I try to think why is that and I can only assume a little of it has to do with our physical stature. We tend to be smaller than our counterparts. When you're bigger and stronger, it's easier to appear intimidating and aggressive.
I completely agree that it's an unfair misunderstanding. A lot of gal pals won't date Asian guys for being "too polite". Heck, my girl sounded to think the same way but thought I was nice but assertive, so she gave me the pass lol.
I do notice that the first generation or two of Asians that lives in the states are usually more humble, but today's generation are becoming more assertive.
Did she live in humid places before? We do in the Summer because it gets moldy super quick in the drawer.I still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
I still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
My parents usually leave bread out for a week and then put it in the fridge because they're afraid of moldI still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
It actually makes it last longer.I still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
I still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
I still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
My mom's freezer is FILLED with bread. So is that an Asian mom thing afterall?
I dunno what/why we do any of the traditions and my family hasn't really gone into detail about it either. It's unlikely that my generation will continue the traditions, but my family is mostly indifferent. The close relatives' wakes and funerals that I've been to weren't too somber either. I just try to do as much as I can out of respect.
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This is also something I often discuss with my wife, friends, and cousins. Many of us have come to the conclusion that we won't follow most of the traditions when our parents are gone. There are some exceptions and I have no problem with there decision. For now most of us only do it out of respect.
Then comes the issue that if we don't continue these things we will lose our identity. I'm not even sure how to respond to that, but if I have to keep following all those traditions and rules to keep my identity then I guess I'll have to decline. Not that I'm going to let it decide how I identify myself but for those that will use that against me, they can draw there own conclusions because I'm not going to live my life according to how they think I should.
My parents are the opposite and refrigerate like everything
I think it's the American Dream to be able to pick and choose. Handing out red envelopes and the whole Santa thing are the only "traditions" I can think of wanting to continue. Everything else we will make up as we go along.
Yeah, I'd like to try to continue traditional holidays like Lunar New Year, Winter Solstice, Mid-Autumn/Moon Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, etc. Well, just the fun parts of them. haha
I have no idea when any of those are and what you are supposed to do during them, despite the fact that I probably did have them when I was growing up. There's some kind of disgusting egg cake/biscuit you eat for one of them, right?
My mom's freezer is FILLED with bread. So is that an Asian mom thing afterall?
I have no idea when any of those are and what you are supposed to do during them, despite the fact that I probably did have them when I was growing up. There's some kind of disgusting egg cake/biscuit you eat for one of them, right?
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We rarely eat bread in my family, let alone keeping it in the freezer haha.My mom's freezer is FILLED with bread. So is that an Asian mom thing afterall?
1. Red envelopesI have no idea when any of those are and what you are supposed to do during them, despite the fact that I probably did have them when I was growing up. There's some kind of disgusting egg cake/biscuit you eat for one of them, right?
I don't know the exact dates or all the uhh activities either, but I suppose I can check the internet. Mainly it's just an excuse to eat stuff we don't normally eat. lol
Are you thinking of mooncake? I don't really like the regular kind, but the white ones with green tea filling are nice. I can't really eat much of it though since it's so heavy.
Hey man, those egg tarts aren't bad
1. Red envelopes
2. Glutinous rice wrapped in banana leaves (Tsone-tse?)
3. Moon cake (that dry, pasty, gross biscuit)
4. Uh...dragon boats?
I thought red envelopes were for any present? We use them for everything.
Egg tarts are goddamn delicious.
My parents only do this to mantou, chinese steamed buns. I was skeptical at first cus it sounds dumb, but damn if it doesn't work. It'l last for weeks and when unthawed it tastes about the same. Random pro-tip: freezing those dry 5 spice tofu doesn't change the taste imo and makes it more porous meaning it sucks up more sauces and juices. yum yumI still don't get why my mother likes to refrigerate bread.
Egg tarts are goddamn delicious.
I thought red envelopes were for any present? We use them for everything. I also thought the glutinous rice thing was just another type of everyday food.
My fiancee and I were talking about a friend of hers when I pointed out that we were using the term FOB (Fresh Off Boat) a lot. It really made me think about whether I was being hateful when I use it.
We use it to describe a specific type of Chinese or Taiwanese person who does only/mainly Chinese or Taiwanese things, eats only/mainly Chinese or Taiwanese food and hangs out with only/mainly Taiwanese and Chinese people. She noted that it was typically due to immigrants who came to America later in life, so they stuck to what they knew. She also made distinctions between the rich/fashionable ones and the poorer ones. Her friend BTW, grew up in America and was therefore not a FOB but was FOBBY due to her current lifestyle.
Although we were speaking negatively about these groups of people, specifically the ones her friend was now spending lots of time with, we determined that the negativity was not due to the definitions we had come up for FOBs. Instead, it was due to cultural attitudes and mannerisms that we saw in people of that group.
This still troubled me, since the attitudes are mostly due to the cultural differences inherent in the our definition we came up with and our own. Plus, there were undoubtedly pressures and obstacles that we don't understand that arose from coming to a country as a teen or adult that could produce attitudes we dislike. And, of course, not all FOBs are the same.
Am I like the ivory-castle "I made it" black guy looking down on black culture? Does that comparison even work when talking about a separate group of people where differences don't stem from economic gaps but cultural norms? Anyone have any thoughts?
Oh, and Happy Early New Year.
Do you guys like your egg tarts crusts that are flaky or non-flaky? I like them non-flaky, personally, though the flaky ones are more traditional.
Also HNY!
I might be wring but I think originally they were only used for new years but my family uses them for money presents as well
for some odd reason i'm craving for egg rolls.
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lol. not how i want to start the new year ;P
;PI understood the reference
Also, people thought your avatar was the real you in RPJ... so you're in Transhuman's mosaic real face megapicture. lol
I grew up using Fob as a derogatory slang. It was targeted towards Fujianese people because they were often the majority that would immigrated over. That wasn't necessarily true and I didn't notice at the time. What I didn't realize was that I wasn't using it to describe other Asians who were also immigrants, just Fujianese people. And like you I noticed that I was really using Fob to describe their mannerisms.
I've stopped using the term since. I don't think you're looking down on other Asians if you were to describe someone fobby. You're really pointing out rude behavior despite cultural differences.
Happy belated new year everyone! Hope y'all hope a good one
Thanks, same to you!
See I missed a discussion about mooncakes D:.
DEAR EVERYONE. IF YOU DO NOT LIKE YOUR MOONCAKES, PLEASE SEND ALL YOUR LOTUS / BLACK SESAME MOONCAKES TO ME.
Also duck yolk nomnomnomnomnom.
Happy belated new year everyone! Hope y'all hope a good one
Even if the mooncakes are tainted with gutter oil?