Anyone getting too worked up over this needs to have a good look about their relationship with the site. Get some emotional distance before you end up getting hurt. Reminding me a bit of when a boy band slits up and Facebook is full of tween girls taking about suicide.
I don't think Jeff and Dan are being callous by teasing their fans, they likely just can't comprehend that anyone would care that much. If they do think about it, I bet they could do without the more fervent section of the fanbase, even if those same people are responsible for a lot of their success.