Having an aesthetic racial preference

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I ... what.

I think it's because I've spent more time answering to ridiculous accusations than actually having a discussion about anything.

What did you want to have a discussion about? Most of the posts that you've been responding to have been in response to your original post. What were you expecting people to say, really?

What was your goal with this thread? Now you're saying you're capable of finding any girl attractive, you just have a preference for Asian girls...any sort of Asian girl. Do you truly think that you have the physical profiles of every race ironed down and cataloged to such a degree that you can honestly say, without any doubt, that you think Asian girls are the prettiest? And, if so, what the heck do you need our validation for? Just askin...
 
I'm ashamed of you.
I know you're reading this. I also know you can understand this. I still don't know how you got all this information, but I'll find out. I admit I don't know how someone could be so damn screwy in the head to go through all the effort you've gone through, especially over me.

But that doesn't change the fact that on top of that, I know who you are now. Yeah, go ahead and shake your head like I'm bluffing. You know in the depths of your nasty, mean little heart that I'm telling the truth.

You'll find out soon enough what the consequences are for doing what you've done to me over the past year and a half.

There's going to be no more fear, and no more harassment, at least not on my side. I'm going to live normally again no matter what you do.

I'd just like to let you know that's nothing changed in the last ten years. Oh yes. I've grown up and gone to live in the US and come back here and all that, but I'm still just as violent and cruel as you remember. If anything, I've only gotten stronger.

If you do one more thing to me...know this: no one will be able to hear you scream. And I won't make it quick.

And if you think you can use this for evidence, well you know now that what used to be your strength is now your weakness: no one will be able to track it to the real me.
 
I know you're reading this. I also know you can understand this. I still don't know how you got all this information, but I'll find out. I admit I don't know how someone could be so damn screwy in the head to go through all the effort you've gone through, especially over me.

But that doesn't change the fact that on top of that, I know who you are now. Yeah, go ahead and shake your head like I'm bluffing. You know in the depths of your nasty, mean little heart that I'm telling the truth.

You'll find out soon enough what the consequences are for doing what you've done to me over the past year and a half.

There's going to be no more fear, and no more harassment, at least not on my side. I'm going to live normally again no matter what you do.

I'd just like to let you know that's nothing changed in the last ten years. Oh yes. I've grown up and gone to live in the US and come back here and all that, but I'm still just as violent and cruel as you remember. If anything, I've only gotten stronger.

If you do one more thing to me...know this: no one will be able to hear you scream. And I won't make it quick.

And if you think you can use this for evidence, well you know now that what used to be your strength is now your weakness: no one will be able to track it to the real me.

Holy shit, it's FoxSpiritShadow!
 
Crack open your copy of GAF Meme Bible, ladies and gentlemen.

What did you want to have a discussion about? Most of the posts that you've been responding to have been in response to your original post. What were you expecting people to say, really?

What was your goal with this thread? Now you're saying you're capable of finding any girl attractive, you just have a preference for Asian girls...any sort of Asian girl. Do you truly think that you have the physical profiles of every race ironed down and cataloged to such a degree that you can honestly say, without any doubt, that you think Asian girls are the prettiest? And, if so, what the heck do you need our validation for? Just askin...

We just had a few pages of discussion that I thought was interesting, so there's that.
 
What did you want to have a discussion about? Most of the posts that you've been responding to have been in response to your original post. What were you expecting people to say, really?

What was your goal with this thread? Now you're saying you're capable of finding any girl attractive, you just have a preference for Asian girls...any sort of Asian girl.

That's exactly what I've been saying since the start.

Do you truly think that you have the physical profiles of every race ironed down and cataloged to such a degree that you can honestly say, without any doubt, that you think Asian girls are the prettiest?

Nope. I only speak on my own experiences, people I've known and interacted with, and what I see through the media. From those experiences, that's the determination I've made.

And, if so, what the heck do you need our validation for? Just askin...

The same reason any person who is unsure of their feelings or whether how they might express themselves would be controversial, as the replies to my topic have demonstrated.
 
I find it a bit hard to grasp, that there are people who prefer a special kind of aesthetics in a woman/man.

There are people who like 60kg women and wouldnt consider a 200kg woman aesthetically attractive.
There are also people who are attracted to chubby women.
And there are people who arent really attracted to the typical facial structure of a Chinese/Korean/Japanese woman.

In the end it is about appereances and I am sure everyone has their own preferences when it comes to the opposite or same gender.
 
That's exactly what I've been saying since the start.



Nope. I only speak on my own experiences, people I've known and interacted with, and what I see through the media. From those experiences, that's the determination I've made.



The same reason any person who is unsure of their feelings or whether how they might express themselves would be controversial, as the replies to my topic have demonstrated.

Well, if you want my honest advice that's not meant to deride you...

I don't think you have a preference. I think you're attracted to Asian girls (but you have the capacity to be attracted to any girl), and you're dating an Asian girl now which has them on your radar moreso than any other race.

But I don't know if I believe in a "preference." Just using myself as an example, if I were to do a survey of the\ guys I've dated/fucked/been attracted to, I would notice that the vast majority of them have been white men (I'm black). But, despite this, I'd never claim that I have a preference for white men. Why? Because I could just as easily end up with a black guy, or an Asian guy. The majority of the men I've dated/fucked just happen to be white, because that's what I'm around, not because I'm being intentionally selective when it comes to race.

I would never call it a preference because I feel like, on some level, that's implying that I intentionally chose the people I date/fuck based on their race. And I think that's the part that rubs people the wrong way when these threads pop up.
 
Well, if you want my honest advice that's not meant to deride you...

I don't think you have a preference. I think you're attracted to Asian girls (but you have the capacity to be attracted to any girl), and you're dating an Asian girl now which has them on your radar moreso than any other race.

But I don't know if I believe in a "preference." Just using myself as an example, if I were to do a survey of they guys I've dated/fucked/been attracted to, I would notice that the vast majority of them have been white men (I'm black). But, despite this, I'd never claimp that I have a preference for white men. Why? Because I could just as easily end up with a black guy, or an Asian guy. The majority of the men I've dated/fucked just happen to be white, because that's what I'm around, not because I'm being intentional selective when it comes to race.

I would never call it a preference because I feel like, on some level, that's implying that I intentionally chose the people I date/fuck based on their race. And I think that's the part that rubs people the wrong way when these threads pop up.

It just strikes me as doublethink to me. Why in every arena of human activity do people like this or that more (Android, Chocolate Ice Cream, Pepsi).. but when it comes to dating humans, it's "you are probably mistaken. Or....... maybe racist...?"

What is it about choosing a mate that makes this an issue we all have to be equal or fair on? I'm pretty sure a guy will screw any hottie in a vaccum... so this isn't something to cause big alarm over when, in a market of choice, they happen to choose this trait over that. It's the least issue that requires sensitivity training.
 
Royolan are you down for sharing more about jerk-ass dudes you alluded to earlier? It sounded like you have experience being fetishized? What does that look like?

It just strikes me as doublethink to me. Why in every arena of human activity do people like this or that more (Android, Chocolate Ice Cream, Pepsi).. but when it comes to dating humans, it's "you are probably mistaken. Or....... maybe racist...?"

If any Thing is worth making exceptions for, it'd be humans, ya know? They got brains and personalities and language and shit. Nothing else does.
 
It just strikes me as doublethink to me. Why in every arena of human activity do people like this or that more (Android, Chocolate Ice Cream, Pepsi).. but when it comes to dating humans, it's "you are probably mistaken. Or....... maybe racist...?"

What is it about choosing a mate that makes this an issue we all have to be equal or fair on? I'm pretty sure a guy will screw any hottie in a vaccum... so this isn't something to cause big alarm when, in a market of choice, they choose this trait over that.

Don't take my word as definitive, but I think a lot of the weirdness around claiming preferences for a certain race of people is because while every can of pepsi, every tub of vanilla ice cream, every Android, and every iPhone will be the same, not every white, black, hispanic, asian, middle eastern, or european person will be the same. That's why the object comparison doesn't do much for me. (I'm not too offended by it, but it doesn't really click for me.)
 
I know you're reading this. I also know you can understand this. I still don't know how you got all this information, but I'll find out. I admit I don't know how someone could be so damn screwy in the head to go through all the effort you've gone through, especially over me.

But that doesn't change the fact that on top of that, I know who you are now. Yeah, go ahead and shake your head like I'm bluffing. You know in the depths of your nasty, mean little heart that I'm telling the truth.

You'll find out soon enough what the consequences are for doing what you've done to me over the past year and a half.

There's going to be no more fear, and no more harassment, at least not on my side. I'm going to live normally again no matter what you do.

I'd just like to let you know that's nothing changed in the last ten years. Oh yes. I've grown up and gone to live in the US and come back here and all that, but I'm still just as violent and cruel as you remember. If anything, I've only gotten stronger.

If you do one more thing to me...know this: no one will be able to hear you scream. And I won't make it quick.

And if you think you can use this for evidence, well you know now that what used to be your strength is now your weakness: no one will be able to track it to the real me.

Bravo Mac. Bravo.
 
Well, if you want my honest advice that's not meant to deride you...

I don't think you have a preference. I think you're attracted to Asian girls (but you have the capacity to be attracted to any girl), and you're dating an Asian girl now which has them on your radar moreso than any other race.

But I don't know if I believe in a "preference." Just using myself as an example, if I were to do a survey of the\ guys I've dated/fucked/been attracted to, I would notice that the vast majority of them have been white men (I'm black). But, despite this, I'd never claim that I have a preference for white men. Why? Because I could just as easily end up with a black guy, or an Asian guy. The majority of the men I've dated/fucked just happen to be white, because that's what I'm around, not because I'm being intentionally selective when it comes to race.

I would never call it a preference because I feel like, on some level, that's implying that I intentionally chose the people I date/fuck based on their race. And I think that's the part that rubs people the wrong way when these threads pop up.

That's exactly why I asked the questions I asked in the OP. Whether or not it's considered wrong to be selective about your partners based on aspects of their appearance that can be contributed to race.

Honestly, I don't buy into that angle. For me, liking Asian women is just as valid as liking skinny women. I know history isn't in my favor, but every racial or ethnic difference, strictly in terms of appearance, is just an evolutionary result. I'm not looking at this in some way where one race is better than another. Human is human, and people look different. Some differences I find more attractive.
 
If any Thing is worth making exceptions for, it'd be humans, ya know? They got brains and personalities and language and shit. Nothing else does.

I have preferences for personalities too.

I am judging potential mates on their traits and I choose the best ones. This includes looks, personality, history, etc.
 
It just strikes me as doublethink to me. Why in every arena of human activity do people like this or that more (Android, Chocolate Ice Cream, Pepsi).. but when it comes to dating humans, it's "you are probably mistaken. Or....... maybe racist...?"

What is it about choosing a mate that makes this an issue we all have to be equal or fair on? I'm pretty sure a guy will screw any hottie in a vaccum... so this isn't something to cause big alarm when, in a market of choice, they choose this trait over that.

People are uncomfortable, especially in the US with the thought that someone will always find them unappealing or that some will find others more appealing without any fault of their own. It goes against the "we are all equal/egalitarian" mentality that is heavily prevalent.

It's why most of us don't have as big a problem when we say I don't date fat girls, or I don't date uneducated guys etc. That's something that can usually be remedied in a sense. I think there is also the issue of, generalizing to a wide degree. What is "asian", what is "Indian", what is "white" etc.
 
Whenever someone mentions that they love Asians or have yellow fever, I can't help but go ehhhhhhh.

Nothing wrong with preferences, but -- maybe keep that to yourself, because it comes off just a tad creepy.
 
If any Thing is worth making exceptions for, it'd be humans, ya know? They got brains and personalities and language and shit. Nothing else does.

that's very human-centric. you disgust me.

I really can't believe people are trying to draw this out into some horrible thing. Some people like guys, some like girls, some like both, some like white people, some like black people, some like asian people, some like dogs, some are asexual, some like to chop their own dicks off, etc.. But no. Social fucking justice gaf has to make a stand against any and all preference.

Everyone will be the same. Everyone is the same.

Whenever someone mentions to me that they love Asians or have yellow fever, I can't help but go ehhhhhhh.

Nothing wrong with preferences, but -- maybe keep that to yourself, because it comes off just a tad creepy.

i have yellow fever
 
I would never call it a preference because I feel like, on some level, that's implying that I intentionally chose the people I date/fuck based on their race. And I think that's the part that rubs people the wrong way when these threads pop up.

but that's you. you are more open towards possibilities. i am too.

he is not. and that's not necessarily wrong, is it? it doesn't mean he won't fall in love with an ethiopian woman in the future, but for now he has preference. because that's what it is.

maybe it rubs you the wrong way because it involves human. But appearance is part of attraction. and whether that means you are short, tall, brunette etc it's just part of nature.
and not everyone is the same. Liking redheads does not mean he discriminates against brunettes.

but he has the freedom to choose who he courts for companionship. whether he ends up alone in his pursuit is his and his alone.

PS i have body preference. voluptuousness regardless of race UMPH!
 
Don't take my word as definitive, but I think a lot of the weirdness around claiming preferences for a certain race of people is because while every can of pepsi, every tub of vanilla ice cream, every Android, and every iPhone will be the same, not every white, black, hispanic, asian, middle eastern, or european person will be the same. That's why the object comparison doesn't do much for me. (I'm not too offended by it, but it doesn't really click for me.)

That's a good point actually. Humans are not mass produced goods with low variation between units. The analogy doesn't extend that far.

I'm saying it's ok to have a taste for chocolate over vanilla, just as in a preference for this superficial look or that.

I am not saying that, as the labeling of chocolate or vanilla tells you everything you need to know about a tub of ice cream, the labeling of Filipino or Nigerian tells you everything you need to know about that person. Of course not.
 
While there may be certain characteristics or features I find more attractive compared to others, they are not limited to any racial group or ethnicity.
This is my take on it. I like all types. Pale, mocha, yellow... I admit I don't usually find darker women attractive but if they've got features like Naomi Campbell then they get the nod as well. Pretty much slim with a pretty face trumps skin color and ethnicity for me.
 
but that's you. you are more open towards possibilities. i am too.

he is not. and that's not necessarily wrong, is it? it doesn't mean he won't fall in love with an ethiopian woman in the future, but for now he has preference. because that's what it is.

maybe it rubs you the wrong way because it involves human. But appearance is part of attraction. and whether that means you are short, tall, brunette etc it's just part of nature.
and not everyone is the same. Liking redheads does not mean he discriminates against brunettes.

but he has the freedom to choose who he courts for companionship. whether he ends up alone in his pursuit is his and his alone.

I agree with your sentiment.... but I don't think anyone with a "preference" is any kind of "closed".

"In the absence of all data, I know I like this type a lot, I will go for this type where I can...."

*hot arab chick walks by*

"ok I want her instead!"


I mean.. we're talking about choosing a mate here. Usually guys choosing a mate. You don't need to worry... they'll probably go for whatever they can get, preferences be damned.
 
I agree with your sentiment.... but I don't think anyone with a "preference" is any kind of "closed".

"In the absence of all data, I know I like this type a lot, I will go for this type where I can...."

*hot arab chick walks by*

"ok I want her instead!"

oh i didnt say that, but in a room full of hot women, he will go straight for his tastes (i assume) and then once he strikes out he can choose to batter up with another woman or go home and try again later.
 
oh i didnt say that, but in a room full of hot women, he will go straight for his tastes (i assume) and then once he strikes out he can choose to batter up with another woman or go home and try again later.

That sounds about right.
 
I have preferences for personalities too.

I am judging potential mates on their traits and I choose the best ones. This includes looks, personality, history, etc.

That's a good point actually. Humans are not mass produced goods with low variation between units. The analogy doesn't extend that far.

I'm saying it's ok to have a taste for chocolate over vanilla, just as in a preference for this superficial look or that.

I am not saying that, as the labeling of chocolate or vanilla tells you everything you need to know about a tub of ice cream, the labeling of Filipino or Nigerian tells you everything you need to know about that person. Of course not.

Yes and yes. The trouble is that "of course not" part. Misogyny is real, racism is real. The "of course" part is something people miss, like a lot.

The other underlying trouble here is that Race is a Construct it's not Real. "Asian" certainly isn't a race. The whole premise is broken. But seeing race is something I've done and my friends have done and I've seen done to me, which makes it uncomfortable.
 
This is my take on it. I like all types. Pale, mocha, yellow... I admit I don't usually find darker women attractive but if they've got features like Naomi Campbell then they get the nod as well. Pretty much slim with a pretty face trumps skin color and ethnicity for me.

I mean you like what you like lol

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That's a good point actually. Humans are not mass produced goods with low variation between units. The analogy doesn't extend that far.

I'm saying it's ok to have a taste for chocolate over vanilla, just as in a preference for this superficial look or that.

I am not saying that, as the labeling of chocolate or vanilla tells you everything you need to know about a tub of ice cream, the labeling of Filipino or Nigerian tells you everything you need to know about that person. Of course not.

Yeah, ultimately I can't say I disagree with having preferences of physical characteristics, obviously we all want someone who's a 10/10 to us.

I don't have an issues with folks having preferences, my issue starts when people start saying "Oh, I don't date <race> people". That shit is messed up.
 
I mean you like what you like lol

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Picking literally the most unflattering picture of a retired supermodel who is now suffering from thinning/receding hair due to years of hair damage and sheer age, doesn't help prove your point. Post a photo of Naomi Campbell in her prime.
 
Yeah, ultimately I can't say I disagree with having preferences of physical characteristics, obviously we all want someone who's a 10/10 to us.

I don't have an issues with folks having preferences, my issue starts when people start saying "Oh, I don't date <race> people". That shit is messed up.

No one did that here, right?
 
Yes and yes. The trouble is that "of course not" part. Misogyny is real, racism is real. The "of course" part is something people miss, like a lot.

The other underlying trouble here is that Race is a Construct it's not Real. "Asian" certainly isn't a race. The whole premise is broken. But seeing race is something I've done and my friends have done and I've seen done to me, which makes it uncomfortable.

Sure, and just like my post before, I absolutely agree with you. We just tend to use language in a way that reinforces certain things like race even though it might not be exactly what we mean. I feel zero sense of racial difference for within or between other people, and though I can't cite the origin of my preference, the intent is not to necessarily separate by race but identify aspects of human appearance that I find pleasing. Expressing this without relying on the concept of race or making generalizations is sometimes challenging.
 
Yeah, ultimately I can't say I disagree with having preferences of physical characteristics, obviously we all want someone who's a 10/10 to us.

I don't have an issues with folks having preferences, my issue starts when people start saying "Oh, I don't date <race> people". That shit is messed up.
I agree completely.

Yes and yes. The trouble is that "of course not" part. Misogyny is real, racism is real. The "of course" part is something people miss, like a lot.

The other underlying trouble here is that Race is a Construct it's not Real. "Asian" certainly isn't a race. The whole premise is broken. But seeing race is something I've done and my friends have done and I've seen done to me, which makes it uncomfortable.
Race IS a construct.

But people look different around the world. And I just have the view that it's not wrong to like this look or that. Why shouldn't particular aesthetics be loved?

But if this topic were about "I don't date X"... Totally different conversation.
 
Picking literally the most unflattering picture of a retired supermodel who is now suffering from thinning/receding hair due to years of hair damage and sheer age, doesn't help prove your point. Post a photo of Naomi Campbell in her prime.

poster never stated anything about age

and what are these "features" they speak of and how do they differ from the average dark skinned black women ?
 
White, short haired, dark hair, blue or green or Grey eyes for females. Black mixed best for males for me. Yes i'm an extremely superficial person
 
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