nigDASTARDLY
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What? Is this true?
My Girlfriend Unironically Brough Up the Idea of a Threesome
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What? Is this true?
There are numerous Suicide Squad threads on GAF were you can express your sexual frustrations through angry posts about Zack Snyder and the Chinese box office.
Pai Pai Master
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FetLife is your best friend now. Go meet some fellow perverts to get nasty with. My first time attending a group play party was pretty magical.
If your erection doesn't go down because you took erection meds when you can already get erections, gangrene will start to set in your dick unless you go to the hospital and pay out the nose to have them stop your erection.
It's not just a man...it's GAF-Man.
The hero no one wants. The hero no one deserves.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
We're all trying to write "MILF" because OP can't look her hot milf mother in the eye.
thecouncil
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If you don't want to do it, don't do it.
*dusts hands off*
"well, that was an incredibly easy solution."
What even is this comment?
Why did you write "a male"? And what does that have to do with anything anyway?
It's the whole bullshit macho bravado thing that is still very prevalent. While we're making strides in the whole "how women should act" thing all the time sadly the perception of what a man should be has stayed pretty much the same.
InfiniteBento
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Don't do it just to do it.
If you aren't comfortable, do not force yourself to do something you don't want to do.
Do not let other people make you feel pressured to do this or make you feel you are less masculine for not wanting to do this.
It is your body. It is your choice. Go with your gut.
If you aren't comfortable, do not force yourself to do something you don't want to do.
Do not let other people make you feel pressured to do this or make you feel you are less masculine for not wanting to do this.
It is your body. It is your choice. Go with your gut.
also this
Omegasquash
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Eh. Let your gal know about your concerns, know your boundaries, but be willing to listen to her when she responds to your concerns.
Communication is a wonderful thing.
Communication is a wonderful thing.
Ded.
Soapbox Killer
Grand Nagus
One of those things for me that's better in theory than in execution. If she's just some chick to you, go for it but if this is something you can build on...think about it. If it's the latter, I'd go with no. I'm and old school kinda dude so it might be my thinking is outdated and old-fashioned.
Your thinking isn't outdated. Polyamory isn't for everyone, and monogamy is just fine too.
Messofanego
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Oh boy.
Try not to feel pressured into thinking this is something you should want, OP. It sounds like you have some anxiety about it and this is very likely to affect your performance, either directly or by drinking too much to combat nerves. If it honestly doesn't sound like a good time to you, that's fine!
If you're open to the idea, be sure to communicate a lot with your girlfriend. Maybe you can hang out a couple of times with the other girl as a three, have dinner and drinks without any pressure to see how comfortable you are with each other. Sometimes it's better just to be straightforward about these things; that includes discussing the details of what you want to do and how you want to arrange yourselves, should you decide to go through with it. That way you run fewer risks of making each other uncomfortable and you might all get what you want from the experience. It might sound un-sexy but I think these discussions are very important, because let's face it: you're most likely not going to have some perfectly choreographed porn threesome without planning.
I think you need rock solid self-esteem and plenty of sexual confidence to enjoy this kind of threesome without over-thinking or getting nervous. I've always thought foursomes sounded like more fun.
If you're open to the idea, be sure to communicate a lot with your girlfriend. Maybe you can hang out a couple of times with the other girl as a three, have dinner and drinks without any pressure to see how comfortable you are with each other. Sometimes it's better just to be straightforward about these things; that includes discussing the details of what you want to do and how you want to arrange yourselves, should you decide to go through with it. That way you run fewer risks of making each other uncomfortable and you might all get what you want from the experience. It might sound un-sexy but I think these discussions are very important, because let's face it: you're most likely not going to have some perfectly choreographed porn threesome without planning.
I think you need rock solid self-esteem and plenty of sexual confidence to enjoy this kind of threesome without over-thinking or getting nervous. I've always thought foursomes sounded like more fun.
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Don't you know what it means to become an orgy guy? It changes everything. He'd have to dress different. He'd have to act different. He'd have to grow a mustache and get all kinds of robes and lotions and he'd need a new bedspread and new curtains. He'd have to get thick carpeting and weirdo lighting. He'd have to get new friends. He'd have to get orgy friends.
... Naw, OP is not ready for it.
... Naw, OP is not ready for it.
Only on GAF would a normal human being have anxiety about something they might not be comfortable doing instead of just conforming to the "dude brah threesome you totes have to" mantra when they may not actually be comfortable with it.
Seraph_Nicholas
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I mean, are you bad at sex? If that's a concern, tell your girlfriend. Explain that you're worried about your own capability, and you would like practice and education beforehand. Don't veto the idea, though. For starters, it really is quite fun. Also, it's entirely possible it'll never happen even if you agree. Finding a willing third wheel isn't the easiest thing.
greatestjediever
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rokkerkory
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She is trolling you OP
I would begrudgingly accept, complain about it here and there, but enjoy
I would begrudgingly accept, complain about it here and there, but enjoy
Literally the only sensible post in this thread lmao.
You all sound like these brahs at the bar who don't understand how a man might have boundaries or emotions or might not want to do something just because it's seen as something that everyone wants to do.
Pai Pai Master
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Not sure if that is what everyone agrees on ... see :
Yeah man. If you're comfortable with a little proximity, it's definitely a good time.
Even without any bi action, I'm very turned on by a woman who enjoys the extra attention. Added bonus points if she takes the dominant role
That might be my interpretation seeing some of my friends there, but the bolded all read "MMF = train"
Yeah as other's said, don't do it if you aren't comfortable.. unless you feel like trying something outside your comfort zone.
Personally love multi-female group sex but it certainly isn't for everyone. For a couple it's best if both people desire watching their partner be pleasured. Only had one bad experience and that was with girls I wasn't dating, as I wouldn't do it with a serious partner unless I was pretty damn sure they were going to react positively.
Personally love multi-female group sex but it certainly isn't for everyone. For a couple it's best if both people desire watching their partner be pleasured. Only had one bad experience and that was with girls I wasn't dating, as I wouldn't do it with a serious partner unless I was pretty damn sure they were going to react positively.
All people telling OP to just do it are probably picturing an ideal scenario here. That's not really giving him sound advice.
OP, there's all sorts of reasons to turn down sex, even with people or in situations you find very attractive/tempting. I know I've turned down several girls that my friends have never let me forget about because "oh man they're so hot" and stuff. It happens for whatever reason and I regret none of the ones I didn't fuck. My only regrets are one or two of the girls I did fuck in my youth but didn't really respect me deep down.
Have sex on your own terms and don't do anything "for the story." You'll have more opportunities to have the sex you enjoy most if you have a high self esteem and make decisions that you find fulfilling and avoid degrading yourself.
In other words: Approach the decision to have a threesome the same way you'd approach the decision to have any other potential sex. If you want to do it, and it feels right, and you don't think you'll regret it, go for it. Otherwise, don't feel bad about passing on it (no matter what anyone else says).
OP, there's all sorts of reasons to turn down sex, even with people or in situations you find very attractive/tempting. I know I've turned down several girls that my friends have never let me forget about because "oh man they're so hot" and stuff. It happens for whatever reason and I regret none of the ones I didn't fuck. My only regrets are one or two of the girls I did fuck in my youth but didn't really respect me deep down.
Have sex on your own terms and don't do anything "for the story." You'll have more opportunities to have the sex you enjoy most if you have a high self esteem and make decisions that you find fulfilling and avoid degrading yourself.
In other words: Approach the decision to have a threesome the same way you'd approach the decision to have any other potential sex. If you want to do it, and it feels right, and you don't think you'll regret it, go for it. Otherwise, don't feel bad about passing on it (no matter what anyone else says).
Messofanego
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Skiptastic
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I'm not picturing anything ideal at all. I'm picturing it possibly being awful.
But, hey, he's probably not sticking with that girl for long (he's planning on leaving the country) and he'll learn first hand that he doesn't like threesomes instead of just wondering his whole life.
Hence, life is too short, do the threesome.
Your advice is totally sound. I had written out a post very similar because I don't think everyone is wired to want a threesome, even an MFF one.
But I backtracked because I think it is a valuable learning experience and I think he could use a little experience. Dude is very immature about a lot of things (not in the I'm a kid being an asshole way, but a total lack of experience and knowing how to deal with society way).
Astral Dog
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You bragging lucky guy 😁
There's nothing wrong with lacking experience. I certainly lack experience in multi-partner sexual scenarios, but it's not like it's impacting my life or preventing from having great sex.
Poor sex of any kind, in contrast to a lack of experience with multiple partners, actually *might* fuck with your head.
But yes, everyone is different and will react differently to pretty much everything and he may grow from having it. My advice is just for him to be true to himself just like in any other situation.
Skiptastic
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Always good advice.
FUNKNOWN iXi
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It's a trap.
With great pride.
Principate
Saint Titanfall
Sorta right doesn't mean train. That's pretty different
Dr_Boris_Goltz
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I would personally turn down a threesome.
Especially if I was committed to one of the participants.
Especially if I was committed to one of the participants.
malingenie
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True. And it often reeks of armchair machismo, said by gents who wish they where in that position. If you don't feel a threesome, you don't feel a threesome. Speaks no less of you as a human in my book, OP. I had one and it was, in my opinion, not the epitome of sexuality in my life.
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This thread has been one hell of a read. Thank you GAF.
Chuck Norris
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I could only do MMF if I was the third party. I mean it would be okay when you're in the moment but if you finish first then it just turns into watching a guy banging your girl with that awkward post sex feeling. Imagine the guy has stamina and lasts 10 minutes liger than you?
How About No
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So what do you do if you're an M (and not into Ms) in an MMF, and the F says "ok, my turn to watch"?
Asking for a friend
Asking for a friend
PlayALLtheGames
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Look at the OP's OP. Seems more like anxiety than genuine boundaries. No shame in being anxious but if that's the only thing stopping you you're going to regret the fuck out of it.
Not saying you should go for every threesome. A couple of years ago my fiancee and I were hanging out with a girl at our place and we happened to talk about doing it and were all on board. Later in the night the girl started getting weird, boasting about how every previous 3-way she had ended up in a broken relationship, telling my fiancee and I, separately, that we were both "confused" about what we wanted. We looked at each other when she was in the bathroom and were like "heeell no."
Went from sure 3-some to get this crazy bitch out of our house and let's never speak to her again. Sad!
MrToughPants
Brian Burke punched my mom
Go for it but I wouldn't view the person as LTR material if they brought up threesomes.
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