Milly Osworth
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You seem to enjoy all that bs/drama.
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Ya know..I have come to the conclusion that I'm drawn to drama. It's exciting, really turns me on. Felt kinda dull with new girl.
Part 2 gets CRAZY and...EXCITING!
But I'm at soccer training so I'll updatr later!
That's about the extent of it.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Yeah, I sort of feel bad for him.
Ethics Gradient
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Usually I enjoy a little popcorn and drama but .... reading that was kind of horrible.
PflargBlarg
Member
Well he's the kind of guy that rates girls attractiveness with numbers so I guess I'm not surprised?
I mean whatever, he sounds very young and not looking for anything in particular. I don't really know what benefit he's getting out of this thread besides having a place to write his stuff.
I mean whatever, he sounds very young and not looking for anything in particular. I don't really know what benefit he's getting out of this thread besides having a place to write his stuff.
ZackieChan
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It's at a point where no one here gives a shit anymore. He's just posting to entertain himself and make himself sound cool, but I'm sure I speak for everyone in saying that no one does. It's getting annoying, tbh. Also, the use of ellipses is maddening.
electricshake
Member
I feel bad for the new girl.
ZackieChan
Member
I feel worse for us.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Lul
He has a son, he can't be that young. Didnt he say earlier he was in his 30s or something? He is taking his son to soccer practice after all
Shuggananas
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lol man no offense but you're fucked up
I didn't even understand half of that story
You're probably getting what you deserve
eyeball_kid
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Just be honest with her and don't wait to tell her. Though I'd leave out the "good chance you were going" part and just say that once you met her you were trying not to think about it. She doesn't want to feel like she was led on. So be honest, and leave the choice up to her as to whether she wants to continue seeing you until you leave.
Anyone have thoughts on this? She got a bit upset that I felt it was weird and didn't come, considering what we agreed on.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Hey folks, I went on a third date tonight which went great but I ended up with a bad feeling in the end. We were having a great conversation and I was playing with her hands at the restaurant and after the date we parted with a nice kiss and held hands again. I asked her out for Saturday and said she is busy this weekend and the weekend after as well. She also didn't make a counter offer.
I feel a bit confused and let down. Should I now ask her to contact me when she has time to go out? I feel like asking her out again would make me look needy.
I feel a bit confused and let down. Should I now ask her to contact me when she has time to go out? I feel like asking her out again would make me look needy.
He's not very young, though, he's in his 30s >.>
Yeah, that sounded kinda serious, lol. But she also could just consider her family more like friends, and you meeting her friends wouldn't be nearly as serious. I feel it's one of those 'depends on the girl' questions. But I don't blame you for not going in the least.
Just text something like "well let me know when you're available" and leave the ball in her court, and don't bother texting again until she texts you. Saying something like that doesn't come off as needy, it only does if you continuously do text her to ask her out again. Remember, some people are just bad texters and some don't 'follow the rules', she might not have thought about making a counter-offer for the fourth date, but just a simple text like that lets her know that it's her turn to step up, to put it that way.
stn
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I'm sure drama is fun and the fact that you're getting "revenge" on your ex also makes you feel great. But dude, this is the type of shit that people in high school do. You have a son. Its time to deal with this in a more mature manner. If anything, do it for yourself since you could use a character builder.
I'm sure drama is fun and the fact that you're getting "revenge" on your ex also makes you feel great. But dude, this is the type of shit that people in high school do. You have a son. Its time to deal with this in a more mature manner. If anything, do it for yourself since you could use a character builder.
Yeah definitely, she's super close with her family. They even have a facebook chat between them where they post links to funny stuff or just talk about anything, relationships even. We probably just see "meeting the parents" differently. Though, I did meet her mom and baby brother three days ago when we were picking them up from the ferry. It was very brief though, and we took the tram back while they went by car. In my mind, being invited home to dinner is just way more official.
Cob32
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Keep it coming man it's a good read.
I have a question for you all based off of my thoughts. Laugh at it or not, it's something that I find weird about me.
In my drawing class, there are so many women in it, and the majority of them are extremely beautiful. (I live in California, and in a city where almost all of the men and women are beautiful.) While I find these women attractive, I just can't bring myself to look at them. It's scary.
They're just so damn flawless; it's like living in a alternate reality where everyone has no imperfection in their face, their body.
So, I feel like there is a problem with my self esteem because of the way that I feel about the women here. I feel somewhat ashamed of looking at them in ANY way sexual or even looking at them in general. Whenever I engage in conversation with them, I look them in the eyes and I just look away.
I mean, I'm not amazing looking. I have some weight on me still and I do have a goofy smile, but I feel like I'm more rounded in terms of personality compared to some of the guys out here.
Do any of you feel like this at all, or at least sometimes?
In my drawing class, there are so many women in it, and the majority of them are extremely beautiful. (I live in California, and in a city where almost all of the men and women are beautiful.) While I find these women attractive, I just can't bring myself to look at them. It's scary.
They're just so damn flawless; it's like living in a alternate reality where everyone has no imperfection in their face, their body.
So, I feel like there is a problem with my self esteem because of the way that I feel about the women here. I feel somewhat ashamed of looking at them in ANY way sexual or even looking at them in general. Whenever I engage in conversation with them, I look them in the eyes and I just look away.
I mean, I'm not amazing looking. I have some weight on me still and I do have a goofy smile, but I feel like I'm more rounded in terms of personality compared to some of the guys out here.
Do any of you feel like this at all, or at least sometimes?
Gotdatmoney
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Three things I learned.
1) You will see the hottest women with the most average looking (I'm being nice here) guys. While looks certainly matter, you aren't going to score any girls if you give off the vibe you aren't good enough for them. There is no such thing as leagues, that's some bullshit, either a person is into you or they arent but there is no such thing as someone who is too good for you.
2) Go to the gym or partake in a sport or activity you like. Physical activity will help with your energy, make you feel better and make you look better. But the kicker is you should also enjoy doing it. Life is too short for stuff to feel like a chore.
3) Shit you do in the outside can't hide what's inside. Attractive people, 10/10 studs or bombshells have just as many insecurities and flaws as everyone else. At the end of the day we are all people and we shouldn't assume that any of the stuff on the outside can tell you about anything on the inside. Don't talk to a good looking person like they are above normal conversation. They aren't and tbh they probably will find it tiring haha.
People consumed with drama often find themselves alone, empty and frustrated. If the only way you can get your thrills is threw some dystopian relationship shit, there really is no point in updating. The world can't help someone who only gets through relationships in literally the most unhealthy and bizarre ways beyond saying "yo don't do that shit". What is it you're searching for?
stn
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No. Did you know that the perfect 10's are usually the most insecure? That's because the girls they get compared to are other perfect 10's. Treat them like regular people (because they are, surprise). Don't fascinate so much over your own vision of them. Just go and make conversation, chances are most of the other guys are too intimidated to do so or have nothing else to say but "hey wanna fuk?"
vicissitudes
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What you wrote doesn't say much without proper context. I've seen both where the girl was 1. very interested and 2. not interested at all. By your texts I would say there's a 5% chance this will go anywhere but you can always text something like "how's your schedule during the week?" and if that's a no-go then just move on.
I'm not a fan of putting the ball in the girl's court as a general rule. It never works out. Maybe because the girls I pursue all get a lot of attention from many guys all the time so they never have to make a move. I'd be curious to hear others' experiences.
Definitely happened to me before, although it's pretty rare nowadays. I think if you're around a lot of average-looking people then all of a sudden running into someone really attractive that can be intimidating. As you start to interact with attractive girls more often they will faze you less.
Dylan Sexbang
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Sup Dating GAF. Fresh out of my shit, confusing half relationship with the girl I've been talking to that you all yelled at me for. Finally settled, just friends. Felt like shit, but I'll still be there for her. We are best friends, and that'll be that.
Anyway, fresh off of that, less than 4 hours later of settling that. I met a new hire at work. We hit it off really well, at first I thought she was just talkative. But I kept walking by her and talking with her. We met up again further in the store, I haven't been working at all tonight, I've been flirting like all hell with this girl.
As we were talking, she says, "You're the first guy who's ever met me and didn't want to fuck me right away," and I kinda stammered at that, and blushed like a fool. She noticed my stammering, she was blushing too and said, "What unless you have something to say?" Blabbering again like a jackass, I babbled and just said, "I MEAN... I wouldn't say THAAAAT," and she gave me a 5 second countdown to say it. But there were coworkers near by and I couldn't bring it out to say, it and she laughed at how red I was. Later as she was putting baby lotion on the shelf, a bottle busted and she wiped her lotion hands on my lower back and down the small of my back. To my pants waist line.
Me and her were going back all night, but she went had to clock out early since she's a new hire m. As she was clocking out, I said- "I wanna go home too!" And she said, "Why don't i just take you with me then!"
GAF. This girl thirsty, I'm fresh out of whatever the hell I was in, and I don't wanna mess this up. Not sure when I'll be working with her, but I need to make the right moves.
Anyway, fresh off of that, less than 4 hours later of settling that. I met a new hire at work. We hit it off really well, at first I thought she was just talkative. But I kept walking by her and talking with her. We met up again further in the store, I haven't been working at all tonight, I've been flirting like all hell with this girl.
As we were talking, she says, "You're the first guy who's ever met me and didn't want to fuck me right away," and I kinda stammered at that, and blushed like a fool. She noticed my stammering, she was blushing too and said, "What unless you have something to say?" Blabbering again like a jackass, I babbled and just said, "I MEAN... I wouldn't say THAAAAT," and she gave me a 5 second countdown to say it. But there were coworkers near by and I couldn't bring it out to say, it and she laughed at how red I was. Later as she was putting baby lotion on the shelf, a bottle busted and she wiped her lotion hands on my lower back and down the small of my back. To my pants waist line.
Me and her were going back all night, but she went had to clock out early since she's a new hire m. As she was clocking out, I said- "I wanna go home too!" And she said, "Why don't i just take you with me then!"
GAF. This girl thirsty, I'm fresh out of whatever the hell I was in, and I don't wanna mess this up. Not sure when I'll be working with her, but I need to make the right moves.
This should happen again, just with your dick. Get going bro.
Dude she wants you. Just ask her over for netflix and chill and get going.
Well damn, this is almost unbelievable. I've never been in a situation where someone gets that flirty within hours of meeting them in a professional environment. Be careful with this one, she seems a bit keen.
Dylan Sexbang
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I don't know when she'll be back on, but I'm definitely getting a number next time. And if she's staying for a full shift, Netflix and chill after work. If she gets off early, I'll see what I can get on a lunch break outside. House is only 2 minutes away.
I'm on my way out of this job, and we're overnight. Hardly professional 90% of the time. Right now we're playing music off my Spotify playlist over the PA (Bitxh Don't Kill My Vibe is the current track). I ain't too worried, in one month I'll be in a different state with a different company anyway. and I already told my Team Lead I'm trying to hook up. She was disappointed in me, i said unless you're offering than in taking it! Just gotta find out when she works again next.
Bless. Feels good. Things didn't work out with the last girl, but it gave me a carefree confidence where it just doesn't matter anymore. I ain't looking for love, I have one month in California. No holding back.
That's... bizarre. You'd think a new hire wouldn't act so thirsty during her first week (day?). I wouldn't say *don't* go for it, but I would say to be careful--someone saying the lines of "you're the first guy I've met that doesn't immediately wanna fuck me" then proceeding to do overtly sexual things while at work reeks of someone who loves drama.
If this were a bar or a random encounter, I'd say go full speed ahead, but the difference here is that this all happened at work. Be prepared for possible workplace drama/awkwardness that could happen from any sort of work relationship.
EDIT: Oh, I just saw your new post. Go for it, my man.
Shuggananas
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Sounds like easy pussy, don't overthink it esp if you're moving in a month
Dylan Sexbang
Banned
Ok. So I was talking to my team lead, I guess she isn't going to make the team. even though it's only been three days and they threw her into presentation without any prior retail experience. I told my boss what happened and she gave me the biggest, most "YOU DUMBASS" face I've ever seen and said "why aren't you screwing her right now!?" She wa so disappointed in me freezing and blushing and stammering than just saying LES GO. Just said let me get one more day matching shifts and we good to go, she's going to let me know when she works next. I got Fri-Sun off, so fingers crossed here. Next time it'll be cake, just got shake off the bashfulness.
brickwalker0
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this is absolutely true and was the biggest contributor to my confidence. i don't even look all that different (going from super skinny to not-as skinny) but the way to makes you feel is something that can only be experienced to really understand.
Here I am with another question for you guys, 'cause I seem to be overthinking everything again.
Long story short. Had a GF 2 years ago. Dumped me because "I live too far away and she started studying and had no time for me". Got to know her at a festival 2 years ago.
Saw her there the year after, but she had a new BF. She was ogling me everythime we were in each-others vicinity. Saw her there this year as well. She appeared to be single again. It didn't take long before we started making out again. She initiated. The spark was back. Lot's of dancing, grinding, french kissing, etc. Felt amazing. We go back to the tents, she asks me to fuck her. I declined. She dumped me after all, and I'm too proud to just jump in the sack with her again. I tell her that I'm down to hang with her, and that I'd love to see what would happen. She just wants to bone and tells me she isn't looking for a relationship. I go to my tent. Alone. Wanting to bone her something fierce.
Next day, I meet her again. I ask her if she remembers anything from the night before. She says "not everything". I don't ask. Party starts that night, I only find her close to when that party finishes. We start dancing, etc... I go to my tent with some friends, she's very close by and I just go to sleep.
Day 3, no encounter. I meet this other girl, we chill the entire day. During the final show, I encounter my ex, other girl in tow. She practically jumps at me, touches me very lovingly and spots the other girl behind me. She freezes up and does not know what to say. I just move forward, watch the show and go home after.
Back home, I kinda miss her. My ex, not the other one... And I'm doubting if I should send her a message. Did she just want sex the entire time? I can't comprehend because my judgement is clouded by feelings.
EDIT: Fuck it. Just texted her asking if she was able to get back to regular strength after the fest.
Long story short. Had a GF 2 years ago. Dumped me because "I live too far away and she started studying and had no time for me". Got to know her at a festival 2 years ago.
Saw her there the year after, but she had a new BF. She was ogling me everythime we were in each-others vicinity. Saw her there this year as well. She appeared to be single again. It didn't take long before we started making out again. She initiated. The spark was back. Lot's of dancing, grinding, french kissing, etc. Felt amazing. We go back to the tents, she asks me to fuck her. I declined. She dumped me after all, and I'm too proud to just jump in the sack with her again. I tell her that I'm down to hang with her, and that I'd love to see what would happen. She just wants to bone and tells me she isn't looking for a relationship. I go to my tent. Alone. Wanting to bone her something fierce.
Next day, I meet her again. I ask her if she remembers anything from the night before. She says "not everything". I don't ask. Party starts that night, I only find her close to when that party finishes. We start dancing, etc... I go to my tent with some friends, she's very close by and I just go to sleep.
Day 3, no encounter. I meet this other girl, we chill the entire day. During the final show, I encounter my ex, other girl in tow. She practically jumps at me, touches me very lovingly and spots the other girl behind me. She freezes up and does not know what to say. I just move forward, watch the show and go home after.
Back home, I kinda miss her. My ex, not the other one... And I'm doubting if I should send her a message. Did she just want sex the entire time? I can't comprehend because my judgement is clouded by feelings.
EDIT: Fuck it. Just texted her asking if she was able to get back to regular strength after the fest.
Etrian Oddity
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As she should be dissapoint in you son.
Do you know how frustrating it is for guys like me -- who couldn't get laid if I was the last man on earth, apparently -- to see guys like you literally juggling the pussy and asking wtf to do?
This is you bro:
Gray Matter
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Ok GAF, this girl is driving me crazy (not really but you get the point)
I see her at least once a week (some weeks I don't) after I'm done with my weekly group bike ride, a few of us go for burgers after. Anyway, I did my part in getting her number, texted for a bit, I asked, or more like I sent out an invitation for a date, twice, and both time no response. After the second time I just assume she's not interested, fair enough, I see her after those two attempts, and it isn't awkward or anything when we talk briefly, I have moved on but it's killing me that she just didn't even say no, I know I shouldn't be worrying at all, but can you blame me? It'd give me some closure if I knew the reason.
Just needed to vent a little.
I see her at least once a week (some weeks I don't) after I'm done with my weekly group bike ride, a few of us go for burgers after. Anyway, I did my part in getting her number, texted for a bit, I asked, or more like I sent out an invitation for a date, twice, and both time no response. After the second time I just assume she's not interested, fair enough, I see her after those two attempts, and it isn't awkward or anything when we talk briefly, I have moved on but it's killing me that she just didn't even say no, I know I shouldn't be worrying at all, but can you blame me? It'd give me some closure if I knew the reason.
cue the "dude, for the love of god move on already" post.
Just needed to vent a little.
n64coder
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I guess it was hard for her to say no and she felt it was best to ignore the text. Personally I think it's better to ask in person or on the phone instead of email/text so you'll get an answer right away.
Gray Matter
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How would I even bring that up without sounding needy and depressed?
I'll most likely not say anything since I really enjoy the food there and don't want to make things awkward between us. Even if gets awkward, I won't stop going, food there is just too good.
Gotdatmoney
Member
She sees you in person and probably doesn't know you well enough to know how you would react to a no. Some men are seriously scary, and seeing as you know something about where she might be irl (even if it's only a group thing), she may have been worried about you going crazy stalker or something on her.
Nothing against you, but it's something every woman has to think about when in these situations.
Gray Matter
Member
That's one way to look at it, but let's say that I were the creepy, stalker type (which I am not) wouldn't the lack of response just give more reason for a person (the male) to start seeking an answer and become hostile?
I'm just overthinking this, I know, usual me.
I won't try anymore, even I know there's nothing here.
ZackieChan
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both of you - frozen.gif
n64coder
Member
I was referring to asking someone on a date, not asking someone why they did not respond to your request for a date. As others mentioned, you will likely not know what happened here.
Gray Matter
Member
Yeah yeah, let it go. Fuck me, I'm not good at this shit anyway, I don't even know Why I try when I know it always ends up in failure.
ZackieChan
Member
That's the worst attitude. Anyone will tell you that dating is a numbers game. It is why I always say to be talking to multiple girls. If you focus on one and shit like this happens, you'll get too discouraged. There's so many girls out there, though. Took me a long time and some seriously embarrassing shit to realize it.
You're talking to a guy who went to Japan and pissed all his money away for a girl who couldn't even bother to meet me for a month after I arrived. I know simping. Believe me. You'll be fine.
I'm like a more mature Izaduno
Advocatus Diaboli
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Zackie speaks the truth. Even when things are purportedly going well with someone, that could turn sour almost immediately. At this point, I completely advocate dating around until you're exclusive with someone and committed to at least trying to build something with them. And, keep in mind, I'm a guy whose end goal is actually something monogamous -- it just takes a lot of work to get there!
We aren't mind readers and different guys react differently. Some drop it, others don't. In my personal experience, few take that extra step to become dangerous/hostile if ignored, but if I try to engage they are far more likely to do it. Makes engaging in certain situations just not worth it.
At the end of the day, there's nothing we can do to ensure that people don't act creepy or dangerous.
Sorry to hear about the turn of events Advocatus. Still bummed we're on opposite coasts or I'd buy you a beer.
Holy crap Pau. :O
Gray Matter don't beat yourself up about this situation. It's completely natural to want to figure out a reason, but as others have stated sometimes you don't get to know in dating and it sucks. Nothing against you as a person, you're a good dude you'll bounce back. Those bike rides sound great.
Holy crap Pau. :O
Gray Matter don't beat yourself up about this situation. It's completely natural to want to figure out a reason, but as others have stated sometimes you don't get to know in dating and it sucks. Nothing against you as a person, you're a good dude you'll bounce back. Those bike rides sound great.
vicissitudes
Banned
Just memorize this: no response = rejection. They're exactly the same. The fact that you even care tells me you haven't been ignored that much, which tells you probably haven't asked out that many girls. As you run into this more it'll get easier.
Personally I'd rather get the no response these days. When a girl bothers to explain to me exactly why (which is rare) it's like "why did you bother pouring salt on the wound? You're not interested, it's fine. Move on."
I think the key is how much you invest into her before making a move. If you've known her for weeks or (God forbid) longer, and you've put so much time and energy into her, then I can understand being upset - after all that work, you deserve some answers right?? The problem is if she hasn't invested that much in you, she certainly doesn't feel like she owes you anything.
It's the old saying "success breeds success." The first one is always the hardest, the second one easier, then the third even easier. And the later you start, the harder it is to get that first one.
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