Because nobody's ever been a doormat in dating before, right?
Some people need to be told.
In fact, I'm sort of hoping that guys come in here to learn how much of a doormat they're being, because sometimes you need the cold hard truth.
Best bet: If you think you may be, you are, because a woman will PROBABLY make some degree of interest known at some point. I say probably because, well, there's always outliers.
The first step is admitting you have a problem.This is actually a thread.
Wow.
The other thing to keep in mind is that if the woman in question is into you but mysteriously can't communicate that interest then you shouldn't be in that relationship anyway. Big aspect of the simping problem is a mentality of scarcity of options. You might have a scarcity of successes but there are always a lot of options.
Y'all need to follow the D.E.N.N.I.S. System.
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Getting warmer, try reading the OP.I don't understand this
edit: So this is like being friend zoned?
Great contribution."Simping" has replaced "Swag" as my new least favourite word.
I think the trouble in your mindset here is that there isn't really a time when everything suddenly "clicks" and all your efforts with women become effortless forever after. We all experience ups and downs and really life is just about maximizing your ups and not letting your downs take you out of the game. But I agree, no woman is worth feelings of failure or sadness. You need to overcome those things for yourself and appreciate and believe in your own self-worth before you try convince a stranger.Women are too complicated. After so many years of trying to date girls in vain, I think I'm gonna quit. No woman is worth 10+ years of failing, being sad, reading dating advice, thinking you've found the good mindset, only to find out you were wrong again, so I guess I should just stop altogether.
Great contribution.
First one could just be a good friend (you're not a good friend if you don't want your friends to be happy)
Ya'll gotta stop this shit, GAF. When you see this shit happen, take this guy by the shoulders and shake the hell of him. "STOP! Don't you have any self-respect!? Pick another direction, brother!"
yeah i've simped before. back in college and university.
but it got me some boobies and a nice fumble in bed. it was deal closing time but no condoms. she had a coil but i declined
she didn't like that.
we remained friends still.
so simping can work just remember to pack condoms.
Yeah I guess you can act like a doormat for the minuscule chance to get a pity fuck every now and then or you can act like a man and get the attention and respect you deserve.Funny thing is that it really does work, but for the sake of this thread we should pretend it doesn't.
I disagree. I think behavior like this is very indicative of severe self-esteem issues whether as a symptom or root cause of depression. Somewhere along the line someone got shit on or convinced themselves they aren't worthy and so they deface themselves in order to receive the smallest scraps of attention wherever they can find it.this doesn't seem to really have anything to do with depression. Weird throwing it in the topic title. I mean I'm sure some people who act this way are depressed, but it doesn't seem to be the root of the problem.
Yeah I guess you can act like a doormat for the minuscule chance to get a pity fuck every now and then or you can act like a man and get the attention and respect you deserve.
Great contribution.
I have a small story for OP:
I casually-dated (no title) a girl back in June and ended it in August. Had the sense to cut ties when I realized it wasn't going anywhere when I made a shocking discovery that her ex was still in the picture. I was fuming so I just dropped her completely. The guy is a complete douchebag, stereotypical asshole boyfriend.
Two weeks ago we caught up again and just started hanging out. The first time we dated back in June I actually felt emotionally-connected to this girl, and now presently, I confess that I've only been hanging out with her for my own sexual gratification and nothing more. She's still on and off with her ex, but really I could care less because I'm not seeing anything more than a drinking buddy, trophy girl, and sex-partner with this girl. I flirt with other girls, I'm more aloof and spontaneous, daring, and wild and seems like she's taken keen interest in this 'new' me.
Just this weekend we both went to a strip club and had a blast. A stripper took interest in my friend and invited us both over to her boyfriend's place for drinks and whatnot. Eventually after some laughs and great conversations between the 4 of us, the stripper coaxed my friend into some playful girl on girl action that led to sex with her. Back then I probably wouldn't have allowed her to have sex with a girl due to my previous feelings for her, but presently I wasn't even bothered in the least bit.
I find myself using her as she used me once, deep down probably for revenge, but in the end I think neither of us are expecting to take this further than it already is. Am I a human doormat in denial?
No one is misusing words, just because this particular piece of lexis is new to you does not mean it's a bastardization nor worthy of use. If you'd like I invite you to make a thread about how language changes and evolves and debate about the forming of new words in that thread.I'm sorry, just...can we please stop doing this? Chopping the end off a word and them misusing it? Please? I know language changes and evolves but this is so dumb...
I would say no because it sounds like you at least recognize the situation you are in. If you didn't, that would be a classic symptom of simping (SIMPtom if you will): "denial or inability to recognize reality of situation". So I would say no, but you need to also understand that prolonging such a situation is not going to allow you to move forward.I find myself using her as she used me once, deep down probably for revenge, but in the end I think neither of us are expecting to take this further than it already is. Am I a human doormat in denial?
No one is misusing words, just because this particular piece of lexis is new to you does not mean it's a bastardization nor worthy of use. If you'd like I invite you to make a thread about how language changes and evolves and debate about the forming of new words in that thread.
But that's not what this thread is for.
Simpering. Is that not what "simping" is short form for?
Simpering. Is that not what "simping" is short form for?
No. Do you know what simpering is?
Simpering. Is that not what "simping" is short form for?
can someone repost this on imgur? i can't see minus.com at work. I want to show my coworkers.So, like "being a human doormat"? Or going full-beta?
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Anyone know what dry begging or thirsting is?
Anyone know what dry begging or thirsting is?
I thought it meant showing insincere kindness in hope to gain favor?