I think still think you're reading the situation in an ultra sensitive way. I haven't seen anything in this thread that suggests the book finalized Jons death as you seem to think people are saying. Just that the book had the same situation take place. As far as I know book readers have been having the same discussions about this situation as we are now. I have no clue if that's true, btw. I'm not a book reader and have been told to stay out of the other thread by others here.
Book readers told him it wasn't a spoiler and he shouldn't worry but he's still freaking out over nothing.