How did the 'dark' date go?
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How did the 'dark' date go?
efyu_lemonardo
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eternal damnation
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the problem is i like this girl so much, and i feel trapped because she ignores me when there's people around.
I tried to date other girls but its just impossible because immediately i think about her.
efyu_lemonardo
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The trap is in your head unfortunately. From the information you provided it seems she doesn't feel the same way about you, which sucks big time but not much you can do about it. The difficult part is cutting off contact, focusing on yourself, meeting friends and family etc. until you're ready to move on.
We've all been there and at times it can feel like the most difficult thing in the world but once you're able to get out of this state of mind you learn how not to fall into it again.
names2hard4you
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That was it, I let her go take her meds and I went my way. The girl was literally turning all red with the allergic reaction lol
Ray Wonder
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Yeaaah, she's pregnant. She's still not sure about keeping it though. I told her that it's up to her, but if she does keep it I'll be there for her. Hopefully this could just work out? Does that happen? Everything up to the past 3 days was amazing. Couldn't get enough of seeing each other. Maybe that'll continue? She got over the fact that I'm an atheist I guesss. With this news and everything.
Flee the country.
I honestly didn't plan on dating this many girls at once, it just sort of happened...
That said I'm only going to see 3 (or at most 4) of them next week, with more the following week.
I'm not looking to settle down just yet, but I'll see what happens. I know one of the girls will likely only want something casual (she's only here for 2 months), so it'll be interesting to see how that goes.
This.
Ray Wonder
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efyu_lemonardo
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What the hell Ray?
Yes it could possibly work but it'll be very complicated i.e. not how it is in the movies.
Yes it could possibly work but it'll be very complicated i.e. not how it is in the movies.
Messofanego
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efyu_lemonardo
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Ain't got no time for no Zelda! You're a parent now!
Messofanego
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Wait really? You are ok with becoming a daddy? Don't know how her Catholic family will take an atheist...
Ray Wonder
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I know that. I would be ready for that.
Fuck that, I got like 8 months even if she's keeping it before I'm a parent. haha
What choice would I have, ultimately it's up to her. And yeah I know, I would just pretend to be religious around her family I guess. And not get too drunk and start talking about that shit at family parties.
efyu_lemonardo
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I don't mean to come off as patronizing, it feels like you're rather at ease with this decision and that could either be a good or a bad sign. Just making sure it's the former, for your own good.
Messofanego
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What happens one day if you accidentally blurt out "Religion is a disease. Hail Richard Dawkins!" ?
efyu_lemonardo
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LOL sent her the link, see how she reacts
By the way there was another promo video for a different reality series called Dating Naked.
What the hell people?
always crazy bacon
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Your infatuated and overinvested in this girl. Sooner you stop making her into "the one" the sooner you'll see that there are many other girls just as good that will actually like you back. Cut contact with this girl, she'll never date you and following her around like a lovesick puppy waiting for an attention treat from her is not healthy.
Ray Wonder
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Despite how goofy and immature I may seem on here, I'm a responsible guy. Sans not using a condom with this girl. That was bad on me.
They'll probably all hold me down and sprinkle holy water on my forehead like my aunt did on my 21st birthday.
She whipped out a holy flask, sprinkled some on her thumb and rafiki'd me
efyu_lemonardo
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In that case you have my deepest respect man, this is no easy decision and I'd probably be freaking out in the same position.
Ultramantaro1
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How old are you Ray? I can't imagine being forced to be a dad, especially after the relationship with the girl has already ended. I'm guessing because if her views, she will carry it to term no matter what.
Ray Wonder
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Hey man, thank you. I am freaking out by the way. lol
I'm 27, which I think is a good age for it.
The relationship isn't over as of now. We've been just like before tbh.
Messofanego
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You're a braver man than I, if you carry through with this baby daddy business. Best of wishes.
Ray Wonder
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Yeeah. I'm sure it'll hit me harder than it has now, but I was just on Pinterest looking up Steelers baby onsies because it's therapeutic.
TheOfficeMut
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lol No she didn't. She just doesn't want to stress herself out more than she probably already is by reminding herself that you're a filthy atheist. In due time, depending on how religious she is, that will rear its head more and more.
Ray Wonder
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Tbh I think it mostly has to do with her family and her being judged by them. She hasn't said that, but what kind of Catholic doesn't go to church at all and seriously considers abortion? I met her parents and they're awesome btw. They both think I'm great.
She may have gotten over it. Maybe she isn't so religious herself. I'm not sure about the Catholic stance on premarital sex. She could just be religious by label or only cares cause of her family. Or maybe she decided it's good he isn't at least agnostic. Idk. Who knows really. I gotta agree that it could be something that comes back probably cause of her family or deciding how to raise the baby or etc.
And congrats, Ray. You're handling this pretty well it seems
Edit: ah Ray touched on the points like two posts up
efyu_lemonardo
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I agree with this unfortunately. The atheism issue is just on the back burner for now.
Edit: missed your post Ray. I really do want it to all work out for you two as easily as possible, just a bit of a pessimist in these situations.
Messofanego
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efyu_lemonardo
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And when the time is right...
That's some excellent Photoshop replacing Iwata, Balmer, Pachter etc
EchoChamber
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Run away ray...
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Not gonna lie, this post was hilarious.
Advocatus Diaboli
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This is gonna play out where you want the kid and she doesn't, isn't it...
Pasta_Soup
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There's no way for any of us to know exactly why she lost interest, but my future advice to you, based on your previous posts, would be to make a move next time you're on a date.
Even if their friend tells you "they like making the first move". Forget that. Show her you're into her romantically without waiting around. If you aren't used to doing this, it's going to be a bit nerve wracking. But it shows your confidence and interest in her romantically/sexually, and that's attractive.
If you don't know exactly how to go about it, start with small stuff. Grab her hand while you're walking next to her. Put your arm around her while watching a movie. Go for a kiss during or after a date when you're feeling it. Worst case scenario: she says she isn't ready, or you learn that she isn't interested.
Glad you feel like you gained some dating experience. Carry that newly found confidence into the next date!
ZackieChan
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I had as much luck in Tokyo just chatting up girls at Hub locations as I did on any apps. Neither were great for me, tbh - that's just not my country.
Why are you so hung up on a girl that treats you like shit? Have some self respect, my friend.
efyu_lemonardo
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Paper airplane
Count Dookkake
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"Are you a book? Because I'm checking you out."
Don't do this.
Don't do this.
efyu_lemonardo
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Must be a year overdue cause baby you fine!
My brothers advice was:
" Hey baby, them books be looking fine "
Ray Wonder
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I'm the master of my brain haha, I can stop a panic attack with a headshake and a deep breath. I used to have them all the time.
Start releasing albums during that time and come back from the dead.
Naah, it's my fault. I'll take care of my responsibility.
awe thanks
It might, I have too big of a heart and I'm already kinda excited.
Will do, but she's basically been with me everyday-everyotherday, and she texts me basically all the time otherwise. I doubt it's not mine.
And that's good. But knowing someone for only a month is not enough to trust their word that will affect you for the next 18+ years.
This shouldn't be a factor at all. There is contraception, and if you are particularly paranoid, there is double contraception.
Ray Wonder
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Thanks, I'll do my best!
And ya, it was always in the back of my head.
That's true, that's why I agreed and didn't say that I knew for sure. Definitely will get one.
efyu_lemonardo
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Yeah... this makes me really leery of what I did last month. Fortunately, no issues there, even though we were exclusive.
But he's right: always use two condoms!
Just one of the reasons haha. Besides, y'all know I'm crazy, soooo.
And double wouldn't be enough lol.
Good! It makes me glad that there are people like you out there who will step up!
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