Are you effeminate?
Not really, no, but I'm hardly masculine, either.
Do you like to act girly and are a gay guy?
In my mannerisms, no, I basically act like a regular person. I spend an inordinate amount of time playing with my hair and thinking about shoes, though.
How hard has your life been?
It's been frustrating and disappointing, but not because of my sexuality.
Do you feel like you'll never find someone to love because most gay men have some fantasy about a super macho guy?
I don't really agree that "most" gay men want that -- a portion, of course, but I'd wager plenty are just looking for a Regular Guy™ to connect with on a physical and emotional level. Nonetheless, I would be surprised if I ever end up allowing myself to fall in love with someone and be in an actual relationship. Change does not come easy to me.
Do you feel like you're hot shit and get laid all the time?
Good Lord, no. I'm a 30+ year old virgin.
Do you turn it off and on or is it active all the time?
Like everyone else, I'm not really sure what you mean. Being gay? That's
always on. I'm constantly looking and longing, but never acting on it.
Why the hate for effeminate, flamboyant or campy men?
I know some gay men that are like this and I don't hate them, they're actually very nice people, but the behavior itself is quite irritating, and it would be on a girl or a straight guy. I don't take any issue with the fact that it may be (or, some cases, may not be) a part of you, so long as they can grasp that it's loud, catty, grating and obnoxious. I'm not fond of an exaggerated, self-aggrandizing personality on anyone.
As far as likes/dislikes in a general sense, I enjoy some mild femininity in a guy, soft, cute features, and a light, silly way about them, without being full-on
girly. Big, muscled-up beefcakes don't do anything for me because I find them to be harsh and intimidating.