Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me
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Dude, I've just read your story.
I'm so sorry, man.
I hope you can be with your baby girl soon.
Goddamn :/
Edit: I know I shouldn't have done this but... curiosity kicked in and I've searched my ex's work's FB and Twitter profile.
They are both gone.
Dreams-Visions
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Went as well as that could go. Now she can make her own choices for herself and family.
Right things were done even if they feel bad right now. You didn't fuck up a happy home; he and your ex did that. You just shined a light on it. If they don't like it, they should have shown more respect to their SO's. Especially a married man of 11 years.
Skullface
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Thanks man. Your thread gave me an outlet to talk about it a bit. Not to mention, the ending to your story just made me feel fantastic. I know you still lost your girlfriend in the end, but it's very seldom a story like yours ends with a sense of justice having been served.
Everything is falling into place. To be honest tho I didn't expect shit to escalate this rapidly.
Skullface
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Am I alone in interpreting this to mean that she got fired??
Skullface
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Nice.
Lapidus' Beard
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I'm going to show this thread to my grandchildren someday.
……forgetit
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Not gonna lie, she probably blocked you from social media so you can't see it
NoctisVsStar
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Thread of the year
Skullface
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In all seriousness, that's not a terrible idea. In the good old liberal Commonwealth of Massachusetts, our sex education began in 4th grade. No, no, we didn't learn about penises and vaginas, we learned about the emotional dynamics of relationships. The focus was primarily on how provoking jealousy and being dishonest with your boy/girlfriend was inherently wrong. I hope they still teach these things to kids...
There was a big backlash when we covered this material because it fell under the "sex ed" curriculum, even though we really didn't cover sex. Our class must have been the first to take it, just as we were the first to take MCAS.
I've tried it after login out. I know the URL of both accounts. Yup, she deleted it. It's not the first time she does it.
Killa Sasa
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Think this has eclipsed 38 year old bed and green sound wave thread for me in 2014.
To echo the rest of the sentiments in the thread, you did all the right things Revoh and hope everything works out Skullface.
To echo the rest of the sentiments in the thread, you did all the right things Revoh and hope everything works out Skullface.
ShadowgeistX
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Sad to hear about the relationship OP, but I gotta say that this is probably the best possible way that all of this could have concluded after the cheating. Amazing stuff.
bequietdrive
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Girlfriend and I have been glued to this thread for the last hour and a half.
It's been emotional GAF.
we salute you Revoh
It's been emotional GAF.
we salute you Revoh
Baldwin_the_First
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You've done all that should be expected from someone that is being cheated on, well done OP. It might have been hard and it still might be too, but it was what had to be done.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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dark_prinny
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Holy shit I read the 39 pages in one sitting just now. What a ride that was OP.
Enhorabuena por tu decisión y por tus cojones revoh. Estoy seguro de que has hecho lo correcto.
Thread of the Year without a doubt.
Enhorabuena por tu decisión y por tus cojones revoh. Estoy seguro de que has hecho lo correcto.
Thread of the Year without a doubt.
JinjoUnchained
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Can you make a LTTP for another GAF thread?
I for one believe the OP. We've seen enough liars on here make BS threads and they all have a similar tone: highly defensive, obfuscating key facts, and selectively responding only to posts that allow them to repeat their talking points. Here's a good example.
OP has responded timely to every important question and his responses to his ex, her fling, and the fling's wife were all clear, appropriate, and mature. Hell, even if it's not true, I wouldn't care. This would make for hella good fiction.
I for one believe the OP. We've seen enough liars on here make BS threads and they all have a similar tone: highly defensive, obfuscating key facts, and selectively responding only to posts that allow them to repeat their talking points. Here's a good example.
OP has responded timely to every important question and his responses to his ex, her fling, and the fling's wife were all clear, appropriate, and mature. Hell, even if it's not true, I wouldn't care. This would make for hella good fiction.
Found out about this thread yesterday, and spent a couple of hours between yesterday and today reading it entirely. And it was well worth it! What a rollercoaster it was, what a ride. Bittersweet ending too, filled with loss but also hope for the future. But most important of all, Revoh did all the right things. Hopefully he can find closure now, he deserves it.
Felicitaciones maestro, hiciste lo correcto. No te sientas culpable ni por un minuto, manejaste todo este bardo de la mejor manera posible. Te deseo muchísima suerte, loco!
Felicitaciones maestro, hiciste lo correcto. No te sientas culpable ni por un minuto, manejaste todo este bardo de la mejor manera posible. Te deseo muchísima suerte, loco!
thiscoldblack
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Wow, Revoh. What a ride. You handled it well.
Espero que estés bien después de todo esto. Lo mejor es que no era una relación tan larga. Si llega ser una relación de años, hubiera sido mas difícil. Saludos.
Espero que estés bien después de todo esto. Lo mejor es que no era una relación tan larga. Si llega ser una relación de años, hubiera sido mas difícil. Saludos.
exmachina64
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The thread that just keeps on giving.
Hey revoh, are you salvadoran? too many voz's gave it away lol.
CarpeDeezNutz
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Revoh, I want this whole thread in spanish cos reading the bits that are in spanish Add a different "feel."
It's like how non spanish speaking gaffers were thrown off from another thread about how a guy was talking about his gf and her parents like they were his in laws but the essence was lost in translation.
Amazing thread primo.
It's like how non spanish speaking gaffers were thrown off from another thread about how a guy was talking about his gf and her parents like they were his in laws but the essence was lost in translation.
Amazing thread primo.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Heh heh heh.
I actually thought Oldfield's "Nuclear" was perfect for nearing the end of the tale.
EchoChamber
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You are the hero of GAF
Biff
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OP's ex already was a single mom. Her kid grew up in a broken home with a dad who cheated constantly (according to the OP). Now mom's a cheater too, bawling her eyes out at night because she's single once again. I'm sure this kid has a bright future!
Now another kid is about to go through the separation of their parents thanks to the suggestion that OP drop a nuke on the wife that her husband "emotionally cheats".
So sad that kids are involved in this. I know that GAF loves a good trainwreck thread but if this info was made known in the first post, I really doubt OP would have gotten the encouragement that he did.
Dump her? Absolutely. But "reveal the truth" to the wife? Where the truth is zero sexual contact, but rather personal, intimate conversations between two people who live in different countries? When a kid is involved, "beyond a reasonable doubt" needs to be the standard. In my humble and meaningless opinion, this thread has encouraged truly disgusting, immature actions that have changed a child's life for the worst.
Now another kid is about to go through the separation of their parents thanks to the suggestion that OP drop a nuke on the wife that her husband "emotionally cheats".
So sad that kids are involved in this. I know that GAF loves a good trainwreck thread but if this info was made known in the first post, I really doubt OP would have gotten the encouragement that he did.
Dump her? Absolutely. But "reveal the truth" to the wife? Where the truth is zero sexual contact, but rather personal, intimate conversations between two people who live in different countries? When a kid is involved, "beyond a reasonable doubt" needs to be the standard. In my humble and meaningless opinion, this thread has encouraged truly disgusting, immature actions that have changed a child's life for the worst.
TacticalFox88
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If he didn't get the opportunity to cheat on OPs ex, he would've done so to another.
He did her a favor.
Chairmanchuck
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Regardless whether a child is in the picture or not, if your SO planned to cheat on you, you wouldnt want to know?
I..would rather I was told If I was being cheated on, even if I had a kid with my SO. Don't See why the Wife doesn't deserve to know If the Relationship has issue then this could possibly help to resolve them, or go the other way but she doesn't deserve to be cheated on by her Married Husband unknowingly.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Maybe he's awaiting the top of the page.
SocksAndShoes
Banned
I haven't read the thread yet because I want to read Mandrake's summary.
Sorry, but if you're planning to cheat then odds are you'll be doing it at some point. She deserved to know that she was with a guy who, given the chance, would cheat on her. If any of us were in her position we'd want to know.
NeOak
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You're really missing out.
exmachina64
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Are you married? I really don't understand how you can defend this. As a general rule, people want to know when their spouses are cheating on them, even if it hurts and upends their lives.
The woman's husband had been having an affair and was planning to travel to the OP's country and have sex with his mistress. We know "beyond a reasonable doubt" the husband had been emotionally involved with another woman for approximately four months and had plans to make it a physical relationship.
I just can't wrap my head around this line of yours:
How can you possibly excuse his affair as a close friendship when he hid it from his wife?
Death Metalist
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Hey, it was just nude pics and dirty talk online that the guy and girl used to masturbate each other to hell while they both had relationships. It's alright, right guys?....guys?
It was probably just really devastating. People tend to shoot the messenger when they're not thinking straight.
You did good, man.
MatthewB92
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Holy shit what a great 20 page thread. Funny because the beginning of the year I had a break up but we remanded friends even though I still had feelings. Before we broke up I notice he flirting with a coworker. Someone she is the boss of but I ignored it. Then one night she sent me a text saying we should just be friends. OK. But that night she went to hang out with said coworker and had sex that night with her. Now how do I know? She told me with out thinking it would hurt me.
So we are still friends a couple of months later. About the beginning of the summer and stupid me still wants her even after telling me she fucked him and blew him when they did an over night at work... She keep giving me the whole I love you but idk what I want right now. I should mention she has a kid though she never let me get close to her which is a good thing I guess but should've been a hint to. Anyways where was I? Oh yes one night a different coworker has a little late night cook out and we are drinking. At this time I deleted the coworker that she did the stuff with off Facebook because he wouldn't even admit he did it and was sick of everything. So I told bitch that I deleted said coworker because he won't tell me the truth. She told him I did it because I knew she had a crush on him. So at this get together I texting telling him why I did and I have no hard feelings towards him. So he texted her and she is yelling at me. I'm an emotional wreck at this point and just went to cry. The next day I had a little voice in my head asking myself "age is clearly a liar so what else has she lied about?" I should mention we were going out for about 7 months and she was my first so I never really felt like this before.
So the next day I ask someone who is close to her child's father for his number. I texted him one question. "When did you to break up?". (Other note together between October of last year and April of this year) He says to me May. I think " oh of 2013?" He said no. Of this year....... So from that point we both learn a thing or two but that's not all of it. The next day I had the baby daddy text me saying he gave my number to someone expect a call.. OK so it is another guy..... Like wtf did I get in to? Then I learn this guy was like her second boyfriend and when she was pregnant she told both the baby daddy and the other guy they both were the father.
At this point I just stopped and said I'm done. So up until November I still had feeling for her but now I have none.
I could've got her fired but didn't, could've told everyone she knows but didn't, and I should've known not to trust her after thinking about a few things but I'm young and stupid.
Sorry if this seems all over the place and my grammar sucks but yea... Reading this thread just brought back some of the pain I felt. I know I was stupid but it still hurt then lol.
Oh BTW she is with the guy that was her second boyfriend now. He made a threat to the coworker she slept with months ago about a week ago. Yea fun lol thankfully away from that now.
So we are still friends a couple of months later. About the beginning of the summer and stupid me still wants her even after telling me she fucked him and blew him when they did an over night at work... She keep giving me the whole I love you but idk what I want right now. I should mention she has a kid though she never let me get close to her which is a good thing I guess but should've been a hint to. Anyways where was I? Oh yes one night a different coworker has a little late night cook out and we are drinking. At this time I deleted the coworker that she did the stuff with off Facebook because he wouldn't even admit he did it and was sick of everything. So I told bitch that I deleted said coworker because he won't tell me the truth. She told him I did it because I knew she had a crush on him. So at this get together I texting telling him why I did and I have no hard feelings towards him. So he texted her and she is yelling at me. I'm an emotional wreck at this point and just went to cry. The next day I had a little voice in my head asking myself "age is clearly a liar so what else has she lied about?" I should mention we were going out for about 7 months and she was my first so I never really felt like this before.
So the next day I ask someone who is close to her child's father for his number. I texted him one question. "When did you to break up?". (Other note together between October of last year and April of this year) He says to me May. I think " oh of 2013?" He said no. Of this year....... So from that point we both learn a thing or two but that's not all of it. The next day I had the baby daddy text me saying he gave my number to someone expect a call.. OK so it is another guy..... Like wtf did I get in to? Then I learn this guy was like her second boyfriend and when she was pregnant she told both the baby daddy and the other guy they both were the father.
At this point I just stopped and said I'm done. So up until November I still had feeling for her but now I have none.
I could've got her fired but didn't, could've told everyone she knows but didn't, and I should've known not to trust her after thinking about a few things but I'm young and stupid.
Sorry if this seems all over the place and my grammar sucks but yea... Reading this thread just brought back some of the pain I felt. I know I was stupid but it still hurt then lol.
Oh BTW she is with the guy that was her second boyfriend now. He made a threat to the coworker she slept with months ago about a week ago. Yea fun lol thankfully away from that now.
pulga
Banned
Increible.
Have to say, very mature by the husband. Expected a crazier reaction.
La jugaste bien!
"Cheating is fine if its just emotional/pictures" is all I'm getting out of this. Cheating is cheating, no matter the context. Even if its not being married, you still chose to engage in a relationship with a person, and a relationship typically means consigning your feelings to that one person.
Also, really? You really are suggesting that the OP not tell the wife that her husband is looking outside of his current relationship? The father has a fucking child and still thinks its okay to go about flinging with another woman? No, that is not okay and the OP had every right to contact and alert the wife. God knows shit would have been worse if he had of been allowed to go on doing what he is doing.
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