you should show me where this elitist party is, because I would like to join.
In all honesty, there is no elitist group, just your imagination. The real situation is that a crap load of people haven't done garuda ex or even titan ex. If you are expecting a carry through extreme modes, I am saddened because I don't know why you would even play the game. If you wanted to really do the primals then you just have to know that there aren't many people that have cleared it, and they themselves haven't really gotten a usable strategy down that allows them to complete the extremes 90-100% of the time with a static group of people.
I think you need to be patient and as you have done find out other ways of getting practice/beating primals other than relying on a certain group of people who you then call out as elitists.
Just my two cents on this
I am not going to name names since it was just a line of rant. I wasn't going to post the actual story but since you asked.
Previous to last night I have been trying titan ex in PF/DF for a few days. Some group were pretty decent and I have gone through all the phases, and has seen the second add phase a few times, but unfortunately I have never had a kill on it yet.
Fastforward to 2 days ago, there was a group looking for one tank and one tank only and is ready to go, i whipser to ask if I could come. A min later i was told that they only want people that has beaten the encounter since it's a "farm group". I told them my situation and said I have confidence to do the fight and I have pretty much seen all the fight and know all the phases by heart. They said no.
They end up looking for a tank in PF for 20-30 min before finding one. So rather waste time than try with someone in FC is why I used the word "elitest". I understand there are bad players. But I don't think I am one. I have done Garuda EX a bunch of times with FC and helped a few people in FC as MT for their garuda kill.
With that said. I don't really hold grudge against the person that told me no. It's their pref, but if they don't like being called elitist because of it? Then the lol is on them.
What ever though. Another PF "carried" me through last night. 3 people in that party has done the fight before, 3 were like me, got far never got killed, and 2 are pretty new and has never seen the add phase. Everyone was nice and no one blamed others for mistakes. Took us 1 hour of attempts to down it, but we did it.
Some times it is good to help that one extra new person (who is competent and is able to do it) on fights. It isn't carry, it is helping your own guild in the long run, with that one extra person who is now exeprienced and knows the fight, the amount of people that can easily run the fight increases. If you think of it as a carry, then what else to call you other than elitists?