Having an aesthetic racial preference

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Always-honest said:
Not much what you can do about that. But you can always try to see if you are mistaken..
There are soooo many different people that it's hard to believe that there won't be someone from another "race" for you.

But i have a clear preference too when it comes attraction.
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I don't think he's saying he's not attracted to other races, but if he had to blindly choose a girl from a brothel based on race alone, he'd go with Asian.

J. Man said:
I'm just quoting what he said. That one line IS creepy. Nothing wrong with preference, but to say that a certain group is better than everything else is just too weird.
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I like Dr. Pepper. Hell, I love it! But you're right, it would be creepy to say it is the best soda out there.
 
Sometimes I think I have a preference, but I've liked and found so many different types of guys attractive. People assume I have a type but I can't even find that out myself, lol.
 
Yeah, looking a little more closely at the OP it just looks like another one of those kinda guys saying that kinda thing.

I'm sorry, since this probably does seem pretty judgmental, but I don't think such a preference truly can be defended with 'do what makes you happy' because I think it is only about superficial and generalised things that are stem from underlying personality problems that may be very mild or may be severe but ultimately have very little to do with appreciating another person for who they honestly are. Ultimately, I don't think it's a huge problem. These kinds of relationships seem harmless, I'm just trying to make the distinction between basic differentiation in physical attraction and a widespread pattern of white western men attributing some culturally imposed standard on Asian women due to their own personal problems. I've known of men who date young Asian women in patterns and it makes me very suspicious of how they think of people and I lose respect for them.
 
J. Man said:
I'm just quoting what he said. That one line IS creepy. Nothing wrong with preference, but to say that a certain group is better than everything else is just too weird.
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I'm not sure what you're saying. That's what a preference is... I, like many others, have a preference. I'm not judging that some race is superior in some absolute way, just that common features of a group of people are more aesthetically pleasing to me than features of other groups of people.
 
J. Man said:
I'm just quoting what he said. That one line IS creepy. Nothing wrong with preference, but to say that a certain group is better than everything else is just too weird.
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That is just nonsense. If he likes Asian looks, it stands to reason that he is going to consider the best looking Asian woman better than the best looking woman of other ethnicities.

If I love spicy food, I'm going to find the best spicy dish better than the best cupcake.

Preferences, how do they work?
 
potam said:
I don't think he's saying he's not attracted to other races, but if he had to blindly choose a girl from a brothel based on race alone, he'd go with Asian.



I like Dr. Pepper. Hell, I love it! But you're right, it would be creepy to say it is the best soda out there.
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Shut up. Stay on topic. He's wasn't talking about soda. We're talking about people not objects.
 
bishoptl said:
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All right, I laughed real hard at this one.
 
J. Man said:
Shut up. Stay on topic. He's wasn't talking about soda. We're talking about people not objects.
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or, stop being so fucking overly sensitive. You're trying to attribute his preference to something more sinister or evil. THE DUDE SIMPLY THINKS ASIAN WOMEN ARE ATTRACTIVE.
 
akira28 said:
i guess the question is, is it the asianness or the attractiveness, or are they somehow the same thing with you?
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They are absolutely not the same thing. Like I said before, there are attractive and unattractive people of all kinds, including Asians. It just so happens that I feel that attractive Asians are more attractive than attractive people of other races. This is getting into "some of my best friends are black" territory, but I asked out a Hispanic girl and a white girl before I was with my current girlfriend. She is my first and only girlfriend, and I am a young person, which is why I made this thread. To ask how common this is and how society feels about it. To be informed by the intelligent people who post here, because it's a tough thing to ask close friends or my own girlfriend, who has her own feelings about it.
 
Why would it be wrong?

People are attracted to various things about other people, so what's wrong with that? So long that doesn't make you treat them differently or anything.

J. Man said:
I'm just quoting what he said. That one line IS creepy. Nothing wrong with preference, but to say that a certain group is better than everything else is just too weird.
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Isn't that what "preferences" is all about? Also,

J. Man said:
Shut up. Stay on topic. He's wasn't talking about soda. We're talking about people not objects.
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Who the fuck are you with this kind of attitude?
 
Again, cussing will not get you anywhere. Dang you got mad lol. I don't care what you say or how you try to negotiate your way around it, that one line is creepy. Just admit it.

Anyway, I don't have a preference. If a woman's personality fits and the woman is good looking (not supermodel hot, just not fat) then things should be fine.
 
I may be opening a can of worms here but if someone* rarely finds black, Asian, Indian women etc attractive then could it be argued that the person in question is racist or is it something else such as preference? I mean people cannot force themselves to find other races attractive...

*Myself
 
BocoDragon said:
That is just nonsense. If he likes Asian looks, it stands to reason that he is going to consider the best looking Asian woman better than the best looking woman of other ethnicities.

If I love spicy food, I'm going to find the best spicy dish better than the best cupcake.

Preferences, how do they work?
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How do you quantify what is the "best spicy dish" though? There are thousands of spicy dishes out there comprised of different ingredients and flavor profiles.

And that's the problem with this kind of distinction. When people say things like "I have a preference for _________ race," they're usually just taking an entire race and distilling them down to a specific image--a specific "type" that's been presented to them. This is offensive not just to other races, but to the very race the person is trying to bolster with their "compliment."

I've broken up with guys because they wouldn't stop talking about how attracted they were to black guys. The shit's not cute. Being fetishized, intentionally or not, is not cute.
 
potam said:
or, stop being so fucking overly sensitive. You're trying to attribute his preference to something more sinister or evil. THE DUDE SIMPLY THINKS ASIAN WOMEN ARE ATTRACTIVE.
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Dude, you equated the preference for an object like soda to the preference for a person. Women are not 'things', we're people, got it?
 
J. Man said:
Again, cussing will not get you anywhere. Dang you got mad lol. I don't care what you say or how you try to negotiate your way around it, that one line is creepy. Just admit it.

Anyway, I don't have a preference. If a woman's personality fits and the woman is good looking (not supermodel hot, just not fat) then things should be fine.
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Telling people to shut up and "just admit it" is not how you make a compelling argument.
 
BocoDragon said:
That is just nonsense. If he likes Asian looks, it stands to reason that he is going to consider the best looking Asian woman better than the best looking woman of other ethnicities.

If I love spicy food, I'm going to find the best spicy dish better than the best cupcake.

Preferences, how do they work?
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Hey. Yeah so in the line I think the previous poster was talking about, the way it was worded was that given the woman he would find most attractive of one ethnicity, and one he would of the most attractive of an Asian ethnicity, he would choose the Asian one by default. The prejudging here, of a completely hypothetical situation, means he's decided to choose an Asian woman no matter what. It indicates there is something beyond the appearance he's prioritising, which is where we begin to get into the area of this being a problem. Also, he says 'Asian female' which is kind a dead giveaway you aren't think of them as a whole person, but kind of as a specimen, or an occurrence, to be less inflammatory.

Also - the spicy food comparison? I really don't see how it helps things here to be reducing women to the differences between things you consume.
 
royalan said:
And that's the problem with this kind of distinction. When people say things like "I have a preference for _________ race," they're usually just taking an entire race and distilling them down to a specific image--a specific "type" that's been presented to them. This is offensive not just to other races, but to the very race the person is trying to bolster with their "compliment."

I've broken up with guys because they wouldn't stop talking about how attracted they were to black guys. The shit's not cute. Being fetishized, intentionally or not, is not cute.
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This is silly.

Being attracted to certain race over others does not equal treating the disfavored less as a human being. It's attraction.
 
ishibear said:
Dude, you equated the preference for an object like soda to the preference for a person. Women are not 'things', we're people, got it?
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no. I used that analogy specifically because I view women (specifically asian waifu women) as fetishized sex objects. I'm sorry if there was any confusion about my mysogyny
 
real_slime said:
Hey. Yeah so in the line I think the previous poster was talking about, the way it was worded was that given the woman he would find most attractive of one ethnicity, and one he would of the most attractive of an Asian ethnicity, he would choose the Asian one by default. The prejudging here, of a completely hypothetical situation, means he's decided to choose an Asian woman no matter what. It indicates there is something beyond the appearance he's prioritising, which is where we begin to get into the area of this being a problem. Also, he says 'Asian female' which is kind a dead giveaway you aren't think of them as a whole person, but kind of as a specimen, or an occurrence, to be less inflammatory.

Also - the spicy food comparison? I really don't see how it helps things here to be reducing women to the differences between things you consume.
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I was actually thinking of a specific example. I didn't want to start posting pictures though, because my goal wasn't to make this a hot girls thread.
 
Finaika said:
Why are so many people attracted to Asian women?
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Many people will rush to the sociological argument of Asian submissiveness in media, but I don't think that has been a factor in Western media since my grandfather's generation (I did watch "My Geisha" from 1962.. and oh yes, it was once a factor)

Here's what I think. Men are programmed to find female youth attractive for better reproductive success. It's been suggested that Asians display high traits of neoteny, or a youthful look in adults. Plus I suppose the eyes are an indicator of something "different" and that makes them stand out, for those who want something a little different. These things percolate in a lot of non-Asian men's minds growing up and... voila.
 
My preference is awesome. I'll fill up on awesome women.

Your viewpoint isn't uncommon Grizz. Many people have preferences - some have fetishes.

But I do ask you to be mindful of how such a world view can come off in real life situations. And also consider how the inverse function of your stance comes across: that you find a particular inherent trait (say, ethnicity) generally unattractive.
 
theprodigy said:
says the guy who told another member to shut up
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I didn't cuss tho. Anyways, I'll be the bigger man and take back the "Shut up." I personally think Asian girls are too hyped. What makes them so much more beautiful than every other girl regardless of race?

Please explain.
 
I don't know if I have a preference. I find a lot of features over a wide variety of races attractive. *shrug*
 
potam said:
no. I used that analogy specifically because I view women (specifically asian waifu women) as fetishized sex objects. I'm sorry if there was any confusion about my mysogyny
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mesmerMAN said:
isn't that just an "analogy"?
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I really don't care for the excuses here. Comparing the selection of a favorite soda to women (who come in all shapes, sizes, personalities, backgrounds, education, etc) to an object like soda or food (something you taste and enjoy) is disturbing.

Think about it for a moment.

Something you drank and liked the taste =/= meeting women from all parts of the world and every last one of them of a single race is the same game each time because guess what, they won't be.
 
J. Man said:
I didn't cuss tho. Anyways, I'll be the bigger man and take back the "Shut up." I personally think Asian girls are too hyped. What makes them so much more beautiful than every other girl regardless of race?

Please explain.
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dat skin color + facial bone structure

ishibear said:
I really don't care for the excuses here. Comparing the selection of a favorite soda to women (who come in all shapes, sizes, personalities, backgrounds, education, etc) to an object like soda or food (something you taste and enjoy) is disturbing.

Think about it for a moment.

Something you drank and liked the taste =/= meeting women from all parts of the world and every last one of them of a single race is the same game each time because guess what, they won't be.
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look bro, dr. pepper is way better than any woman. I can drink it, and then afterwards I have an empty bottle to either pee in or use as a spitter. Plus, no Dr. Pepper is gonna leave me heartbroken :(

but real talk: do you know how abstract thoughts and analogies and metaphors work?
 
Laughing Banana said:
This is silly.

Being attracted to certain race over others does not equal treating the disfavored less as a human being. It's attraction.
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There's nothing wrong with "attraction."

This goes far beyond merely being attracted to someone, though.

The problem is you're not just treating the "disfavored" less as a human being. You're objectifying the race you "favor." Like "Asian woman" all boil down to being his "type"...like they don't come in many different shapes, sizes, tones, features, etc...
 
I do wonder what it is that might make a certain race more attractive to people. My sister loves Asian boys. I have no idea why. But it kinda bothers me because most of the ones we have known do not find her features attractive and have confessed to be more into white or Asian girls. Is it just a social thing I wonder?
 
That's it? Skin color and facial bone structure? Really? Wow. I thought it was just white men playing into Asian woman stereotypes of being submissive. And I thought the reason why Asian girls go for white men is to get out of "poverty" and get into a certain class.

Those are preferences, right? That's how they work, right? Oh Gaf and sarcasm.
 
dante81 said:
The Asian guys/White girls that I've seen are cool as hell. The White guys/Asian girls are creepy. The latter usually has a really tall guy with a really short girl with a small frame. That's creepy to me. I'm a White guy BTW.
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Yeah see that sounds more like your own prejudices coming out.
 
akira28 said:
For me it goes personality>attractiveness<alignment<race.

Dem tieflings tho.
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Race matters when you're looking for proper "alignment" and attractiveness. Those of us that like hourglass figures and plumpness are not going to go with the Asian side. The personality is great and all.....but them T & A's tho.
 
GrizzNKev said:
I was actually thinking of a specific example. I didn't want to start posting pictures though, because my goal wasn't to make this a hot girls thread.
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I read your quote about how your current girlfriend is Asian, and that you're young. I'm beginning to think that might be what this is - I've found myself more attracted to women who look similar to who I'm dating before. When I was younger with my first girlfriend, it was just her and so I thought I had a 'type', and that I would always like that type. Later on I dated girls who looked nothing like her and I found that I was just attached to her back then. Now I really don't think in terms of types - although I think people do seem to have them. This Asian fixation you have might be related to this being your first girlfriend, though.

In the meantime, I wouldn't spread it around. A lot of people think badly of white guys who say they have a preference for Asian women. Me included, for some of the reasons I've mentioned. It's uh...look, it's kinda pathetic, man.
 
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