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LGBTQIA Thread |OT5| Can't even drink straight

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Kevyt

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CannonO said:
This sounds like ignoring the fact that there are common feature sets associated with various ethnicities. Mentioning uncommon traits among those groups seems irrelevant since it wouldn't be associated with the ethnic traits of the group. I'm sure just about every eye color or hair color has appeared in just about any ethnic group, but when they are uncommon like the ones you mentioned, the uncommon traits won't throw away every understanding and association of the ethnic groups with their common physical features. That wouldn't make sense.



Those aren't mutually exclusive as your wording implies. Quite the opposite. You can tell the difference between an Asian person, black person, Middle Eastern person, white person, etc., based on common physical features. Race and ethnicity do have associations with physical features and appearance. We as people can recognize the distinctions based on the common features of the ethnic group, and that part is okay.

I'm feeling like people aren't maybe sure what racist means. It isn't simply everything that is associated with race, that's for sure.



I never forget these boots.
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Well, I would say that's not always the case. In any case I dare say race and ethnicity are social constructs.
 
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Vazduh

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ab.aeterno said:
I don't see him often -- he was who I was meeting for the first time this weekend, as he lives in another state. That helps, I suppose. But I dunno. The challenge I guess will be finding the right balance between distance and closeness. I need to protect my heart from hurt but retain his spot in it as a dear friend. I wouldn't give up his friendship for anything.

In the end, I guess all I can do is work through it.

Sorry for the late reply.
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Don't apologize, please :) The guys have shared their experiences, so I'll try to be as short as possible. I'll just say that the distance could prove to be a blessing in disguise for you. You'll be OK, I'm sure of it.
 
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Dead Prince

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El_Gato said:
My grandpa started to get grey/white hair (on his head, I mean) when he was around twenty-four so it's not like it's a sign that you are very old. It's just low pigmentation causing it as far as I know.
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pfft. start at 5. come at me bro.

it's mostly near the temple. remember that chick from Nightmare on elm street? that's me. all stressed out.
 
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Henchmen21

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El_Gato said:
My grandpa started to get grey/white hair (on his head, I mean) when he was around twenty-four so it's not like it's a sign that you are very old. It's just low pigmentation causing it as far as I know.


I thought Henchmen was a bit over 30?
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You are correct sir.

Berordn said:
I have a little strand of gray and I'm 23 :(

But on the plus side I'll still have plenty of it when it all does turn.
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;_;
 
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Dead Prince

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remind me to start saving up for christmas 2015 in January. these last minute shopping does not help.

i might save up for my mom for a one way ticket to anywhere she wants to go.
 
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Meicyn

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Just finished rewatching Top Gun, it's been too long. I forgot how ridiculously attractive Tom Cruise was in this movie. And of course, there's the volleyball scene.

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Jesus Christ.
 
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Kevyt

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DMPrince said:
remind me to start saving up for christmas 2015 in January. these last minute shopping does not help.

i might save up for my mom for a one way ticket to anywhere she wants to go.
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Be a good son and save up for a roundtrip, 3 week long all paid vacation trip (food, commodities, 5 star hotel) to anywhere she wants to go. ;)
 
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Henchmen21

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Parn said:
Just finished rewatching Top Gun, it's been too long. I forgot how ridiculously attractive Tom Cruise was in this movie. And of course, there's the volleyball scene.

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Jesus Christ.
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Yeah but then you remember what a nut job Cruise is and can't spank it to that. Plus Val was in way better shape (and was Madmartigan which beats anything Cruise has done)
 
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Rayis

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all of you freaking bout one gray hair while I have thousands on my 23-year old scalp, seriously, it's almost like I have gray highlights ;/
 
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HylianTom

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Henchmen21 said:
Yeah but then you remember what a nut job Cruise is and can't spank it to that. Plus Val was in way better shape (and was Madmartigan which beats anything Cruise has done)
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Parn said:
I never found Val Kilmer attractive. Don't know why.
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Something about Cruise irks me. I was okay with him in middle school, but that didn't last long at all. I didn't get Kilmer either. I see why I'm supposed to like him in theory, but something has never clicked.

But the Madmartigan point stands. I haven't seen Willow in over a decade. Time to remedy that.

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(And white/gray hair rocks. Embrace it!)
 
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Sai-kun

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drunk and watching korra with my girlfriend :>

talking shit about straight boys

shout outs to my queer brothers and sisters. y'all are the best <3
 
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Haly

One day I realized that sadness is just another word for not enough coffee.
That's Mads Mikkelsen, of Casino Royale/Hannibal fame.
 
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Henchmen21

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HylianTom said:
Something about Cruise irks me. I was okay with him in middle school, but that didn't last long at all. I didn't get Kilmer either. I see why I'm supposed to like him in theory, but something has never clicked.

But the Madmartigan point stands. I haven't seen Willow in over a decade. Time to remedy that.
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(And white/gray hair rocks. Embrace it!)
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Yes you should.
 
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User 73706

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I'm going to be so pissed when all my hair falls out before it grays. I want salt and pepper hair, dammit!

Sai-kun said:
drunk and watching korra with my girlfriend :>

talking shit about straight boys

shout outs to my queer brothers and sisters. y'all are the best <3
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the only way to play
 
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Balding is one of my biggest fears. Grey is hot, and some people can rock bald, but not me.

Thankfully Penn State are well on their way to solving the mysteries of balding.
 
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ab.aeterno

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GayGAF, you guys are seriously the best.

VegiHam said:
I love the above post. Too often I hear 'oh well you can never be friends it's all doomed cut them out of your life' and I'm like I'm not throwing away valuable relationships just because they become a little complicated, you know?
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Right? If the advice was "oh just cut them out of your life" there wouldn't be enough lols in the world to respond with. Not the slightest fucking chance of even considering it.

SoraanTribal said:
Crushing on a friend is seriously the worst. I had very strong feelings for several of my friends in high school, and then especially one of them during college when we shared a room. It was a situation in which distancing myself from him was not really possible considering we lived together (and shared a room no less) which just made it all the harder for me. I was a wreck emotionally because I knew there was no way it would ever happen (he's straight). It's been several years since then and he's still my best friend and I don't really have those intense feelings for him anymore thankfully. I won't say there's still not a little twinge of jealousy or sadness every now and again when I think of how amazing of a person he is (and very attractive lol), but I'm in a much better place now than I was back then.
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Cosmic Bus said:
I've been in this exact situation before, to the point where I even moved cross-country in order to have more of a chance at us being together. You're going to struggle with it for a while, no doubt -- all the feelings of "what if we..." and "maybe I could..." but time wears down the rough, complicated edges and, assuming he's also interested in maintaining the friendship, you'll eventually wake up one morning and not be shackled by it (the longing) in the slightest and instead just be happy that you have such a good friend.

In my case, he and I are still close, visit each other on occasion, etc... We're both in relationships of our own now and it's not awkward or painful or unusual for either of us. So yeah, just relax and try to let life take its course. You'll be much more content in the end.
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Vazduh said:
Don't apologize, please :) The guys have shared their experiences, so I'll try to be as short as possible. I'll just say that the distance could prove to be a blessing in disguise for you. You'll be OK, I'm sure of it.
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Thanks so much, guys. This helps give me some much needed perspective, and hope I'll be able to work through these feelings and hold on to him as a dear friend. Got a long road ahead, but at least I know it's possible. That makes it easier.

Sai-kun said:
drunk and watching korra with my girlfriend :>
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Good man.
 
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