Hm. Maybe try again? I have two links, one to Kickstarter and one to a GAF thread, and they both lead to where I thought they did when I just tried them.
And I live in Indianapolis.
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Hm. Maybe try again? I have two links, one to Kickstarter and one to a GAF thread, and they both lead to where I thought they did when I just tried them.
And I live in Indianapolis.
Dead Prince
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watch out. @HippieHobo is a #1 Stalker and an amazing bush trimmer.
Oh. The kick starter one works. Your first link takes me to a thread about NewsCorp buying IGN from 2005 by DarrienA.
I learned from the best.
This is true.
I'm probably hunger-angry as well. No lunch today. Now I have shrimp on my mind..
NICE! whenever the documentary premiers and I'm able to watch it, I could possibly make the thread about it, it'd give me time to gather my thoughts on it and able to deliver a quality thread on the issue.
I'd probably end up doing that whenever The Mask You Live In premiers
I was watching the trailer about it on YouTube and there were a lot of criticism from men saying "You're just not letting men be men, we are not women" and I'm honestly the most interested in getting perspectives from those people, why do they feel like the documentary is treating men's issues with a feminine spin? That is a mystery to me since I'm unable to understand what a masculine way of dealing with the problem is.I don't understand masculinity in general.
I c what ya did thar, In such cases I'd rather they wouldn't go that deep LOLI bet
ab.aeterno
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I'll PM you.What does the pendant look like?
Yep, definitely. It's frustrating.
Oh, whoops. My thread ended with 622541; I accidentally deleted the 1 so it was 62254, which brings you to the other thread.
And Rayis, those perspectives don't make much sense to me. After all, these are not views that are being imposed on boys from outside, but are coming from the boys themselves; and many of the adults that we see in the video talking about this issue are adult men. But I think that perhaps makes more sense if your premise is gender essentialism. If you take that as your premise, then boys' issues stemming from playing the masculine role don't stem from that at all; they're just the way boys are, and attempts to get boys to act differently is not letting boys be boys.
kitchenmotors
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Aw, Darien Allen. One of the guys who got me into GAF all those years ago. <3
Ahhh, that explains it. I was like "is that Mumei's second Gaf account"?
D'awww.
Really sad and shocking.
If I were you one thing I would do is take some time away from the media. I don't know how you have reacted, but in situations like these I can get far too much information that just fill me with dispair. Utøya hit especially close to home because I had just left Oslo that morning and my siblings (both are fine) had been to political summer camps.
This is basically my view on it too, gender essentialism tends to ignore outliers and excuses behavior some boys may exhibit as just part of being male, it doesn't explain those of us who despite being born male don't have the urge to act in such a way, it's not a satisfactory answer.
terrisus
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Mumei pls =(
Oh jeez I'm like this. If I don't eat well or when I get hungry, I get really snarky and mad. I really hate that about myself but I can't seem to break that part of myself. But I'm at least aware of it so I can inform people before I lash out at them hahaha
ab.aeterno
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Oh thank Christ I'm not the only one who's like that. If I don't eat, I get terribly grumpy and irritable, heh. But since I know that happens, yeah, I can at least let people know it's me not them.
You're right. I logged out from Twitter and Facebook this afternoon. I'm quite sensitive to such an awful display of violence reported in the media. I still have some articles due for next week but those can wait for tomorrow. None of them dealing with the news though, I'm just writing about pop culture.
Watching TV tonight feels weird. Most TV shows that are usually recorded live have been cancelled. I'm talking about entertainment and light-hearted shows. None of them aired today.
The daily talk-show ones are still airing and they're all dedicated to that tragic news. I'm currently watching one of them. Needless to say, it's hard to watch, but necessary.
That's terrible, Grizzo. My thoughts go out to all these poor souls who lost someone through that attack, and to the ones like you who are in shock and fear over this tragedy. Stay strong.
Thanks guys. We lost some talented guys today. Their only goal was to make people laugh, week after week. That was such a noble cause.
That's so sad
This is so awful
It's terrifying. But we can't let them win.
Bubbavelli
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Hey wait a minute...
Considering I havent had a same sex experience
yet
Elitist1945
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A fellow cruiser indeed! I've only been on two, but oh well.
Elitist1945
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I haven't even ever had sex yet. I'm trying to be all cliché and "save it for the one".
terrisus
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Nothing wrong with that =)
Same here! I don't think it's cliche at all.
TheAbsolution
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Same here. Waiting hasn't hurt me yet.
Same here. Waiting hasn't hurt me yet.
But the thirst... oh the thirst. It's unbearable sometimes.
In regards to this matter, I actually feel like the stereotypey teenage girl who is pretty nervous about it. What if I don't please when it comes to it? Will it hurt? What should I do? so anxious... all dem expectations... I mean, hetero sex can't be this terrifying can it? That one makes too much sense with no doubts about what sex actually means in the first place.
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Bubbavelli
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I just hope you guys accept me here too
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I think that factored into why I didn't see anything good about waiting for the 'one'. I wanted to feel free to get to know what I like, what the experience is, and whether or not what I am experiencing is really compatible and satisfying rather than not knowing for sure.
Nothing wrong with waiting a while until you feel comfortable and sure, whether that takes only a brief period of attraction for you or a long relationship.
Same. I don't think it's as big of a thing as people make it, personally. It's something many people enjoy and can include in their relationship.
Absolutely!
umop_3pisdn
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This, too, though I find I don't really wonder about people that much. More than a straight guy I'm sure but I'm kind of an aloof asshole irl.
Yeah this is a problem if attraction is a factor. But I think the other side of it accounts for the only actually meaningful part of 'gaydar' in the first place. Where we have an edge is recognizing the extra degree of social inhibition that comes from being a man attracted to other men ("takes one to know one"). There's a mixture of stiltedness, deliberate indifference, and interest that can be a pretty clear indication about someone, but only if you're a blip on their radar so those inhibitions are called into action. So there's a mutuality thing, I think the eyes tend to give it away.
I think it's only cliché if you're hyper-romantic/unrealistic about it. I think it's an entirely valid sentiment to want sex to reflect a meaningful degree of intimacy, which also means that you actually have to like the other person quite a bit on the level of who they are or whatever.
As gary said, there's a lot of anxiety when it comes to it. I'm not sure if anxiety is the right word, but one is full of questions.
TheAbsolution
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Yeah, to clarify it doesn't have to exactly be "the one". For me it's more about finding someone I'm comfortable with if that makes sense?
Bubbavelli
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Yeah the conceptualization of virginity is kinda fucked up but more power to the people waiting for the perfect one for the first time. At least that's way more special than: "hey wanna come over and fuck? There's kind of this animalistic need to have sex and I kinda want to wean that off. If it makes you feel better we can watch the first twenty minutes of a movie first"
It absolutely does. Nerves are totally normal. I still get nervous when I sleep with someone the first time even though I'm not a virgin. I get a little competitive too though. I want them to remember me.
umop_3pisdn
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The one stereotypically knows how to fuck. No one fantasizes about a bloodless romance (not really, I'm sure some do).
There are plenty of problems with the idea of "the one", but I honestly don't really think anyone means it literally anymore.
I know right? Like, whenever someone in here talks about how they just had sex or something, I must restrain myself from assuming my psychotherapist pose (all notebook and tilted head^^) and blurting out: And by - sex - you mean...?
Looking to do #11 this year.
Finding someone your comfortable with is way more important. Someone who will be willing to take their time and be gentle with you. Someone you can let your walls down with. At least until you get into the rhythm of things.
Interesting choice of words.
umop_3pisdn
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Maybe I'm projecting my own feelings onto humanity as a whole, but I think romantic love is complex. We don't just want to feel it in our heads or our hearts, we want to feel it in our guts, too.
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What is the sex? How many sex?
"Is that supposed to be sex, Lemon?"
If I ever have sex again feel free to ask anything
Bubbavelli
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More power to you bruh bruh. The cuddles afterwards shall be epic
and almost the best part
It also has to do with how they grew up, I mean, we have violence in the Western society but at least we don't have the US and EU troops destroying our homes and maybe even kill your neighbours and other loved ones in the crossfire every other day. I can see how that anger about how other countries armies acting so carelessly when hunting for terrorists in your homeland can make you consider joining them, and then there are these extreme split groups of the Islam which use exactly those people who are already fueled with anger and brainwash them into their killing machines "in the name of Allah" (which I find is much more blasphemic than some silly caricature). And then stuff like this happens. It's terrible, but we also brought it onto ourselves.I'm very respectful of everyone's beliefs, I'm a rather low key atheist. But man, we do know this crap is less common in secular societies
Of course we do, bubba.
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hi, my name is DMPrince
Charming? yeah. good luck with that one. the best you'd get from me is some ice cream and cake and watch some movies.
terrisus
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Well, I mean, my wife was with a bunch of people before me, but that doesn't help very much with the fact that I'm "shit in bed" >.>
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