Do everything you can do to avoid him. If that doesn't work go to HR/your manager/whoever, you deserve this job a whole lot more than that fuck head. Call someone ASAP if you feel like you're in danger at any point after going to someone about him.
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LGBThread |OT4| We're (still) Here! We're (still) Queer!
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Do everything you can do to avoid him. If that doesn't work go to HR/your manager/whoever, you deserve this job a whole lot more than that fuck head. Call someone ASAP if you feel like you're in danger at any point after going to someone about him.
Thanks for all the responses guys. I think I'll just avoid talking to him as much as possible. It was only a one time thing (he sometimes makes comments about gay people but not in the same way). If he ever brings that up again I'll definitely take it to management and he'd probably get fired. In regards to him knowing me being gay, it's only been a few months I think. I knew he didn't like gay people so I never mentioned it, but I'm pretty sure one of my coworkers told him (after I specifically told them not to).
I'm 99% sure he wouldn't turn violent or anything, it just really got me angry hearing that. It's people like him that make gay people afraid of coming out. I kind of feel bad for his future child if they end up gay or something.
Ironically he said he wouldn't mind a lesbian daughter because "then we can bond over sexy women". I just can't understand his bigotry. I understand he grew up in a homophobic culture but the shit he said literally makes no sense, especially when he actually knows gay people IRL. They aren't some mythical unicorn or something. He doesn't even attempt to view things from their view and that's what bothers me the most.
I'm 99% sure he wouldn't turn violent or anything, it just really got me angry hearing that. It's people like him that make gay people afraid of coming out. I kind of feel bad for his future child if they end up gay or something.
Ironically he said he wouldn't mind a lesbian daughter because "then we can bond over sexy women". I just can't understand his bigotry. I understand he grew up in a homophobic culture but the shit he said literally makes no sense, especially when he actually knows gay people IRL. They aren't some mythical unicorn or something. He doesn't even attempt to view things from their view and that's what bothers me the most.
Reading things this used to make me feel sad and angry. But sadly I don't really mind anymore, because some people will never change. They're narrow-minded and they're gonna stay that way until they die. We still got a long way to go in terms of gay rights.
The choice is yours, you can either disregard what he said and pursue your friendship like nothing happened (but seeing how you felt when you heard what he said I guess it might be damn near impossible) (and I don't blame you) or take your distance, remain polite with him but don't talk to him as much as you did before. And try to avoid this topic at all cost. In any case, keep your head up and don't pay too much attention to what he said!
User 73706
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I have to be brutally honest here, my secret love is Xavier Dolan.
I'm still drunk, what the nut
gooty pls
The One Who Knocks
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This is absolutely wonderful news. While I do agree that perhaps mentioning you'd a crush on him wasn't the best decision, that it was seemingly overlooked completely, and that he is extremely accepting, is magnificent, particularly after your prior experiences. He certainly seems like a very good friend.I came out to my last crush today (the one who asked me if I was gay). He asked me if I was sure of it. He said that I should have experience first so I know what do I really want. I was confused by his response but I explained the way I feel and well, told him that I used to have a crush on him. Seems that he wasn't believing me up to that point and he started to say that if I really was that sure of my sexuality, I should accept myself and start doing what I should do to be free. He comprehended my entire situation, I told him everything (my inital rejection, my friends that didn't support me, my sister being lesbian, my father being homophobic) and he then told me that he finally found why I was depressed most of the time. He gave me a lot of advice. I'm glad I talked to him, I feel like I made a huge step, even if it seems insignificant. He encouraged me to tell my friends, but at the same time trust only in open minded people. And told me that he was totally straight so nothing will come from him haha, but at least I tried
I came out to my last crush today (the one who asked me if I was gay). He asked me if I was sure of it. He said that I should have experience first so I know what do I really want. I was confused by his response but I explained the way I feel and well, told him that I used to have a crush on him. Seems that he wasn't believing me up to that point and he started to say that if I really was that sure of my sexuality, I should accept myself and start doing what I should do to be free. He comprehended my entire situation, I told him everything (my inital rejection, my friends that didn't support me, my sister being lesbian, my father being homophobic) and he then told me that he finally found why I was depressed most of the time. He gave me a lot of advice. I'm glad I talked to him, I feel like I made a huge step, even if it seems insignificant. He encouraged me to tell my friends, but at the same time trust only in open minded people. And told me that he was totally straight so nothing will come from him haha, but at least I tried
Good job
You know, fuck that he is a homophobe. He has some serious issues with himself if he thinks that he would be capable of killing his own child just because of (as he thinks of it) a lifestyle he does not agree with. Disagreeing with something or finding something gross is one thing, being able to murder someone for that is another.
Stay the hell away from him.
Dead Prince
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time to start the cycle again.
needs more MOBA
You should honestly give it a try.
The only reason I got into the MOBA genre in the first place was because a friend of mine was adamant in getting me to play. It's frustrating at first but once you get the hang of things it becomes one of the most satisfying things to play on your downtime. Plus, it's free so $$$.
The only reason I got into the MOBA genre in the first place was because a friend of mine was adamant in getting me to play. It's frustrating at first but once you get the hang of things it becomes one of the most satisfying things to play on your downtime. Plus, it's free so $$$.
This is funny because it's troo.
This is also troo, MOBAs are best with friends.
This also means your PC gaming friends, who all play MOBAs, will ask you all the time -_-
I've tried playing it with friends and even watching many matches in TI 2014, but my perception didn't change.
lol me too. but then my friend stop playing with me(he stills play, just not with me) and now i only play with other gaffers.
Dead Prince
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I like shootbangs and strategy games on my computer.
My strategy is kill kill kill. (ﾉ◕ヮ◕
who duck and cover. all about shooting at cq and still shoot when you should melee.
why would it be weird?
We're just not that friendly. We lived in the same block for our first year at Uni, and his girlfriend was also his flatmate, who I was also really good friends with because we did the same course. So it's more an extension of my friendship with his girlfriend rather that him... I think.
VICTORsaurio
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we're in an incredibly weird gray area right now... we'll see how this goes :/
Add me!Wait GayGAF plays Dota 2? I need friends to play with, my boyfriend only plays LoL.
http://steamcommunity.com/id/robynhoodfenty/
Blood Diamonds
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My computer can't fucking play DOTA 2
but I mean it used to be able to play LoL like in 2012.. I think? idk if it still can
but I mean it used to be able to play LoL like in 2012.. I think? idk if it still can
CornBurrito
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I have never played a MOBA, I feel like I'd suck at them
Trick is not to care about sucking. Though it can be hard since some players in public matchmaking will basically treat you like a child rapist for not being good at the game. But when people treat me poorly for not being magically good at it from day one I get really happy knowing that I'm causing them a great deal of frustration and rage.
CornBurrito
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Greatest Of All Time and Game Of The Forever, respectively.
It's been rebalanced continually for something like a decade. One of the subtle benefits of a game being in the hands of crazy mod people.
Henchmen21
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What the hell is MOBA anyways?
Henchmen21
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"Multiplayer online battle arena"
(first definition in google after entering "MOBA"
So a strategy game like starcraft?
RTS subgenre, to be precise. Tighter, more tactical and teamplay focused (one hero unit per player, generally, on a team of five).
Courtesy of anal thread:
All I know is that's the last thread I try satire in for a while. "Vaginas are icky" wasn't lowbrow enough to pass without people taking it seriously, apparently. And we all know where that led the thread.
Subtle shade or am I now (accurately) known for being crotchety? Hm...
All I know is that's the last thread I try satire in for a while. "Vaginas are icky" wasn't lowbrow enough to pass without people taking it seriously, apparently. And we all know where that led the thread.
Blood Diamonds
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Uhh... guys... The World Ends With You is the GOTF
it's pretty great
Masquerader
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Blood Diamonds
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Nope sorry guys it's the best game ever
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