Alex Anderson
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idahoblue said:As bi guy, there can be a lot of discrimination by gays against bi's, but it can be awesome too. Since I am naturally very straight seeming it's amazing how many guys I can get since they think they are turning a straight guy. :lol
But mainly it's insecure lesbians bitching out bi chicks, and jealous gay dudes calling you an attention whore, or saying you're in denial.
There is a common misconception that bisexuals are incapable of monogamy or faithfulness, which is utter bullshit. Just because someone can be attracted to either sex does not automatically mean the need to be fucking both to be fulfilled. Some do, some are lying sluts, but the same is true of hetero and homosexual people, too. I've known bi men who only dated women but slept with men, and known ones who only dated men but slept with girls. There are many ways to identify as Bi, and to see people that have fought against stereotyping perpetuate it amongst others is very frustrating. I'm not saying anyone in this thread is doing that, by the way.
/rant!
Fake edit: I've not noticed much bi discrimination on gaf, outside of one thread from a few years ago.
Do it.Cosmic Bus said:Alright, I may as well ask about this since it's part of the reason the thread got made in the first place. I do think it might be seen as a non-issue for some people, but hey, I'm new to this.
I've been conversing online with someone for a while now and we're really getting on quite well: we have things in common, a good rapport, physical (or more accurately, visual) attraction that goes both ways, etc. It's definitely an odd sensation to have someone nice express an interest in me since in the past there's only been two fat girls and one gross, creepy gay guy that have hit on me; even more so because he's a younger Asian guy (which I have a thing for) and I'm an approaching-middle-age white dude in not-so-great shape (which, amazingly, he claims to have a thing for). I don't doubt that he is who is says he is -- this isn't some retired postal worker living in a basement masquerading as someone else to toy with me, I'm 100% positive -- and we've been very open with each other about everything (i.e. practically anything problematic I've talked about here in the past, he is aware of and completely accepting and understanding).
So, as things would have it, he's interested in meeting up/hooking up in the near future. It would involve a bit of a drive for me, which I'm perfectly fine with, since I don't exactly live in a bustling metropolis with many promising options nearby, and naturally, my hormones want this really, really badly. Any hesitation simply comes from the idea that I'd be meeting someone I only know from the intarwebs and even though it's become a relatively common thing to do, it'd be a first-time thing for me (in more ways than one) and I think I'm just looking for some validation here, whether or not this is a bad idea, blah blah blah.
Cosmic Bus said:Alright, I may as well ask about this since it's part of the reason the thread got made in the first place. I do think it might be seen as a non-issue for some people, but hey, I'm new to this.
I've been conversing online with someone for a while now and we're really getting on quite well: we have things in common, a good rapport, physical (or more accurately, visual) attraction that goes both ways, etc. It's definitely an odd sensation to have someone nice express an interest in me since in the past there's only been two fat girls and one gross, creepy gay guy that have hit on me; even more so because he's a younger Asian guy (which I have a thing for) and I'm an approaching-middle-age white dude in not-so-great shape (which, amazingly, he claims to have a thing for). I don't doubt that he is who is says he is -- this isn't some retired postal worker living in a basement masquerading as someone else to toy with me, I'm 100% positive -- and we've been very open with each other about everything (i.e. practically anything problematic I've talked about here in the past, he is aware of and completely accepting and understanding).
So, as things would have it, he's interested in meeting up/hooking up in the near future. It would involve a bit of a drive for me, which I'm perfectly fine with, since I don't exactly live in a bustling metropolis with many promising options nearby, and naturally, my hormones want this really, really badly. Any hesitation simply comes from the idea that I'd be meeting someone I only know from the intarwebs and even though it's become a relatively common thing to do, it'd be a first-time thing for me (in more ways than one) and I think I'm just looking for some validation here, whether or not this is a bad idea, blah blah blah.
Cosmic Bus said:Alright, I may as well ask about this since it's part of the reason the thread got made in the first place. I do think it might be seen as a non-issue for some people, but hey, I'm new to this.
I've been conversing online with someone for a while now and we're really getting on quite well: we have things in common, a good rapport, physical (or more accurately, visual) attraction that goes both ways, etc. It's definitely an odd sensation to have someone nice express an interest in me since in the past there's only been two fat girls and one gross, creepy gay guy that have hit on me; even more so because he's a younger Asian guy (which I have a thing for) and I'm an approaching-middle-age white dude in not-so-great shape (which, amazingly, he claims to have a thing for). I don't doubt that he is who is says he is -- this isn't some retired postal worker living in a basement masquerading as someone else to toy with me, I'm 100% positive -- and we've been very open with each other about everything (i.e. practically anything problematic I've talked about here in the past, he is aware of and completely accepting and understanding).
So, as things would have it, he's interested in meeting up/hooking up in the near future. It would involve a bit of a drive for me, which I'm perfectly fine with, since I don't exactly live in a bustling metropolis with many promising options nearby, and naturally, my hormones want this really, really badly. Any hesitation simply comes from the idea that I'd be meeting someone I only know from the intarwebs and even though it's become a relatively common thing to do, it'd be a first-time thing for me (in more ways than one) and I think I'm just looking for some validation here, whether or not this is a bad idea, blah blah blah.
Cosmic Bus said:Alright, I may as well ask about this since it's part of the reason the thread got made in the first place. I do think it might be seen as a non-issue for some people, but hey, I'm new to this.
I've been conversing online with someone for a while now and we're really getting on quite well: we have things in common, a good rapport, physical (or more accurately, visual) attraction that goes both ways, etc. It's definitely an odd sensation to have someone nice express an interest in me since in the past there's only been two fat girls and one gross, creepy gay guy that have hit on me; even more so because he's a younger Asian guy (which I have a thing for) and I'm an approaching-middle-age white dude in not-so-great shape (which, amazingly, he claims to have a thing for). I don't doubt that he is who is says he is -- this isn't some retired postal worker living in a basement masquerading as someone else to toy with me, I'm 100% positive -- and we've been very open with each other about everything (i.e. practically anything problematic I've talked about here in the past, he is aware of and completely accepting and understanding).
So, as things would have it, he's interested in meeting up/hooking up in the near future. It would involve a bit of a drive for me, which I'm perfectly fine with, since I don't exactly live in a bustling metropolis with many promising options nearby, and naturally, my hormones want this really, really badly. Any hesitation simply comes from the idea that I'd be meeting someone I only know from the intarwebs and even though it's become a relatively common thing to do, it'd be a first-time thing for me (in more ways than one) and I think I'm just looking for some validation here, whether or not this is a bad idea, blah blah blah.
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excelforward said:...I could use some fixin'. However, wasn't that guy in the Hot Men thread?
Gaborn said:No, I personally don't, although I do kind of resent "lesbians until graduation" and women that make out with other girls just for sensational purposes/to appeal to guys. True lesbians/true bisexual guys are awesome though.
Go for it. What's the worst that happens? You're out a few dollars and you have an embarrassing story.Cosmic Bus said:blah blah blah.
I quite like all the singles she released after "I Kissed A Girl". :-/Masked Man said:LIKE THAT BITCH KATY PERRY. >=(
Don't even get me started... She's a vapid, talentless hack [...] SO MUCH HATRED.
Team Jones said:Once upon a time I went to Atlanta... and I'm not gay!
Wilsongt said:+1 for daddy types. :lol
Lv99 Slacker said:
krypt0nian said:This this oh god almighty 1000 times this.
Zeke said:so gaygaf seems to like bears, you need to talk to the women folk get them to like bears too.
krypt0nian said:This this oh god almighty 1000 times this.
I saw this on LOGO last month. Very cool and quite touching at times.
Team Jones said:Once upon a time I went to Atlanta... and I'm not gay!
Yet ironically you're both posting in the the All-Purpose Gay Discussion Thread.DrFunk said:Hey, I've lived here for 25 years..and I'm not gay
Jubei: Asian Rush kekekekekeke ^_^excelforward said:...have you visited the Hot Men Thread? It seems to be about 1/3 are for Jocks/Twinks, 1/3 for BearDaddies, and 1/3 for Asians (Or NeoJubei makes up for the rest of us!
)That's a joke, Jubei.
Halycon said:Jubei: Asian Rush kekekekekeke ^_^
Souldriver said:Do it.
You'll regret it if you don't. If it ends up being an embarrassing experience, so be it. You at least have tried. Also: if you guys really get along together, it doesn't have to be too embarrassing or wrong. Lots of laughs and understanding from both sides perhaps. It can also make you guys closers, not necessarily physically. You're obviously going to be extreeeemely nervous.But you have to do this, or you'll remember this thing for the rest of your life as "that one chance you had to find that right person but chickened out on".
i absolutely hate it when people call others fags and i find it no different when gay people call others fags. it's not helping the movement to remove stigmas about homosexuals.K.Jack said:So when is "queer" an insult? And why do my gay friends call people fags because they're "too gay"?
just be safe and have fun! that's all that mattersCosmic Bus said:Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement.
I don't hold any illusions about the longterm possibilities here, given our age difference and the distance between us, so if it does turn into something more, then wonderful, but I'm very much okay with it (hopefully) staying as a friendship; I think right now we're both just looking to have some fun.
Probably the best thing to come out of this so far is that he makes me feel so much better about myself than I'm accustomed to: I started exercising again after about three years, I don't wake up or go to sleep in these gloom-and-doom moods any more, he's always got something nice to say... It's pretty neat.and gives me dirty nicknames![]()
ding ding ding ding dingWilsongt said:+1 for daddy types. :lol
Masked Man said:Naturally, I took issue with "Ur [sic] So Gay" as well for obvious reasons. =/
Go for it, but naturally, just be wary.Cosmic Bus said:Alright, I may as well ask about this since it's part of the reason the thread got made in the first place. I do think it might be seen as a non-issue for some people, but hey, I'm new to this.
I've been conversing online with someone for a while now and we're really getting on quite well: we have things in common, a good rapport, physical (or more accurately, visual) attraction that goes both ways, etc. It's definitely an odd sensation to have someone nice express an interest in me since in the past there's only been two fat girls and one gross, creepy gay guy that have hit on me; even more so because he's a younger Asian guy (which I have a thing for) and I'm an approaching-middle-age white dude in not-so-great shape (which, amazingly, he claims to have a thing for). I don't doubt that he is who is says he is -- this isn't some retired postal worker living in a basement masquerading as someone else to toy with me, I'm 100% positive -- and we've been very open with each other about everything (i.e. practically anything problematic I've talked about here in the past, he is aware of and completely accepting and understanding).
So, as things would have it, he's interested in meeting up/hooking up in the near future. It would involve a bit of a drive for me, which I'm perfectly fine with, since I don't exactly live in a bustling metropolis with many promising options nearby, and naturally, my hormones want this really, really badly. Any hesitation simply comes from the idea that I'd be meeting someone I only know from the intarwebs and even though it's become a relatively common thing to do, it'd be a first-time thing for me (in more ways than one) and I think I'm just looking for some validation here, whether or not this is a bad idea, blah blah blah.
Skittleguy said:Is it raining men yet?
Masked Man said:LIKE THAT BITCH KATY PERRY. >=(
Don't even get me started... She's a vapid, talentless hack who only feigns a passing interest in bisexuality in order to garner attention from the media for her "scandalous" and "provocative" material and to inspire lust among the hypocritical heterosexual male population who think two girls going at it is "so hot," but two men genuinely in love--not necessarily even physically--is "fucking disgusting." SO MUCH HATRED
KibblesBits said:This thread is awesome for realizing some people on gaf aren't as straight as you thought that they were.
TimeKillr said:Alright, so there's this thing I'm always asking gay men whenever I meet some. Not being gay myself, I have my own view of the thing, but I'm always curious as to what gay men think.
What do you guys think of gay pride parades?
I don't have a problem with it, but honestly I don't see the point (aside from a big party). Montreal has a pretty vibrant gay community and it seems to be very open and we're having a big gay pride parade once a year.
A few years ago, a prominent gay personality (the guy does local celebrity gossip and stuff) came out against the parade saying all it was doing was making gays worse in the eye of the public due to the nature of the floats. Pretty much everything is highly sexual in nature in these parades (here anyway). Referring to the fact that typically gay pride parades are about promoting the gay cause and gay acceptance, he made the following points:
1- Gays and lesbians obviously accept themselves (those who are openly gay or lesbian, that is)
2- Heterosexuals who don't have a problem with homosexuality don't give a shit about the parade (which doesn't further the cause)
3- Anti-homosexuals just tend to hate homosexuality even more due to the nature of the parade
So it basically serves no purpose, and actually makes things worse for gay-haters.
I sorta agree with him. I mean, if they switched the purpose of the parade to just the celebration of gay culture and actually were a bit more "serious" (I don't mind parties, but it does offend a lot of people when a ton of half-naked men parade down the streets) then it would be perfectly fine and it might help the cause out a bit.
So, GayGaf, how do you feel about that?
TimeKillr said:So, GayGaf, how do you feel about that?
TimeKillr said:Alright, so there's this thing I'm always asking gay men whenever I meet some. Not being gay myself, I have my own view of the thing, but I'm always curious as to what gay men think.
What do you guys think of gay pride parades?
. . .
1- Gays and lesbians obviously accept themselves (those who are openly gay or lesbian, that is)
2- Heterosexuals who don't have a problem with homosexuality don't give a shit about the parade (which doesn't further the cause)
3- Anti-homosexuals just tend to hate homosexuality even more due to the nature of the parade
So it basically serves no purpose, and actually makes things worse for gay-haters.
I sorta agree with him. I mean, if they switched the purpose of the parade to just the celebration of gay culture and actually were a bit more "serious" (I don't mind parties, but it does offend a lot of people when a ton of half-naked men parade down the streets) then it would be perfectly fine and it might help the cause out a bit.
So, GayGaf, how do you feel about that?
Wilsongt said:Why the hate for effeminate, flamboyant or campy men? Because I've seen them act far more girly than a real girl does. There's no need for that foolishness.
KibblesBits said:Here's a question open to all gay men who wish to answer:
Are you effeminate?
Nope
Do you like to act girly and are a gay guy?
Average I guess. My friends say I walk around like I'm going to kill someone.
How hard has your life been?
Not sure, sucks so far.
Do you feel like you'll never find someone to love because most gay men have some fantasy about a super macho guy?
Somewhat, almost every gay man I know has a gym membership but don't go.
Do you feel like you're hot shit and get laid all the time?
I wish
Do you turn it off and on or is it active all the time?
The what?
Why the hate for effeminate, flamboyant or campy men?
I don't.
Please, tell me more...