He can't be a racist. HE HAS BLACK FRIENDS.
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Tinder is destroying mens self-esteem (New York Post)
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H.Protagonist
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I don't doubt it can be a hurdle for some, but a fair number of dudes seem to latch onto that as if it's the cause of all their dating woes.
But Tinder is the shallowest of connections. It's a picture. You swipe. Often quickly. I'm not sure it can even qualify as the junk food of relationship connections. By its very nature it's sure to attract people who are also going to put in an equal amount of investment, i.e. no effort. It still seems silly to me to expect anything, and if you can't get traction on it, try something else like meet up or Match, etc. Seems like guys are going in expecting easy pickings and when they don't get them, well...
75% sarcastic
25% good natured
5% failed mathematician
Are we not supposed to go with bad jokes?
Here are my alternates for the next few days:
A: Pipe game on fleek
B: I'm your density...I mean your destiny.
Sunster
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FallingEdge
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so are we all gonna bang or what
Roufianos
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Yep. I'm super picky and I honestly wish I wasn't. Unfortunately we can't chose what we're attracted to (something that people in this thread cannot seem to grasp).
Still, I've been on Tinder since October and met up with 8 women so I'm probably doing better than most people who have no clear preference.
There's a difference between "I am attracted to women, not men" and "I am attracted to women, except the black ones"
JadedWriter
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Both of them are Asian, Japanese and Chinese. One's like the fucking cat lady from The Simpsons (Japanese) at this point where I don't think she's being tapped by a fucking thing. She held onto some crush she had for some fucking hot tall guy that probably pays no attention to her and last I heard she was having trouble with her parents cause she's single. The Chinese one dates regularly, can't hold onto anybody cause A) it's by choice and B) she's shallow. Her parents are also pressuring her to get married. At the same time she hates all the fake bullshit of dating, but she also refuses to be slightly more realistic with who and what she dates.
lightskintwin
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It's always hilarious how many people unironically use this template of a justification without realizing how meaningless the statement actually is.
Sounds like they need to widen their options before it's too late.
hydrophilic attack
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I've been on Tinder for less than a month and so far met up with three girls
And I'm 174 cm
Don't change it to "A" unless there's a picture of you smoking a pipe in your first picture, which you shouldn't do because most girls won't care about a smoker, anyway.
"B" is too cheesy and unoriginal.
The current bit is fine. I would throw in a brief sentence that's more serious and states something more clear about you after the opening joke.
Also, again, make sure your profile picture is the best picture you can find of yourself. Avoid selfies. Have at least one picture with other people. Have at least one nonstandard picture.
there ya go
I usually hate this gif, but boy is it ever appropriate here.
ViewtifulJC
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You've never seen an attractive man? Ever? Like you're just so totally hetero and manly you can't even fathom saying a man has attractive qualities?
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Lookin' for casual fun with cool people, order now while supplies last
people glance at these things for like 10 seconds, you're either attractive or you aint. Condense, simplify, set your intentions up front, and dont think about it too hard
hydrophilic attack
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I have met three guys in my life I would have dropped my pants for
They were all tall 
Literally binders full of black women.
UnemployedVillain
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Lol is this a joke? That could easily describe a light skinned black person or a tanned Asian. I know multiple people who fit that description. This is why making sweeping comments on race based appearance is so dumb. It's not true.
Okay, I'll bite. Which specific facial features common to all black women do you find unattractive? Where on the skin color chromatic scale do you define a clear line?
Haha, never seen that chart before. I look to be a 23. Does that mean I'm undatable?
lightskintwin
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LOL Exactly. I could easily recognize physical traits a man may have that will attract other people.
You look skinnier here, than you do in your avatar.
Yeah those aren't real options. I don't know, I just don't think I match the Tinder crowd. Seems more geared to instant meet-ups and hook-ups and I'm not that level of attractive. Not an ugly guy just average. I get asked out and numbers pretty easily on OKC after a conversation so the shift is pretty crazy.
Exactly how I feel entering this thread. What the F is going on in here?!
I can't believe someone actually used the "I'm not racist, my best friend is black" line. This thread is going places.
And I definitely agree that dating apps in general can be a hit to a guy's self esteem simply because it allows you to "hit" on so many girls at once, and get rejected so many times at once. In real life, you can only get rejected so many times in a week. Online? I can be rejected 200 times a week!
I don't think it's limited to guys though. I have some female friends who have been feeling really rejected by striking out on these apps/sites a lot. It's not that they don't get responses - all girls get a million messages/links/swipes/etc. It's that they don't get the swipes and messages from the guys they like.
Roufianos
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I see. Keeping company and spending time with black people is meaningless.
But not finding them attractive on a shallow surface level is a massive deal and enough to qualify me as a racist.
Side note - Oh no, my green eyed and blonde haired sister just walked into the room. She's so pale that her entire back is peeling from a week in Greece.
I better not talk to her as I'm clearly racist against her for not finding people of her complexion attractive.
But not finding them attractive on a shallow surface level is a massive deal and enough to qualify me as a racist.
Side note - Oh no, my green eyed and blonde haired sister just walked into the room. She's so pale that her entire back is peeling from a week in Greece.
I better not talk to her as I'm clearly racist against her for not finding people of her complexion attractive.
We're all too short for one another.
John Kowalski
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JGL is smaller than me and I'd totally bang him.
JadedWriter
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Not to mention the Chinese one at some point was going through some "I want to be a lesbian" phase, which I think she stopped doing, I think...I haven't asked her about that recently, kind of don't care cause it led to her being in some stupid relationships that never even worked. Japanese one just seems romantically dead or something with a bug up her ass whenever dating is mentioned. We don't speak really due to said bug up her ass cause she snapped at me when I asked her if she wanted to hang out.
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I'm 30 to 32 on that skin chart.
Some of those numbers are lies though. I refuse to believe some of those colours are real.
You're not a racist, but you mean to tell me you wouldn't date this beautiful person?
Some of those numbers are lies though. I refuse to believe some of those colours are real.
You're not a racist, but you mean to tell me you wouldn't date this beautiful person?
Skin colour means nothing. People look different. And no, this isn't a mixed person. This is 100% black african.
hydrophilic attack
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ThisGuy
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I genuinely don't understand the preference thing. A beautiful person is a beautiful person.
Maybe I'm just a dog out for all he can get.
Maybe I'm just a dog out for all he can get.
Shiiiiit, I'd become a dad real quick.
Damn. You got some good eyes. I'm about 10-15 lbs lighter now.
Maybe 35 and 36 are possible on newborns who literally just emerged from their mothers' wombs, but on adults, no way lol
Sunster
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Oh no..
lightskintwin
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Post a pic so we can see what all these black women are missing out on. LOL
She looks Eritrean.
JadedWriter
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Go find some pics of either Kapri Styles or Nathalie Emmanuel and tell me black women aren't attractive, I fucking dare you.
Delicious.
I matched up with someone I lowkey recognized from Chaturbate on Tuesday. Conversation went well and she's going to help me with my Relay for Life fundraiser on Saturday Lol. It's going to be awkward as fuck on my end, but I'm all about meeting interesting people.... so we'll see how it goes.
Forerunner
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This thread went from height, to dicks, and now racism. I wonder where it'll go next.
Peterthumpa
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Kill Your Masters
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She's amazing, but this isn't black:
Oh my fucking god
Really bruh, it only took a post to go there?
PeskyToaster
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woah i'm just trying to find some love in this thread guys come on. let's be cool here.
ViewtifulJC
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I hate ya'll, frfr. I hope you all have the worst sex lives
...could of used a nsfw for that first girl dude.
Peterthumpa
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Uh, I don't get it? 80% of her images on Google search have a light skin tone. Jesus.
I like black women and find then attractive, a lot actually. Just saying that I can't see a black women here.
Chill buddy, we're not at war.
Lies about his height too.
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