Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me
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The OP had suspicions and ignored them. His girl convinced him that nothing was going on and he wanted to believe it. Then after lying to himself didn't work he finally had to know for sure and found out she was getting ready to cheat on him. He vented here, got the typical advice of leave her and for once someone on Neogaf actually listened and he confronted her and dumped her. That's exactly what he should have done. No sane person is arguing against what he did here.
He is telling the wife who got cheated on because he is in a similiar situation and had to go digging to find out the truth. I am sure he would have appreciated if someone knew what is up with his girl to give him a heads up. Right now the wife is taking care of the cheaters kid while the father plans sex-cations with another woman. Not cool, and I see nothing wrong with giving her the info so she can decide what she wants to do. If she wants to leave, fine, if she wants to confront her husband, do couples therapy and come together as a family that is an option too but there is no benefit to defending a cheater.
If your concerned about Neogaf's ability to give advice then "YOU" should not ask for it's advice. But he did at his own risk. He has something like 40 pages of people giving advice, at least one or two have to be good, even if "some of the same people giving relationship advice might have disastrous or non-existent dating lives" according to you.
Pai Pai Master
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Damn this OP really delivered. What a journey.
You did good Revoh, now take some time for yourself and do what you need to move on. You'll find a more deserving lady soon I'm sure.
You did good Revoh, now take some time for yourself and do what you need to move on. You'll find a more deserving lady soon I'm sure.
Future PhaZe
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Being confronted with cheating doesn't automatically "destroy a family". It makes a couple have to face some very difficult questions.
I could totally see myself forgiving a cheater under the right circumstances. Sometimes weakness is weakness and monogamy is not a natural thing for us as humans, but a conversation has to take place in regards to why this happened, what can (if anything) be done to regain trust, was this the first time, etc.
I could totally see myself forgiving a cheater under the right circumstances. Sometimes weakness is weakness and monogamy is not a natural thing for us as humans, but a conversation has to take place in regards to why this happened, what can (if anything) be done to regain trust, was this the first time, etc.
hahah I thought as much. I knew as much hahahahah
Sounds like you only wanna put blame on the OPs girl. The guy "caved in" as you say. Let's be real. If he values his marriage and family he wouldn't cave in. I have had it thrown at me and turned it down because I respect my wife. The other guy was planning a trip to another country to bang the OPs girl. That's not quite "caving in" but proactively going after it.
The marriage was ruined when the husband decided he wanted to cheat. Just like you said, his girl was a cheater and was gonna cheat with anyone. The same goes for the husband, he is a cheater that was gonna cheat and at some point someone was gonna rat him out, either a scorned lover or an STD. The OP just took Karma into his own hands. Nothing wrong with that. He didn't lie.
Madnesslink5
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I think it's more the fact that the wife deserves to know. If I was married and my wife was cheating on me, I would hope that some stranger would tell me about it. Even if I the marriage was going perfectly, if they are cheating it's most likely going to come out eventually, and I would rather be told about it by a stranger than walk in on my wife with another guy etc.
Future PhaZe
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have you heard from your ex revoh?
The conversation going on is so simple but has so much bad logic being thrown around.
I'm personally tend to be a "don't get involved" type, but don't come down on people for reacting differently to these situations. It's not really logical to do so.. which is why people are having to throw falsehoods around like "you've ruined someone else's marriage now" to justify their strong opinion that it shouldn't have happened.
If you don't want to get involved in situations like these; that's fine.. but really.. it's "none of your business" to tell other people that it's "none of their business" to tell on cheaters. (IMO of course, since maybe it's none of my business to say that
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My rule of thumb is "I won't lie for other people." I tell any friends that who bring their shitty relationship lies into my life.. "if she asks, I probably will say 'no comment' or something" is what I've told friends in the past.
Actually had a friendship come to an end over a situation like that.. girl had been told by a 3rd party but called me for verification.. I stuttered and didn't say shit at first, then she knew it was true.. and gave me the third degree. This friend had been fairly shitty to me as well (lying, literally stealing from me) and so eventually I just laid it all out for her and told her everything.
Don't feel remotely bad about it. He got what he deserved.. he then of course called an ex of mine and actually lied to her about how I'd supposedly cheated on her.. which broke her heart and caused her to hate me.. I'd never cheated on her.. what a degenerate that fucker was.
I'm personally tend to be a "don't get involved" type, but don't come down on people for reacting differently to these situations. It's not really logical to do so.. which is why people are having to throw falsehoods around like "you've ruined someone else's marriage now" to justify their strong opinion that it shouldn't have happened.
If you don't want to get involved in situations like these; that's fine.. but really.. it's "none of your business" to tell other people that it's "none of their business" to tell on cheaters. (IMO of course, since maybe it's none of my business to say that
)My rule of thumb is "I won't lie for other people." I tell any friends that who bring their shitty relationship lies into my life.. "if she asks, I probably will say 'no comment' or something" is what I've told friends in the past.
Actually had a friendship come to an end over a situation like that.. girl had been told by a 3rd party but called me for verification.. I stuttered and didn't say shit at first, then she knew it was true.. and gave me the third degree. This friend had been fairly shitty to me as well (lying, literally stealing from me) and so eventually I just laid it all out for her and told her everything.
Don't feel remotely bad about it. He got what he deserved.. he then of course called an ex of mine and actually lied to her about how I'd supposedly cheated on her.. which broke her heart and caused her to hate me.. I'd never cheated on her.. what a degenerate that fucker was.
hmm yep here it is, i found it, it's a bad post
The Lamonster
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this is like the premiere of season 2
bwahaha
Skullface
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Woah, wtf is this shit? That post reignited some deep seated anger in me.
How is he (the other guy) somehow less to blame for this than she is? Some kind of donkey ass logic going on here.
But now what?
Always-honest
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Oh wow... So we're refreshing / F5-ing all night again
Sounds like some MRA level of bullshit to me..
pulga
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TacticalFox88
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The gift that keeps on giving.
In life sometimes there are consequences for your actions. He took a gamble, and cheated on his wife. Sometimes the other guy might ruin his relationship, move on, become physical, or do something even worse. That's the gamble you take when you sleep with someone else's girlfriend when you are married. Once he cheated on his wife he no longer had a say in whether or not he was found out. He fucked up now he has to deal with the consequences. He took a risk and is about to get burned. Simple as that.
Skullface
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The difference is that diarrhea is undesirable.
This thread should have been "I discovered my girlfriend flirty texting another man so I next'd her"
/thread.
There is a bit of a difference between flirty texting and planning to fuck the next time they meet in person.
The Lamonster
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not if you were previously constipated
Bet he learned those moves from your now-ex girlfriend, heh.
Which he flaked and didn't go through with.
Skullface
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Flirty texting and "let's plan to meet up and fuck" with dirty picture exchanges are entirely different things friend. Plus, it's generally in poor taste to /thread your own post.
Vigilant Walrus
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Skullface,
One thing I didn't understand about your heartbreaking story, is how your ex could just leave? I mean how did, it work in practice.
She called the cops on you, they needed no evidence to take you in, and then she just left? If that was the first time she met that guy. For them to run off into the sunset with your kid like that. Was this something she had planned for a longer time, to leave you?
I'm just trying to imagine how this is even possible in practical terms because it blows my fucking mind. Like, it literally is something that can keep me up at night that you can ruins someone life with an accusation and you're basically guilty in everyones eyes. Saying you didn't do it just sounds like another way of saying "I did it".
Also, do you think your daughter is safe with your ex? Is she showing signs of psychopathic behavior? To have a women like this raising your child.. It's weird, I don't know you, but just thinking about it makes me so mad. I can't imagine the bend up hatred that must be inside of you.
One thing I didn't understand about your heartbreaking story, is how your ex could just leave? I mean how did, it work in practice.
She called the cops on you, they needed no evidence to take you in, and then she just left? If that was the first time she met that guy. For them to run off into the sunset with your kid like that. Was this something she had planned for a longer time, to leave you?
I'm just trying to imagine how this is even possible in practical terms because it blows my fucking mind. Like, it literally is something that can keep me up at night that you can ruins someone life with an accusation and you're basically guilty in everyones eyes. Saying you didn't do it just sounds like another way of saying "I did it".
Also, do you think your daughter is safe with your ex? Is she showing signs of psychopathic behavior? To have a women like this raising your child.. It's weird, I don't know you, but just thinking about it makes me so mad. I can't imagine the bend up hatred that must be inside of you.
As for poor taste, this whole thread with people egging on this train wreck is poor taste.
Enjoy your bitter revenge OP. I hope it makes you feel better afterwards.
TheJollyCorner
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The entertained masses won't agree, but I think you should just walk away from all of this shit right now, Revoh.
You handled your girlfriend & you'll be wiser and stronger for it.
This other couple? This could turn into a legitimate shitstorm. Just walk away, amigo. Start fresh & leave all of this drama far away from you.
You handled your girlfriend & you'll be wiser and stronger for it.
This other couple? This could turn into a legitimate shitstorm. Just walk away, amigo. Start fresh & leave all of this drama far away from you.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Holy crap, Season 2 is off to an intense start.
stn
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Cheating is always a selfish and cowardly act. Even if you're a person who's lacking in areas and has become boring and uninteresting, if your SO has any semblance of a spine then he/she will dump you first before finding someone else.
Also, this husband is just a selfish fuck. You don't go scheming to bang another person's girl and then blame the guy after being caught. If Revoh was unaware of all this then eventually the guy would bang his ex and not show even the slightest care that she's in a relationship. Revoh's ex is the principle offender, the husband is the accessory. He's still complicit in everything.
Also, this husband is just a selfish fuck. You don't go scheming to bang another person's girl and then blame the guy after being caught. If Revoh was unaware of all this then eventually the guy would bang his ex and not show even the slightest care that she's in a relationship. Revoh's ex is the principle offender, the husband is the accessory. He's still complicit in everything.
100% agree. Kills positive energy and keeps dragging you in to a problem that is supposed to be finished. Revoh handled his end and yet he's still involved. I'd say give the wife the logs and make it clear that you're not responsible for anything else, Revoh.TheJollyCorner said:
Skullface
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Enjoy your pedestal bro
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Someone needs to put together a True Detective style intro for this whole saga, with like imagery of Argentina and computers
Look how so above it all you are. We're all very envious of your higher moral ground.
thesuperfunk
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Power to OP!
I know this is way late, but I just wanted to let you know that I like the way you think.
Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.
Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?
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