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[Despera]

OP is doing what needs to be done, no 2 ways about it.

A question that arises though is whether you should tell that guy's wife or not.

 

[exmachina64]

Destroy his marriage, get your ex fired. There's really no question.

OP is doing what needs to be done, no 2 ways about it.

A question that arises though is whether you should tell that guy's wife or not.

She deserves to know her husband's cheating on her. What she does afterward is her decision.

 

[Saganator]

Scorched earth policy for this one. They'll have plenty of time to spend together once the dude is divorced from his wife and your ex losses her job.

 

[CrankyJay]

OP is doing what needs to be done, no 2 ways about it.

A question that arises though is whether you should tell that guy's wife or not.

Chances are the guy will cheat on his wife with someone else anyway.

 

[Diablos]

The Internet/how communication has evolved and its ability to grant one the immediacy to establish intimate, intellectual sexually-charged flings with other individuals really seems to be complicating relationships around the world.

 

[GifGafIsTheBestGaf]

great job op, though you should find a more sure way to tell the wife. what if the dude reads his wife's facebook?

 

[ChubbyHuggs]

Subbed. I need to know the outcome of this...

Also, I am glad you dropped her. If she emotionally cheated on you and was ready to physically cheat on your, your relationship was already over.

 

[Revoh]

Oh wow. You did it. This may sound morbid but if you aren't too emotional about it, would love to see what the wife said in response and how your conversation goes with your ex.

I will. I'll report what the wife says. It might take a few days though.
As for my ex, yeah, sure. I'm thinking of just ending it quickly. I don't even want to hear that bitch.

 

[bengraven]

You need to GTFO ASAP.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Just try and stay calm OP. These people always try and shift the blame to you. Take the time to relax and confront her appropriately. Be glad you found out and can get rid of this person. Good luck.

 

[kame-sennin]

Revenge is underrated. Crush them.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

I already deleted and blocked her on everything. Yeah, I'm going to tell her exactly that when I see her later today. Dead.


I have the logs on my Google Drive. Yeah, I'm thinking the best way to confront her. I want to make her suffer.


She told me her hotmail password once when I signed up to Netflix with her email address, I need to access her email to verify the Netflix account so, there you go.


I have the balls to do break it.
I just don't enjoy, or better said, I don't enjoy being "free". I enjoy spending time with her. But I'll find something to do.

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

The anticipation...

 

[B.O.O.M]

Gawd damn man..I really truly am sorry to hear what you're going through. It was my Birthday yesterday and the girl I loved ended everything because her dad was emotionally blackmailing her (our families have a bit of a history)....in a way it made me feel extremely shitty...but on the other hand I'm glad that it ended one way or the other, You will be fine too hehe You;re doing all the right things too. Good job

 

[Joel Was Right]

Hi, I'll try to make this quick. Sorry if my english isn't very good, it's not my first language.
I'm in a 10 month relationship with this girl who is incredible in several ways but at the same time poisons me a lot.

She started working at a new job 4 months ago in a new field for her, so she is always excited talking about the things she learns every day and so on, but something clicked when she started talking about a guy she works with (The guy has one brother who also works with him). The dude is on another country, is married and have a kid. He and her brother travels to my country for work related things a few times a year. Anyway, I made the mistake of looking at their Skype conversation once when she first started the job and they talked all day non-stop. That made me paranoid because they had conversations about a lot of things which I don't talk with her on that level, you know? They just clicked.
So no biggie I say. But a few weeks later I notice they started talking on FB, Twitter, Whatsapp, pretty much everywhere. I never said anything to her but I noticed she was more possesive of her cellphone, she even changed her lock pattern (which I didn't knew) to a pin code and obviously that triggered something in me. What is she hiding? She knows I don't fuck around with other girls, I've told her several times my iPhone code and she can look at it whenever she wants.
I could sense she was hiding something.
At this point I let things be. That was 3 months ago.

Yesterday I had such a bad day, a lady crashed my car, my friend's dad passed away, I had several hardware issues on my servers. I was feeling so fucking down and thinking about her and that dude talking non-stop while I'm going through all of this and it was like I was trying to find something that could send me over the edge.
And I did.
I know it's fucked up but when you "sense" it, is it wrong to do what I did?
I looked at her Skype conversation with that guy of the entire month of December, which was probably our best month together, several trips, awesome moments, and so on.
To sum it up: I couldn't believe what I read. It was like watching the most fucked up porno movie in text form for an entire month. And I saw videos, pictures, voice messages, too.
The guy had to come for work 2 weeks ago and they were planning to fuck, in the end, the guy didn't come but her brother did, and he brought her a present from the guy. It was so fucking hurtful to read how a fucking scarf made her feel and when I planned a trip for her, made dinner reservations under the fucking full moon on the Iguazu Falls she didn't have that reaction.
I'm just torn to pieces, I want to confront her today and end this shit. I'm fueled with rage. I could destroy that guy's marriage. I could make her lose her fucking job, too. Fuck
I just needed to vent, GAF.
I don't know what to do.
I could never trust her again.

Do it

 

[Always-honest]

Just try and stay calm OP. These people always try and shift the blame to you. Take the time to relax and confront her appropriately. Be glad you found out and can get rid of this person. Good luck.

Yes, this would be my advice too. You'll need to settle some stuff with her and it's best to take care of all that stuff and move on. These wars can last faar longer than a nice clean breakup.

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

I will. I'll report what the wife says. It might take a few days though.
As for my ex, yeah, sure. I'm thinking of just ending it quickly. I don't even want to hear that bitch.

Like I said before if she's not your FB friend the message may go to her others box with no notification. So if you don't add and resend the message she may never know.

 

[kame-sennin]

I gotta say re-reading the story. This is much worse than if she just hooked up with some random guy after a night of drinking. At least that has some semblance of being a mistake.

This was out-right cheating. This was thought out. If it's been 4 weeks of this, that's all the time where she was thinking "I'm cheating on you" and didn't care.

Yup. It was meticulous, calculated, and callous. She had hundreds of opportunities to do the right thing and she chose not to every single time. Sexual attraction is fine. Falling for someone emotionally can happen very suddenly. And even a drunken fuck can be forgiven. But making plans to cheat and carrying out a long term emotional relationship is malice aforethought - simply unacceptable.

 

[thenexus6]

Guy is an asshole, and his wife should know what he's been doing. But it's hard as you mentioned they have a kid..

 

[sleverfunk]

Better if you break it up first. No matter how you look at it the relationship is now poisoned with her infidelity. Even if youfix this, the thought that she cheated on you will just eat you.

 

[pa22word]

Good job on burning her ass. Hope you go through with telling the wife. Fuck the "not your business" crowd. Dude made it his business when he made plans to do an end around on OP and fuck his girlfriend.

Cross the Rubicon, drop the nuke, then napalm the bridge on your way back to Gaul. Depending on your personality type, now might be the time to invest in some cheap popcorn and a lawnchair.

Guy is an asshole, and his wife should know what he's been doing. But it's hard as you mentioned they have a kid..

In these types of scenarios, the guy is rarely a single timer. He's probably a cheater who does it constantly and has done it constantly for years. Better to rip off the bandaid now then wait for it to come out and fuck up the kid's life later, because as always in these types of situations, it always does.

 

[Loofy]

Break up with her, but lie and say its because youve been cheating on her.

 

[kewlmyc]

Dump her. Cheating is unforgivable. Shame on that man for cheating on his wife too, that's even worse.

 

[Revoh]

Like I said before if she's not your FB friend the message may go to her others box with no notification. So if you don't add and resend the message she may never know.

Yeah, I sent her a friend request. I'll try to find out her email address. A little Google-fu gave me her office number. If she doesn't respond by Monday I'll call her.

 

[crimzonflame]

How will you get her fired? Let us know too.

 

[SymbiantXenos]

100% tell the wife.

Give the cheating fuck a taste of his own medicine.

 

[Zukuu]

End it.

and say 'you know why'. That will teach her.

100% tell the wife.

Give the cheating fuck a taste of his own medicine.

You never know if he would have done it. I wouldn't want to ruin a FAMILY over 'nothing yet'.

 

[triplestation]

leave her man

i can almost guarantee she will come crying back so be prepared for that too

 

[Tertullian]

Break up with her, but lie and say its because youve been cheating on her.

wat

 

[Bboy AJ]

Yeah, I sent her a friend request. I'll try to find out her email address. A little Google-fu gave me her office number. If she doesn't respond by Monday I'll call her.

OP, please record the confrontation for us.

 

[GrayFoxPL]

I'd destroy them both.

 

[kame-sennin]

She cheated on you. He cheated on his wife. Drop a screenshot of that conversation to the wife.
Next you get her down on all fours, fuck her hard and right before you cum, you whisper the guys name in her ear. Right after you cum, tell her she has an hour to grab her stuff and GTFO forever.

This is creepy, rape-y, and wildly inappropriate.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

How will you get her fired? Let us know too.

well this only is a surefire thing if it's a boss/subordinate relationship as those for sure are outright forbidden. Coworker depends on the company. But honestly letting HR know of the scandal might be enough to get somebody there fired or under a lot of supervision.

 

[cheststrongwell]

Just break it off. Don't "destroy" anybody. From personal experience, you will regret it if you do.

 

[ThornDust]

guy is cheating
his brother gave his gift to OP's gf
... so the brother knew and he didn't do anything about it?
wtf bro

 

[entremet]

Just break it off. Don't "destroy" anybody. From personal experience, you will regret it if you do.

.

Use that energy to move on.

 

[Revoh]

How will you get her fired? Let us know too.

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

 

[Loofy]

wat

It'll be interesting to see her reaction.
It'll either be..
'How could you, after all Ive done for you' etc.
or
'Well, Ive been talking to this other guy, and we're gonna runaway together blah blah'

Either way it'll be entertaining.

 

[Howard Ballou]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

Um, yeah, this is a really bad idea. Dump her, tell the wife, but fucking with a company's business could really come back to haunt you.

 

[Whiskeymatt]

I can't wait to see what happens/what Lionel Mandrake writes about it.

 

[SmithnCo]

Just get out of there, these people might not be worth your energy.

 

[cheststrongwell]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

Go for a long jog/walk instead.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

dude. Tell the wife and then move on. As cheesy as it is to say vengeance is a poison, it will consume you. All of the rest of that shit isn't healthy

 

[Tertullian]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

Don't sacrifice the moral high ground man. Dump the girl, tell the wife, and then

Use that energy to move on.

 

[NoctisVsStar]

Do it

Spoiler

Co-Signed

 

[ThornDust]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

bad idea, man. just break all ties with her.

 

[GifGafIsTheBestGaf]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

dont do that man, i think telling her you are done with her with no explanation whatsoever and telling the wife about it is enough retribution. unless you really want go ballsdeep on this but doing what you are saying about her job could actually get you in some trouble with the company

 

[cm osi]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

...dump her and give info to the guy's wife. it's probably better if you stop there, you may get sued if you cause her economical damage.
don't let the rage cloud your judgement

 

[HarryDemeanor]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

End it with her but for the love of god don't do that.

 

[alatif113]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

Tell the wife. Don't do this.

 

[AlexMogil]

She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.

You're handling this pretty well, don't do this.