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"Simping" |OT| or Where Dating and Depression Meet

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Jackben

Jackben

bitch I'm taking calls.
A simp is a guy that thinks hes fine and is also known as a buster. Always thinking about what he wants, checking girls but his game is kinda weak so he can't approach a honey cause they looking like class and he's looking like trash. Ladies can't get with a deadbeat. If you don't have a car and you're walking; this thread is talkin to you. You live at home with your momma; uh yeah, this thread is talking to you. You have a shorty but you don't show love; best believe this thread is about you. You wanna get her with no money; oh no ladies don't want a simp.
 
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RionaaM

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Opiate said:
Hm, I'm not sure I've ever done this. I'm very affectionate and express my emotions consistently and passionately (e.g. I tell my girlfriends I love them constantly). Does this count?

I have been "picked up" by most girls I've dated, rather than the other way around, and have thus far always been the one to break it off -- in other words, the power dynamic in my relationships has almost always favored me. If I'm reading this correctly, "simping" is less about expression of emotion or seeming "lovey dovey" and more about abdicating all power in a relationship so that the significant other will remain with you.

Is that approximately correct?
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Lucky you! Can you teach me? :p

(to be honest, the only girl I've been with in my life -for a veeeeeeery few months, and not even from my own country- also was the one who started flirting, instead of me. Hope it can happen again someday, with another girl!)

Emily Chu said:
so lets get this down

it's basically sexless dating, care taking, or marriage.
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Fixed.
 
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xXBetter Off DadXx

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DP, but since no one else is posting anything.....

Just wanted to add as a note of encouragement that I've managed to keep out of contact with her for over two weeks now. Granted, she only tried to contact me the one time, but still. I've definitely had multiple times over the past few days where I thought about doing something for her birthday, even just a quick message or text, but I've been able to pull my head out of my ass so to speak and I'm determined to let the day(this Friday) come and go without me contacting her at all.
 
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Professor Beef

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Papa Steve said:
DP, but since no one else is posting anything.....

Just wanted to add as a note of encouragement that I've managed to keep out of contact with her for over two weeks now. Granted, she only tried to contact me the one time, but still. I've definitely had multiple times over the past few days where I thought about doing something for her birthday, even just a quick message or text, but I've been able to pull my head out of my ass so to speak and I'm determined to let the day(this Friday) come and go without me contacting her at all.
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Good shit!
 
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braves01

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But if you like someone isn't it worth still being friends and doing nice for her even if she's with someone else? Who knows, maybe one day she'll notice and have a deeper appreciation for you, and you could be the one she's with...
 
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PhoenixDark

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I've simped once in my entire left. I wrote a girl's science report in high school in anticipation that she would go see LOTR TTT with me; I had seen it already but not with a girl. I got her an A on the report and we went to see it, but she barely talked to me ever again after that.

Today I am more successful with women than I've ever been, mainly because I don't waste my time chasing anyone and I never simp. A lot of women act surprised when a guy doesn't play along, and it works in your favor as long as you aren't an asshole. This is quite effective in places where you're constantly seeing the same people regularly, like school or work or your apartment building.

Most dudes chase after pussy and are willing to simp to get some. Trust me, you'll set yourself apart by avoiding that behavior. Women get hit in every fucking day, it's hard to win a game than everyone is playing.
 
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SeaOfMadness

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braves01 said:
But if you like someone isn't it worth still being friends and doing nice for her even if she's with someone else? Who knows, maybe one day she'll notice and have a deeper appreciation for you, and you could be the one she's with...
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Its a very hard thing to do. You'll end up watching her be with guy after guy while you sit at on the sidelines and watch. If you feel like you have a good friendship, and you want to stay in touch, you'd better be damn sure you are dating other girls at the same time. Act like she's someone you have no emotional interest in (if you can) and you could potentially get away with the friendship thing. But it won't be easy.
 
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thebaroness

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This isn't always a male thing. I've put myself way wayyy wayyyyyy waaaaaaaaaaay out for guys only to have them ignore and flat out lie to me. It's painful.
 
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Entropia

No One Remembers
thebaroness said:
This isn't always a male thing. I've put myself way wayyy wayyyyyy waaaaaaaaaaay out for guys only to have them ignore and flat out lie to me. It's painful.
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When I think about it, when a guy is doing this we call it simping. But if a girl is doing it, we say she's a clinger.
 
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xXBetter Off DadXx

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Continuing my attempt at encouraging others in their efforts to avoid simping, she contacted me twice in the last week, and I have still held off in responding, something that I would have thought near impossible months ago. :)
 
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FreeMufasa

Junior Member
It's always important to remember to catch urself. Even if ur not a simp personally, it's easy to fall into some simpin tendencies for poom.
 
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Riggs

Banned
Nice bump.

Fuck simping I sent a girl home in a cab when we woke up, under protest. I am not driving hung over as fuck, sorry.

My mom said it was bad form : (
 
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Smo21

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Not quite simpin, maybe more thirsting but I've been talking to this girl and throwing out hints and shit. I think she either knows what's up and isn't down and sees me has just a friend or is somehow oblivious(highly unlikely IMO).


I know I should be straight up with her next time I see her but I'm being a bitch ass. So GAF how should I approach this situation?
 
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Mariolee

Member
What's the opposite of this where you accidentally treat a girl like crap when you're trying to be really nice to her?

That's what I do.

I think Steve Urkel is my spirit animal.
 
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