My Girlfriend Unironically Brough Up the Idea of a Threesome

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I recently was invited to an MMMF foursome.

I would have said yes, but apparently the other guys were bi, and I was invited with the question "Do you like cock?", so I declined
 
I guess I'll weigh in with the people who say 'don't overthink it.' Had three MFF threesomes with my ex and another girl (the same girl each time, apparently it was a thing of hers), and one MMF. The first time it ever happened with the third girl, I was definitely in an overthinking it state of mind: thinking about how much time to spend with each girl, what I should be doing to one while I'm with the other, etc. But once I got into it, relaxed, and let my mind just sort of wander in that wonderful sex bliss, it was fine.

Honestly, though, it wasn't that great. I mean, it was fun, and I don't regret it, and probably would do it again if we were still together, but I don't pine to do another or anything. It was a great experience to mark off the old bucket list, but it's about like a triple threat in wrestling. It's a cool novelty, but there's a sort of awkwardness to even the better ones where you can tell the sport was designed for even numbers, not odd.

The MMF, though...eh. That just sucked. I think a lot of it was the other guy, though. He was awkward as fuck about everything. He was also French, so maybe that had something to do with it.
 
Have you thought about her reasoning for wanting a threesome? She might not be happy with the current state of your sex life.

Also, clean your damn ass OP! Even if no one is going to go to town on it.
 
Never done it myself and don’t think I’d want to, but that’s just the way I’m wired. Have a friend that dated a girl who wanted a BGG experience – ended up with jealously from his girl – he was friends with the other girl even though nothing happened outside the threesome.

It just sounds like its adding additional complexities into a relationship that can easily be avoided…..that said if the girl you are with isn’t going to be a long-term relationship…..just say what the fuck and dive in…
 
Greddleok said:
I don't really know if I want to do it, but life has pressured me into think it's like the epitome of sexual experience.
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Don't do it because of societal pressure. Do it for yourself. If you're having this much anxiety and not feeling confident with your partner, don't bother. If you're very confident with your partner already, go for it.
 
Tagyhag said:
Have you thought about her reasoning for wanting a threesome? She might not be happy with the current state of your sex life.

Also, clean your damn ass OP! Even if no one is going to go to town on it.
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Well she said she wanted to try it after we were discussing one of our female acquaintances. No idea other than that she likes both cock and pussy.

I feel like I need to make this clear: By not cleaning my ass, I mean I don't want an enema.
 
If you haven't been dating long, go for it.

If you had been, maybe there's more to the thought since it could shake up your relationship. But anyway, DO IT!
 
I don't see why not to give it a try.
From my experience MMF is overall better than MFF unless the women are also into each other and can take some of the "workload". (Small caveat, I'm bi, so your mileage my vary here.)
Both can be very fun, but threesomes in general are rather overrated, or maybe I just don't have the multitasking skills to make the most of it.
 
It's interesting to read all of the opinions on MMF vs MFF, though they aren't surprising.

I'm gay, so my only experience is MMM but I would definitely be open to MMF. Of course, the guy would have to be into some guy on guy action -- I'd mainly be there for him afterall. I would be willing to do most things with the the girl, other than actual penetration.
 
dude said:
I don't see why not to give it a try.
From my experience MMF is overall better than MFF unless the women are also into each other and can take some of the "workload". (Small caveat, I'm bi, so your mileage my vary here.)
Both can be very fun, but threesomes in general are rather overrated, or maybe I just don't have the multitasking skills to make the most of it.
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Lol @ small caveat. MMF is essentially running a train to a straight dude. And running a train is unacceptable not to mention completely different.
 
If you're not ready for it you're not ready for it OP. Does sound more like you'd like to but are putting up reasons not too because you're worried it might all go horribly wrong though from your wording/comments.
 
Noviere said:
It's interesting to read all of the opinions on MMF vs MFF, though they aren't surprising.

I'm gay, so my only experience is MMM but I would definitely be open to MMF. Of course, the guy would have to be into some guy on guy action -- I'd mainly be there for him afterall. I would be willing to do most things with the the girl, other than actual penetration.
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Funny. If I was up for a MMF threesome, that would be top of the list, I didn't come to the party for a blowjob - I can get that from a guy.
 
dude said:
I don't see why not to give it a try.
From my experience MMF is overall better than MFF unless the women are also into each other and can take some of the "workload". (Small caveat, I'm bi, so your mileage my vary here.)
Both can be very fun, but threesomes in general are rather overrated, or maybe I just don't have the multitasking skills to make the most of it.
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That's a pretty big caveat :D See this is what I meant with my posts earlier. I don't think that for a fully straight man MMF is going to be better than MFF unless there are other more intricate fetishes at play.
 
Greddleok said:
Pretty much.
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And thats totally OK. I think it's so perfectly normal to have anxieties about your first group sex experience.


IMO it's cool of her to bring it up now and let you know she's into it early on. If you're not ready yet just tell her and think about it for the future. Maybe you guys can talk about it more, maybe if one of you has a video that shows the vibe you want to go for. Or if you don't know who your partner will be yet, the two of you can go out together with a girl and see if the chemistry is right.

Basically the only wrong course of action you can take right now would be to rush into it.
 
Don't do it. It sounds like you would fuck this up with your anxiety and questions. Could be just a test from your girlfriend anyway.
 
d3vnull said:
/thread. It's that simple...
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Izayoi said:
My wife and I have threesomes.

They are a lot of fun. :3

I don't really see what the issue is?
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What a surprise that some people feel different things in different ways.

I don't mean to sound too snarky, but seriously, some people here could use a bit more empathy. Like, you can surely understand that some people need to really know the other person before they can be comfortable with them so intimately, right? You can think of that as a starting point as to why someone might not be comfortable with a threesome. It probably has more to it than just that, and it might even not be about that but about something else. Different people feel differently about things, and sex is one of those things that are very easy for people to feel uncomfortable about.
 
Izayoi said:
My wife and I have threesomes.

They are a lot of fun. :3

I don't really see what the issue is?
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The anxiety for the first time can be stupidly high. I almost turned around and walked back out before my first. Complete "I left my oven on" style cartoon 180 right as i got to the door, almost.

mrmickfran said:
MFF? Do it.

Just be warned that she'll expect a MMF later on.
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Sexual exploration ain't a bad thing but everyone is different.

Some want MMF, some want MFF, and never want the other. Some women want to play with the other woman with only kissing or touching but not go down on each other while letting their man have their way with the other chick, some dudes only will do oral. The important thing is to just talk about it with everyone involved, and have fun.

It ain't this mysterious thing.
 
I only ever had my first threesome last week but this thread is making my young self wanting to explore further with a foursome or possibly more...
 
Greddleok said:
No butt stuff. I don't want any tongues near my anus. Shit comes out there, literally. I also don't want to have to clean my asshole in anticipation of that. Sounds like a lot of work.
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Wait, what?

Hygene and not having a stanky ass is too much work? Washing your ass is too much work now. GAF, never fails to deliver.
 
You would have to be really really solid about your relationship and sex life.

Also, if your gf is not 100% confident about her looks or the standing of the relationship you will get into a world of shit if she feels you are paying more attention to the other girl than her.

I would honestly tell her to pick the girl and ask about some ground rules and to be open to communication if anything feels wrong during the whole thing.
 
mrmickfran said:
MFF? Do it.

Just be warned that she'll expect a MMF later on.
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Nah.

Bi-sexual girl wanting a MFF threesome and then expecting for a MMF threesome from a fully straight heterosexual man later, it's not "fair". She is a bi-sexual. She gets off on both the girl and the man. She isn't doing that as a favour to the guy like a straight woman would. As a bi-sexual she is still getting the whole deal: two people she gets off on. So she is not "taking a bullet" and thus having OP owe her a threesome later on that involves a person OP is not getting off on (another man).
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FyreWulff said:
The anxiety for the first time can be stupidly high. I almost turned around and walked back out before my first. Complete "I left my oven on" style cartoon 180 right as i got to the door, almost.
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The first time I was propositioned for one was completely spontaneous and I panicked and declined. I was only 19-20 at the time and pretty inexperienced and it scared the shit out of me.

Second time I was having a party at my house, some people were staying over to avoid driving drunk... I walk into my room and a couple(both friends of mine) are in my bed naked. As I go to leave, they asked me to join them. I said BRB, took a quick shower to give myself time to think, calmed down, and then joined them.

I can totally relate to the anxiety.
 
Noviere said:
The first time I was propositioned for one was completely spontaneous and I panicked and declined. I was only 19-20 at the time and pretty inexperienced and it scared the shit out of me.

Second time I was having a party at my house, some people were staying over to avoid driving drunk... I walk into my room and a couple(both friends of mine) are in my bed naked. As I go to leave, they asked me to join them. I said BRB, took a quick shower to give myself time to think, calmed down, and then joined them.

I can totally relate to the anxiety.
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first minutes were like

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