Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me

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Too late now, but I wouldn't have told the wife. That makes her dump him, and he can take solace in his new girlfriend's legs. As soon as you break up, let him know you've done so and he can choose his wife or the ex, and if he chooses your girl you'll let the wife know. He will choose the wife. Your ex is left in the cold, with no one to comfort her.
 
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I would have thought you would make a post on the social media saying "I (name) planned to have an affair with my married coworker(name)" with screenshots of the proof.
 
Ok, this is what I said to the wife, Google Translate version:
Good Wife, que tal?
We do not know, my name is and I am from GAF Revoh.
I'd like to talk about a subject they are having your husband and my girlfriend.
When you can please you me you return.
Look, I put myself in your position and I really do not like to NOT know what happens. It's not fair to us.
I tell her husband Guy has a sentimental relationship with my girlfriend (now ex) of (my country).
They speak for Skype, FB, Whatsapp, every day during office hours and outside. They have been doing for months. Photos, videos, voice memos are sent. Complete.
If you manage the logs show you're going to see that I'm not lying, that's if your husband does not delete the logs on your PC / Cel but do not worry, I have the logs and I'm going to send.
So I could still read no way to physically but that's only because guy could not come a couple of weeks ago the country, came his brother. In the logs you will read that clearly both have the intention of having sex.
Just you return me I pass the link to a folder with logs from last week.
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Original text without names and shit:
Buenas *esposa*, que tal?
No nos conocemos, me llamo Revoh y soy de *GAF*.
Me gustaría hablarle sobre un tema que están teniendo tu marido y mi novia.
Cuando puedas por favor me retornas.

Mira, yo me pongo en tu posición y la verdad que no me gustaria NO saber lo que pasa. No es justo para nosotros dos.
Le cuento que su marido *guy* tiene una relacion sentimental con mi novia (ahora ex) de
*mi pais*.
Ellos hablan por Skype, FB, Whatsapp, todos los dias en horario de oficina y fuera del mismo. Lo vienen haciendo hace meses. Se envían fotos, videos, notas de voz. Completo.
Si logras que el te muestre los logs vas a ver que no te miento, eso es si tu marido no borro los logs de su PC/Cel pero no te preocupes, yo tengo los logs y te los voy a enviar.
Por lo que pude leer todavía no paso a lo físico pero eso es solamente porque *guy* no pudo venir hace un par de semanas al país, vino su hermano *guy's brother*. En los logs vas a leer que claramente ambos tienen la intención de tener sexo.
Apenas me retornes yo te paso el link con una carpeta con los logs de la semana pasada.
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Bandit1 said:
Message the guy through her account and tell him that you're the boyfriend and you know he has a wife and a kid and that this is just a warning, but it would be wise of him to tread lightly. And he should think very deeply about his family and if he wants to keep them he won't risk having an affair again.
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No, the guy had it coming.

Then take the girlfriend out for a nice dinner and after you order just sit there and stare at her and start quoting their conversations. Keep going till the food gets there and then enjoy your meal.
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Now that's an idea. OP, if there is a photo of that scarf, buy exactly such a scarf. Take your gf out for dinner and give her the scarf as present in a nice little box. And after that enjoy your meal.

If she is at work or something grab all her things, put them in a box and put it in front of your door. And replace the locks. That will be a nice surprise after the dinner.
 
adamsappel said:
Too late now, but I wouldn't have told the wife. That makes her dump him, and he can take solace in his new girlfriend's legs. As soon as you break up, let him know you've done so and he can choose his wife or the ex, and if he chooses your girl you'll let the wife know. He will choose the wife. Your ex is left in the cold, with no one to comfort her.
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How is OP supposed to verify that the cheating has stopped? This is a bit flawed.
 
Ninja Scooter said:
Just break up with her and move on. All this talk of revenge plots and trying to tell his wife will just involve you in a bigger mess and make you seem like a bitter tool. Move on and do better. Leave all that sh*t behind.
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Telling the wife doesn't make him a tool. Comes with the risk.

If you're going to play a man game, you have to pay a man's price.
 
wickfut said:
How is it? They haven't yet fucked, they've just swapped flirty emails and chat.

The options are..

a: Be known as the guy who turned into a little bitch and wrecked everything because he snooped about and discovered his 10 month relationship was with a slut who wanted to fuck another guy..

or

b: Be known as the guy who just didn't give a fuck.
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Good Job Bob said:
The only thing that would make the OP a pushover is if he stayed in the relationship.

All this extra vindictive, temper tantrum shit doesn't make you a badass.
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Hey guys, next time you want to reply, please actually read the stuff leading up to a post rather than assuming what the post means and replying as though something stupid was said.

This was all in response to a guy who basically said, just tell her you're not interested and wish her good luck.

Sorry, after all the stuff the OP described, saying something like that is basically being trampled on and wussing out. Nowhere was I agreeing with anyone or telling the OP to do vindictive shit. Actually if you look back, you know when the OP posting about knowing her password and social media shit, I was part of that unanimous group of posters to tell him not to do it.

(You can be known as a guy who didn't give a fuck and still not be a wuss about it btw)
 
Revoh said:
She uses one password for everything.
So guess what.
I know the password of the Facebook account she uses to manage Ads and shit like that for several brands.
She work as a Social Media Manager.
I could log in, delete everything, change password/email address and watch her world burn.
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except that could probably be traced to you.
 
Well, realistically, why wouldn't you tell someone's spouse in a situation like this? It seems like egregious conduct on the husband's part and directly contributed to the end of the OP's relationship.

Granted, we don't know all the details. But just think about it hypothetically. If you know for a fact the man is having an emotional affair like this, spoke about becoming physical with your girlfriend and you're now breaking up over it, why wouldn't the other man's spouse have a right to know? Why is it better to keep her in the dark? Doesn't she have a right to know? An obligation to know?

If not, why not? Serious Q.
 
On a second thought, dump her ass and find someone better who would love and respect you. This woman has no respect for you at all.
 
If you really want revenge just tell her she's a horrible person and dump her completely. No making up, no responding to calls/text messages/whatever. End it.

Don't even tell her you read the skype shit, just say that you know she was cheating on you/planning to cheat on you. If she asks for proof tell her to fuck off. You don't have to give her shit, she knows what she did.

If you give her anything, invasion of privacy or pull some crazy revenge stunt, she's going to turn you into the bad guy and probably won't be as hurt. It doesn't matter if it's justified, she'll grasp on to anything to make herself feel better.

Best "revenge" is to show her what she fucked up and let her think on it.
 
OddMorsel said:
If you ruin his marriage his poor kid is going to bear the brunt of it. It's not fair to you that you get fucked but you just have to accept that any "revenge" scenario is more harmful than is worth pursuing.
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I disagree. People need to learn that fucking with other's hearts is despicable. Both her and the married guy took part in this, both have to pay the price.
 
Pretty clear from the scarf line that she really connected with this guy, and wants him to do any and everything to her. Spit ether at her, cut her completely loose. However, nuking the guy's marriage and ultimately affecting the kid should be a no go. Who knows how that might affect the wife? The child? All because you're hurt? If he's serious and does this regularly, he'll tell the wife himself or get caught. Just remove yourself from the equation.

As someone else mentioned, your first instincts three months ago should have been a frank discussion, and under that pressure and reality she may have snapped out of the fantasy, or you could already be broken up and you wouldn't have had to know just how intimate she was prepared to be with a man she really wanted.

If there's any solace to be had, imagine for a moment that this guy has no intention of leaving his family, most don't. She'll lay lonely in bed still texting him, holding onto the thought that he'll get serious about her (most likely not). She'll grow more lonely, until she's under another man just to feel something, anything. She's not your problem anymore.
 
Good job OP. If only I would have had that chance... And tell the truth to the guys wife, she deserves to know
 
Eddz said:
How is OP supposed to verify that the cheating has stopped? This is a bit flawed.
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All telling the wife does is ensure that the guy starts something new with the ex. You never actually have to contact the wife (though you still can at some point; what, he's gonna complain you didn't play by the rules?). I can almost guarantee the guy will choose his wife and kid when confronted cold like that, particularly in a long-distance affair. The girlfriend is now alone and it was for nothing. Maybe the ex contacts the wife vindictively herself.
 
what if this guy has an abusive hold over his wife and receiving this message sends her over the edge

just saying you dont know the whole story of these other unrelated people
 
Gamerloid said:
Just for future reference, how should you respond when they first start mentioning some guy they recently met in a positive light? How do you go about it without coming off as jealous or paranoid?
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Tell her, "wow, he does sound like a great guy". And then break up with her.
 
adamsappel said:
All telling the wife does is ensure that the guy starts something new with the ex. You never actually have to contact the wife (though you still can at some point; what, he's gonna complain you didn't play by the rules?). I can almost guarantee the guy will choose his wife and kid when confronted cold like that, particularly in a long-distance affair. The girlfriend is now alone and it was for nothing. Maybe the ex contacts the wife vindictively herself.
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Yes, but OP is out of the picture. The cheating husband can say "I chose the wife" and continue his affair with OP's ex without OP ever finding out.

Cheating husband wins.
 
Good lord, OP, just dump her and leave. The more people you get involved in this, the more unintended consequences you will deal with. What if the cheating guy decides he wants a piece of you for "ending" his marriage?

"They have to pay for their crimes!"

They don't. Give. A. Fuck. They know what they're doing is wrong. They don't care. You think wrecking your (soon to be) ex's life is going to make her go, oh wow, I am such a shitty person, I sure learned my lesson! No, she's going to think, this guy is an asshole, I was right for cheating on him.

Leave them both to their shitty lives.
 
End it with her and let her know, tell the wife, provide evidence.

End all contact. Don't get more involved but the wife should know. Fuck that guy.
 
I'd smash one more time. When we're done I'd reveal the texts and everything I know, then tell her to get the fuck out.

I'd be spiteful as fuck, you are better than I
 
Sevarus said:
Good lord, OP, just dump her and leave. The more people you get involved in this, the more unintended consequences you will deal with. What if the cheating guy decides he wants a piece of you for "ending" his marriage?

"They have to pay for their crimes!"

They don't. Give. A. Fuck. They know what they're doing is wrong. They don't care. You think wrecking your (soon to be) ex's life is going to make her go, oh wow, I am such a shitty person, I sure learned my lesson! No, she's going to think, this guy is an asshole, I was right for cheating on him.

Leave them both to their shitty lives.
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I'm gonna say none of this is about teaching lessons, or saving a kid from a shitty marriage. It's really about revenge and finding a way to justify that, through the above.
 
Revoh said:
Ok, this is what I said to the wife, Google Translate version:

Good Wife, que tal?
We do not know, my name is and I am from GAF Revoh.
I'd like to talk about a subject they are having your husband and my girlfriend.
When you can please you me you return.
Look, I put myself in your position and I really do not like to NOT know what happens. It's not fair to us.
I tell her husband Guy has a sentimental relationship with my girlfriend (now ex) of (my country).
They speak for Skype, FB, Whatsapp, every day during office hours and outside. They have been doing for months. Photos, videos, voice memos are sent. Complete.
If you manage the logs show you're going to see that I'm not lying, that's if your husband does not delete the logs on your PC / Cel but do not worry, I have the logs and I'm going to send.
So I could still read no way to physically but that's only because guy could not come a couple of weeks ago the country, came his brother. In the logs you will read that clearly both have the intention of having sex.
Just you return me I pass the link to a folder with logs from last week.
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Original text without names and shit:

Buenas *esposa*, que tal?
No nos conocemos, me llamo Revoh y soy de *GAF*.
Me gustaría hablarle sobre un tema que están teniendo tu marido y mi novia.
Cuando puedas por favor me retornas.

Mira, yo me pongo en tu posición y la verdad que no me gustaria NO saber lo que pasa. No es justo para nosotros dos.
Le cuento que su marido *guy* tiene una relacion sentimental con mi novia (ahora ex) de
*mi pais*.
Ellos hablan por Skype, FB, Whatsapp, todos los dias en horario de oficina y fuera del mismo. Lo vienen haciendo hace meses. Se envían fotos, videos, notas de voz. Completo.
Si logras que el te muestre los logs vas a ver que no te miento, eso es si tu marido no borro los logs de su PC/Cel pero no te preocupes, yo tengo los logs y te los voy a enviar.
Por lo que pude leer todavía no paso a lo físico pero eso es solamente porque *guy* no pudo venir hace un par de semanas al país, vino su hermano *guy's brother*. En los logs vas a leer que claramente ambos tienen la intención de tener sexo.
Apenas me retornes yo te paso el link con una carpeta con los logs de la semana pasada.
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Delivery, is this delivery?
 
So are the people who didn't want him to contact the wife, saying they wouldn't want someone to tell them if they were being cheated on?
 
Dram said:
So are the people who didn't want him to contact the wife, saying they wouldn't want someone to tell them if they were being cheated on?
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These people want to have it both ways I reckon. It is obviously easier on you to not have to tell the wife, but if you were in said situation, you would generally want to know, so it's easier on you in the long term and you don't waste time in a shitty relationship. It's just a bit greedy in terms of thinking.
 
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