Seriously, keep it to 1 year max. /sFfs people, don't lust after your pretend "best friend" for years on end.
Seriously, keep it to 1 year max. /sFfs people, don't lust after your pretend "best friend" for years on end.
I ain't saying go out and get tattooed, but damn it's crazy the amount of matches I've gotten on Tinder after taking some decent pics where you can see my arm tattoos.
I'm reaching the point I was at last fall with just too many matches with reasonably interesting women that I'm trying to schedule dates with, while also trying to keep things going to second and third dates with more of the women that I've already met. It can be really time consuming and distracting to keep up with so many matches/conversations, and hard to schedule when I'm gone every other weekend and have assorted weeknight commitments.
It's a good problem to have, but I feel like I should be having more emotional connections than I am.
Yeah, I've reached this problem too. I'm at a point where I'm talking too and dating 3 women on a regular basis and even that is pretty exhausting for me. I haven't swiped Tinder or Bumble in a while and honestly its actually a pretty good feeling.
Wow, that sucks. Glad you're taking it on the chin and getting back on the saddle.Girl (from Instagram) brought up the exclusivity talk a few days ago, and we got into a relationship.
I was happy because that's what I also wanted, then I deleted Tinder, etc.
Today she texted me, cancelled all our weekend plans and said that she wants to talk.
Of course I already knew what's up, I went to her place, she said that she doesn't feel it and we... broke up.
I'm a bit sad as I did like her, but more like WTF just happened.
Already back into the game, but strange.
Girl (from Instagram) brought up the exclusivity talk a few days ago, and we got into a relationship.
I was happy because that's what I also wanted, then I deleted Tinder, etc.
Today she texted me, cancelled all our weekend plans and said that she wants to talk.
Of course I already knew what's up, I went to her place, she said that she doesn't feel it and we... broke up.
I'm a bit sad as I did like her, but more like WTF just happened.
Already back into the game, but strange.
old flame came into picture and you were the back-up all along. That's what my imaginary PhD in psychology tells me. Shame that it happened famo but it seems like you pull as much as Harvey from Suits, so I have faith in you.Girl (from Instagram) brought up the exclusivity talk a few days ago, and we got into a relationship.
I was happy because that's what I also wanted, then I deleted Tinder, etc.
Today she texted me, cancelled all our weekend plans and said that she wants to talk.
Of course I already knew what's up, I went to her place, she said that she doesn't feel it and we... broke up.
I'm a bit sad as I did like her, but more like WTF just happened.
Already back into the game, but strange.
So she went from initiating the relationship talk to deciding not to be in one in a matter of days?
That is odd. Any idea what changed. It just strikes me as odd that she wanted to commit but then changed her mind. I wonder what happened.
Wow, that sucks. Glad you're taking it on the chin and getting back on the saddle.
Sounds like she's not worth worrying about to be honest. She's fickle and you deserve someone solid.
old flame came into picture and you were the back-up all along. That's what my imaginary PhD in psychology tells me. Shame that it happened famo but it seems like you pull as much as Harvey from Suits, so I have faith in you.
Yeah, and she even said that she's looking for something serious. As for the reason, she said stone cold that she didn't really like me that much.
Okay long story, I'll try to keep it short. So I live in Colorado Springs and I met this girl from New York at the top of the incline while she was visiting Colorado Springs alone. We just started talking about traveling and what not and eventually asked if she wanted to come hang out in the town. At the time I was with my friend and his wife who were both from out of state too, so I was showing them around as well. Well all hung out the rest of the night in town and I got her number. She told me she was in town for the next few days, so I messaged her later that night asking if she wanted to go on a hike or something and hang out the next day and she said sure. So we hung out a little that day before going to work and had a good time, and then I asked her if she wanted to hang out again the next day and she said yes. That day we hung out all day and things went really well. I dropped her off at her hotel and we said goodbye because she was leaving the next morning, and there was lingering. I wasn't sure about kissing her because of the whole New York thing so we hugged and it was very drawn out, and then hugged again lol.
Since then we have been talking every day through text and things were really good. So I bought a plane ticket to New York to go visit New York and see her as well. She offered to let me stay at her place and I of course said yes. So everything was fine until like a week ago and my flight is on the 15th of this month. She started giving really short replies to stuff, long times to reply, and texted "Hey so I have some plans popping up during your visit. I hope you don't mind doing some things solo (the city is a good place for solo stuff though *smiley face)" which is completely understandable. But this mixed with just a general change in tone overall is weird. I like this girl and just want to have a fun time in New York and if anything happens then awesome. I just feel like something changed this past week and don't want to be a bother for her and am considering asking her if everything is alright and ask if I should just get a hotel instead of staying with her. I don't know if I really explained the whole situation well enough, but you guys can get an idea.
I have done that before. It sucks but it was the honest truth and I wasn't going to lie as I felt that would just be an insult to them.Fucking brutal. That sucks. I've often felt that way about people, but straight up saying it to the person?
I have done that before. It sucks but it was the honest truth and I wasn't going to lie as I felt that would just be an insult to them.
Fuck those dudes dogging the guy who is taking a girl on a date to a farmers market. I like that idea.
I'm gonna be honest and say I'm still uneasy about my hobbies. Like guys, she said she's never even played Mario Kart. I can gel with that, if the girl was at least casually interested in trying video games once in awhile, and I've brought it up as something to do and kind of tried to drop hints, but I'm getting flashbacks to my previous relationship where I just felt deeply insecure about bringing up gaming stuff. I'd work up the courage to play some games with her and I'd swear it was fun but then she'd never bring it up again. Just not a great dynamic, I want to feel like I'm not completely forcing it.
Show her how far gaming has come since Super Mario World.
(Not very far).
Seriously though - don't even worry about it. Enjoy the things you enjoy, she enjoys the things that she enjoys, life marches on. Don't be insecure, it's really not a big deal.
So been on 3 dates and everytime I'm like "man that was solid" and it's been friskier each time, but I come away being kind of unsure. She actually just texted me that she has "fundamental questions" next time we meet, which I'm going to assume is relationship stuff.
I'm down, I'm more into steady relationships than the stress of dating around, but I'm gonna be honest and say I'm still uneasy about my hobbies. Like guys, she said she's never even played Mario Kart. I can gel with that, if the girl was at least casually interested in trying video games once in awhile, and I've brought it up as something to do and kind of tried to drop hints, but I'm getting flashbacks to my previous relationship where I just felt deeply insecure about bringing up gaming stuff. I'd work up the courage to play some games with her and I'd swear it was fun but then she'd never bring it up again. Just not a great dynamic, I want to feel like I'm not completely forcing it.
Anyway, I realize this sounds extremely like wanting to show her how far gaming has come since Super Mario Bros., but I'm not really into this for the hookup. I'm less awkward about it now but I'm still uneasy that she's not really giving me a hand here, kind of shrugging it off. I just really like casual multiplayer video games, but obviously I don't make that an important dealbreaker until it gets to like, this point.
Do I sound crazy and lame? Not writing it off yet because haven't really confronted it yet, but I dunno, not sure if I have bad perspective here. I'd think people here would be thinking of their hobbies with dating, right?
Fuck those dudes dogging the guy who is taking a girl on a date to a farmers market. I like that idea.
Yeah but like, I'm deeply into local multiplayer games specifically so I just innately have this awkward compulsion to make it a social thing with anyone. Hard to just ignore it in a relationship.
It's also like, divorced from it being video games, it'd be nice to have a partner who actually notes the things you like and tries to get into that, even a little bit.
Take confidence in your hobbies, but don't be your hobbies. I've noticed nerds/gamers have such a hard time because we build up so much of identity around around what we like. Stop doing that.
Shared interests are such a small part of a relationship. You'll find stuff to bond over. Shared experiences and what not if you have chemistry and physical attraction.
Take confidence in your hobbies, but don't be your hobbies. I've noticed nerds/gamers have such a hard time because we build up so much of identity around around what we like. Stop doing that.
Shared interests are such a small part of a relationship. You'll find stuff to bond over. Shared experiences and what not if you have chemistry and physical attraction.
I know, I'm trying. But it doesn't seem wrong to want to share what you like. It makes me comfortable, and I put in the effort for her.
Don't be afraid to share what you like, but don't be upset when it doesn't take. You can share without overwhelming them.
I love Dragon Quest. My girlfriend loves Jesus. We don't share those interests at all. You know how we bond? She reads her bible while I play my 3ds while we cuddle on each other. Well discuss other shit while this goes on. That way we both get to enjoy our own stuff while enhjoying each other's company. It's nice. Really fucking nice.
😂 it would make for a good dateGAF story though.Okay :O
You won't die.
...and we won't actually do this. Lol.
😂 it would make for a good dateGAF story though.
I'm on my own tonight.
Guess I'm posting on GAF.
ftfy
Dammit I've been made.
Dammit artsi, you've gone too far
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Dammit artsi, you've gone too far
https://www.yahoo.com/gma/women-last-laugh-man-books-6-dates-1-141905120--abc-news-sex.html
Dammit artsi, you've gone too far
https://www.yahoo.com/gma/women-last-laugh-man-books-6-dates-1-141905120--abc-news-sex.html
There is gonna be a pool party in 2 weeks for the new students in my university so...this is my chance.
Dammit artsi, you've gone too far
https://www.yahoo.com/gma/women-last-laugh-man-books-6-dates-1-141905120--abc-news-sex.html
And it hurts knowing that. I'm going to miss her so much. She truly is incredible.
There was a moment of clarity today that I had that made me icredibly depressed.
I just don't think my relationship is going to work out.
It's not because we don't get along. We get along fantastically. Our personalities mesh so well and she's basically everything I've ever looked for in a partner.
But the logistics of our relationship and living situations are too fucked. I've complained about it before, but I always felt this was something that could change. Tonight I realized that it wasn't going to get better.
I don't want to have to rent a hotel just to spend the night together. That basically limits it to like twice a month and I just cant do it anymore.
Tonight I tried getting her to spend the night. She refused. I get that we can't stay at her place, but then it has to be my place. She hates coming over period bease it's just not private enough and she doesn't want to shower in my bathroom since it share it with someone.
This isn't going to change. The feeling I'm getting is that she'd never feel comfortable with coming over, no matter who my roommates are. As long as I have roommates, she won't come over. Not enough privacy.
I can't afford to live by myself.
It sucks that two people who work so well together can't work out. We are going to Boston next month. After that, I'm going to break it off. I am already emotionally preparing myself, but I know I'm going to take it hard. But I know it's the right thing to do.
And it hurts knowing that. I'm going to miss her so much. She truly is incredible.