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[FallingEdge]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

If your SO cheated on you, would you like to know?

 

[Angry Puppy]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

It's not OPs fault the family is being split.

 

[Future PhaZe]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

no identities have been revealed here

 

[pulga]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

not the OPs fault her husband is a massive dick

 

[Prologue]

Why ruin the marriage? Your gf was a cheater, she was gonna cheat on you with another dude if not him. Ruining the guys marriage because you didn't have your gf under control is just salty and childish.\


"You ruined my relationship so imma ruin yours" is so fucking lame. There's no rules to shit like this but come on, not entirely his fault your gf wanted to fuck him and he caved in, should've just dumped your gf and that was it instead of going on this lame revenge run.

Lets not forget a kid was involved and the husband controls his wife's emails, but yea the husband is the victim here.

Seems like there's a new "my girlfriend cheated on me/doesn't really like me/is fucking some other guy" thread every other day on GAF. Has it ever occurred to some of you posting these threads that maybe you're just boring or don't have much to offer?

Obviously relationships are work and they can get boring if both individuals aren;t invested in it, but that doesn't mean you go leaning on your significant other while sexting some other individual, a married one at that. Be decent, talk to your S/O, if things don't get better, simply leave. OP's girl was doing this for months, there was plenty of opportunities to have a graceful exit.


These threads always bring out some very peculiar people. You can think whatever you want but in the real world, its rarely a negative to inform all parties of a situation. One way or another, life rarely allows you to live in the dark.

 

[GhostWriter24]

Time to end it. You deserve better, and even though this is awful, will save you a lot of pain down the road.

 

[Dopus]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

He did the right thing in letting the wife know that her husband is a cheat.

 

[kmax]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

You seem to be confused as to who's to blame here. Those who committed adultery (well, ex gf was technically cheating) are merely reaping what they were sowing.

The fact of the matter is that op himself's a victim, as much as the wife and family, thanks to two people's selfish, egocentric actions. Considering the circumstances, he's handled things flawlessly.

 

[akira28]

all things said and done, the wife now knows the truth. The husband will have to deal with his own lies, to himself most of all.


insert doge.gif
so much victim, such baby, so crie. wow, control my emails, bb.


either way, he can either become a better person and a better father and stop lying to his family, or his wife will step up and take control of her own direction.

 

[Akainu]

Am I understanding this right she was planning to have a three way?

edit: i guess not

 

[-ImaginaryInsider]

Which he flaked and didn't go through with.

...And if it wasn't for the months of inappropriate contact before AND after, that might actually mean something. He never cut contact, or even altered the nature of the relationship, them eventually meeting up was still very likely.

 

[davepoobond]

The wife started messaging me on Whatsapp. She said her husband controls her emails. So she created a new Gmail account now. She only read one of the logs.
That's why it makes sense when she told me she didn't find "the chat" that revealing. I literally said WTF when I read that.

But now...

Wait I kind of dont understand.

The wife is now reading the logs but the husband before was intercepting and deleting the emails you were sending her or something?

Or is this the husband trying to get you to send emails to a new gmail so he doesn't risk having his wife see any logs?

I feel like you should call her at work to confirm she is reading these and is messaging you.

 

[riotous]

Wait I kind of dont understand.

The wife is now reading the logs but the husband before was intercepting and deleting the emails you were sending her or something?

Or is this the husband trying to get you to send emails to a new gmail so he doesn't risk having his wife see any logs?

I feel like you should call her at work to confirm she is reading these and is messaging you.

I think the only solution is some nude skyping.

Built in therapeutic effect. Someone should throw the wife a bone here; she's the only one not getting any.

 

[pa22word]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

You sound like a perennial cheater I know at work who justifies his shit behaviour any way he possibly can to get out of facing the reality that hes a shit person and is going to die a sad, lonely old man with no one by his side due to the fact that he cant face the realitt that he's the problem, not his wifes.

 

[Quixzlizx]

Odd to be how so many always jump to the Bro side in these situations and never stop to say "you said you were working through some things, what kind of things?" or what the OP may have done to put himself in the situation.
Again, she was shitty for not ending this thing long before now but the nature of GAF to immediately jump to the "Yeah Bro you are totally right fuck that bitch" side is a bit creepy.

People are always quick to jump to the dudes side, but truth be told there is always two sides to the story and we never see the whole picture. Every now and then we will find out the guy really fucked up in the situation, like that one guy with the asian girlfriend, but people aren't going to admit fault in these types of situations. They just want to blame the other person and do vengeful shit.

The reason why this happens is because it's usually guys who are posting breakup threads on GAF. If a lady gaffer posted the same story, I'm sure the thread would be full of people recommending that she make her soon-to-be ex eat shit. At least my reaction would be the same.

 

[xam3l]

Seems like there's a new "my girlfriend cheated on me/doesn't really like me/is fucking some other guy" thread every other day on GAF. Has it ever occurred to some of you posting these threads that maybe you're just boring or don't have much to offer?

It's Christmas. People get nervous.

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

But the other guy did get involved with Revoh's life, he fucked his relationship up.

It is still cheating, and he was involved with his ex. To say that he should have only gone to that guy's wife if he had a physical relationship with the OP's ex is not right, especially considering it was something inevitable and it would have already happened had the guy traveled to OP's country two weeks ago as planned and they would have already done the deed by the time OP found out, there was no question about that because the OP made it clear about this when he was detailing the skype conversation in the first post.

Was he forcing the girl to talk to him? Did he force her to agree to let him come visit? Was he doing this because he wanted to fuck with Revoh or because he was attracted to someone who was attracted to him and talking to him?

She was a willing participant and it sounds like both of them wanted the excitement of a new hookup or whatever.

Most importantly it was just a bunch of shit he was planning and had not yet actually done.

Furthermore, and I don't mean this in a malicious way, but I highly doubt Revoh did this because he cares about some random wife in another country. It was done primarily to get back at the girl, so really this was just a case of seeking revenge.

Lastly, I just don't know why you'd want to involve yourself in all this shit. It's enough dealing with the hurt from what the girl did, but now he's having to text back and forth with the husband and the wife and shit. I personally don't get it.

 

[Tugatrix]

OP time to take the wife to see the Hobbit

 

[BeauRoger]

Revoh, have you heard nothing more from your ex-GF? Do you think she might yet try to reach out to mend things?

 

[Schrade]

Time to end it. You deserve better, and even though this is awful, will save you a lot of pain down the road.

I really dislike it when people enter giant threads and don't read shit and then post like the original post in the thread was fresh.

It's as bad as people not reading the original post at all and just posting based on the title.

 

[one_kill]

Was he forcing the girl to talk to him? Did he force her to agree to let him come visit? Was he doing this because he wanted to fuck with Revoh or because he was attracted to someone who was attracted to him and talking to him?

She was a willing participant and it sounds like both of them wanted the excitement of a new hookup or whatever.

Most importantly it was just a bunch of shit he was planning and had not yet actually done.

Furthermore, and I don't mean this in a malicious way, but I highly doubt Revoh did this because he cares about some random wife in another country. It was done primarily to get back at the girl, so really this was just a case of seeking revenge.

Lastly, I just don't know why you'd want to involve yourself in all this shit. It's enough dealing with the hurt from what the girl did, but now he's having to text back and forth with the husband and the wife and shit. I personally don't get it.

It doesn't matter if the cheating never became physical; it's still cheating.

People act irrationally when they're experiencing emotionally instability. It's understandable why Revoh did what he did. Was it right? Well, to some degree and in some merit, yes it was. Why defend the husband? I assume he knew the risks of cheating and consequences if he was caught. Did that stop him from pushing the relationship further? If you're in a relationship, don't cheat.

 

[riotous]

Most importantly it was just a bunch of shit he was planning and had not yet actually done.

Pretty big failure of logic here.. if what he did wasn't such a big deal.. then not such a big deal to have the wife find out.

I'm with you on not wanting to involve yourself in situations like that; I've had too many freaky things happen to me when it comes to meddling in other people's relationships. I'm not with you on brow beating someone to make the decision to involve themselves.

It's Revoh's business who he communicates with.. no one is entitled to have secrets kept about them.. and certainly not perfect strangers who have outright disrespected you.

 

[Skullface]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

I think you miss the point. It's not like we're on 4chan and the other family got doxxed for a bunch of crazed neck beards to do their bidding with that information.

The guy other guy in this scenario is the one splitting the family, not Revoh. He could have kept his mouth shut and the other man would surely have split his family up in due time.

I would have done the same thing in Revoh's shoes. What's wrong with saying, "hey, your husband has been sexting with my girlfriend, exchanging dirty pictures, and were planning on a sexual liaison. I thought you should know."

As far as posting the information on GAF, Revoh didn't post any specific information. He just followed up with the story after initially coming here for some support and to vent.

Some people may be getting kicks out of this story for the wrong reason, but I've been through a similar, subjectively worse scenario. I related to Revoh's plight. When he got some closure out of the situation, I felt good. God know I've never even had the opportunity for closure in my situation.

So go on and judge everyone getting a smile from this thread. Chances are, you've never been there and don't know what it's like. I'd be willing to bet that most people drawn to this thread came here because they've been through a similar situation. Unlike Revoh, we've not all had the opportunity for closure.

 

[riotous]

Yeah, because I find splitting a family in another country for xmas and posting the dirty laundry on the net for it to be celebrated and high-fived on by the crowd all quite sad to be honest.

Hey, revenge is sweet and as long as GAF is entertained, right?

I'm with you on how disturbing some of the behavior in the thread is..

Not with you on blaming Revoh for the family maybe splitting. For one we don't know if that's true..they might work it out.. and for the millionth time, it's the cheaters fault for causing the rift, not Revoh.

How excited people are to hear more gossip about this..yeah.. pretty fucked up. Same with the endless demands to give Revoh a tag.. or to have the thread immortalized.

It's a pretty damn basic thread and I don't get what is so amazing about it .. hell, 90% of the posts are people pointing out how amazing it all is and how entertained they all are by people's lives unraveling.

 

[Revoh]

Revoh, have you heard nothing more from your ex-GF? Do you think she might yet try to reach out to mend things?

I haven't heard anything from her.
When we were talking last Saturday she said "I'm going to change, I promise". I said that's good, take your time, change, but not for me, do it for you and your next partner.
I won't be here when you have changed.
I think she might take her time and then reach me out but I swear by my father's grave to never talk to her again. Like I said to her that day, she's dead.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

The wife started messaging me on Whatsapp. She said her husband controls her emails. So she created a new Gmail account now. She only read one of the logs.
That's why it makes sense when she told me she didn't find "the chat" that revealing. I literally said WTF when I read that.

But now...

this is either the truth or the husband is trying to trick you away. There's a chance your ex told him that you're out for blood and now he's in damage control. One such tactic might be to divert your efforts. Conspiracy theory to the max from me.

 

[norinrad]

I haven't heard anything from her.
When we were talking last Saturday she said "I'm going to change, I promise". I said that's good, take your time, change, but not for me, do it for you and your next partner.
I won't be here when you have changed.
I think she might take her time and then reach me out but I swear by my father's grave to never talk to her again. Like I said to her that day, she's dead.

Enough of that, lets move on with life. There will be other great women, marry the one that treats you right.

 

[Skullface]

Enough of that, lets move on with life. There will be other great women, marry the one that treats you right.

I second this. Revoh, you saw my story. I've got a much hotter girl in my life with a much better personality to boot. She's willing to put up with the fact that I have a daughter and responsibilities to her. You're going to do fine bro.

 

[Revoh]

this is either the truth or the husband is trying to trick you away. There's a chance your ex told him that you're out for blood and now he's in damage control. One such tactic might be to divert your efforts. Conspiracy theory to the max from me.

I'm not stupid. Before sending the logs to her new email account I asked her on Whatsapp if she sent me that email. Then we talked a little more. It's legit.

 

[Hoodbury]

I'm not stupid. Before sending the logs to her new email account I asked her on Whatsapp if she sent me that email. Then we talked a little more. It's legit.

Just for curiosity sake since I don't know what Whatsapp is, how do you know the husband isn't controlling her Whatsapp too?

 

[davepoobond]

Have you entertained the possibility that both you and your ex are being catfished and there is no "wife" at all?

I forget if you said they video chatted or not.


There are some majorly skilled scammers out there and they can modify their writing style and pretend that two people are messaging you separately by delaying text being sent.

 

[RevoDS]

Just for curiosity sake since I don't know what Whatsapp is, how do you know the husband isn't controlling her Whatsapp too?

I'm guessing here, but Whatsapp is exclusively on her phone, tied to her phone and her number while email can be otherwise intercepted from any device.

He's counting on the fact that her phone is still hers and private, basically

 

[riotous]

Yeah WhatsApp is about as good as direct texting as far as ensuring who you are communicating with. Considering the possibility of someone being an iMessage user w/ it tied to tablets/laptops, it's in some ways more secure than texting (since WhatsApp is phone number based, and can only be installed on one device for that phone number, typically the phone itself)

Of course you'd have to know that you had the right phone number and that they still had possession of their phone.

 

[giancarlo123x]

Why ruin the marriage? Your gf was a cheater, she was gonna cheat on you with another dude if not him. Ruining the guys marriage because you didn't have your gf under control is just salty and childish.\


"You ruined my relationship so imma ruin yours" is so fucking lame. There's no rules to shit like this but come on, not entirely his fault your gf wanted to fuck him and he caved in, should've just dumped your gf and that was it instead of going on this lame revenge run.

IF you read this thread then you would know that wasn't his intentions. And its not his fault and he caved in, lol. Give me a fucking break, I'm sure this isn't the only person hes done this with. The wife deserves someone better than that asshole.

 

[Zaraki_Kenpachi]

Why ruin the marriage? Your gf was a cheater, she was gonna cheat on you with another dude if not him. Ruining the guys marriage because you didn't have your gf under control is just salty and childish.\


"You ruined my relationship so imma ruin yours" is so fucking lame. There's no rules to shit like this but come on, not entirely his fault your gf wanted to fuck him and he caved in, should've just dumped your gf and that was it instead of going on this lame revenge run.

Have your GF under control? How enlightened and not sexist. :lol

 

[Dominican Power]

Confront her, dump her right on the spot, and don't ever look back. There's too many women out here for you to be stressing over one.

 

[NeOak]

Confront her, dump her right on the spot, and don't ever look back. There's too many women out here for you to be stressing over one.

You didn't reaaaaaad theeeeeeeee thhhhrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaddddddddd

 

[AtomskEater]

Keep it moving, Revoh! I'm glad that you had the sense to end the relationship and are moving on.

How is he (the other guy) somehow less to blame for this than she is? Some kind of donkey ass logic going on here.

"Men just can't help themselves! Damned she-devils, why don't you keep your girlfriend on a leash!"
That's all I got out of that post.

 

[hwalker84]

This is right.
So, I've just received a mail from the wife asking for more logs.
She said "Thanks for opening my eyes, I got nervous and blocked your number, can you please send me more logs."

Season 2 begins.

 

[Saganator]

Time to end it. You deserve better, and even though this is awful, will save you a lot of pain down the road.

C'mon on, man. You even read the thread other than the OP? You're right, but you if you read the thread at all, you'd know that he ended it and more. I normally don't call people out on this, but you're missing out. Why do you think we're on page 42 of a relationship thread?

 

[POWERSPHERE]

There's still people coming In with advice without skimming the thread?

 

[CreeperBlocks]

This is right.
So, I've just received a mail from the wife asking for more logs.
She said "Thanks for opening my eyes, I got nervous and blocked your number, can you please send me more logs."

The Journey Continues.

 

[Log4Girlz]

OP ditch the girl.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

 

[Septimus Prime]

You should break up with her. Maybe also contact the guy's wife and let her know, via Skype logs, about her husband's infidelity. Sometimes guys like that try to intercept communications, though, so I think it would be smart to use something like WhatsApp.

 

[Bossun]

So, what I took from this thread it's that it's okay to destroy a family for the entertainment of GAF.

It's okay to potentially ruin a child's life because the op is butthurt over the not so dramatic and way blown out of proportion "almost act (but not yet)" of cheating in this thread, not like there are faaaar worse things...(I've been cheated on and didn't feel the need to go full vendetta on the guy's life, complete waste of time on top of being totally ridiculous and putting yourself lower than the guy)
Putting the blame on the husband to justify the disgusting feeling of vendetta and papparazzi's creepiness of the people in this thread.

Also, the husband didn't yet completely cheat with op's SO, people saying he probably did it with someone else or plan to in the futur are morons. Or is it guilty until proven innocent on GAF?

 

[NeOak]

So, what I took from this thread it's that it's okay to destroy a family for the entertainment of GAF.

It's okay to potentially ruin a child's life because the op is butthurt over the not so dramatic and way blown out of proportion "almost act (but not yet)" of cheating in this thread, not like there are faaaar worse things...(I've been cheated on and didn't feel the need to go full vendetta on the guy's life, complete waste of time on top of being totally ridiculous and putting yourself lower than the guy)
Putting the blame on the husband to justify the disgusting feeling of vendetta and papparazzi's creepiness of the people in this thread.

Also, the husband didn't yet completely cheat with op's SO, people saying he probably did it with someone else or plan to in the futur are morons. Or is it guilty until proven innocent on GAF?

The husband did that on his own with sexting, pictures and other things with a woman that wasn't his wife.

Get off your moral high horse and stop defending the asshole that is the husband by blaming GAF.

 

[Bossun]

The husband did that on his own with sexting, pictures and other things with a woman that wasn't his wife.

Get off your moral high horse and stop defending the asshole that is the husband by blaming GAF.

And you are so good that you have the right to butt in into people's life because you think you're a saint that know right from wrong? Are you jury, judge and executioner? Get off YOUR fucking high horse. The op has beef with his SO that's all. The wife is the husband and his moral's problem.

You're worse than the op, who is worse than the husband and his SO. Sadly the one that will lose the most in this story is the wife and the kid. But hey, you got your 5 minutes of knighthood, fighting the good fight, beating the bad guy. Good for you.

 

[Yado]

And you are so good that you have the right to butt in into people's life because you think you're a saint that know right from wrong? Are you jury, judge and executioner? Get off YOUR fucking high horse. The op has beef with his SO that's all. The wife is the husband and his moral's problem.

The husband involved his wife.

 

[VanWinkle]

So, what I took from this thread it's that it's okay to destroy a family for the entertainment of GAF.

It's okay to potentially ruin a child's life because the op is butthurt over the not so dramatic and way blown out of proportion "almost act (but not yet)" of cheating in this thread, not like there are faaaar worse things...(I've been cheated on and didn't feel the need to go full vendetta on the guy's life, complete waste of time on top of being totally ridiculous and putting yourself lower than the guy)
Putting the blame on the husband to justify the disgusting feeling of vendetta and papparazzi's creepiness of the people in this thread.

Also, the husband didn't yet completely cheat with op's SO, people saying he probably did it with someone else or plan to in the futur are morons. Or is it guilty until proven innocent on GAF?

First, sex isn't the only way to cheat with a person. Second, it's not OKAY to destroy a family; that's the very reason we're praising Revoh and not the married guy.

Putting the blame on the messenger is so dumb. If a guy shot (but didn't kill) somebody I knew, and I saw it happen, would I be the one to blame for ruining that guy's life by telling the police?