We would all love to go out. Hell that's how I traditionally met most of the women I dated in my life.
Politics, the prevalence of smart phones/social media and (to a much greater extent) Covid have changed a lot of stuff, though.
I remember being younger and striking up pleasant conversations with women even at bus stops, supermarkets, etc. Some of those became friendships. A couple of those even became relationships.
But when they're on their phones (with airpods on) and double masked, how is one supposed to start a conversation?
. (In the city I live in, a good portion of people are still very paranoid of Covid...)
I get it, i went to the same change when i was younger when smartphones changed the world perception drastically which made interactions a lot more difficult specially when u where in your late 10's, early 20's. However that world is basically in the current time nothing but a bubble u trap yourself in. U can get dates and meet with people perfectly fine outside of it, the only thing u have to do is pay attention towards your surrounding and give compliments + just be nice to people and things eventually just happen.
What i see a lot around me is people like this:
Honestly just ignore them and move on, there is no point communicating with those people they are cut off from the world in there own bubble really. But there are tons of people that don't and just look around.
For example yesterday this where my interactions with people while being this way:
1) visited a company i had a appointment, had to wait for a little bit and the desk lady that was sitting and taking up calls from people i started to talk a bit with. I know she was into gardening and i had to do my garden at some point so i asked her for some tips about it. She explained it all and half a hour was gone real fast. She even gave me her personal number so i could send her whatsapp pictures and she could explain what was weed and what is not or if i had more questions.
Now could i just google it? sure. But i don't because i will be that guy in that picture zoning out doing everything alone and feel miserable while doing so, now its a team effort and i probably will invite her at some point to help me out at some point.
2) I called up my ISP to change my internet plan as i never use much of it anyway. Got a lady on the line that needed to know why i shifted my contract to another company name. We ended up talking for about 2 hours before my battery died ( god dam it, that really hit my soul ) about my problems her problems, as we kinda where sitting equally in the same situation just in different sides of the country with the same problems and where helping eachother out with tips etc. She wanted to give me her personal number as her shift was almost done, and then boom.
3) i visit this supermarket every single day, as i buy my food daily to not overeat, i always greet the people that work there friendly with a smile and wish them a good day for months now every day, this time some chick that works there hit me up and asked me about my diet and how i was doing it so quick. She probably saw what i was eating. i told her lots of cardio + some muscle training and healthy food and u are good to go. So she was done with her shift talked with me outside for like a hour about it and i gave her some tips, then asked her to come to the gym this weekend i will tell her what to do and point her in the right directions and if she wanted i could pick her up as i was moving past her area anyway to the gym whenever i go in the evening, she accepted and there you go.
I communicate with tons of people and whenever i walk through the streets i see lots of faces i start to know that i all greet and say hi with a smile on my face. People have no idea how powerful just that gesture is as most people are so stuck to there mobile they barely interact with other human beings anymore in any sense.
My rule in general is, whenever u go out or i talk with a girl and she has her mobile out for absolute no reason multiple times its the last time i see her. Go date your mobile have fun.
Also getting in touch with people isn't that hard, u have travel agency's here where u can go on 3 days long bike / motorbike / hiking with a group of people at some place, u go at friday, 20 singles and it ends at evening on sunday, u sleep in a little small hotel that has nothing in there, so board games at the evening and talking with eachother at the pub and all of that for the price of 120 euro's with 2 nights u stay there. Really good way to meet people.
Another good option is going to the gym or participate in any event really around your area even for free, remove headphones greet everybody that walks past you or nod at them. Once u show up for a few months every week like 3-4 times and do some improving people will start to talk to you or atleast awknowledge you and whenever u walk on the street u can say hi to people and interact with them as there is already some connection formed. And boom there you go. I always go when there are tons of people so basically evening just after dinner. Hell i even got into contact with a old high school girl that i didn't see for 20 years anymore this way ( she's married tho )
Still the best way to meet people is through friends, or through people u know. Because they know the situation about the other person and can easily fill you in on it, without going through the hassle of first dates. For example my sister has a girlfriend that visited here 6 months ago, i kinda liked her. we all went out and drank something and talked for a few hours in the city. She's from a smaller village has no social media account at all etc. She hates mobiles in general but only uses it for her job and to actually call people even whatsapp is kinda to far for her but she does use it for friends. As i kinda fancied her i asked about her personal life and what she did, and what her area was like as i always wondered about it. She would showcase me pictures and talk about everything what they had. So they ended up having this huge staircase that people climb over there that's all i remember from that conversation. She bailed after that day back to her place, i crashed mentally because of other reasons and financially the few months after that, so 6 months later i wanted to kinda get into contact again with her. So how to do it?
I could be be this guy
Google the location, plan the trip and be alone for the rest of my life.
Or i could be this guy.
Call the girl up, ask her about the conversation we had about the staircase hill, where it exactly is and what its called as i am going to be near her this weekend through work and wanted to try it out to see how far i could possible get as i was remembering our conversation about it. And if it is difficult to reach that place if she could tag along if she doesn't get the hint. She agreed as she had nothing else to do and would walk me towards it which means u can park at her place. And there you go. U could even escalate it further by making it a evening thing, and ask for good hotels in that area as i have to stay overnight.
Also what really works with girls i found out is acting like a idiot when it comes to mobiles and tech and just say u never use it, no clue how it works and have no apps on it. It for some reason attracts woman to interact with you or move a step further in the conversation because they now suddenly want to "educate you and help you out if there life depends on it lamo"
U can always play it hard mode and just be this guy, sit on dating apps waiting for that one prostitute to select you for a good night after she ride on average a 100 different dicks a year. And then be shocked when she bails on you because her personality is absolute dog shit with zero emotional connections. Yea dude u just one of her endless side guys to entertain her in the ways she wants and moves on to the next clown after that.
What does he do after that? google, how to be better at tinder lamo.
Look, i got absorbed into politics/news/social media/TV in my 20's. Whatever i did in my free time or in between work / school was engulfed with this shit. It will rile me up. I had all kinds of negative feelings at some point to people and after talking with my sister which basically hated a entire race of people because of social media news feeds that she never even interacted with before, i realized the faq am i doing. Cut it all out besides forums and i can tell you this, bubble of garbage is gone, bubble of real life before smartphones where a thing is back in full swing.