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Wow that's terrible history right there, bunny :O
Thanks for the tips. Will read further.
Thanks for the tips. Will read further.
I had heard about the lynching and yes it is/was pretty messed up. I didn't know about the immigration policies though.
On another note, what say you AsianGAF, gross or glorious?
Pig ears and seaweed. Only like $6 with drink, rice, and bowl of soup!
It's good but do they have any kind of sauce with them or were they cooked in any? Pig ears don't taste much by themselves, so you would be eating it just for the texture at that point. They are also pretty good pickled, but I like it more sour. I had some pickled pig ears that were barely sour.
Yeah it's kinda depressing. It's not like that anymore, but since I live literally in the city next to Santa Ana... it was definitely shocking.
Actually, I have heard of her and did give her a listen. I think I still trend more towards Dumbfounded and Awkwafina, though (TBH I think I relate to them more).
Split it in half and save it for dinner
Interesting article, thanks.
I actually want to note that I think all colors tend to self-segregate. I don't have any personal experience with this, but it did seem to me like (at least in high school) people stayed with "their" color more. It was a little better in college, but not by much.
I especially like the last paragraph. I think it's true for some people (definitely for me), that I self-segregate because I'm more comfortable with other Asians. It doesn't just extend to academics... it reflects in a lot more aspects of life. How I view things. How I interact with parents, with my family. How my priorities are. The actions I do, the way I think... a lot of times, other Asian Americans "get it." There's no need to explain what I mean.
I recently moved by myself to a new state where the closest person I know is about 1,000 miles away. This isn't new for me since in the past 10 years I've lived in 4 different states and in 3 different time zones. And overall my experience has made me more well rounded compared to my old high school friends who just stay cocooned in California their entire lives. But what makes this most recent move really sting is that I had just returned to SoCal for the past couple years and had gotten so re-adjusted to living in an Asian-majority population and all the benefits that comes with, including food and culture. It is really jarring to jump from that to living in what might as well be a whole new country. I hear stories about foreigners in Japan who do a "Gaijin nod" in recognition on the occasion they see another white guy, and I feel like I'm doing the same thing everytime I come across another Asian person.
It's not that I don't want to make friends with Caucasians, but Caucasians from a city like L.A. are definitely not the same as Caucasians in the Midwest. The city I'm in, although not cosmopolitan, is at least somewhat cultured but it is overwhelmingly white and I distinctly feel that I stand out and get looks wherever I go. I'm already a little homesick, but I might get to the point where I watch Taiwan TV news on Youtube just to hear some Mandarin (I care about things in Asia more compared to your average Asian American; I'm interested in the upcoming Taiwan election, for instance). I'm thinking about joining the university Taiwanese student's association club but they're likely mostly international students and that brings up the whole Asian American vs FOB topic which I don't want to get into. But I definitely would feel like I have more in common with them compared to the average resident around here.
On the bright side, maybe this is a good opportunity to try an AMWF relationship =D
I can't relate that well to this one. I mean, my mom was strict by American standards, but she was no tiger mom and left me alone for the most part. The most I can relate is that I've also doctored some less-than-favorable report cards, but I got caught and punished for those quickly.So what do y'all think about the recent murder in Toronto, the girl with the tiger parents? Did it remind any of y'all about your own lives?
Reading it was so weird for me. My best friend in high school had parents like that, too.
Mine were slightly better. They didn't check my cell phone or my computer (thank god). However, I was also not allowed to go out, my parents picked me up every day from school, my life was closely monitored, and I wasn't "allowed" to have boyfriends. I also doctored my grades and report cards.
I don't think I ever thought about murdering my parents. Even when I was upset at them, I was mostly upset at myself for failing to live up to their standards. There was a period of time in high school when I self-inflicted (still have the scars now, actually). Luckily for me, I ended up going to uni far enough away to live on my own, and even though I almost got kicked out of school at one point and had a ton of issues related to parents and guilt and self, in the end I managed to graduate, work a bit, and now am happy where I am. Of course, I went through a lot of stupid things to do so, and had that whole period of "what the fuck am I doing," but I'm lucky I got out of it without any permanent harm.
The story was so sad, and I feel the worst for the mother. You could tell that the mom was trying to "tone down" the dad [looking back, my mom was also always the one that was convincing my dad not to be so hard on me], but... well, she's the only one that died.
I told my mom this story and my mom just thinks the kid was bad and the parents did nothing wrong. Didn't expect her to think differently, even though I was trying to show her why tiger parenting is not always good, and why being strict and trying to force your kids to go down a certain path is not the best thing for every kid. What can you do, right? haha
I never doctored my report cards (too stupid to do that).
I just threw them away.
Except one time when I got straight As first term, and then 3 Fs second term. I gave my dad the first term report card again.
He was initially happy, then later realized what I did, and boy I was in a shit-ton of trouble.
I remember when I got two B-'s and my parents scheduled a conference in both classes to talk about why I was doing shitty. Then they took away all of my stuff until my grades straightened out.
So what do y'all think about the recent murder in Toronto, the girl with the tiger parents? Did it remind any of y'all about your own lives?
Reading it was so weird for me. My best friend in high school had parents like that, too.
Mine were slightly better. They didn't check my cell phone or my computer (thank god). However, I was also not allowed to go out, my parents picked me up every day from school, my life was closely monitored, and I wasn't "allowed" to have boyfriends. I also doctored my grades and report cards.
I don't think I ever thought about murdering my parents. Even when I was upset at them, I was mostly upset at myself for failing to live up to their standards. There was a period of time in high school when I self-inflicted (still have the scars now, actually). Luckily for me, I ended up going to uni far enough away to live on my own, and even though I almost got kicked out of school at one point and had a ton of issues related to parents and guilt and self, in the end I managed to graduate, work a bit, and now am happy where I am. Of course, I went through a lot of stupid things to do so, and had that whole period of "what the fuck am I doing," but I'm lucky I got out of it without any permanent harm.
The story was so sad, and I feel the worst for the mother. You could tell that the mom was trying to "tone down" the dad [looking back, my mom was also always the one that was convincing my dad not to be so hard on me], but... well, she's the only one that died.
I told my mom this story and my mom just thinks the kid was bad and the parents did nothing wrong. Didn't expect her to think differently, even though I was trying to show her why tiger parenting is not always good, and why being strict and trying to force your kids to go down a certain path is not the best thing for every kid. What can you do, right? haha
In Alhambra, demographic shift reaches the grocery store
But the change she couldn't accept came in June, when the Ralphs on Alhambra's Main Street closed and was replaced by 99 Ranch, an Asian supermarket.
"I know the city's changing," Myers said. "That's just inevitable. But does it have to change our supermarket?"
This spring, Alhambra residents packed City Council meetings at the news that the Ralphs on Main Street was closing, though the city had no role in the renting of the space. Rumors flew of Chinese ownership driving up rental prices to kick Ralphs out, though the property owners are not Chinese and Ralphs decided not to renew an expiring lease.
Since Ralphs Store No. 199 closed in March, Myers has been driving three miles farther to Pavilions in South Pasadena for her groceries. It's a short journey that begins in one era of the city and takes her through another.
Farther north, past Main Street where she used to turn left to go to Ralphs, Myers points disapprovingly at a senior housing complex built by a Chinese developer that towers over the surrounding homes.
"We're being pushed out," she said.
The quote that I bolded is disgusting. Personally, I've always shopped at--and still mostly shop at--Western supermarkets for groceries, but that complaint about "belonging" is such bullshit. Oh, so the newer Alhambra residents shouldn't feel like they belong to appease you?She could buy those things at stores in Alhambra. But it's not about groceries, Myers said. It's about comfort the familiar smell of the Pavilions, the American music on its soundtrack, the way the fish comes wrapped in plastic or displayed behind glass, and the language that the specials are announced in English.
Having the right kind of supermarket in Alhambra isn't about convenience, Myers said. Her complaints about grocery shopping can snowball into grievances about bad driving, rude service at restaurants, cleanliness and eventually, what kind of community Alhambra should be and what it means to be American. Conversations about grocery stores, Myers said, always become conversations about belonging.
...what kind of community Alhambra should be and what it means to be American.
Not to derail the tiger parenting discussion, but since we were just talking about self-segregation and all that, here's something someone I know liked on Facebook this morning (why Facebook shows me posts from a bunch of people I don't even know is still a mystery, but oh well): http://www.latimes.com/local/california/la-me-groceries-race-20150727-htmlstory.html
The quote that I bolded is disgusting. Personally, I've always shopped at--and still mostly shop at--Western supermarkets for groceries, but that complaint about "belonging" is such bullshit. Oh, so the newer Alhambra residents shouldn't feel like they belong to appease you?
Maybe all the Asians should go back to Asia and all the white people should go back the Europe and we give all the Native Americans back their land.
bahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
I mean you wouldn't tell a white person to go back to Europe would you?
i have
Not to derail the tiger parenting discussion, but since we were just talking about self-segregation and all that, here's something someone I know liked on Facebook this morning (why Facebook shows me posts from a bunch of people I don't even know is still a mystery, but oh well): http://www.latimes.com/local/california/la-me-groceries-race-20150727-htmlstory.html
The quote that I bolded is disgusting. Personally, I've always shopped at--and still mostly shop at--Western supermarkets for groceries, but that complaint about "belonging" is such bullshit. Oh, so the newer Alhambra residents shouldn't feel like they belong to appease you?
Alhambra.
I thought that was an Arabian word? At a push Spain, with that famous palace. What's it doing in America?
You just uncovered a Muslim terrorist plot that Obama has been slowly putting into place since (heads over to Google) 1903!
Not to derail the tiger parenting discussion, but since we were just talking about self-segregation and all that, here's something someone I know liked on Facebook this morning (why Facebook shows me posts from a bunch of people I don't even know is still a mystery, but oh well): http://www.latimes.com/local/california/la-me-groceries-race-20150727-htmlstory.html
The quote that I bolded is disgusting. Personally, I've always shopped at--and still mostly shop at--Western supermarkets for groceries, but that complaint about "belonging" is such bullshit. Oh, so the newer Alhambra residents shouldn't feel like they belong to appease you?
So there were these two cute Asian ladies at a bar the other night. Not sure if it made a difference but they looked in their late 30s. I go up to them to chat and they said I must not be korean. I asked why and they said korean guys don't really go up to girls at a bar. I know it's a broad statement lol but any truth to it?
California was colonized by Spaniards, so there's a lot of Spanish heritage here. In SoCal, we still have missions and pueblos and stuff. There's actually a Chinese restaurant in Alhambra called Mission 261 that's a repurposed mission.oh noes...
I am actually kinda interested in how that place got to be named Alhambra
Interesting. That same water company is called Sparkletts here.As someone who grew up in Northern California, every time I see Alhambra mentioned, I think this...instead of city in Socal.
So there were these two cute Asian ladies at a bar the other night. Not sure if it made a difference but they looked in their late 30s. I go up to them to chat and they said I must not be korean. I asked why and they said korean guys don't really go up to girls at a bar. I know it's a broad statement lol but any truth to it?
This is important because my friend who taught English in (South) Korea told me that Korean dudes never speak up at all so he would just get girls left and right just by literally going up and saying hi.Are you in Korea?
Oh my god Asian-GAF
Never get a hernia.
Nah I'm half Cambodian and half Chinese. I rarely get Korean.Are you in Korea?
I forget what the term is but in Korean bars, the table service involves servers bringing girls to the guys' table to drink together. ..
Wow I always heard about Japan being bad regarding the opposite sex but I thought Korea was much better about it. Fly me there! Sober, was your friend Korean-American?This is important because my friend who taught English in (South) Korea told me that Korean dudes never speak up at all so he would just get girls left and right just by literally going up and saying hi.
Wow I always heard about Japan being bad regarding the opposite sex but I thought Korea was much better about it. Fly me there! Sober, was your friend Korean-American?
I forget what the term is but in Korean bars, the table service involves servers bringing girls to the guys' table to drink together. ..
It's called Booking. I learn about that culture through one of my favorite guilty pleasures.
Oh my god Asian-GAF
Never get a hernia.
Well got my student ID. I guess I'm officially a college student.
Asian-Gaf, I've never been a good student before, lend me your Asian powers.