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How were you spanked?
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Usually open hand by my dad or wooden paddle by my mom on the butt. I'd say it happened once ever year or so? (up until probably 10 or 11 years old). I wasn't really a bad kid but I occasionally did bad stuff. They never slapped hard enough to bruise or anything, but I definitely remember not wanting to do whatever I did to cause the spanking anymore after that. It hurt enough.
I have zero ill will towards my parents. They were and are fantastic people. In a small two-bedroom house with about ten of us, spanking was about the only thing they could do to punish us.
I have zero ill will towards my parents. They were and are fantastic people. In a small two-bedroom house with about ten of us, spanking was about the only thing they could do to punish us.
Belt or a hand to the butt. Nothing like punches or hits to anywhere else. And usually after the initial sting and tears, it didn't hurt or anything and it was back to business as usual
Usually got spankings for fighting with my brother or just straight up not doing stuff because I didn't want to
Usually got spankings for fighting with my brother or just straight up not doing stuff because I didn't want to
My grandmother took me over her knee in public a few times. Fully clothed with a coat on and I don't remember feeling any actual pain, but the embarrassment was real.
SomedayTheFire
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holy shit this thread is terrifying i feel so bad for y'all
I think it's largely a factor of circumstances around the spanking, honestly, rather than the spanking itself. I can't even remember what I ever got spanked for, and I can't think if I ever got spanked more than once for anything bad I did. Even if I don't end up spanking my kids (or bringing out the hot sauce, which was another occasional feature) I don't begrudge my parents for spanking me; they were loving and supportive, pushed me to try new things but didn't force me to stick to things I utterly hated, tried to treat me like an adult and trusted me when I became a teen. Reframe the spankings with a home where mom and dad yelled at each other constantly or where I was constantly being punished, and you could draw a very different picture in one's mind or see the spanking as just one manifestation of abuse.
The stuff I actually remember messing up, I don't ever recall being spanked for it, and those are the more "traumatic" memories of my childhood. Go figure.
My brother and I were way rougher with each other than my parents were with us.
digita1alchemy
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You name it: belt, switch, fly swatter, rulers, shoes, brushes, bare hands, etc.
My wife and I have decided not to spank our daughter, who is currently 2 years old. My sister and her husband, on the other hand, already swat their son, who is only 1. I'm interested to see the difference in behavior between our kids as they grow up.
My wife and I have decided not to spank our daughter, who is currently 2 years old. My sister and her husband, on the other hand, already swat their son, who is only 1. I'm interested to see the difference in behavior between our kids as they grow up.
Why? I can see kids who didn't really do anything just getting beaten amused, but the other times when you do evil things as a kid you kinda deserve it.
kavanf1
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Oh yeah I forgot about this punishment. Used to get soap put on a sponge and then the sponge pushed in my mouth. I think that's why I've grown up to hate the taste of soap.
InfiniteBento
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I can't say, after witnessing/experiencing severe abuse + minimal punishments, that I'll ever lay a hand on my kid in a negative way ever. It's scarring and everyone in here is kinda a prime example of that. People will parent how they want to parent regardless but for me, personally, every time I see a parent lay a hand on their kid at all my blood fucking boils. There are millions of ways to get across to a child that something isn't okay and hitting them to sink that shit in shouldn't be one of them.
nintendork666
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Bare ass; bare hand.
CountAntonius
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Probably a few slaps to the face by my mom in very sever cases. Once I made my dad really pissed and he made a fist while looking at me. He never hit me in my life but that made me nearly shit myself.
Really can't stand the judgmental shit I'm reading just from the first page with people calling other people's parents bad.
I personally wouldn't do it to my children but that is because I have the internet, knowledge, and psychologists that have proved there are better ways. None of the things most of my parents generations had. That being said I was only hit 3 times in my life. I think they did very well considering.
Really can't stand the judgmental shit I'm reading just from the first page with people calling other people's parents bad.
I personally wouldn't do it to my children but that is because I have the internet, knowledge, and psychologists that have proved there are better ways. None of the things most of my parents generations had. That being said I was only hit 3 times in my life. I think they did very well considering.
SomedayTheFire
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no one deserves physical punishment. have you even read some of the things posted in here? they're fucking horrifying.
AlteredBeast
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One or two quick swats on the butt. Kept me in line, rarely ever happened, but definitely set me straight.
The one guy on the other page said he threw a brick in his sisters face. That deserves a spanking and then a talking to afterwards. By spamming I mean hands to the butt. Not punches to the face or heavy body shots
RoslindaleOne
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Open hand, wooden spoon and belt.
I also forgot about that.
My mom used green Lava soap. Whatever I said must have been terrible since she was never theatrical about discipline.
No matter what she did, my mom is the sort of parent I can only aspire to be. Our family would have ceased to function if it weren't for her.
My grandmother made me drink green liquid palmolive once, when I was about five. In her defense, I did call her the c-bomb, but I was also about five and had no idea it was THE big bad word.
Nospaceinmyname
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Belt, chancla (slipper) or...
Replace rain drops with salty tears.
Replace rain drops with salty tears.
richardhawk
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Hand, belt, extension cord, plastic clothes hanger, garden hose. I think that's all of it.
Same
Darryl M R
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"Go outside and get me a switch."
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SliceSabre
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I forgot my grandpa used a fan-belt.
Yes the fan-belt from a car motor. I was faster than him so he never managed to hit me full on with it but did get a few glancing swats at my legs. He did get my cousins on the ass with it more than a few times though.
Yes the fan-belt from a car motor. I was faster than him so he never managed to hit me full on with it but did get a few glancing swats at my legs. He did get my cousins on the ass with it more than a few times though.
hobblygobbly
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I was rarely smacked, I can only recall two times, always with the hand on the ass, one of it was for spitting on my sister (I can't remember why I did) who is a year younger than me, think I was 6 years old at the time.
It's weird because I didn't realize it until later in life when friends talked about that.
My dad favored mostly his belt and his hand. One time he was really angry at me cause I told him I wanted to watch wrestling at night so he grabbed me and wrestled me to the ground, smashing my face into the floor. My nose bled a huge pool of blood and then after I stopped crying and cursing he told me to clean up my own blood and then go to bed.
I don't think I talked to him for a year after that.
I don't think I talked to him for a year after that.
maquiladora
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This thread is seriously disturbing to read....my god.
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
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Kids don't deserve to be hit. I don't give a fuck what they've done, they don't deserve it. They deserve to be punished, and taught right from wrong, physical punishment isn't the way.
Anyone whose seen the threads I've posted before about my dad will know what I'm talking about. I don't give a shit if they've been bad or naughty, they're kids and they don't know better.
Anyone whose seen the threads I've posted before about my dad will know what I'm talking about. I don't give a shit if they've been bad or naughty, they're kids and they don't know better.
Apple Turnover
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In grade 1 or 2 I heard one of the older kids, probably like grade 6 or 7, say a swear at school. I repeated it at home, and the mere threat of having my mouth washed out with soap was enough to keep me from swearing at all until about grade 8 or so... and even then, never in earshot of my parents until about grade 11
SpaceHorror
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My dad used a leather belt, everyone else used an open hand.
Lol and I'm 20 definitely still got whipped
90% of the spanking people used to get is not even remotely close to what alarmists are imagining, this is why people on this thread shrug it off and take offence to see their parents called bad people, allegations that they were not loved and accusations of not being well adjusted.
WrenchNinja
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Parents, Open hand, ruler, spatula
At school, cane or ruler
At school, cane or ruler
Red Arremer
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My father didn't use a lot of violence, but when he did, it was quite something else. He once tossed small decorations made of porcelain at me, one hit my head. I still have a scar from it.
Though he usually resorted to verbal humiliation.
Though he usually resorted to verbal humiliation.
You see, this is the difference between an act born of rage vs some mild, controlled disciplinary ritual. The father lost his cool (like any person can lose their cool at times) and threw something in rage.
People imagine the "spanking" being administered by the parent with rage in a similar manner, when in reality its just a mild inconvenience for every party involved.
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