Most Muslims in the Western world get by and carry on with their lives, working, eating and living next to non-believers. Some of them face unwarranted difficulties due to their race and beliefs, but in the end most of them get along well enough to keep society functioning and making situations such as hate attacks outrageous events.
Unless he lives in some absurdly racist part of the country, the kind where the average person won't give him you hour, he has very little to fear from strangers. It's paranoid. Like me bolting out from a Catholic church because I fear Cristo Rey militants.
Maninthemirror just told you that for 7 years he and his wife had walks where he was called a terrorist. Now imagine that wherever you go in Western society, you have to be aware and conscious of all your actions, because they might get interpreted as being a terrorist. Like Rami Ismal (Vlambeer developer wrote a while ago) about being a Muslim with visible differences:
My single understanding of being discriminated against is my nationality and skin colour. It’s a pervasive thing, that I’m reminded of in my daily life more often than I’d like.
I never quite realised how much impact it had on me that I would always be selected for random security checks at airports, that a lot of antagonists in action movies are Arabs who use explosives to kill innocents and that the awful effects of September 11th are still vividly carved into my memory until I sent out above tweet. I literally felt uncomfortable in an airplane with opening a website that’d show me at what time I was allowed to eat again – an Arabic website showing a countdown in an airplane is obviously distressing, right? Yet, my ability to simply exist was limited severely by circumstances and personal fear of causing “unnecessary” trouble.
Add to the fact that people spit on you for wearing a scarf while you're taking the bus, you are not allowed to wear a hijab in public in France for example, that nightclubs won't allow you to enter because of your skin color, the media always talk about your religion in a negative and hostile manner, and people are voting for parties that hate your guts and want to throw you out of the country.
Don't you think that would make you paranoid?
That's not how their world works, and that is precisely the problem. They will have to come to terms with the fact that your religion doesn't have to define you and that criticism of said religion is not an attack on their person. This is a large part of the dissonance they seem to experience in a secular society.
Yeah, criticism of religion is fine, but saying "I hate your religion" or "I think your religion is a piece of a shit" is quite a different matter.