Well I have a bit of an issue with a girl who I want to date, but I know it won't happen. She knows I like her, but unfortunately she doesn't feel the same, but I'm fine with that. I'm a big boy, I can get over it.
Anyway, to the story. She wanted to spend some time with me today because we generally love hanging out and talking with one another. As a whole the day went by great, we enjoyed each others company as usual. Drove all around town laughing and having fun. Somewhere during this I get a text from a mutual friend of ours, one that I've known for a lot longer than her. We decide to pick him up because more people is always fun. We end up talking even more, to the point where the guy mentions a story about how a girl he liked was pretty much taken from him by another guy whom he thought was his friend, it was a shitty situation all around.
After the story she asks us how we would react if one of us liked a certain girl, but the girl liked the other one instead. This obviously put a few alarms off in my head, but I kind of brush it off. We both say it's fine as long as the other is cool with it. A few minutes later after that she mentions to me how she loves how kind and nice I am, but that she likes somebody else. Which in all honesty is nothing new to me. Like I said before. I know she doesn't feel the same way about me as I do about her, I can't force somebody to love me, so whatever. Then we have to get ready to say our separate ways.
Since we're all riding in one car this makes what happens that much worse. We're talking about the former situation, when out of nowhere, she asks my friend that she and him should go out on a date. Stunned, the both of us can only really sit there with our mouths open. I kind of look at her and ask about the person she liked, and she mouths "It's him", meaning my friend in the backseat. She then asks again if they can go on a date. Since this same exact situation happened to him, and since he knows full well that I really like this girl, he can only say "I...I don't think I can do that...". She then says that of course he can and asks for his phone number. Me and him are both still shocked. While she goes on and asks if anybody is going to answer her question about the date. I only let out a "Go ahead man...you should do it." Eventually she gets his number and we get to where we needed to drop him off. Before he gets out, she looks directly at me and asks him for a hug...And obviously feeling terrible about the situation he nervously laughs it off. Then once he gets out, she opens her door, looks at me again, and then goes to hug him, and she gets back in since she's my ride home...
A couple of minutes down the road she asks me if she thinks it would work out and asks me to text him for her, while she watches to make sure I send what she wants. A little further down the road she notices that I'm pretty quiet and not really looking at her. Then all of a sudden it all dawns on her what she just did. She tells me that she's sorry and that it was nothing more than a joke to mess with me and that she was never serious about any of it, even texting him telling him the same, but at that point I was out of it and couldn't really believe what she was saying. We stop outside my house and she apologizes repeatedly, tells me again that it was a joke, and just doesn't really make things any better. She refuses to let me leave her car, she hugs on to me for a solid minute and tells me that I can't leave until I promise her that I won't tell my friend that I think she likes him. At this point I'm honestly kind of shaken to the point that I can't really say complete sentences, but I try to tell her that if she likes him then don't let me and my feelings get in the way, She absolutely refuses and tells me that I shouldn't blame myself and that if she were serious she would've gone after him from the beginning and that she would never want to hurt me since I'm a friend who always supports her. I can't really accept it as a prank, but I tell her that I'll try to promise her, but I can't guarantee anything.
She calls me not 2 minutes later to continue to say the same thing and try to reassure me that nobody will date anybody, and how she would never want to lose me as a friend for something like that. I don't really remember what I told her. I did text my friend about it and he says that he would never date her in a situation like that, and that we both understand it's a joke, but I honestly don't really feel as if she was joking in the beginning, and that she's just doing this to spare my feelings, as late an effort as that is at this point. She does plan on talking with me about it as soon as she can.
I don't really know if this fits in the thread, but I'm seriously kind of out of it by this whole situation and I just feel like sharing the story will help get some perspective from others and help me settle down a bit even if I do know I'll get over it, it still hurts.
Sorry for my long vent/rant/idk post.
