My Girlfriend Unironically Brough Up the Idea of a Threesome

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MrToughPants said:
Go for it but I wouldn't view the person as LTR material if they brought up threesomes.
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Seeing this stance brought up multiple times in this thread has me question just how some people think and how much confidence they have in their relationships. My girlfriend was the one who brought up threesomes casually ages ago and we eventually went through with it and had a good time and now we're still together and trying different things in our sex life (no we didn't move on to orgies, etc, we have no interest in that).

Being confident about your relationship is an important factor here and just because they're sexually adventurous doesn't mean they're not relationship material, a threesome is a good way to judge this and what most would consider a testing ground along with basic stuff like handcuffs, etc.

If you're nervous, that's one thing, but all this cheating talk, etc, makes it seem like a lot of you have had bad experiences. The most important thing here is to TALK WITH HER, that is the key thing, you're not having sex with us, you're not in a relationship with us, you just need to be completely open with your partner about your thoughts on this, how you feel about each other, how strong and confident you think your relationship is, etc, because it could very well just be that she's happy with you and thinks the two of you are strong enough to handle a threesome and have fun with it.
 
Ash735 said:
Seeing this stance brought up multiple times in this thread has me question just how some people think and how much confidence they have in their relationships. My girlfriend was the one who brought up threesomes casually ages ago and we eventually went through with it and had a good time and now we're still together and trying different things in our sex life (no we didn't move on to orgies, etc, we have no interest in that).
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I mean it's not really typical to be honest. Cool that it worked for you.
 
I love that you're worried about multitasking

*ok twist titty#3 in 4 seconds after i finished spelling QRT with my tongue. Launch hip thrust speed increase to 3.3 thrust per-moan in 5.......4.......3.......2....."

Do it meng you'll be fine. If you feel your nerves acting up just lay back and let them lead you through some ish. No worries.
 
Start mentally and financially preparing now. Year 3 into my relationship it finally happened. I mentally gone through it in my mind a hundred times. So when i was told hwr friend would be in town and she was newly single I got a good feeling it was time.Took both out to an awesome sushi dinner with lots of saki. Then bought a badass downtown hotel suite with pool for the entire weekend. Lots of champagne and molly ensued. Remember you gotta be laid back. Funny. And willing to throw down cash for two chick's. If you have any doubt and feel like you'll be nervous. Buy some viagra for backup. Godspeed my friend...
 
You seem to be more worried about handling all that puss rather than concerned about it potentially causing problems in the relationship (jealousy that she focused more on the third party, for example). If you mentioned the latter then I would advise against it, a threesome is something you should be absolutely sure you want to pursue, but you just seem a bit nervous so might as well do it for shits and giggles.
 
If playing Witcher 3 taught me anything, it's that

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IT'S A TRAP.

Or just, fuck two girls at the same time, you lucky bastard.
 
Chuck Norris said:
I could only do MMF if I was the third party. I mean it would be okay when you're in the moment but if you finish first then it just turns into watching a guy banging your girl with that awkward post sex feeling. Imagine the guy has stamina and lasts 10 minutes liger than you?
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Ive been in quite a few mmf's and typically the "3rd wheel" goes first just for this exact reason. It's never been really something I've mentioned with the couples, it just seems to happen this way, probably for the above reason, and the girl is usually most excited to try out the new guy lol. Have had some where the bf/husband goes first, but usually he doesn't finish.
 
There are a lot of lawyers on gaf just in case things go the other way and you happen to find yourself in front of your house with the door locked even though you thought you had the right keys to your house.

Enjoy yourself.
 
hydrophilic attack said:
It takes more than an hour for me.

Not amazing when the girl is getting bored and sore after twenty minutes :/
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Not like banging away for an hour is all you can do, extended oral on her, sticking to positions she enjoys and keeping everything as lubricated as possible. By this point in your life you should have figured out what can make you come quicker even if you use as a last case scenario. Or you could simply accept you won't come in a session and do everything else you enjoy. I'm the same and it's not some hugely limiting thing
 
I have been in this situation and went through with it. I do not recommend it.

What happened in my case was that the third party was more into me than my girlfriend and really just saw the threesome as a way to get with me. This became obvious mid-coitus and resulted in my girlfriend jumping and storming out the house crying. Luckily she was the one involved in planning the threeway so I didn't carry any blame for that. But still it ended up being a shitty situation that made everyone feel bad.

Proceed at your own risk.
 
Just see it as an experience. It might be awkward or amazing, but you won't know until you try and doing it is definitely more cool than not doing it.
 
optimiss said:
I have been in this situation and went through with it. I do not recommend it.

What happened in my case was that the third party was more into me than my girlfriend and really just saw the threesome as a way to get with me. This became obvious mid-coitus and resulted in my girlfriend jumping and storming out the house crying. Luckily she was the one involved in planning the threeway so I didn't carry any blame for that. But still it ended up being a shitty situation that made everyone feel bad.

Proceed at your own risk.
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Yeah, this can happen. And if you suspect the third has feels, then I usually strike them from the candidate list.

Even though it didn't work in this case, this is why I usually let her bring up candidates and ask them, because asking a woman myself could go badly. If they're a friend but don't want to do that with me, it could ruin the friendship. If they want a relationship with me, it can go south due to the above reason or ruin the relationship we had so far because now they're just the third and they feel shot down.

But at least usually friends of my girlfriends have already mentally bookmarked me as "not available" so it tends to be the safer option, in my experience.
 
Principate said:
Not like banging away for an hour is all you can do, extended oral on her, sticking to positions she enjoys and keeping everything as lubricated as possible. By this point in your life you should have figured out what can make you come quicker even if you use as a last case scenario. Or you could simply accept you won't come in a session and do everything else you enjoy. I'm the same and it's not some hugely limiting thing
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Well. Let's just say I haven't gotten a lot of chances to improve my skills :/
 
Principate said:
Not like banging away for an hour is all you can do, extended oral on her, sticking to positions she enjoys and keeping everything as lubricated as possible. By this point in your life you should have figured out what can make you come quicker even if you use as a last case scenario. Or you could simply accept you won't come in a session and do everything else you enjoy. I'm the same and it's not some hugely limiting thing
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Maybe its just me, but not being able to get off, even if im specifically trying to, in a 1hr span of time just sounds... horrible lol.
 
darkstar0155 said:
Maybe its just me, but not being able to get off, even if im specifically trying to, in a 1hr span of time just sounds... horrible lol.
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Lol it can sound cool in theory to be able to last a long time...

I'm in the same boat. I almost never manage to get off via vaginal intercourse no matter how long I try. I don't mind finishing other ways and its nice to have the stamina to make my partner orgasm multiple times before I tire out, but it is frustrating occasionally if I'm really set on cumming inside her.
 
Pai Pai Master said:
Lol it can sound cool in theory to be able to last a long time...

I'm in the same boat. I almost never manage to get off via vaginal intercourse no matter how long I try. I don't mind finishing other ways and its nice to have the stamina to make my partner orgasm multiple times before I tire out, but it is frustrating occasionally if I'm really set on cumming inside her.
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So what do you do to finish? Just jerk off at the end? stamina is good, but that much? no thanks lol.
 
darkstar0155 said:
So what do you do to finish? Just jerk off at the end? stamina is good, but that much? no thanks lol.
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I can do fine with oral or whatever else afterward. I would rarely let it go that long anyways but I have gone for more than an hour in the past. I dunno what it is, I enjoy vaginal sex but its never been easy for me to finish that way for as long as I can remember.

But yeah sounds nice on paper but in reality it can be a drag if you let it get to you. I'm happy as long as we're both having a good time.
 
Ash735 said:
Seeing this stance brought up multiple times in this thread has me question just how some people think and how much confidence they have in their relationships.
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This should not surprise you at all, since GAF's position on relationships is remarkably consistent across all threads and situations: "you should break up with her." If you cheated on your girlfriend, GAF will tell you to break up with her. If your girlfriend cheats on you, GAF will say to break up with her. If she gets angry at you for a dumb thing you say, break up with her. If you get angry at her for saying something dumb, break up with her. There was a thread a while back where a poster said "this girl I I wanted to bone in high school texted me out of nowhere and wants to have sexual intercourse with me." GAF's opinion? "Why didn't she have sex with you in high school? BREAK UP WITH HER." So he did. They weren't even together and they broke up!

It is completely unshocking to me that in a thread about a guy's girlfriend wanting to have a threesome with him, many people have taken the opportunity to say that the relationship is doomed.
 
Pai Pai Master said:
I can do fine with oral or whatever else afterward. I would rarely let it go that long anyways but I have gone for more than an hour in the past. I dunno what it is, I enjoy vaginal sex but its never been easy for me to finish that way for as long as I can remember.

But yeah sounds nice on paper but in reality it can be a drag if you let it get to you. I'm happy as long as we're both having a good time.
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Ok, so you can get off from oral but not vaginal? Not sure your age but have you tried to see if different positions help? There are some positions I can last pretty much forever (cowgirl), some I can regulate myself to last forever (doggy) and some that I will get off quick from (missionary)
 
hydrophilic attack said:
Well. Let's just say I haven't gotten a lot of chances to improve my skills :/
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Well the only general advice I can give is don't masterbate if you do, and be willing to jack off to completition if it takes too long, there's a reason why pornstars do it. Oral should work but really doesn't for me which is pretty fun in itself
 
Insecure "Slut Shaming" - check
Insecure "OMG everyone on GAF is a sex god" - check
Insecure "If you don't do it you aren't a man" - check
Simple "I had 1 bad experience, therefore don't do it" - check

And some good advice peppered in... which basically boils down to "it can be a risk, it can also be fun.. weigh your feelings and be true to yourself." It's good to ask for advice, but don't take any one post that seriously.. hopefully they all provoke thought that will help you make a decision (even the advice that is too simple can be useful.)
 
Principate said:
Well the only general advice I can give is don't masterbate if you do, and be willing to jack off to completition if it takes too long, there's a reason why pornstars do it. Oral should work but really doesn't for which is pretty fun in itself
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Yeah, with how seldom I get some, I couldn't really hold off from masturbating.

Oral doesn't really work for me, but yeah I usually have to finish myself off, which is fine I guess.
 
As a guy whose done the three person tango, let me tell you it is a lot of work. My abs were in pain from hours of use for like two weeks. Now here's where it gets interesting, your girl is obviously interested in it, which means she will probably be the more active participant, which is ideal since you can tap out and let her play with the third person.

Anyways, I saw try it. Not even in a guyish 'but threesome brah' but just cause it's an interesting experience outside your comfort zone and I think we should all try things like that. She's interested in it, and who knows, you might enjoy it a bunch too.
 
How About No said:
So what do you do if you're an M (and not into Ms) in an MMF, and the F says "ok, my turn to watch"?

Asking for a friend
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My experience is all of this should be talked about before hand, and ground rules laid out so this doesn't happen. I've been in a decent amount of MMF's and have never had this situation cause it was known before hand if the guy(s) were open to it.
 
I was told by a sagely old guy told me that "if a guy can turn down sex, it makes him stronger" so by that logic if you can turn down a 3-way, you might get super powers!
 
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