What if I like to be approached instead of doing the approaching? ._.
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ab.aeterno
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As someone who also deals with a lot of anxiety, I know how rough it can be to shake it off, calm down and refocus. Would it help to post about it?
Coming Out on Top has that one guy, Ian Manachevitz, who looks like a more muscled Kit Harington (without the beard). Huh, tempting.
He's also the best guy personality-wise
total husband material~
Why are you having a breakdown?
Are you a furry?
I have the demo downloaded, will start my playthrough of that this week. Hopefully I run across him there.
Oh, an anthropomorphic cat guy. Well, I'm obviously cool with you then.
Is it an original character or is he part of some form of media?
Anime-style art occupies this weird space where I find character designs of all flavors (save for women, anthros and preteens), aesthetically or sexually attractive but I'm obscenely selective as to how I like anything remotely smutty involving them, if I think there should be anything suggestive featuring them to begin with.
Is it about anything in specific? We might be of help.
I find the tiny heads more disturbing myself.
Is it about anything in specific? We might be of help.
It has more body types than either yaoi or bara dating sims. 😄
I may have to broaden my horizons and try that one. I mean, it shouldn't be too different from dating pigeon people (Hatoful Boyfriend), right?
Nah, small heads are something I'm used to. Lots of people have really small heads (compared to the rest of the body).
Yeah that's pretty sad isn't it? Morenatsu covers "all" body types... just under a lush layer of fur.
It's not really tongue-in-cheek like Hatoful Boyfriend at all. It's pretty grounded actually, kemonos notwithstanding.
I don't mind the hair at all. (ღ˘⌣˘ღ
Speaking about DA2, I like my custom Hawke, better. Although I don't know why I decided to go with that face tattoo. :?
Speaking about butts . . . that Jon Hamm pic could have been a lot better.
^ That's a really cute Hawke you've made there. :3
Well, I guess I have to try it out then to find out. I'll write it on my games to get list.
It'd be amazing how much easier my life would be right now if I had started school a semester earlier.
It's worse for me because all I can think of when I see heads as tiny as the ones in those images is this:
It's worse for me because all I can think of when I see heads as tiny as the ones in those images is this:
SpaceBridge
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Met a guy today who I was talking to online for months. Just a quick meet, nothing serious. Lasted a few mins. After he messaged me to tell me that he wasn't into me because I was too bearded.
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Beards are permanent.
umop_3pisdn
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That sucks, I'm sorry, man. All I can think is maybe next time try to meet them sooner, so if it doesn't work you don't feel like you've wasted your time?
What a douchebag. Beards are great and people can be so ignorant.
Christopher
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I've been so MIA lately cause we're closing on a new house - do you guys think it KINDA looks like the Home Alone house thats what its allure was to me
SpaceBridge
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I've always had a beard, not sure why he'd use that as a means of rejection. I think he was disappointed cuz I wasnt as muscular as him so he just used a dumb excuse.
Christopher
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Don't make assumptions about yourself that you think he rejected you for...are you self conscious that your not muscular? Maybe he really didn't like the beard?
SpaceBridge
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As gay men don't we culturally put physical attraction and prowess to the fore front?
He's been chatting with me online for months, seen a lot of my photos and I had a beard in all of them. Seems like a poor and superficial reason to reject me.
I should post some of the messages I get just so you guys can see im not over reacting.
umop_3pisdn
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It is a poor and superficial reason to reject you, but if you suspect he wasn't being honest, you really can't know what the 'truth' is, and thinking about it too much will just undermine your confidence.
Sure, but assuming that's a cultural flaw, we're not obligated to participate in it. A lot of gay people aren't going to be so involved in that, just by virtue of people in general having different attitudes about things.
You live in Toronto, right? It's cliche advice but have you considered joining some social groups? That way you can get to know people around a common interest and maybe develop some rapport first.
umop_3pisdn
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Done the term YAY.
Incidentally I don't think I'm going to study Philosophy anymore. Logic is like a mediocre second or third language to me, can barely communicate anything I really want to that way lol.
Incidentally I don't think I'm going to study Philosophy anymore. Logic is like a mediocre second or third language to me, can barely communicate anything I really want to that way lol.
Bubbavelli
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Thank you so much for the support :')
I've been suffering from depression and anxiety seemingly my whole life but only was diagnosed last summer after a brief stint in the hospital. I'll just copy/paste my post in the mental health thread:
Everything just feels so hopeless. I'm about to finish my worst semester of school and i feel terrible about it. I also don't see the point in school. It just all seems like a dead end. A part of me recognizes that uncertainty is the human condition but a bigger part of me is shouting at me that im going nowhere. I dont even know what i'll do when I get out. I just dont want to go to school anymore but idk what I would do if I left. Im 22 and I have minimal job experience. I should be studying for a final that I have tomorrow but all these thoughts causing my focus astray. I just feel like a big burden. I fucking hate this feeling.
umop_3pisdn
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Honestly, I've been in more or less your exact position (depression, flunking out of school due to apathy, etc). I'm going back to school now at 26, not entirely sure what I want to do. You have lots of time to figure this shit out, going through the motions because you feel the sword of Damocles hanging over you isn't a good motivation, desperation wears off quickly and if you're like me you'll just look to escape from school and responsibility and 'the world' into whatever seems a bit more hospitable for the time being. And that's fine. Being in that position is incapacitating.
This is kind of off-topic, but as I've gradually been getting better, I've been thinking of going back to school for clinical or counseling psychology to help other people get better. Because if I crawled out of a hole, maybe I can help other people do that. But I only gained that motivation from actually getting better. So it's weird, everything happened all at once, and I never really felt like I did anything to 'cause' it to happen. I think a big part of it is a waiting game, and there are maybe some other things you can do in the mean time, that if not to speed it up, at least has it not take longer.
Christopher
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Bubbavelli
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Ahhhhh pressure
I give the best cuddles
I like to think Im funny (if your sense of humor is a little dark)
My beard is kinda patchy but its still a beard
My hair is long and looks pretty sweet in a man bun
aaaaaaaand
Im a good friend?
I ran out of stuff at the last one
Yeah, you do have amazing hair! You need that Loreal to keep it nice and fresh
what kind of shampoo do you use?
This is unfortunately something I don't have a lot of experience in, (and as far as indecisiveness goes, something I'm struggling with myself). The main thing I can really say is that you should focus on the immediate term, and then when the most urgent stuff is taken care of deliberate on longer-term stuff. Succeeding in the former yields more options for the latter, and being given more leeway to do things is almost always a good thing.
This sort of stuff takes quite a bit of time to figure out even if you are focusing on it, so that isn't something you should be too worried about having difficulty with. It's important to give the long-term attention, but if you let it dominate the short term it's nothing more than a perpetual stressor with no positive consequences. If you worry about it too much you might end up making a hasty decision in desperation to get rid of the problem and end up regretting it immensely later.
Bubbavelli
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Yeah, you do have amazing hair! You need that Loreal to keep it nice and freshwhat kind of shampoo do you use?
Ahhh thank you thank you! I take it you saw my tumblr? I really dont use shampoo. On the rare ocassion its head and shoulders. I really want dreads for some reason?
You should help me shampoo more
Ahhh thank you thank you! I take it you saw my tumblr? I really dont use shampoo. On the rare ocassion its head and shoulders. I really want dreads for some reason?
You should help me shampoo more
Yep, Tumblr. I don't use shampoo at all. lol
Bubbavelli
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You damn hippy you
Is that a romance dialogue option with Anders I see there
And that sure is cute Hawke you made there. However, DA2 was probably the first game where I didn't feel the need to make a custom character - default Hakwe suited me perfectly.
(I did however use a mod to change Anders' face to make it look more Awakening-like and more handsome; and Carver's - because if I'm stuck with my little brother constantly whining then at least I want him to look good)
Bara art can be pretty bad (or at least weird) too. I've read few bara mangas by Satoru Sugajima recently and every guy that is a main character or a love interest - be it a 30-year-old guy, or 55+ yo - is pumped. And I mean pumped: pecks and biceps the size of head, huge torsos and legs
and dicks
I would attach a picture but I'm at work now so... looking for bara with naked guys now wouldn't be wise
Yes, we do focus on physical attraction, but there's a limit. When you talk with a guy for months, he sees your pictures online and then when he sees you IRL drops you with a pitiful excuse of you being "too bearded" then that's wrong. You're fine - it's his priorities that are fucked up.
Prototype Viktor
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what you don't want no Naurto x Sasuke doujins? lol
RatskyWatsky
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Bubbavelli what is your tumblr :3
what a fucking idiot
like, please
how pathetic
you're better off without that scrub, bae
what a fucking idiot
like, please
how pathetic
you're better off without that scrub, bae
Probably the best post I've read today. I am cackling.
Bubbavelli
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bubbs619.tumblr.com
Im currently rarely on it but there are some sweet pictures of myself
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
i wish I had your hairline :/
Bubbavelli
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I've never been complimented on that before :3
One of the perks of being young. I just pray I never go bald
Henchmen21
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What? That's not you in your avvy?
Random thought, but I always find the relationship topics on GAF a fun read.
I've noticed the same pattern, though: guy asks GAF for advice, he gets it, but decides to cherry pick the answers he wants to hear. Then he proceeds to ignore the advice, makes a horrible mistake in the process, and in the end, eats a humble pie. Every single time.
Are there any non-jerks you've met over the past year or so? Jesus!
I've noticed the same pattern, though: guy asks GAF for advice, he gets it, but decides to cherry pick the answers he wants to hear. Then he proceeds to ignore the advice, makes a horrible mistake in the process, and in the end, eats a humble pie. Every single time.
Are there any non-jerks you've met over the past year or so? Jesus!
Henchmen21
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That's people in general. They don't want actual advice, just confirmation of what they were going to do anyways. They want to feel less guilty about it.
Correct.
I'm guilty of that as well with the thread I made on OT not too long ago. >.>
I don't want anything Naruto-related, neither hentai nor the actual anime/manga. :/
Now, One Piece is different. Zoro is a good mix of muscles and lean and he's around 21 (and looks like it!), I wouldn't mind someone making a gay doujin with him. :3
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