Two different girls that I've been fooling around with have told me in the last two days that we either need to get serious or stop with the fun stuff. These were both girls that previously told me they weren't looking for a relationship and were just in it for the fun of it. Help me OT, how do you keep a fuck buddy from wanting emotion to be a part of what should be a purely physical relationship?
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Why don't girls understand what "friends with benefits" means?
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AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
As soon as they start getting emotions involved, just know one thing: you won. Women always say how they can keep their shit cool and how it's always the guys who get clingy during a friendship that's all about sex. Man, it's such bullshit. I've seen more women go down than men.
My advice: Cut her off. Go find some other ho to tap anytime you want to. =D
My advice: Cut her off. Go find some other ho to tap anytime you want to. =D
your so fucking shallow.. ugh
No, I'm just messing with you. I don't know what to tell you. Girls just can't make up their mind. Give em a relationship and they "just want to free" at some point. Just fuck em on occasion and they "want something more, a commitment". You can never win. Though there are some chicks who stick to their guns about these kinds of things. Usually not though. Oh, and 2 chicks in 2 days, they're both probably just not happy about the other one. Assuming they know anyway. People need to feel some sort of self worth.
No, I'm just messing with you. I don't know what to tell you. Girls just can't make up their mind. Give em a relationship and they "just want to free" at some point. Just fuck em on occasion and they "want something more, a commitment". You can never win. Though there are some chicks who stick to their guns about these kinds of things. Usually not though. Oh, and 2 chicks in 2 days, they're both probably just not happy about the other one. Assuming they know anyway. People need to feel some sort of self worth.
Particle Physicist
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ignore olimario.. he's a douche...
anyway..
ive only had one relationship like this and it ended the same way.. the girl was the one that initially brought up the: 'i dont want to get too serious cause im going abroad next semester thing' but after two weeks she said something like, 'i have to break this off cause i cant stand not having a close relationship, and since im going abroad next semester this cant work out'
so yeah.. i dont do that crap anymore.
anyway..
NLB2 said:
ive only had one relationship like this and it ended the same way.. the girl was the one that initially brought up the: 'i dont want to get too serious cause im going abroad next semester thing' but after two weeks she said something like, 'i have to break this off cause i cant stand not having a close relationship, and since im going abroad next semester this cant work out'
so yeah.. i dont do that crap anymore.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
olimario said:
You have a problem with friends with benefits? What's it to you? What if Marry Ellen Smith only wanted to suck your cock and never get involved with you? Bitch, please. You know you'd drop your pants in a heartbeat and not complain. You get the best part of a relationship without the headaches of one.
Win-win.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
NLB2 said:
Then just keep delaying and post-poning, until the girls finally get fed up and cut it off themselves.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
Serafitia said:
Never did the friends with benefits thing? It rocks. Gets a little boring after a while, but after 3 mindbending relationships in a row...it's the best thing you can do. Now, I'm ready to start actually dating again.
btw NLB2, ever actually try a relationship? Sometimes they are pretty rewarding. Getting the ladies just doesnt do much for me. I like one girl. Im a lot happier that way. If I need to see another chick naked that's what the internet's for. Living on another chick every day is pretty depressing and disgusting.
Particle Physicist
between a quark and a baryon
after several girlfriends and a few 'relationships' i have finally come to realize something very important when dealing with a girl. DONT LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY.. seriously.. they say one thing.. and end up doing (or feeling) the opposite of what was initially discussed... go with what you feel instead..
AlphaSnake said:
It's shallow and I would never stoop so low.
It's sad to me how many guys treat the general female population as meat. Good for a couple fucks then left without any remorse.
There's more to a being with a girl than just the physical aspects.
Oh well... I'm not going to change any minds here.
Particle Physicist
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olimario said:
:lol: mr. i hate fat people that includes my brother says this is shallow?
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
olimario said:
Hahaha, wtf? 90% it's the girl's idea! They want us to treat them like meat. I know you've got an image to put up for Katie-Sue, but dude...open your eyes, please. They start it and they can't handle it.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
Serafitia said:
Trust me, beautiful. No lies here.
Mike Works
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I'm going to fucking ship you all off to Opa Ages if you keep up these joke character personifications.
AlphaSnake is a player, Serafitia is a guru on dating advise, and Olimario is a great judge of character.
Seriously, this all started up with Kinesis comes back. I think this means something.
AlphaSnake is a player, Serafitia is a guru on dating advise, and Olimario is a great judge of character.
Seriously, this all started up with Kinesis comes back. I think this means something.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
For example, Mike was one my hos. I had to travel all the way up to Canada to hit that ass...but, man, that shit was worth it.
:|
*runs*
:|
*runs*
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
Serafitia said:
Hahaha. I'm in no way a generic macho guy (assuming you were talking to me). And let's be clear on one thing; it's not like I slept with 20 different girls during this friends with benefits venture. It's only one girl who've I've known for a while. Nothing big. But I'm moving on.
Alex Anderson
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ZombieSupaStar
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NLB2 said:
most of the time you cant, girls are a constant mind fuck and when you find one that means what she says youll find 8 more that dont mean it if variable x= the cosine of Y but only if the tide is low and her friend Jenny said it was ok.
IMO just find a nice girl and be happy banging the bells outta her while enjoying life, or dont sex at all (oh and marriage is not a pre req).
Sounds to me like your only options are to either straight out tell them that you're not interested in a relationship and leave it up to them, or drop one and get serious with the other.
While I do not have experience with this kind of situation (unfortunately), I'd say that unless you really want a relationship with either of them, just leave them as possible FWBs and move on. You should only get into a relationship if *you* really want to move it to a more serious level, not because you were pressured into it out of threat of losing a fuck-buddy relationship.
While I do not have experience with this kind of situation (unfortunately), I'd say that unless you really want a relationship with either of them, just leave them as possible FWBs and move on. You should only get into a relationship if *you* really want to move it to a more serious level, not because you were pressured into it out of threat of losing a fuck-buddy relationship.
i really don't know whether to be a smartass here, or just end with an ellipsis...demon said:
Ironically, i was talking to the owner of a coffeehouse i frequent about my problems with local women understanding what a casual relationship was (they always wanted to get involved), and his words were "Oh, you just need to get yourself a young gay guy. All the wanna do is fuck."ChrisReid said:
Seriously, if i was attracted to men at all, i'd go that route. But... eww.
Scrow said:
The funny thing is that he proves that there are males with the same mind as women. I really can't understand him. This chick has to be his first. I had a friend who everytime asked his (first ever) girlfriend if he's allowed to go out with his friends. Basically some guys fully adopt their (first) girlfriends' opinions. It's either that or olimario is gay and he doesn't know it. A weird kind of gay cos I've talked with gays and their mind is male.
olimario said:
I'm not saying that, but in every thread someone implies that he wants just sex you attack him like a rabid dog. It's simple some men want relationships, some want just sex and others like me are between those two depending the occasion. Only some bitchy females get so pissed off for things like these.
Phoenix
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NLB2 said:
It just doesn't work that way, and the older you get - the harder its going to be to have that type of relationship.
Do you honestly think someone is going to have a good time with you (and probably only you), have sex with you (especially if the sex is good), etc. and not develop any emotions?
There is nothing anyone can do to help with this situation, this is just a normal thing. The more often you come over to 'tap it' or spend time or go to the movies, etc. The closer you get to that tipping point where it becomes more than a friendship and more of a dead beat relationship with no commitment.
The only "advice" I can give you is to have a large rotation, large enough so that you don't spend a whole lot of time with anyone in the rotation and when someone in the rotation starts doing things like 'buying you stuff' (a clear sign that things are changing) you either settle things with that person or put them on 'vacation' for a while.
ManDudeChild
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olimario said:
You know, I don't find the idea of a "fuck-buddy" to be my cup of tea either, and I also see some of the people in this thread acting kind of shallow. However, the poster did state that it was the girls that started the situation. Now if they didn't, or some other scenario played out, I'd agree with your post ... but as it stands, you just sound like a chode.
That aside, I'm going to have to agree with those echoing the fact that you're in a no-win situation ... one partially brought on by the assumption that it was a FWB situation with no strings attached.
Phoenix said:
I can only picture you on a dugout phone right now telling somebody in the bullpen to start warming up because your ace just didn't have it in her today.
And that's the most hillarious mental image I've had in a week.
Oh, and an edit. Most of the situations with my friends like this are initiated by the girls. Girls in college who just want sex without a relationship tend towards a relationship anyway, with this friends with benefits bullshit. Guys just try and fuck random girls on different nights. There are the exceptions, of course. I obviously can't say whether it is like this for everybody, but there's just some anecdotal evidence.
I can't understand "friends with benefits", hell, if I'm a friend with a girl I generally wouldn't mind having sex with her, but if I'm close enough to consider her my friend I'd also not likely mind being in a relationship with her. Again, exceptions exist, but on a whole it, like most everything else college kids do, makes little sense to me.
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