Such is the way with the nature of some relationships. And here I thought you were always one of GAF's perpetually single eligible bachelors/serial daters in NY ala George Clooney before he got married. One learns something new every day. Nevertheless, it should be interesting to see you poke your head into the thread.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Gotdatmoney
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Advocatus Diaboli
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Just don't. Be normal, please.
Also, actually share details here if you're looking for comments.
If you don't like her, move on. Go out with the other girl then. Then go out with three more.
Sorry
Things are weird. I'll refrain
Advocatus Diaboli
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Don't refrain. Explain them. We want to help, but drive-bys and anime references don't add to the dialogue. This really is one of the more productive, positive threads here.
Tell us what's going on. We are basically the GAF equivalent of a (woke) barbershop or dive bar.
Update: Yesterday I went on that date with that girl and she later stated she had a good time and wanted me to be with her longer.
Today everything went Good, she actually sent me some cute pictures and her in her bra. Later tonight she stared to ask about more sexual questions. Which even to me was a bit different for less then a week talking. She then sent me sexy pictures and I said I won't show her anything below so I gave her shirtless photos. Everything seemed to be going fine then literally ten minutes ago. I tried messaging her good night. Got no response and noticed she deleted me on all social media.
I don't know what i did wrong. I had an odd feeling on the date but wanted to try another date. Life sucks sometimes. This was my first date in a year :/
Today everything went Good, she actually sent me some cute pictures and her in her bra. Later tonight she stared to ask about more sexual questions. Which even to me was a bit different for less then a week talking. She then sent me sexy pictures and I said I won't show her anything below so I gave her shirtless photos. Everything seemed to be going fine then literally ten minutes ago. I tried messaging her good night. Got no response and noticed she deleted me on all social media.
I don't know what i did wrong. I had an odd feeling on the date but wanted to try another date. Life sucks sometimes. This was my first date in a year :/
Messofanego
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The hell is a yandere?
She sounds bananas. I think she just wanted to hook up.
Great movie.
She sounds bananas. I think she just wanted to hook up.
Megalosaro
Banned
I imagine it sort of like the back alley behind a gay bar.
I'm currently in Japan with my roommate, who hates me. He has to rely on me since I speak the language.
He's spent the whole time on dating app caled skout and he's getting so many hits. I'm hoping he finds someone so I can ditch his ass.
dreamcastmaster
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artsi
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Dude do you ever get a break from this guy? He's following you all the way to Japan too? lol
Messofanego
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The fuck is going on here? You're in Japan with that asshole roommate? Marry this dude, you can't seem to get him out of your life.
always crazy bacon
Banned
You took your crazy roommate to Japan?
Megalosaro
Banned
We booked before our falling out.
I see, that's rough.
Megalosaro
Banned
Hell yeah it is. I'd much rather have taken my girlfriend
Spaced Harrier
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Subpar Scrub
Banned
There's a documentary called Yandere Simulator which may help you understand uguu~
Megalosaro
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Lol this should be fun. He's asking me to go with him to Roppongi in order to pick him up a girl for him. I've never picked up a girl in America. Stumbling throigh this shit in very bad japanes should be fun.
always crazy bacon
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No, just no. It's going to be some embarrassing racist Asian fettish thing you should not be supporting in any way. Remember this guy is a massive asshole by your own account. Why are you enabling him? Do you think tonight would be a fun story that would make your girlfriend proud of you?
Megalosaro
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I'll be honest with you. He's paying me money. A lot of money for this.
I told him I can't guarentee anything. But 10000 yen + drinks isn't anything to sneeze at for something I'm planning on halfassing...it's hard to say no.
I told him I can't guarentee anything. But 10000 yen + drinks isn't anything to sneeze at for something I'm planning on halfassing...it's hard to say no.
always crazy bacon
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Now, think about it from the perspective of the women your going to expose him too..
Tell him to find a prostitute and be done with it, because she might as well get the money rather than you.
Spoiled Milk
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It'll make for a great gaf story
Raptomex
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Based on what I'm reading here, you're supposed to pick up a girl for him because he can't do it himself and he's paying you to do this. What's his endgame? To get laid? Yeah, why doesn't he just pay a pro?
Edit: Oh, he doesn't speak Japanese. Even still, this guy is crazy.
And Kifflom to the Epsilon posters above. But I'm not walking five miles in the desert wearing those robes. Last time I did that, I was attacked by wolves and had to restart.
The fucking worst things on the face of the planet
That's the anime trope of I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I'LL KILL ANYONE THAT GETS CLOSE TO YOU
I hate hate HATE that trope, because most of the times its used the yandere's target is like "oh you really do love me!" instead of like... going to the fucking cops or something REASONABLE
I HATE THIS TROPE
always crazy bacon
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The hand wringing, justification guilt cheque is in the post. Stay tuned Dating GAF because this ones going to be epic.
I'm so sad I can't take my my girlfriend to Japan.
My "friend" cancelled. Was the "friend" the crazy abusive flat mate after all?
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=1407789
Or is it a different "former friend"?
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=1408015
Who knows? But somehow his flat mate is now on the trip with him and using Mega to help him score with Japanese women becuse he can't speak Japanese himself.
But Mega claims he's only doing it for fun and yet then claims he's doing it for the cash, but don't worry he's going to make a sub par effort.
It does not take a genius to work out that this flat mate is going to take Mega out EVERY night on this trip so the flat mate can get laid as often as possible. How much alcohol will it take for him to cheat on his girlfriend?
Stay tuned...
Subpar Scrub
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Lol same.
It is pretty awful. I do recall reading a story where I thought it was okay because the protagonist knew she was dangerous and had resolved to kill her because he knew she was going to try to murder him.
Valkerionseven
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Don't you think the most likely scenario is that she will fall for you not him... -shrug- this sounds like a silly idea either way lol.
ANYWAY
On my second day here in Hokkaido, tried to do some shopping and decided to stop for famous soup curry instead of continuing shopping. Woo boy was that a great idea! The wait for the shop was over 40 minutes, someone from a rival one came and was telling people to go to theirs haha, lady comes to me and starts speaking, to my surprise the lady in front turns around and has no idea what she's saying so I help her. And wow she's a pretty Lady from Busan... We go to the restaurant and get sat together and I help her order and what not, we end up sitting there for an hour and a half just talking hitting it off pretty well.
Leave together and end up walking and talking more, getting kinda lost and checking out the various tourist places together. It was super fun and completely out of nowhere. Got her info and what not and trying to convince her to do the bungee jump with me tomorrow haha.
Completely out of nowhere and super messed up my planned day but it was a great 6 hours. Sucks nothing will come of this but she's pretty, fun, and chill to just wander a city with a stranger lol. Which sounds bad written haha. But not just different cities, but different countries, though she does seem interested in the city I live in for her next Japan trip since its easy to get to for her. Won't be anything for now if ever but man..... I'm smitten for the next few days.
Also she kept mentioning church and her favorite music being church tunes >.>
Either she just wanted a hookup or she committed to another dude she was sending selfies to, or both. It happens.
Megalosaro
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Lol jokes on him. Roppongi is dead as fuck lol. It's Monday night
Prime crotch
Banned
Anyone managed to stay friends with a couple post-breakup? It's been getting a bit awkward now since one of the parties moved on way quicker than the other.
LordKasual
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please delete that vocabulary from your mind when dealing with actual humans. It will do you no favors. Literally none.
My analysis?
She wanted to smash, and kept trying to initiate with you. You weren't playing along the way she wanted. So she lost interest and cut off contact with you for good measure / social safety.
Missed your window bro, sorry. She was likely just looking for a good one night stand / FWB situation, and you gave the signal that you weren't really cut for it.
always crazy bacon
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Just pick a side, it's not worth the effort to hedge bet.
entremet
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lol. looking to settle down, my man. but no rush honestly. and i've made tons of mistakes and fuck ups in the dating world, so hopefully some can learn from mine lol.
Half a day at most.
Edit: Got that one wrong.
Most of my exes friend's are still my friends, but it really did sour some of our relationships. Pick a side, I doubt the other party will hold it against you, and if they do, they are pretty petty.
It sometimes works if you don't pick and just keep talking with both of them (it's not your business after all). I usually do just that if I consider them to be close enough, but it can get a bit hectic.
entremet
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Wrong question. Are dates being setup at least? Numbers are a bad metric.
that seems awfully short . i thought i would give it at minimum a week .
for that to happen she has to call me back first
Raptomex
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I think MogCakes is right. Girl agreed to go out with me, I followed up with a specific date yesterday, have yet to hear back from her and she was pretty consistent at responding for 2 - 3 days. I just assume she lost interest. If I hear back from her at all this week, I'd be shocked.that seems awfully short . i thought i would give it at minimum a week .
for that to happen she has to call me back first
that seems awfully short . i thought i would give it at minimum a week .
for that to happen she has to call me back first
Call? Most people text.
Oops yeah, I meant text.
entremet
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that seems awfully short . i thought i would give it at minimum a week .
for that to happen she has to call me back first
Oh so did you text to to say hi or did you set up a date?
Regardless, if they don't text back in a few days, I assume they're not interested. I don't give up on the per se, but I put my attention elsewhere, other dating opportunities. If they reply and we can set something up, great. But I don't waste my time waiting for a reply.
Prime crotch
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In this case they had a lot of common friends between them, and I was doing a lot of back and forth between the two as the relationship deteriorated.
When this happened with my circle of friends, I stayed friends with both. When one of them got pissy about talking to the other, I just decided to only talked to the other lol. Whenever I get a dumbass "it's either me or them/him/her" I always go with the person NOT making a petty ultimatum lol
If you were there for both when they needed you, they will appreciate you regardless - I wouldn't pick a side unless things started to sour fast. I think this goes without saying, but try not to meddle (any more): Support them if they need you to, but this is something they need to settle themselves.
Gaiages' advice is really solid, they probably just need a bit of time to cool off, but by doing this you might make them realize they are beeing needy/selfish.
Elginer
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Soo, been eyeing this thread for a while and decided to jump in. About a month ago joined a dating site, looking for a real relationship. Haven't dated in a year since my long-term relationship ended.
Man, this shit is tricky as fuck. Had a date with this super cute girl last week. It went well, we've been talking and texting and planning something for next week. Every seemed to be going aces but she just ghosted me. I'm confused, as every thing seemed cool as hell.
Feeling bummed. Any tips on this whole online dating thing .
Man, this shit is tricky as fuck. Had a date with this super cute girl last week. It went well, we've been talking and texting and planning something for next week. Every seemed to be going aces but she just ghosted me. I'm confused, as every thing seemed cool as hell.
Feeling bummed. Any tips on this whole online dating thing .
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