams are bad and comfirm my feelings, you´re not a kind guy in my dreams. Im like, ok why do I have to know this. She says she is breaking off contact again to stop the dreams. Okay... I don´t really care but why start contacting me in the first place then! I just say, alright, bye.
Is the trying to get attention from me, trying to make me feel bad or whatever... its not really working though, but still, its on my mind now so I guess she somewhat succeeded. Im just going to go on ignoring her, or giving very standard short answers if by any chance she starts talking again, which Im pretty sure she will eventually, and keep up living the good life Ive been living the past couple of weeks.
Ahh, why cant people just leave each other alone when its over.
I never had any problems with talking to girls though, friday night I had five girls over at my house to drink and talk before we went out. Its like, when things get serious, then the trouble starts. I lost my girlfriend of 9 years about 5 years ago because she cheated on me multiple times and as a result, I'm very careful of letting someone in my true self, if that makes sense. So we'll see how this goes!
Don't like that.