MisterArrogant
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Because I don't recall seeing you here using gendered terminology like "attention whore" for males. It is a poor choice of words to criticize a female (or any gender) streamer. You know full well the root of that term and the way many read it.
I can't recall commenting on any other streamer previously be they male or female. She's the first streamer I believe I've ever been matched up against hence she's the first streamer I've had a reason to comment on. I'm sorry if the term offends you and you feel it was directed at her gender. I will try to find more opportunities to use it to address males in the future. I do find it flattering you remember my other posts though.
You just came off really strong using, again, very gendered terminology to criticize Nadia in a way that was centered around her being a female streamer.
I appreciate the compliment as to how strong I may seem but that's neither here nor there. I'm a little confused in what way I used gendered criticism of Nadia in the block of text you quoted given that I only referred to her once and all I said was, "The difference is I just happened to get matched up with Nadia instead." Maybe you're referring to a different block of text? I'm not sure how to respond to this.
Note that I didn't actually address you at first, letting it just go.
Oh, I knew who you were talking about.
I just agreed with someone else in a general sense that criticism against cleavage is wrong.
I think we can agree here. I definitely have nothing against cleavage in general either. I'm very pro-boobs.
But I don't think skill actually matters here. Even if Nadia is terrible, her stream is no less valid and you could have lamented losing to a bad player without playing up her gender.
I never said her stream wasn't valid or said she should get off the internet. I just didn't take her seriously as a player so in that regard skill would be a factor. I never brought gender into the conversation at all save for using personal pronouns which felt more appropriate than referring to her as "it" or "its." I never said I was upset losing to a girl. If I lost to Hafu I wouldn't think anything of it because I know she's a good player. I felt embarrassed because I thought she was considered a crappy player who mainly streamed to exploit her attractiveness to get thirsty dudes to donate to her. I don't really conflate gender with appearance so I don't know why gender and sexism keeps getting dragged into this.
What relevance does her "bustyness" or cosplaying or her chat have at all to your losing of the game?
Well, when we first got matched up I did tab quickly over and check to see if it was really her. Her "bustyness" was kind of distracting and did make it hard to get my mind back on the game. I can't entirely rule out this isn't an intentional strategy on her part.
I never meant to imply you are some kind of misogynist or that you are sexist. There is a lot ingrained in society to overcome, but it does not speak of the people caught up in it. A part of my purpose was to have people reflect upon their word choices and perhaps why they're viewing someone the way they are. I sincerely apologize for making you feel that way.
Thank you for the apology. Now that I know the truth I feel ashamed of my words and deeds.
I disagree. Both are using what they have available to them to draw in viewers and subs. I don't see why one is considered higher than the other.
That is actually an interesting statement coming from you. As I recall you've made a lot of statements complaining about streamers using bad language in their streams. Maybe since they don't have breasts they're using what they've got, in this case harsh language, to draw in viewers and subs? Maybe they want to be edgy or that's just how they talk? It doesn't really have anything to do with how well they play the game. Why are Nadia's breasts considered higher than the other? It seems a little disingenuous to claim the moral high ground and saying you're non-judgmental about what streamers do to earn their subs then pass judgment on what others do in their stream.
I apologize for making you feel that way. My intention aside, it was wrong of me to be harsh. I let myself get a little too emotional because I see so much going on all the time and it really bothers me.
Thanks for the apology. I am also sorry if my strong nature, memorable posts, and equal opportunity offensiveness has bothered you at all. It was not my intention.
Just to be clear about my stance, I'm not offended she dresses provocatively. I'm not a prude. If she decided she wanted to be a model or stripper or cam girl then I would say, "you GO girl!" and I'd be behind her 100%. That seems like honest work to me. What feels sort of icky and disingenuous to me is taking up the mantle of gamer and using that as a gateway to basically get people to pay to look at you. I feel like it's a disservice to women who want to be known in this industry for their skills and accomplishments and not what they look like and that it ends up continuing to foster an association and expectation of most women in games that they would prefer not exist.
To put it more clearly and simply, women have complained about being treated like sex objects in the game industry. Nadia dresses up to look like a sex object but then associates that with her gaming so in a way she's perpetuating that association. Obviously I was wrong to assume she was nothing more than that. That was my bad. I'm glad to hear she's a good player and I got a chance to play against her then.
Yes. People do criticize male streamers too. Trump most of all. But the type of criticism levied against him are very different from the type against Nadia.
I think both get criticized for sort of acting embarrassingly. Nadia chooses to do it in a way that highlights her appearance and sexuality. Trump chooses to do it in a way that highlights his social awkwardness. If Trump dressed up in sexy costumes that accentuated his man boobs then I'm pretty sure he would catch as much shit (if not more) than Nadia. It's not anything that's implicit in their gender, but in how both choose to express themselves.