I've been taking them forever it seems like... I take a lot of pills :x
He seems normal to me now but we had a huge fight this morning.. and yesterday.. I'm going to discuss it with him but at the moment its good that we're not fighting.
Ah, I see. Well, do make sure you talk to him and try to be open with what you're feeling. One thing to watch when airing your feelings is to try and not make it sound like you're accusing him or anything (not saying that you will but it is common for these open discussions to start becoming defensive arguments). Important thing it to just be open and honest.
I wish you the best!
so the other half has suddenly decided to practice his religion...
specifically the fasting over easter (greek orthodox)..
im not just talking about food im talking food and sex for two weeks.
Now im not religious and i wont die without sex for two weeks...but there was no discussion, just "oh btw, no sex for two weeks for easter..."
what.
should i push the discussion or just leave it and throw it into the "your religious i'll ignore it.." bin I have for him.
And being gay and doing this for a church that hates you is hilarious to me but i cant say that...
Well, this is kind of what you signed up for when you decided to be with him. Assuming he didn't just spring his religion out of nowhere then him partaking in the rituals shouldn't be too shocking. I won't read into him starting now as anything other than him putting more effort into his faith. Hell, he could be focusing more on it now that he's with you because he feels safe in a relationship.
However, considering that he's gay and Greek Orthodox, I imagine he has a lot of contradictions that he's going to have to work with. I'd just be supportive of him as best you can, especially since I'm sure he probably hears quite a bit about how terrible a sinner he is and what not from his church.
And if the two weeks is a bit of a trial for you, talk to him about it. Just because he's abstaining from sex doesn't necessarily mean you have to. Perhaps you guys can work some things out that you can do that won't break his lent but also lets you enjoy each other during that time as well.
What do you guys thing of the word faggot? Do you say it, are you okay when someone says it? What about if they say it to you? Is it okay for a gay person to say but not someone straight? Will it always be a derogatory word?
The same can go for the word queer though I don't think it carries the same connotation that faggot does.
I hate the word. Absolutely hate it. I'll never use it and I'm glad my friends don't either. If I had a friend that said it or even had the gall to say it to me, I'd definitely have some choice words for them.
Now, I won't start getting into policing others about it. If other gay people want to try and "reclaim" it, I'm not going to start shouting from the soapbox at them. I, personally, don't think "reclamation" works with these words but I know each person's relationship with it is going to be complicated.
Granted, I'm a bit hypocritical in that with my friends we'll still joke about things "being gay" (as in stupid) though we reserve that for friendly banter amongst ourselves.
Finally, I don't think queer has the same connotation.