I'm in a pretty big city, and I've used the app pretty frequently, but I feel like I'm constantly out of hits. It'll search for a minute or so and only return one at a time. Used to be able to go through about a hundred before it needed to poke around again. Have I just hit the bottom or the well?
Tinder (i.e., OkCupid meets Hot or Not)
- Thread starter Roger Danish
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True. In fact, I was actually thinking bowling alley before you even mentioned it. She likes individual sports and its a place where you can talk without having to talk too much and regurgitate all the crap you've said via text already.
Also, ass shots.
Messofanego
Banned
Her syntatic processing going to shit means she's really into you.
Sho_Nuff82
Member
To clarify, I'm 32. All the matches I've gotten have been 25-33, with one exception (24). Just about right for the divide by 2, add 7 rule. I should probably eliminate the younger ages in the settings to save time... but nah.
I've been on for about two weeks. The most bizarre thing is coming across chicks you know on the app. I actually matched with one, so I gave her a "what's up" on fb.
I definitely have to agree with moving faster. Any chick who's reasonably attractive is probably getting matched with dozens of other guys. And it kind of sucks as a chat program (notifications are inconsistent sometimes). Going forward, I'm going to be getting phone numbers and asking to chill asap instead of trying to get their life story over tinder. I've had one "conversation" stretch out over a week with like 6 replies each. I might get a date at that pace in 2 months.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Don't say that :|
So I've been reading this thread for a few days and it got my curiosity going. So I installed the app and swiped at a few pictures for a while yesterday. Got one match. By the evening, an old friend of mine from college sends me a FB message. "What are you doing on Tinder?" she says. She knows I'm married. Doesn't know I have an open relationship. Apparently she right-swiped me because she showed up in my feed the next time I launched the app. So I sent her a couple of messages without explaining myself. And she's like "You're funny."
But so far, it's kind of amusing to either accept or reject all these girls based on a quick first impression, knowing I'm not hurting their feelings.
But so far, it's kind of amusing to either accept or reject all these girls based on a quick first impression, knowing I'm not hurting their feelings.
People call Tinder shallow, but really......this is EXACTLY the same process you'd go through in any social setting. You'd see a girl, and instantly make a judgment on whether you're interested in her or not based on looks. If you "like" her, you'd move in and strike up convo. If you didn't, you'd move on. Tinder actually is beneficial because it goes a step further and weeds out girls who are spoken for.
You have my sword, Tinder.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
I'm sorry but this doesn't even make sense... They can't see you unless they're on the app and if they think less of you after they also use the app, do you really give a shit what they think at that point?
I live right in the middle of a metro area of 2 million and I get around 15-20 new people a day. I'm honestly curious how it works, are these new accounts or is it throttling how much I get and they're just random.
My rule is after I send 5 messages it's time to ask them out, then I'll get a number and casually text until we go out. Any longer than that and someone else will pull the trigger before you.
Agreed. It's the only dating app that comes even remotely close to how we really interact. I used to use okcupid but that experience creates a date that has the awkward already built in. It's crazy to me that I can go on a date knowing whether or not the girl is willing to have sex on the first meeting. Or what sort of kinky shit she's into. In the back of your head you kind of just want to talk about that.
Here's some advice for you that not only applies to Tinder, but just about anything in life similar to this:
Nobody cares as much as you think they do. They're too wrapped up in their own shit.
BuggyDClown
Member
Ding Ding DIng Ding! I have to tell this to people all the fucking time.
If anything in a way it's the LEAST superficial app there is. Every other dating site has built in expectations due to filtering, as well as making yourself look even better than you do by fudging the stats when making a bio. on tinder you really only get to know someone through conversation like in real life.
See this I both agree/disagree with. It breaks one of my tinder rules.
I agree with asking them out after 10-15 mins of conversation. Like I would if I met someone out and had a good enough amount of time to tell through talking if I would like to take them out.
What I don't do is move it out of the app until after I have gone on a date. Here's why, I've had two dates who were crazy clingy. Once they have your # It's harder to end the ties to them. I prefer to keep the crazy in the app, it's easier to break things off and not see someone a second time if you can tell them, and then when the conversation is over simply hit block.
There have been times where I have broken my own rule due to the shitty buggy nature of the app, but after two girls who would not leave me alone I try to wait until I have gone out and want to see them again.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Why is it harder when they have your number? Don't most things let you block numbers now?
Henry, why not just block their #'s if they bring the craziness out? It's easy as pie on my iPhone and I'd imagine easy on most other devices too.
I like pulling phone #'s because
a) like you said, the app can be buggy as shit with notofications etc.
b) if they delete their account, you've lost your connection
c) if they do turn out nuts, I can just block em from my phone
I like pulling phone #'s because
a) like you said, the app can be buggy as shit with notofications etc.
b) if they delete their account, you've lost your connection
c) if they do turn out nuts, I can just block em from my phone
If I lived in LA, I'd have that shit locked down at like 10-15 miles for that very reason.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Run roh, chick I was going to meet is acting flakey. Might have to bail.
Pai Pai Master
Banned
I haven't had much luck with Tinder so far, but totally just got matched with a girl I really wanted to bang back in high school, and she wants to meet up this weekend. I'll basically be satisfied with my experience for a while if I can make it happen haha.
Yeah, I wish I lived IN LA, but driving is no issue.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Said she wanted another normal picture of me so I sent it then she said she didn't get it and got kind of bitchy over it and stuff like I was purposefully not sending her a picture or something. Just really weird exchange.
Halcyon
Member
I hope this happens for you. It is a wonderful fantasy and I would like to live vicariously through your penis.
Ummmm.....yeah, I'd probably disengage and move on from that exchange.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Yeah went super well, had a time and place and everything setup and then she asked for a pic and just snowballed into crazy exchange.
Halcyon
Member
How many of your pictures are not "normal". This is confusing to me. Are you dressed like a clown in 4/5 of them.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
I only had two up. I only said normal to clarify she wasn't asking dick pics or something. She didn't say normal.
Ehhh...
Halcyon
Member
This disappoints me. I was hoping for clown.
Well, at least it weeds out those spoken for who aren't still willing to fuck. Shitty for the BF's, of course.
BuggyDClown
Member
Haha I have mine at 5 in LA. 100 sounds nuts. 5 miles 23-27. Why would you need more than that. You can only have so many matchups anyway it just becomes excess.
Yeah but on iPhone a block doesnt stop them from leaving a voicemail or using another number. Girl was crazy.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
If they're blocked the voicemail should never reach you. And how many phone numbers can a crazy person have? Its possible but very very unlikely.
5 won't hit anything major for me. I need to set it high to hit the cities.
Scofield94941
Member
= serial killer , RUN.I'm debating reactivating my facebook and doing this. I CANNOT yell at all and bars/clubs are awful for me because of that. I was talking to this girl and trying to flirt and about 5 minutes into us talking she yells "I CANNOT HEAR A WORD YOURE SAYING"
BuggyDClown
Member
Ah i see, I'm in los feliz, so the population is more than high enough. I keep my matches below 100 to avoid tinder hoarding lol
lol, the first girl called me from 3 differnt bumbers. The second I had to block but honestly, I'd rather just not have to block someone from my phone. Just a little rule i have made for myself which has worked out well.
Can't always keep to it, girls are alot more assertive on tinder and they give me their number so I have to break said rule anyway.
Exr
Member
I'm debating reactivating my facebook and doing this. I CANNOT yell at all and bars/clubs are awful for me because of that. I was talking to this girl and trying to flirt and about 5 minutes into us talking she yells "I CANNOT HEAR A WORD YOURE SAYING"
It's such an easy, low effort way to meet people. I've been using it for about 3-4 months now and I've met a lot of different girls. Great for lazy people.
BuggyDClown
Member
richardhawk
Member
So after using tinder for about 3-4 weeks I've had around 30 or so matches. Managed to go out with 3 chicks I was actually pretty interested in only to be super let down by their personalities. I've slept with 4 different chicks and that's been fun and all but nothing that was going anywhere serious. I've realized it pretty much turns into me being really into one girl while wasting time talking to others. I'm going to keep using the app as I still find it pretty fun but it's turning into some what of a let down I think.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Most people use tinder to hookup, not to have serious relationships. I think you have different expectations than most.
Exchange with a match:
She had "Law student by day..." and nothing else on her profile.
Me: AND crime fighter by night?
Her: nope, Jedi
Me: Even better! AND I think my light saber just twitched. j/k
Her: ... ewww BLOCKED!
Me:
Her: I didn't actually block you
Me: Then I must be doing something right. Do you want to just text? here is my number:
Then she texted me.
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She wants to meet up for coffee later this week after not being able to make it out last night when I told her I was going to be out and she was welcome. She calls herself a sarcastic asshole. I say she is very fun.
She had "Law student by day..." and nothing else on her profile.
Me: AND crime fighter by night?
Her: nope, Jedi
Me: Even better! AND I think my light saber just twitched. j/k
Her: ... ewww BLOCKED!
Me:
Her: I didn't actually block you
Me: Then I must be doing something right. Do you want to just text? here is my number:
Then she texted me.
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She wants to meet up for coffee later this week after not being able to make it out last night when I told her I was going to be out and she was welcome. She calls herself a sarcastic asshole. I say she is very fun.
Possibly find the girl of your dreams or keep a security flawed version of iOS.
Not that difficult of a decision.
Keep iOS 6 silly 
Just coin-tossy I guess.
It's probably just me, but mine seem to come in waves. 16 matches and all have been in like 3 days or so. It's 0 for a week then on one day 4 or 5.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Same. Nothing for almost a week and then I got 10 today. Really hit or miss.
Matt Damon
Banned
340 matches and one successful booty call.