If you can teach me how to forgive I'll forever be in your debt. So far therapy has only taught me to not feel like a piece of shit.
Part of it was me relishing in the fact that she was worse-off than I was when she finally contacted me a year after she cut me and the relationship off, but I was a lot younger and more spiteful back then. She told me that she hated her current boyfriend because (at the time, don't know if that's the case now) he treated her like shit emotionally. When I asked her why she didn't leave his ass, she hit me with the "I'd rather be miserable than alone" excuse. She made her choice, and while I'm not above trying to save someone, I can't do that if they don't wanna help themselves.
In general for me, the best way to learn to forgive is to just keep trying to better yourself. I've got a good job
that is trying to kill me with hours, great friends (including on GAF <3), better family, and I'm generally enjoying my life. Yeah I'm lonely as fuck and I miss the companionship of a real relationship, but I'm sure that'll change eventually.
Besides, there's always Lucian's headache cure!