Dang I wish I had your luck. It's been 6 months since I broke up with my ex, I think about her regularly since I found out she's dating somebody after 2 months of us breaking up but I'm happy with the choice I made of breaking up with her. Part of me wants to mingle and get back out there but after the holidays are done i'm practically not going to have any time for freedom. Placement (I don't get paid) but have to do 40 hours and then work at my real job on the weekends. Part of me is sad going to be alone for new years but i'm young, (20). My other problem is I don't have my G2 license yet which makes me feel more down about talking to girls since if they live farther away i'd be a huge pain to meet them. Also just wanted to wish everybody on here a happy holidays since GAF has helped me cope with some of the situations I dealt with earlier in the year.
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Dang I wish I had your luck. It's been 6 months since I broke up with my ex, I think about her regularly since I found out she's dating somebody after 2 months of us breaking up but I'm happy with the choice I made of breaking up with her. Part of me wants to mingle and get back out there but after the holidays are done i'm practically not going to have any time for freedom. Placement (I don't get paid) but have to do 40 hours and then work at my real job on the weekends. Part of me is sad going to be alone for new years but i'm young, (20). My other problem is I don't have my G2 license yet which makes me feel more down about talking to girls since if they live farther away i'd be a huge pain to meet them. Also just wanted to wish everybody on here a happy holidays since GAF has helped me cope with some of the situations I dealt with earlier in the year.
I don't need a PM to tell you if she's being like that, just drop her and move on. If she can't deal with being just friends, then there's gonna be way too many problems in y'all's "friendship" going forward. Nip it at the bud.
Sounds like you made a friend...?
Given the situation you seem to be in, that's a good thing.
Alternatively, you can ask her out, see what happens.
Can we not grade people on a 1-10 scale here? The scale doesn't even work for grading video games let alone people, and is EXTREMELY subjective to boot. We're all better than grading each other's looks like that at least, aren't we?
What might be whatever the balls is an "8+" to you could easily be a similarly random "5" to someone else
Lulubop I didn't look at your profile, I'm not calling you ugly, I swear
Bud, you're way ahead of the game, believe me. I never even had a serious girlfriend by the time I was 20. You'll be great.
ginger ninja
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Yea I too was wondering, do we still do profile reviews like we used to do for OKC thread ? I wouldn't mind getting some feedback on my pictures. Everyone says 90% of the apps is just pictures and I tend to agree.
Yeah you can post your profile/pictures or PM people or whatever, if you want. I would recommend going to the Online Dating thread but apparently it's sorta dead...?
Sorry, I didn't realize you couldn't actually see my profile. Crappy link, but I'd say I'm about in that range tbqh. What's your profile description like?
TimeEffect
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Thanks. There's still a part to this story I want to tell, but Id rather PM it. I do feel like I did something wrong, but I also feel like it shouldn't be such a big deal.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Sure thing.
tearsofash
Member
There's a girl that's going to be at this new year's party tonight. I'm going to try to flirt with her a bunch. She's a little older, but hardcore goth (came 2nd place in Seattle's Best Goth competition).
I'm not very good at flirting, cause my mind doesn't really stay on track. Any suggestions?
I'm not very good at flirting, cause my mind doesn't really stay on track. Any suggestions?
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
The world's best pickup line is "Hi."
jadedm17
Member
Poll : If a girl asks if you're single, is that a good indicator of intentions?
A girl at work
brought it up casually this morning and it seems like a hint to me; Still always great to get the collective GAF opinion.
True story. Confidence is your best friend. Find a common ground, ask interesting questions and listen twice as much as you talk.
I spent ten minutes talking to a table about Rick and Morty yesterday because that was the shirt they wore that day.
A girl at work
(I work in a restaurant, it's fine, that doesn't apply.)
True story. Confidence is your best friend. Find a common ground, ask interesting questions and listen twice as much as you talk.
I spent ten minutes talking to a table about Rick and Morty yesterday because that was the shirt they wore that day.
Text, sure. Wish them a happy new year/ Merry Christmas, etc and get on with what you want to ask/talk about.
You can PM it to me if you want, though fair warning, I doubt my answer will change much unless you have a super crazy story to tell.
(That goes for anyone else, y'all can PM me whenever. No dicks tho plz)
Damerman
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don't do it... this situation you are proposing is an internet meme. At the very most just say happy new year, if she wants to talk she'll talk.
ZackieChan
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How is this an internet meme?
Damerman
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It's a running joke on tumblr (yes, tumblr) and twitter.
LucidMomentum
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Fam I'm gonna be honest, I'm lonely AF right now.
2016 was such a shitshow for me dating wise. Broke up with a girl I genuinely loved at the beginning of the year and it's been nothing but meh first dates and getting turned down since.
Here's to 2017. Hope it's better for me dating wise.
2016 was such a shitshow for me dating wise. Broke up with a girl I genuinely loved at the beginning of the year and it's been nothing but meh first dates and getting turned down since.
Here's to 2017. Hope it's better for me dating wise.
shawnbuddy
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My problem is that for the last few years I have not managed to date a woman I personally liked. I mean a woman I would be friends with if there was not sex involved. It's real hard to keep a relationship going just for sex if you don't like the person. I know that the solution is to work harder and work on self-improvement to attract higher-quality and more compatible dates, but it's disheartening.
Guys.... especially short guys....
I somehow managed to get a girl who's about 8 cm or so taller than me.
I have no idea how I managed this my game was on point.
I kinda felt like Jordan in his 63 point game, the stars were aligned!
I'm never ever ever saying "nah she's too tall" ever again!!!
I somehow managed to get a girl who's about 8 cm or so taller than me.
I have no idea how I managed this my game was on point.
I kinda felt like Jordan in his 63 point game, the stars were aligned!
I'm never ever ever saying "nah she's too tall" ever again!!!
No, more so when you say she don't like it.
tearsofash
Member
can you guys please judge my okcupid profile? please be nice i am sensitive https://www.okcupid.com/profile/tasteslikefuture
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Would love to, but I don't understand the language, sorry!
IAmAnAgnostic
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Tried online dating for a few months, so that no one can claim I didn't try every available option. "Shockingly" I had zero success.
Single for life, it isn't so bad once you accept it, I suppose. I will focus on just being healthy and finding a good career and friends.
Single for life, it isn't so bad once you accept it, I suppose. I will focus on just being healthy and finding a good career and friends.
Things will probably happen naturally once you do the the things you mention in the end.
IAmAnAgnostic
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I highly doubt it, and I am not doing the things to get a date, but for myself.
ZackieChan
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Why is it all in Japanese, when you live in Seattle?
Also, scrap every photo and take new ones. They're all way too dark and unappealing.
Thus the key word "naturally" in there. But, that negative attitude is a self-fulfilling prophecy of its own.
I have to agree with Zackie, those pictures are dark and most of them it's hard to make out. Also, I have a couple other questions...
- I'm a little confused with how you identified yourself. So, you're a transwoman that like women, correct? If so (or if not), it might help to be clear about that in your profile somewhere.
- Speaking of, why is it in Japanese? Unless you live in Japan and are just visiting the US... which I don't think you are? I really don't know. Anyway, make the profile in English if you are (it's not cute), and if you really do stay in Japan then you might want to try other dating apps, dunno how popular OKC is there.
ZackieChan
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Some photos should be of you doing things, not just standing somewhere in a room by yourself taking a selfie. Show some variety and interesting things going on.
Blitzrules240
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Guys, she won't stop messaging me. I'm doing the "ignore all" option but she won't let up.
Why won't she take the hint...
I'm not going to get anything in return.
I'm new to some of these mechanics btw.
Trying to better myself for 2017 by investing my time in women who have mutual interest.
Why won't she take the hint...
I'm not going to get anything in return.
I'm new to some of these mechanics btw.
Trying to better myself for 2017 by investing my time in women who have mutual interest.
AlephAlpha
Member
I'd also like some feedback with my okcupid profile, please. I'm registered for a while there already but nothing came from it so far.
Quote for the link
Quote for the link
LucidMomentum
Member
Then you have to tell her if she won't take the hint. It's rough but if you don't want her around you gotta say so.
Blitzrules240
Banned
Damn, that's harsh.
I mean she's a nice girl and I know she means well but I'm not gonna get used/walked on by women anymore.
2016 was a lot of bullshit dating wise. Gotta look out for #1
Me.
I mean she's a nice girl and I know she means well but I'm not gonna get used/walked on by women anymore.
2016 was a lot of bullshit dating wise. Gotta look out for #1
Me.
Damerman
Member
yo you look like a model from a hugo boss cologne commercial. you must get matches without even swiping.
Standard disclaimer: Cultural differences being what they are, I can't guarantee my advice will work for non-American countries. This goes doubly for countries whose official languages don't include English. Actually, why is this in English?
- I love your first pic. You look good in it and there's a subtle nod to general geekery. The second one isn't that bad. The shirt looks too big on you and the name badge, well, name badges just aren't sexy.
- You need more pics, preferably non-posed pics. Think candid pics of you displaying genuine emotion, pics of you hanging out with friends, pics of you having fun doing a hobby. Maybe a close-up face pic for your lead pic?
- Your favorites section is good, with the exception of food. "Everything" is such a cop out answer! You mentioned cooking earlier, mention something you can make that is absolutely delicious. Create a call to action!
- I don't know about starting your "you should message me if" with "you are smart...". In the US, that would result in a few angry messages from girls who think you think you were better than them.
- The typical friday night was a bit blah, until I got to the Salsa dancing part. Lead with that! The key of Online dating is setting yourself apart from everyone, and "movies or friends" is a very typical friday night for everyone.
- I'd also beef up your self-summary a little. It's brief to the point of being brusque. The rest of your profile has personality and heart, which makes it stick out even more.
IAmAnAgnostic
Member
Negative attitude? What negative attitude? I am open to a relationship if I ever get a chance. I don't think I will, so I'm not holding my breath and I'll focus on other things, but I am in theory available to it.
Cheers.
Sounds kinda negative to me...
Think positively and you'll find more success in life.
Miles Quaritch
Member
You can't block her?
Sounds like you enjoy the attention. You say you're doing all the ignore stuff, but not the main one which is to block someone you no longer have any interest in.
IAmAnAgnostic
Member
Resigning yourself to "Single for Life" is not realistically. It's negative thinking that will poison your mind if you keep with it.
This the girl you wrote a couple of weeks ago?
If she keeps calling that's a good sign. I think you are reading too much into the favours she is asking for, the car-ride thing seems more like an excuse to see you. Not the smoothest or most clever one, but if she had just been grinding you for attention she wouldn't have persisted this much.
A girl who's just interested in friendship wouldn't act like this.
She would either grill you for a reason on the phone, avoiding face-to-face interaction as much as she can, or get angry at you for ignoring her. And I mean seriously angry: no pouty, silence treatment bullshit but full blown insults to be the one who gets the last word on who hangs up on who.
Where did you get the idea that she would message other guys while she is with you?
IAmAnAgnostic
Member
Yes it is. I have not come even close to succeeding now after many attempts, when I am supposed to be in the prime of my life, how on earth can I succeed later? It is in fact much better to focus on other things knowing the amount of time and energy I'd waste desperately trying to find dates throughout my life.
And before you answer, most of my issues are things I can not change, like my height, facial structure and hair.
names2hard4you
Member
You may not be able to change certain things about yourself, but you can always work with what you have.
Happy New Year to everyone on here!
Happy New Year to everyone on here!
IAmAnAgnostic
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I have worked with what I have.
If Danny Devito can find someone, no one has an excuse. This is one of those "If you think you can or can't, you're right" moments. If you refuse to budge from a mindset of "forever alone", I won't waste my time debating you.
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