Lemurnator
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The color of a persons skin is the last thing that would come between me and a person I love.
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How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
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norinrad21
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Too many ignorant people out there, oh well who gives a fuck. i will date who ever i want to as long as we are happy, to hell with what some moron thinks
Lemurnator
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Tazznum1 said:
I completely agree with your statement.
norinrad21
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The funny thing is when it comes to Gay people, its like the whole races are united in their stand. WTF is up with that crap?
Lemurnator
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norinrad21 said:
Intolerent christian values ingrained into society.
Diomedeskun
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I am Puerto Rican and have gronw up in the Southern US, so I know what it is like to live within two cultures, even if both of my parents came from the same. The hardest part was that I never felt fully at home within either culture for most of my life. It was not until I was older and realized that most people I knew in my situation had given up one culture or the other and I resolved to integrate both in my life that I came to value what I am.
I believe that mixes create the most beautiful children, but the parents must be particularly sensitive to their children's needs for a stable context within their lives.
I am seriously dating a girl of germanic background from South Carolina whose family is from New York. I have nearly black hair (really extremely dark brown, but looks black), brown eyes, and the darkest skin in my family, while she has pale blond hair, blue eyes, and very light skin. We are both equally of European descent (I have a cousin who has traced back our family tree for five-hundred years), but we both look very different and were raised with many different values and traditions despite both being Roman Catholic.
As we discuss marriage, neither of us has any issues with our differences, but I know that if we have children, we will have to compromise in many ways and choose how much of any culture they are immersed in (compounded by the fact that I intend to go on extended mission work).
Ultimately, I think inter-racial couples are wonderful, but you must be aware of the issues at stake (there are cultures that will not accept their children dating outside and may even respond violently). This particularly will become relevant as a relationship becoems more serious. Multi-racial or multi-cultural children may have a more difficult time finding somewhere to belong, but good parents can make up for that.
I believe that mixes create the most beautiful children, but the parents must be particularly sensitive to their children's needs for a stable context within their lives.
I am seriously dating a girl of germanic background from South Carolina whose family is from New York. I have nearly black hair (really extremely dark brown, but looks black), brown eyes, and the darkest skin in my family, while she has pale blond hair, blue eyes, and very light skin. We are both equally of European descent (I have a cousin who has traced back our family tree for five-hundred years), but we both look very different and were raised with many different values and traditions despite both being Roman Catholic.
As we discuss marriage, neither of us has any issues with our differences, but I know that if we have children, we will have to compromise in many ways and choose how much of any culture they are immersed in (compounded by the fact that I intend to go on extended mission work).
Ultimately, I think inter-racial couples are wonderful, but you must be aware of the issues at stake (there are cultures that will not accept their children dating outside and may even respond violently). This particularly will become relevant as a relationship becoems more serious. Multi-racial or multi-cultural children may have a more difficult time finding somewhere to belong, but good parents can make up for that.
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I hope you're kidding, freak.thorns said:
Error Macro
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levious said:
I don't think being born in a certain generation has any relevance in this matter. Please read my other posts in this thread before you snap to judgements.
Mama Smurf
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The only thing I've ever actually seen going on is if say an asian guy is dating a white girl, loads of asian girls will give her really dirty looks. That's not just restricted to asian people by the way, just an example.
You get some damn good looking people from mixed race parentage. You probably get really ugly people too, but the best looking ones are just amazing. I think maybe it's because the lucky ones get the best features of both races, so when mixed it puts them above good looking people who are just from either of the races they're made up of.
Oriental mixed with caucasian is my personal favourite.
You get some damn good looking people from mixed race parentage. You probably get really ugly people too, but the best looking ones are just amazing. I think maybe it's because the lucky ones get the best features of both races, so when mixed it puts them above good looking people who are just from either of the races they're made up of.
Oriental mixed with caucasian is my personal favourite.
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He's under the impression that his opinions aren't fallible.levious said:
Error Macro
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Mama Smurf said:
I agree. That is by far the best looking mix, IMO. I have seen some gourgeous girls of that background.
Error Macro
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levious said:
When you quote and reply directly to my first post in this thread, and say some snide remark, I tend to think you didn't read anything else. Idiot.
My opinions aren't fallible? Well, I provided plenty of reason and logic to support my conclusion, and it appeared that you understood that, bell woods.
RobotChant
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thorns said:
Hate to break it to you buddy, but most of those girls got their hair color from a bottle and their eye color from Photoshop. Everybody also wants to be browner- or should I say bronze-, anyhow, as evidence by the always bustling tanning industry.
You all need to get laid before you start preaching to anyone about the particulars of dating and the prospects of dating outside of your race. 
I've been a product of an interracial couple since the 70's, and never once agonized over it. It sound as if Error's friend is a self hating Uncle Tom whose only fault is associating with white people who make him feel like shit for being 1/2 black. Shit, if i had a friend like Error to remind me that what my parents did to me is "unfair", I'd hate myself too.
I've been a product of an interracial couple since the 70's, and never once agonized over it. It sound as if Error's friend is a self hating Uncle Tom whose only fault is associating with white people who make him feel like shit for being 1/2 black. Shit, if i had a friend like Error to remind me that what my parents did to me is "unfair", I'd hate myself too.
onion_pixy
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Mama Smurf said:
I'm a white girl with an Asian boyfriend
Tho I have dark hair ad eyes and olive skin. Part Syrian, German, and Swiss. So I look pretty white but I'm not the Aryan blonde hair and blue eyed "standard"As far as I know we've never recived any strange looks. We'll often eat in restaurants where I'm the only non Asian in the place and we're the only table speaking English. Ive never notcied any type of hostility. A few stares here and there but nothing terrible, no dirty looks. Maybe it's because I live in a fairly liberal city? Or maybe theyre trash talking in a language I can't understand? Or maybe it could be Im not really concerned with other people and if Im out with my boyfriend I'm probably paying attention to him and not the people around me.
I only date women. I'm with a black woman right now, but i'd openly date a woman of any race. It their father/mother who would most likely have a problem. I don't think i'd ever make it past the parental approval process necessary to seriously date a Japanes/Chinese woman though.
norinrad21
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For some strange reason i always feel like the chinese waiters are insulting me and calling my girl a traitor whenever we go to a restaurant
I wonder if 40-50 years from now genetic engineering will start to affect how people look. I could see some countries will allow parents to choose certain features for their kids. Or maybe there will be some procedures that will allow people to change skin/hair/eye color when they choose as adults...
The Japanese might end up like freaky anime characters in 3 generations.
The Japanese might end up like freaky anime characters in 3 generations.
Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
mac said:
WTF am I meant to say then? I'm not going to say Japanese/Chinese/Korean etc everytime, but I can't say asian as I'm referring to the Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi etc look when I say that. They're very distinctive looks which would just lead to huge confusion if I had to use asian for both.
I'm a white girl with an Asian boyfriend
As far as I know we've never recived any strange looks. We'll often eat in restaurants where I'm the only non Asian in the place and we're the only table speaking English. Ive never notcied any type of hostility. A few stares here and there but nothing terrible, no dirty looks. Maybe it's because I live in a fairly liberal city? Or maybe theyre trash talking in a language I can't understand? Or maybe it could be Im not really concerned with other people and if Im out with my boyfriend I'm probably paying attention to him and not the people around me.
Well being a guy I can't be in the situation I've described, so I'm just going on observations. It's something which seems to happen more with trashy, bitchy girls in truth (the girls giving the looks being trashy I mean), the ones who'd give you dirty looks for wearing clothes that aren't fashionable, so perhaps I'm reading too much into it.
way more
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Say South Asian for Thai, Loas, Cambodians, and Vietnamese, and use East Indian for the Indians and Pakaistanis. For Jap/Chin/Koreans I usually use the actual country of origin. It makes you look more international and sexy, you boorish homogeneous loving, anglo-saxon, euro-centric cretians.
Error Macro
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Anyway, to get back to the original topic, instead of defending my posistion on the potential problems of interracial offspring:
I will say that I find many different races and mixes attractive. I would date any girl who I thought was attractive, and held all of the other qualities that I look for, such as sweetness, kind, caring, down to earth, intelligent, level-headed, etc.
I will say that I find many different races and mixes attractive. I would date any girl who I thought was attractive, and held all of the other qualities that I look for, such as sweetness, kind, caring, down to earth, intelligent, level-headed, etc.
Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
mac said:
I'm loosely grouping looks together, not talking about particualr nationalities.
Oriental it is.
Drinky Crow
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Even worse, according to an Asian female coworker of mine, is that Asian men have old-school families that expect the woman to quit her job and kowtow to the in-laws' every whim. Apparently, your Asian husband's parents and uncles/aunts will become your slavedrivers the moment you get back from your honeymoon (and possibly well before).
Journeywalker
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Error, I think it's fine if you don't want to have children with someone of another race because you're thinking about a future child, but I think it's rediculous that you'd tell other people not to do it. As a gay man, I'm not sympathetic to the argument that children should not be born into a family that may be chastised by society. People have been brought up by same-sex parents. People have been brought up biracial. Generally, they have the same identity and angst problems that all adolescents have. I know a girl who is biracial, and she is one of the most beautiful, charismatic, balanced individuals I know. People can and do overcome adversity, regardless of whether its based on poverty, race, or sexuality. Honestly, if it's impossible to overcome racism against biracial people, how do you explain the success of Derek Jeter, Halle Berry, Vin Diesel, Tiger Woods, or Ben Kingsly?
Fresh Prince
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Co-Sign. As long as you have parents that love and understand you, it doesn't matter what other people may say- even if your extended family doesn't approve.Journeywalker said:
IAmtheFMan
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Drinky Crow said:
Yeah, it's kinda remarkable in my mind that people can still think this. There's these weird stereotypes going on that Asian women are these well-spoken liberated, independent women breaking free from the shackles of male-dominated society. This is good and all, but apparently Asian males are still these 18th century male-dominant "I-want-my-geisha" assholes. The fact that these stereotypes could even be perpetuated by other Asians is kinda disheartening. Anybody who's ever met me can tell you that I, nor a lot of my other Asian friends are anything close to this.
Going further into this would bring up other issues straying from the topic at hand, going into more sociological territory. I dunno, it may be worthy of another topic or something.
Drinky Crow
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It's not so much you and your peers as it is the generation before you. You can be a completely Westernized free thinkin' dude and have Ye Olde World parents that expect their daughter-in-law to wait on 'em hand and foot.
NPR recently had an show about this re: Korea, where the divorce rate has gone through the roof and where the women are actually leaving the country to date rather than get saddled with misogynistic and domineering in-laws of the old order. The young men aren't so bad, but they simply refuse to confront their parents on this issue and stand up for their gal, preferring a passive-aggressive stance to any real support. Not exactly a sterling way to start off a relationship.
NPR recently had an show about this re: Korea, where the divorce rate has gone through the roof and where the women are actually leaving the country to date rather than get saddled with misogynistic and domineering in-laws of the old order. The young men aren't so bad, but they simply refuse to confront their parents on this issue and stand up for their gal, preferring a passive-aggressive stance to any real support. Not exactly a sterling way to start off a relationship.
Error Macro
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Journeywalker said:
Eh, I never inferred that I would tell other people to do that. I stated previously that I could never tell another person how to live their lives, nor would I want to.
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