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...hate me...
Everyone else is saying no; I say yes.
I wouldn't do it myself, but I want to live vicariously through you.
Be fucking epic.
Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me
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I wouldn't do it myself, but I want to live vicariously through you.
Be fucking epic.
Agreed.
Break it off quickly and cleanly. Inform the wife. Peace out of their lives completely.
Done!
NoctisVsStar
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"Righteous" and "Justice" " Being stomp is okay" Gaf on the attack.
GAF loves to stir this shit up.
Guy made mistakes, girl made mistakes.
Hers will obviously seem bigger to him and he will ignore his own.
GAFFERS will stir shit up for the lolz when it really just makes a simple situation escalate to pathetic levels.
Though...it did make the op show some things about themself.
Maybe she got tired of "working through things".
Again, sometimes relationships go bad.
Learn from it for the next one.
What kind of weak person wants to live in a lie? I would much rather my parents divorce if either one was cheating on the other.
Ignorance is bliss but this kind of bliss is putrid, corrupted, and fucked up.
Nah, not at all. To paraphrase; the reason he can give her that he's breaking up:
I'm no longer interested in you. Goodbye. Good luck with everything.
Pull the rug, pick it up, walk away. Be an adult.
Admiral Woofington
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There's no guarantee they haven't done something before.
I don't see how any of that is OPs problem.
She was planning on fucking around and got caught in the act. If she didn't have the decency to break it off with OP proper before screwing around, then maybe this will be a learning experience for her not to fuck around with people's emotions and grow up a bit when in a relationship.
Absolutely zero sympathy for her in this scenario. She fucked up and got busted. Now she has to face the consequences of her actions. Sorry, but them's the breaks in the real world.
Bboy AJ
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Shit is stupid.
Demoncarnotaur
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Take a deep breath. It sucks, and it's already over. End it with her, but as calmly and quickly as possible. Keep it short and sweet. Inform a friend in advance, perhaps have them over so things don't get out of hand.
As for informing the wife... Maybe. If you do, just don't get carried away I guess. And, keep it short and then back off. Let them figure out where to go from there.
Do not do this. Don't even do anything close to this.
As for informing the wife... Maybe. If you do, just don't get carried away I guess. And, keep it short and then back off. Let them figure out where to go from there.
Do not do this. Don't even do anything close to this.
He didn't come because he got sick that week, that's why only his brother came.
It's just a matter of time, I know that. Well, they can go fuck like rabbits now, I just don't care anymore.
Sorry if this was already addressed earlier, but it seems like OP didn't even talk to his girl about it when he first noticed she was really talking a lot to this other dude? He just ignored it for three months, then proceeded to snoop through her shit? Am I reading this properly?
Mysterious
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OP, don't ruin her job. That's not your right.
Where you have a right is to ruin the relationship of the douche who ruined yours. Tell his fucking wife. There is STI potential here, which is unsafe for her and the kid. Also, if I was being cheated on and someone knew and didn't tell me, I would hate that person forever. :\
Where you have a right is to ruin the relationship of the douche who ruined yours. Tell his fucking wife. There is STI potential here, which is unsafe for her and the kid. Also, if I was being cheated on and someone knew and didn't tell me, I would hate that person forever. :\
Nah man he's right, shit is stupid. That's not letting go. That's letting someone trample all over you and wussing out.
Contact the guy's wife immediately and describe to her everything in detail. Send evidence of his unfaithfulness. Ruin his marriage.
If you have the power/authority to get your girlfriend fired from her job then do so.
This stupid, idiotic and entitled generation need to understand that there are real life, damaging and permanant consequences for cheating. They have callously chosen to ruin your life and the life of the man's poor wife. Now it's time to ruin theirs and hopefully, teach them a painful and valuable lesson I the process.
If you have the power/authority to get your girlfriend fired from her job then do so.
This stupid, idiotic and entitled generation need to understand that there are real life, damaging and permanant consequences for cheating. They have callously chosen to ruin your life and the life of the man's poor wife. Now it's time to ruin theirs and hopefully, teach them a painful and valuable lesson I the process.
As hard as it is not to, don't do anything vengeful OP. It will completely backfire and will just give her justification for doing all that shit to you.
Break it off, DO tell the wife, and walk away. These kind of people need to learn they can't just coast through life stepping on whoever they want and that actions have consequences.
Break it off, DO tell the wife, and walk away. These kind of people need to learn they can't just coast through life stepping on whoever they want and that actions have consequences.
PeakPointMatrix
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What's the countdown until the show begins OP?
He already said how he would do that and we all unanimously told him not to. Why would you encourage it some more?
I had to get rid of a woman I fell for because of a similar situation. It sucked but I felt good that I found out, quickly ended it and didn't waste any more time or money on her. It is a poison, so the sooner you get away from it, the better.
Also, the fact that she was so dishonest, of course hurt, but in an odd way it actually helped to make it easier to let go and move on. I would rather be alone than be with someone who treated me badly or didn't appreciate me.
Also, the fact that she was so dishonest, of course hurt, but in an odd way it actually helped to make it easier to let go and move on. I would rather be alone than be with someone who treated me badly or didn't appreciate me.
xaosslug
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you should dump her, straight up w/o giving her any notice, rhyme, or reason - except that you're just not feeling her anymore. make it completely clear that it is HER, not you tho. LOL let her wonder 'why??' forever. she will probably try and get back w/ you, but stay strong and just get on with ya life. knowledge is power.
NoctisVsStar
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No, everything else cool.
How is it? They haven't yet fucked, they've just swapped flirty emails and chat.
The options are..
a: Be known as the guy who turned into a little bitch and wrecked everything because he snooped about and discovered his 10 month relationship was with a slut who wanted to fuck another guy..
or
b: Be known as the guy who just didn't give a fuck.
If you ruin his marriage his poor kid is going to bear the brunt of it. It's not fair to you that you get fucked but you just have to accept that any "revenge" scenario is more harmful than is worth pursuing.
I would love to see the look on his wife's face when you send screenshots of their Skype chats and shit, but for the sake of the kid it's not worth it.
In the end your girl is the one who is going to be left in the cold. You can move on as soon as possible, but she'll be attached to a married man who will in the end want to stay with his family and not her.
I would love to see the look on his wife's face when you send screenshots of their Skype chats and shit, but for the sake of the kid it's not worth it.
In the end your girl is the one who is going to be left in the cold. You can move on as soon as possible, but she'll be attached to a married man who will in the end want to stay with his family and not her.
He already said how he would do that and we all unanimously told him not to. Why would you encourage it some more?
He didn't say "would." He said "could."
OP had better livestream the confrontation.
John Kowalski
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are you a five year old
He already said how he would do that and we all unanimously told him not to. Why would you encourage it some more?
I didn't see how he planned to do it. He shouldn't do it by lying or planting false evidence to get her fired. That would be just as bad as what she did. I'd only recommend it if he can find something legitimate that would be cause for termination.
Honestly, after thinking about it, I really don't think any of this is worth so much of the OP's time.
Confront her and dump her? Yep
Let the man's wife know? Yep
Come back and tell "Gossip GAF" about both incidents and leave nothing out? Sure!
But anything outside of that is too much. This is just a 10-month relationship we're talking about. I would say the OP should focus on keeping a cool head and making a clean break, there's no need for "scorched earth" craziness.
Confront her and dump her? Yep
Let the man's wife know? Yep
Come back and tell "Gossip GAF" about both incidents and leave nothing out? Sure!
But anything outside of that is too much. This is just a 10-month relationship we're talking about. I would say the OP should focus on keeping a cool head and making a clean break, there's no need for "scorched earth" craziness.
You make it sound like cheating is no big deal.
Neither was her cheating. That said, I'm not even sure I could condone purposefully destroying her career unless she becomes an evil person after you break up with her. Then by all means, destroy that too.
Good Job Bob
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The only thing that would make the OP a pushover is if he stayed in the relationship.
All this extra vindictive, temper tantrum shit doesn't make you a badass.
ersocaster
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Revenge is not necessary. Please do not do anything vengeful. Break up with her, and let the guy's wife know what is going on. Give her all of the details. Get her out of your life and find someone who respects you more.
That's all you have to do. You'll be much happier.
That's all you have to do. You'll be much happier.
I expect to talk to her in two hours. I haven't slept and eaten in more than 24 hours, my head is getting all fuzzy. I have weed saved for later, I hope to sleep pretty much all day tomorrow.
You got a point but it also isn't fair on this guys wife if he is going around cheating behind her back. But at the same time I do agree with you, catch 22 as they say.
LouisaFerre
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10 months isn't that much time. You weren't married, you didn't have a kid, and this isn't life ruining. Don't escalate the situation unnecessarily, cause that could just lead to more shit you don't want to deal with. Just tell the wife and cut the shit out your life.
You should smoke before. I've been dumped stoned. It was a pretty good time.
It's more important that the wife know her husband is cheating on her than for them to live in a fake relationship for the sake of a kid. Sorry, but that's just the cold truth.
OP, Plan something spectacular. What you have here is a beautiful opportunity. It's like knowing with 100% certainty where the stock market will go tomorrow. You have stock market certainty. You know you are going to ditch her and she doesn't know that you know she's cheating. Here are some fun things you can do:
1.) * Buy her a car but put the bills in her name. Tell her your account is transitioning but show her some proof that you'll transfer the funds to hers. Enjoy that Porsche 911 TurbUH-OH!
2.) * She seems to like trips. Take her on another one. Have a convenient excuse for why you need to take a separate flight, but reassure her that you'll be there. One way trip to Saudi Arabia! Women can't buy plane tickets there! She's stuck there! Give her 20 minutes and she'll be sayin' "Saudi Arabi-OH NO!"
3.) * Buy her the same scarf that the dude got her but keep up the facade that you're in love. Confuse her. Do more things that reference the skype conversation. Dream up more things that reference the skype chat. Live it up, dreamer!
4.) * Go on your Facebook and change your last name to the cheating guy's last name. Find cheating guy's facebook and find out his wife/girlfriend. Say your cheating guy's brother and you have a present for her (This sounds familiar!). Send the gift to cheating guy's house. Wife: "Thank you for the scarf honey! It's beautiful!"
Uh oh! We have a doozy of a mess on our hands!! LOL!!!!!
1.) * Buy her a car but put the bills in her name. Tell her your account is transitioning but show her some proof that you'll transfer the funds to hers. Enjoy that Porsche 911 TurbUH-OH!
2.) * She seems to like trips. Take her on another one. Have a convenient excuse for why you need to take a separate flight, but reassure her that you'll be there. One way trip to Saudi Arabia! Women can't buy plane tickets there! She's stuck there! Give her 20 minutes and she'll be sayin' "Saudi Arabi-OH NO!"
3.) * Buy her the same scarf that the dude got her but keep up the facade that you're in love. Confuse her. Do more things that reference the skype conversation. Dream up more things that reference the skype chat. Live it up, dreamer!
4.) * Go on your Facebook and change your last name to the cheating guy's last name. Find cheating guy's facebook and find out his wife/girlfriend. Say your cheating guy's brother and you have a present for her (This sounds familiar!). Send the gift to cheating guy's house. Wife: "Thank you for the scarf honey! It's beautiful!"
Uh oh! We have a doozy of a mess on our hands!! LOL!!!!!
Bomber Bob
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honestly, just dump her and move on OP
destroying the people who got involved is bad karma.
live and let live
destroying the people who got involved is bad karma.
live and let live
Paracelsus
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These people are the main reason cheating is so easy. Tell all victims, always, you're saving more guys (and girls, assuming they're unaware the jerk is married and fall for him) from this shit.
There's no such thing as Karma.
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