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Tinder is destroying mens self-esteem (New York Post)
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Cindi Mayweather
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Just because your homegirls are okay with it doesn't mean it's a good thing to do or say.
The situations that you are imagining are much more flirtatious and consensual then the situations that actually occur.
JadedWriter
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The same blanket statement can be said about women as well.
Is that thing safe!? :O
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I think it's safe to say the height thing is more common on one of those sides, but I'd love to learn differently.
Vicetrailia
Member
Well online dating is where deal breakers become easily enforceable. People aren't making initial decisions based on your charms abd charisma.
Lol @ thinking what Cindy is saying is confusing.
She's right.
Before I respond to Harson, let me tell you all that it sucks ass to be liked simply for what features you have and not what you bring outside of that.
Call me soft or w/e but I've been with women who just wanted a black man, or a black man who is tall, or a black man who is educated. And that's it. I mean I appreciate the thought but I like to think I have more things to give than those features.
She's right.
Before I respond to Harson, let me tell you all that it sucks ass to be liked simply for what features you have and not what you bring outside of that.
Call me soft or w/e but I've been with women who just wanted a black man, or a black man who is tall, or a black man who is educated. And that's it. I mean I appreciate the thought but I like to think I have more things to give than those features.
shit as someone who has been outright rejected for not being white, i still think this
Cow Mengde
Banned
I'm short and proud of it. I also don't understand the appeal of online dating. I've been casually browsing the online dating thread here and everything I read says online dating is toxic and useless.
I read an article a while ago about how online dating would destroy someone's confidence. I mainly read about online dating for entertainment. All the horror cringe stories are fun to read.
I read an article a while ago about how online dating would destroy someone's confidence. I mainly read about online dating for entertainment. All the horror cringe stories are fun to read.
There are always risks when doing surgery like these. Infections for example. But the toughest thing about this is the pain. Pain medications slow bone growth so you can't take strong ones. You need to sleep well for healthy bone growth but will be a challenge when you have raw bone nailed to the metal braces. But 3 inches would be a dream to me it may be worth it.
If men are just as picky, then why did I get over a 100 undolicited messages in one day when I made a Grindr profile? On Tindee, I average a few non bot matches per day (apparently that's pretty good). OKC did a study and found that women are much pickier basically, there is no middle ground with women. This is basic evolutionary biology, you only need 1 dude to get hundreds of women prrgnant.
Joyful
Member
lmao
nah 6'3" is the new meta
It's not toxic or useless, at least no more than dating without using them.
I met good folks from online dating. Some girls I've been with are my friends now.
I stopped using Tinder because of the height stuff. Found out that most women post their "minimum height" which is way above mine.
See, I have been made fun of most of my adult life for being 1.68m. I sure don't need to be exposed that way and rather would like to meet people in person. If they like me, despite being a short guy, awesome, if not, their loss.
See, I have been made fun of most of my adult life for being 1.68m. I sure don't need to be exposed that way and rather would like to meet people in person. If they like me, despite being a short guy, awesome, if not, their loss.
JadedWriter
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When every woman you've ever hit on in person has had a boyfriend/husband it kind of helps knowing that the person you're thumb typing to is at least fucking single. There's a fucking 50/50 chance that the bitch is fucking psychotic but at least you know her fucking man ain't going to come after you.
Gotdatmoney
Member
People can't take an L without being salty. That's literally all it is.
User 479360
Banned
It's destroyed mine. Almost every woman on Tinder is beautiful, and I get almost zero matches. If I do, it's almost always bots.
Dammit.
I already tried OKC A-list for a year. That was nice but ultimately it was stalkerish and I can't say it was completely worth it.
JadedWriter
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The bots don't even like me.
lightskintwin
Banned
What? I made an argument how I could see it as compliment. Other posters showed me how it's not. I recognized and could see their viewpoints and then made a joke. A poster than made a huge jump and labeled me a creep and troll. Of course I'm going to defend myself. Some Gaf members seem to have an issue disagreeing with people without outright insulting them.
I never said it was a good thing to say. It's tacky. Just like a bunch of other tacky things people say to each other. For instance, If I'm out with my twin brother, and there's a girl with big breasts; I've looked down at her breasts and jokingly said, "I see we ain't the only twins up in here". It's tacky as hell. I know it. The way I deliver it is said in such a silly way, that most girls laugh, and it immediately breaks the ice in us getting to know each other because most people out in public don't take themselves that seriously.
Ok, this may be the disconnect. I'm assuming somebody saying it is trying to flirt with her.
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lmao
Lmfao.
There was just one part of her text that was confusing/wrong. Other than that it was pretty on point even if harsh. Can't and never really intended to argue with those points. This thread was never about whether it's right or allowed to filter men out for their height. Of course it's allowed and of course it's within everyone's rights. People just vent about it sucking, which it does if you are short enough to be filtered out by many many women, if women is what you're after.
Well of course. When the L in question is "have considerably less opportunities than other people who had more luck with their genes" it can sting. People get over it in time but they won't do so with smiles say "GGWP".
Jebus that sounds painful. Makes me wonder if your legs can make full recovery after something like that. I love exercise and outdoor activities too much to possibly weaken my legs for a little bit of extra height.
Elfforkusu
Member
That's my secret, Captain.
I never had any self-esteem!
I never had any self-esteem!
Cindi Mayweather
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IMO if you're a short guy just own it. It really shouldn't be too much of a problem for you to get pussy.
People are sensitive to this because it's something that they have no power to change about themselves. It's no different (for short people) than coming across a bunch of profiles that say "No black guys" or "White Guys Only". Tall people don't tend to give a shit, because it doesn't affect them.
That said, I'm pretty sure a large number of people on GAF would call a guy shallow for saying "Don't contact me if you have BMI >20" (roughly the same prevalence as being 6'+).
Online, I think women are far more shallow than guys because they can be since there are so many more men on these sites, but I also know a lot of those same women who have been on match.com forever and complain about never meeting anyone worth a shit.
It is what it is, and there's not much you can do about it. At the same time, it's way less of a problem in real life. It just means maybe online dating isn't the best way to meet a chick if you're short (or black, or chubby, or whatever).
TAJ
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
It was made for me, though. One girl I got with was two inches shorter than me but her legs were almost five inches longer than mine.
I'm not short, just a few cm's bellow the magic 1.80...
Yep, and I bike to work every day.
Yep, and I bike to work every day.
lightskintwin
Banned
This. You should only worry about and focus on the things you can change, not the ones you can't.
If you're around people that work in film, music, tv industries, it's fascinating how short the male artists and actors are.
Portugeezer
Member
For sure, men generally have lower standards.
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Are you saying you can change pussy?
Cow Mengde
Banned
What makes you think some of the girls there don't have a man behind them?
Well seems like you can change height now. We got the technology!!!
Subpar Spatula
Banned
Ionno... you went on about how calling a woman's fake boobs is a compliment. That is creepy.
WHAAAAAAAAAAT?! Bruh, women are held to such ridiculous beauty standards. I'm sure a lot of men (including GAF members) wouldn't date a chubby woman. Heck, there's been ridiculous discussions mostly between men about why woman should shave. I bet you that 9/10 men who say they can't get laid don't even give most women a shot because they're not perfect enough 'cause it's super fucking easy to get laid (with and without paying).
Cindi Mayweather
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If it's something you can't change why not own it? People are going to reject you. It's gonna happen. While on Ok Cupid the other month before I met my man, I talked to a guy on there and he said he couldn't do it because a woman who lifts weights and is stronger than him intimidates him. Oh well! The fact it's something you can't change is exactly why it shouldn't bother you. Just own it and find someone who works for you.
JadedWriter
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I know from first hand experience that it's not a guarantee. I was trying to date some Asian woman only to eventually find out on Veterans Day that she had a soldier boy serving over seas.
lightskintwin
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I don't think men have lower standards, they have wider options.
I said I could see how the intent was meant to be compliment, but acknowledged how tacky it was as well as agreed with dissenting viewpoints including yours.
Social interactions can be awkward and sloppy at times and different people have different boundaries, not to mention different exceptions for different people saying the same thing. It's complicated.
It's the first message I get.
"Fake"
"How much did you pay for those"
"How big are they"
"Those look ridiculous"
Yeah? Vaginoplasty and Labiaplasty.
Cindi Mayweather
Member
First I've heard of it. Don't men usually opine how women have lower standards and will go for an average guy as long as he's funny?
Lots of "women will go for a fat guy but a guy won't go for a fat girl" talk even on these very boards.
Metalingus5150
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Joke's on Tinder, I never had any to begin with.
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jajaja. Very true and accurate.
Clockwork5
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Tinder is for superficial people who want to fuck other superficial people.
Let their self esteem be knocked down a peg. It's probably good for them.
Let their self esteem be knocked down a peg. It's probably good for them.
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