GHG
Member
That's not far off!
I've seen this before.
Rip open the pillow and make sure she didn't stash it full of illegal substances.
It's a trap.
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Ex Girlfriend Situation
- Thread starter Pete the Ferret
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I've seen this before.
Rip open the pillow and make sure she didn't stash it full of illegal substances.
It's a trap.
Putonahappyface
Gold Member
That's not far off!
nush
Member
Her being a Klingon is another red flag.
RJMacready73
Simps for Amouranth
Mate at mid forties you should be able to read the room and see the writing on the wall, doesn't take a genius to see you being played
Pete the Ferret
Member
Why is that? If someone appears to be that in to you that's a good thing, right?
I would always arrive at hers, dinner made, drink ready, clothes I had there ironed etc.
To be clear, I always looked after her too, it wasn't all one way
Pete the Ferret
Member
You're quite possibly right. I was just totally blindsided as she was not like this at all before then
SidViscous
Member
Is the baby daddy back in the picture perhaps?
RJMacready73
Simps for Amouranth
Mate it happens, don't bate yourself up about it but don't get dragged along like some teenager, we're all allowed to make the occasional dicks out of ourselves lol
Excessive clinginess pushes you into codependence with her, which may be what she wants but isn't good for you.Why is that? If someone appears to be that in to you that's a good thing, right?
I would always arrive at hers, dinner made, drink ready, clothes I had there ironed etc.
To be clear, I always looked after her too, it wasn't all one way
I can’t speak for nush, or for anyone else, but people who tend to cling are the worst. You no longer just have to look after yourself through life, but you’ve now got to deal with them too. Texts every few seconds, calls if you don’t respond, a constant need for hand holding/hugs/kisses so she can stake her claim — nah, just not worth it.
Pete the Ferret
Member
No I'm 100% sure that he's not. He's met someone he's really in love with
nush
Member
Why is that? If someone appears to be that in to you that's a good thing, right?
I would always arrive at hers, dinner made, drink ready, clothes I had there ironed etc.
To be clear, I always looked after her too, it wasn't all one way
It's clingy, possessive and possibly insecurity. That's some slang I've not had to drop for years becuse most women grow out of that phase.
I don’t mean to cast aspersions or anything like that, but didn’t she say she was really in love with you too? What if all this is a scam by the both of them to get what they can from the people they claim to love? What if you’re just a pawn in the long game?
nush
Member
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SidViscous
Member
Hmm how strange, I can't imagine a woman in her 40's would ditch a stable partner without an alternative waiting in the wings, the card and gifts make it seem like she feels guilty about it on some subconscious level. Does she work and support herself?
Regardless of the reason you need to move on and stop thinking about it, if she ever changes her mind and gives you a proper explanation then it's worth thinking about again, but until she does go have fun.
nush
Member
Wifi enabled microphone for sure.
GHG
Member
Why is that? If someone appears to be that in to you that's a good thing, right?
I would always arrive at hers, dinner made, drink ready, clothes I had there ironed etc.
To be clear, I always looked after her too, it wasn't all one way
People in secure relationships (and who are individually secure with themselves) don't need to be overly clingy to one another, especially not in public.
Pete the Ferret
Member
Yes she works and supports herself, the only thing we've done is split the cost over a weekend (ie me eating her food and drinking her drink
)She's never asked me for anything money wise, she's very proud of how she's coped bringing up a young son on her own for the last 3 odd years
Ionian
Member
I loved huggin' an kissing my woman in publilc as I loved her. (More like I was hers to be honest).
Nothing wrong with it when in love.
Don't be weird and it's all good, nothing wrong with public affection. Just don't over-do it.
(Funniest thing is when you get cheers, impossible not to smile)
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Pete the Ferret
Member
See I agree here, I love doing all this. Might make everyone around me physically sick but I'd always hold hands and show affection in public and private. I wouldn't go OTT in public but still, wouldn't be ashamed of it
Ionian
Member
Ain't nothing wrong with it in the slighest, just not OTT as you said
DevilMayFlyForAWhiteGuy
Member
From my experience, an ex saying “I don’t want to date anyone,” is only to save face, either in a “not hurt your feelings” way, or to signal to other people that she’s “taking a break.” In reality she’s fucking a bunch of dudes on what she thinks is the down low.
She still wants to lead you on though, because you can be the guy to fall back on if need be. Don’t be a simp and hold out for her. Find another girl. If you’re lucky you’ll find one who doesn’t play manipulative games.
Decontamination Silo
Banned
Have you tried asserting yourself as her boyfriend? Eastern European women love a man who takes charge.
OneBigPuss
Member
This. "I don't want to date anyone" or "I just don't want to be with anyone" is the polite "I don't want to be with you but fucking and talking sometimes is ok while im doing what i want". Had the same thing with my ex not so long ago when we were spending time together again and sleeping, then she went 650 km to see her male friend for a week. When i told her what i was feeling and that i thought that we will be together again she hit me with this shit. Hell even i was using it when i wanted to bang one girl but never to be with her.
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nush
Member
"On her own"
Mate you're getting played here, you think in three years she just decided to take her hot euro pussy out of 3 year deep storage for some dad dick with the quickness just because you're such a nice guy? Men in England are super fucking thirsty, she wasn't sitting around every weekend off planning how to be a better strong independent super mum.
You handwave and laugh it off but most people in this topic can see what's going on, she must have been feeding you bullshit right from the "I can't work out how to use Zoom, can you help me?".
nush
Member
I know a guy who got dumped because his girlfriend at the time discovered his account on FileFront Forums. He was gutted, but not as gutted as her because she came across his thread about coming out.
Gifmaker
Member
My experience on relationships is limited, but I've delt with girls changing their minds all of a sudden a few times.
From all that you've told us, I suspect that there is in fact another man involved, at least. Maybe she didn't plan for this to happen. Maybe she really enjoyed being together with you, and then one night when she was out she was having a few too many drinks and ended up in bed with someone else. Now, she's having a bad conscience because she didn't want this to happen, but at the same time, she probably cannot stop thinking about the amazing sex that they had, so she's really torn between being with you for security and stability and having wild fun with the other guy. That's why her mood seems to swing so randomly. When she's putting her little boy to bed and he tells about those stories he heard from you, her mother instincts make her think fondly of you and how you are a keeper in theory. But when she's bored and horny, she can't help but think of the other guy and how she wants to continue experiencing that as well, and he's probably always just a textmessage away.
You're getting played, and your only logical move here is to remove yourself from her list of options in order to make her realize that in the long run, a keeper would be the better choice for her and her son. But that's something that you have to sit out, and it can be gutwrenching and hurtful. The only upside to this is that the infidelity has very likely already taken place, so it won't come as that harsh of a blow to you when the truth eventually will come out.
nush
Member
I had a couple of dates with this girl and one time she implied that she had nudes on the internet. So naturally I asked to get linked up, "tee hee heee you'll have to find them yourself" she replied. So I used my best autist google-fu and came up with nothing.
Except the relationship topic on a forum she posted on, that she was very active posting in. Very enlightening, I no longer wasted any more of my time getting more dates with her. But I did troll the fuck out of her and watch in virtual real time as she'd update the topic. She wasn't actually interested in dating anyone seriously but liked the free meals a couple of times a week, she was fucking her ex boyfriend the whole time anyway.
Holy shit, man, she sounds like an absolute waste. I’m glad you managed to have a little fun with it in the end, though, but this just proves what utter cunts people can be.
nush
Member
Tschumi
Member
Wow you remind me i know some girl who did nude modelling/something after highschool but refused to clue me in... Only she then told me that she was in the Boston marathon that year and lost hearing in one ear and i ran out of horny
Nice war story,i knew someone precisely the same back in my teens, last i heard she was boasting about doing her man's best friend while he was overseas
Great jugs tho
I'm saying I'd say "wow nice pillow" then chuck it in a cupboard and forget about it, waiting until she agrees that the house needs a clean out at which point I'll make my move
gamescoltsfan
Banned
Love is a many splendored thing
AeonGaidenRaiden
Member
Shes poison. Yes, move away, forget, ignore, block and move on.
Saying this from past experience that I was lucky to have at an early age. When I say poison, I dont mean in an evil way. I mean they will constantly remind you they are there with random messages at random times out of nowhere....even a year or 5 years later. And you will constantly be in this limbo of thinking what could of been, should of been bla bla. Best decision is to take your shit, politely say it doesnt work for you and go cold on her. Live your life, move on because nothing will happen from this just mental torture. It took awhile, she tried many times to get in touch, id read the first few sentences and realize its the same bullshit and just delete the email and never reply. Now, 10 years later if we meet, it would be cool, we can be friends because all those feelings are gone. But as long as you have feelings for her, and she will from time to time pepper you with messages, you are fucked.
Saying this from past experience that I was lucky to have at an early age. When I say poison, I dont mean in an evil way. I mean they will constantly remind you they are there with random messages at random times out of nowhere....even a year or 5 years later. And you will constantly be in this limbo of thinking what could of been, should of been bla bla. Best decision is to take your shit, politely say it doesnt work for you and go cold on her. Live your life, move on because nothing will happen from this just mental torture. It took awhile, she tried many times to get in touch, id read the first few sentences and realize its the same bullshit and just delete the email and never reply. Now, 10 years later if we meet, it would be cool, we can be friends because all those feelings are gone. But as long as you have feelings for her, and she will from time to time pepper you with messages, you are fucked.
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Peggies
Gold Member
I wouldn't even lie and say, that it's a nice pillow. I woul'd just ask "Are you angry with me? What didi I do wrong?"
ClosBSAS
Member
Am dating a married woman...it's hard when you fall in love, but at the end of the day, I am the one having sex with her....keeping that distance has been hard but great in the long run. Just enjoy ur time with her op, don't be so pushy, she'll come around if it's mean to be and if ur supportive. Just let her be for now, enjoy her when u can.
Pete the Ferret
Member
Thank you. I've left her be, she sent me a long message last night...there's hope on the horizon but I am playing it cool
GreatnessRD
Member
She's a friend with benefits. Keep the same energy and treat her as such, or you'll go down a darker path that you could've avoided especially since she communicated what she wanted. If your feelings gonna get in the way, just cut her off completely. Don't put your all into someone who plays the half.
ResilientBanana
Member
Tell her you signed up for Tinder and that you don't have time for games.
Mostly this, if she keeps putting out, take it. Meanwhile, meet people.
Mostly this, if she keeps putting out, take it. Meanwhile, meet people.
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Polygonal_Sprite
Gold Member
How much has she taken you for? Be honest. Loans, cash gifts, jewellery, clothes, holidays, dinner, kids presents?
Pete the Ferret
Member
Honestly. Nothing. Like I said before, the only money I've spent is on shared expenses. Food, alcohol etc.
She's never asked for anything, i bought her some nice flowers for her birthday. That's it. Even when we've had nights out she's bought rounds of drinks
Nester99
Member
why?
your a reasonable looking dude who does not seem to be a dud. You run a singles group and if you have a reasonably good job you should be swimming in 40 year old pussy.
let this one go and put on your swim trunks
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