You're inserting a lot of editorializing there, which in my opinion is a good thing, because modern Christianity can do a post-modernist recontextualizing to squeeze in modern sensibilities into the ancient dogma. However, from a literalist perspective, this is not written in the book, and there are multiple instances of contradictions and God committing or commanding what we in the modern era would consider to be bad behavior.
As a student of literature, I get it. It's fine. It's par for the course, really. Welcome to the club, even. But I can see where this is a problem for believers who have faith that this is all actually true.
You're right that this isn't a Bible study thread, and I don't intend to make this one. Perhaps someone else can make that thread.