I think I'm a decent conversationalist. Hell, sometimes you can't get me to shut up, I just keep going and going. It's just initiating conversation that's an issue. In class, I can have pretty good conversations with people around me after a week or two of adjusting to new people.
The keep going and going is incredibly annoying. Good conversation skills requires listening time too, and knowing if the person you're talking to is getting really tired and just wants to fall asleep like me on my last first date. Girl, foot diseases ain't that interesting!
Anyway, a while ago (I think it was in my thread, Dating-age 2), I said that if getting a girl was that hard, our species would cease to exist. There are stupid, ugly and crazy ass people, that somehow, managed to attract someone of the opposite sex and have kids with them.
It's the stupid, ugly, and crazy that are procreating. The rest of us are just having sex. I think this is an important distinction because if you looked at the stats in the Western world people are having less kids.
But you're right, don't forget there is a biological imperative. "SEX! Now for women, too!"
However, don't be get caught up in comparing yourself to others. Hell, don't even compare yourself to others in this thread. Just do your thing and do what you think is right for you. Just adhere to the general tips that people give. Ultimately, every situation is different. You have to play it by ear and go with the flow. Just do your best. That's all you can do.
That is the TLDR version of 'why not get jealous'. Well put.
You're kidding right?
The amount of "I met this chick but I'm kinda also seeing these other chicks"/ "Don't worry I've got a back up date" posts I've seen in this thread make me think its quite the opposite, especially when I see this replicated among most of the men I know, but none of the women.
The difference is women IN relationships have backup suitors. And every single woman I know has them and not even one of the men.
I've got two dates this week.
One was originally scheduled for today, but cancelled because she caught the flu. We might be up for Monday if she gets better by then. I initially wasn't that keen on her because she was 18, but after talking to her more, I really like her, plus she's pretty damn attractive.
The other one is with someone my age, doesn't seem as interesting as the first, but might light up in person.
I still feel bound by my dating history and have this sense that neither of these two are going to work out for some inexplicable reason. It's awful and I realize I shouldn't feel that way, but I can't help it. It's just a bit frustrating if anything.
On the plus side, Avengers is coming out this week! HYPE. Also, I told my lesbian friend that if both dates flatline, we're going out to town and picking up cute ladies the old fashioned way.
Is there something wrong with having a sense that things aren't gonna work out? That's pretty much how I feel but I'm enjoying myself, continuing to meet new people, and I'll let things work out if they will. As long as it doesn't negatively affect your actions too much, it's OK to have doubts. It's good to listen to your instincts, I think.
Also now I'm imagining a fantasy scenario where you both find a bisexual woman and...