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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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desertsession

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Had a date last night and it was awesome.

Met her for some drinks and sat outside as it was a lovely night. Was nervous beforehand but it was a breeze to chat to her and we got on really well. Moved to another pub for another drink then got a bottle of wine and went back to mine for a couple of hours.

Seeing her again Monday.
 
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Spoiled Milk

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I'll tell you all a story. In my last relationship, about a year in, I was cheated on and pretty thoroughly rocked by it. The trust went down the drain. We decided to try and make it work. It did for another year. But for whatever reason, maybe to hide my insecurity, I'd always tell her that if she was going to cheat on me again, she better be sure I don't find out about it, because it would make my life easier and I didn't want to know. When it finally fell apart again, I could have been home clear and left it all behind, but my paranoia got the best of me: I broke open her Facebook messages and found out she had been screwing my closest friend. I wish she had hid it better, and it almost worked. All that secrecy for nothing.
 
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Subpar Scrub

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The mistake was taking her back, Milk. Hope you're better now and stronger for it, bro.

The following isn't really related to dating, except in the sense that it will help me get more dates and make me happier:

I've been finding it hard to find motivation for my diet and exercise over the last month due to studying full time while also working 40 hours a week (Fucking kill me) So I just set up separate savings account to save towards some tattoos I want and some new, expensive clothes I've been looking at.

Basically, it will automatically take a pre-established portion out of my spending account every week and put it into the second saving account. The rule I made is if I reach my target weight before the account hits $1200, I can get the tattoo I want, but if I don't, it gets automatically transferred into my primary account.

Time to get to work on this meat bag, friends.
 
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Salamando

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Spoiled Milk said:
I'll tell you all a story. In my last relationship, about a year in, I was cheated on and pretty thoroughly rocked by it. The trust went down the drain. We decided to try and make it work. It did for another year. But for whatever reason, maybe to hide my insecurity, I'd always tell her that if she was going to cheat on me again, she better be sure I don't find out about it, because it would make my life easier and I didn't want to know. When it finally fell apart again, I could have been home clear and left it all behind, but my paranoia got the best of me: I broke open her Facebook messages and found out she had been screwing my closest friend. I wish she had hid it better, and it almost worked. All that secrecy for nothing.
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Statement like that, she knows you didn't forgave her. It made for a half-assed resolution. God forbid it happens again, you need to whole-ass the situation. Forgive (not forget), or end the relationship.
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The rule I made is if I reach my target weight before the account hits $1200, I can get the tattoo I want, but if I don't, it gets automatically transferred into Trump's Re-election Fund
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Fixed that for you. Now it's proper motivation.

Seriously though, one of the best tools in weight loss is meal prep. All your tests and work cease to be an excuse once you KNOW what you're eating for every meal ahead of time.
 
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Subpar Scrub

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Salamando said:
Seriously though, one of the best tools in weight loss is meal prep. All your tests and work cease to be an excuse once you KNOW what you're eating for every meal ahead of time.
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Yeah, and that's where I failed a lot. I made 12 meals today while listening to a podcast and 6 of them are in containers to take to work on monday for lunch throughout the week (I have my own section of the fridge lol). All roughly 300cal each. Also counting calories on myfitnesspal for days when I'm going out to lunch or dinner with friends and such too. Hyped!
 
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Denzar

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Not really dating related, but kinda. Here it goes. I'll keep it short. A female friend of mine is being cheated on and she's oblivious to it. Her "BF" cheated on her with 3 other female friends of mine including my ex who was romantically involved with me at the time of the cheating. He's this suave, dreamy lookin' surfer dude.
I want to tell her, but her BF is totally delusional. He doesn't realise that what he's doing is wrong. Apparently he's boasting about it to other people that don't know his GF (my friend) but those people know me and told me. Confronting him will do nothing, he'll just blame my friend(s), me and everyhting around him, but not himself.

I don't want to be part of the drama, 'cause it's none of my business and I don't want to get tangled up in it.... But, my friend guys... She deserves better.

I should tell her, right? Disregard the consequences.
 
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Llyranor

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always crazy bacon said:
Step One: Drop your internet persona.
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Step Two: Drop Persona.

Denzar said:
Not really dating related, but kinda. Here it goes. I'll keep it short. A female friend of mine is being cheated on and she's oblivious to it. Her "BF" cheated on her with 3 other female friends of mine including my ex who was romantically involved with me at the time of the cheating. He's this suave, dreamy lookin' surfer dude.
I want to tell her, but her BF is totally delusional. He doesn't realise that what he's doing is wrong. Apparently he's boasting about it to other people that don't know his GF (my friend) but those people know me and told me. Confronting him will do nothing, he'll just blame my friend(s), me and everyhting around him, but not himself.

I don't want to be part of the drama, 'cause it's none of my business and I don't want to get tangled up in it.... But, my friend guys... She deserves better.

I should tell her, right? Disregard the consequences.
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It's not even 'none of your business'. Your ex cheated on you with him while you were still involved. Also, she's supposedly your friend.
 
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Denzar

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Llyranor said:
Step Two: Drop Persona.



It's not even 'none of your business'. Your ex cheated on you with him while you were still involved. Also, she's supposedly your friend.
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Hah, good point. She's an ex though, so that doesn't matter anymore. Just looking for a little confirmation to push me over the edge, I guess.
 
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Starlightmuse

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Denzar said:
Not really dating related, but kinda. Here it goes. I'll keep it short. A female friend of mine is being cheated on and she's oblivious to it. Her "BF" cheated on her with 3 other female friends of mine including my ex who was romantically involved with me at the time of the cheating. He's this suave, dreamy lookin' surfer dude.
I want to tell her, but her BF is totally delusional. He doesn't realise that what he's doing is wrong. Apparently he's boasting about it to other people that don't know his GF (my friend) but those people know me and told me. Confronting him will do nothing, he'll just blame my friend(s), me and everyhting around him, but not himself.

I don't want to be part of the drama, 'cause it's none of my business and I don't want to get tangled up in it.... But, my friend guys... She deserves better.

I should tell her, right? Disregard the consequences.
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I mean, I understand you don't want to get in any drama, but If I were you, knowing that that asshole fucked my ex-gf while we were dating, I would totally tell her just for the sake of fuck him, even more if you say she's your friend. I wouldn't even care if he gets mad or something, he's the asshole cheater, If I knew about some of my friends being cheated and I had evidence to prove it, I'd totally tell them, as I'd like them to tell me if I were the one being cheated.

Also you guys are completely monsters for hating Persona.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Spoiled Milk said:
I'll tell you all a story. In my last relationship, about a year in, I was cheated on and pretty thoroughly rocked by it. The trust went down the drain. We decided to try and make it work. It did for another year. But for whatever reason, maybe to hide my insecurity, I'd always tell her that if she was going to cheat on me again, she better be sure I don't find out about it, because it would make my life easier and I didn't want to know. When it finally fell apart again, I could have been home clear and left it all behind, but my paranoia got the best of me: I broke open her Facebook messages and found out she had been screwing my closest friend. I wish she had hid it better, and it almost worked. All that secrecy for nothing.
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That sucks man. It always hurts so much more when its with a friend and not some rando. I definitely have trust issues ever since that happened to me.
 
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Megalosaro

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Starlightmuse said:
I mean, I understand you don't want to get in any drama, but If I were you, knowing that that asshole fucked my ex-gf while we were dating, I would totally tell her just for the sake of fuck him, even more if you say she's your friend. I wouldn't even care if he gets mad or something, he's the asshole cheater, If I knew about some of my friends being cheated and I had evidence to prove it, I'd totally tell them, as I'd like them to tell me if I were the one being cheated.

Also you guys are completely monsters for hating Persona.
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I don't hate Persona. I just found 3 pretty boring. The characters and story were cool, but the game play was Burn my Dread was pretty rad though
 
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Sayers

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Alright guys, hope this isn't a stupid question but here goes: I matched with a cute girl on a dating app and I was trying to come up with a clever opening line to start a conversation. I was looking at her pics and she has one of her kissing a dolphin on the nose. I thought about starting with something along the lines of "Does the dolphin know you are on this app/about us?" What do you guys think? Clever? Creepy? Stupid? Overthinking it?
 
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Hrothgar

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Sayers said:
Alright guys, hope this isn't a stupid question but here goes: I matched with a cute girl on a dating app and I was trying to come up with a clever opening line to start a conversation. I was looking at her pics and she has one of her kissing a dolphin on the nose. I thought about starting with something along the lines of "Does the dolphin know you are on this app/about us?" What do you guys think? Clever? Creepy? Stupid? Overthinking it?
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Overthinking it for sure.
 
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Alpende

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Sayers said:
Alright guys, hope this isn't a stupid question but here goes: I matched with a cute girl on a dating app and I was trying to come up with a clever opening line to start a conversation. I was looking at her pics and she has one of her kissing a dolphin on the nose. I thought about starting with something along the lines of "Does the dolphin know you are on this app/about us?" What do you guys think? Clever? Creepy? Stupid? Overthinking it?
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I think it's a fine opening line, drop the 'about us'. Just send it.
 
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Lulubop

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Sayers said:
Alright guys, hope this isn't a stupid question but here goes: I matched with a cute girl on a dating app and I was trying to come up with a clever opening line to start a conversation. I was looking at her pics and she has one of her kissing a dolphin on the nose. I thought about starting with something along the lines of "Does the dolphin know you are on this app/about us?" What do you guys think? Clever? Creepy? Stupid? Overthinking it?
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Just send here a gif of a dolphin doing something cute.
 
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EchoChamber

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Sayers said:
Alright guys, hope this isn't a stupid question but here goes: I matched with a cute girl on a dating app and I was trying to come up with a clever opening line to start a conversation. I was looking at her pics and she has one of her kissing a dolphin on the nose. I thought about starting with something along the lines of "Does the dolphin know you are on this app/about us?" What do you guys think? Clever? Creepy? Stupid? Overthinking it?
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Sounds stupid but infinite times better than "Hi" Or "how u doing"
 
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Gizuko

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I lost my virginity today. Was good, had a blast, but didn't cum. The poor girl was a bit down since she did, but being my first time, I expected something along these lines.

This girl is amazing, really glad I met her. She is far from flawless and I realize that, but damn, I really am glad.
 
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vern

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Gizuko said:
I lost my virginity today. Was good, had a blast, but didn't cum. The poor girl was a bit down since she did, but being my first time, I expected something along these lines.

This girl is amazing, really glad I met her. She is far from flawless and I realize that, but damn, I really am glad.
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First time I did it i nutted in about 20 secs. It really does take all kinds.

Congrats on the sex etc etc. is it your girlfriend ?
 
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Gizuko

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vern said:
First time I did it i nutted in about 20 secs. It really does take all kinds.

Congrats on the sex etc etc. is it your girlfriend ?
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Thank you! I was a bit nervous, and focused too much on her. I ended up exhausted and unable to nut.

I met her through tinder, so she isn't. We both are a bit afraid we might be catching feelings, though.
 
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vern

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Gizuko said:
Thank you! I was a bit nervous, and focused too much on her. I ended up exhausted and unable to nut.

I met her through tinder, so she isn't. We both are a bit afraid we might be catching feelings, though.
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How old are you, if you don't mind?

I know some people are hopeless romantics but don't fall for the first one. Catch some friendly feelings, date her a bit, learn to sex, and then move on.
 
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always crazy bacon

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Gizuko said:
I lost my virginity today. Was good, had a blast, but didn't cum. The poor girl was a bit down since she did, but being my first time, I expected something along these lines.

This girl is amazing, really glad I met her. She is far from flawless and I realize that, but damn, I really am glad.
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First time I did it I needed a handy to finish. But at least I finished, I guess.
 
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Blues1990

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Alastor3 said:
Im 28, she's 21 but pretty mature. Yes? No? Get out creep?
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So long as the two of you get along, then I see no reason why age should be a factor. (It would be a different story if she was under-age.)

I turned 28 & I am seeing someone who is four years younger. She happens to be the sweetest marshmallow around, and I wouldn't change her for the world. :3
 
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artsi

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I just matched with this girl who I dated a couple times before, 4 years ago. We had fun but I committed to another relationship so I had to leave it be, and I think she was a bit bummed when that happened.

She's still damn fine so I guess it's time for round two lol.
 
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Mr Swine

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So should I even bother ask someone out if the girl in question rarely goes out and will rather stay at home? The girl in question works at the local grocery store and I try to do some small talk with her
 
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always crazy bacon

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Mr Swine said:
So should I even bother ask someone out if the girl in question rarely goes out and will rather stay at home? The girl in question works at the local grocery store and I try to do some small talk with her
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Ask her out, she may only be staying in because she's got no offers to go out. BUT, if you get in a relationship with her and she just wants to stay at home that's going to be a problem.
 
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Mr Swine

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always crazy bacon said:
Ask her out, she may only be staying in because she's got no offers to go out. BUT, if you get in a relationship with her and she just wants to stay at home that's going to be a problem.
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Well I have seen her travel a few years ago so I don't think she is 100% at home but yeah I guess it can be a problem
 
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Jzero

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Mr Swine said:
I asked her what she does on the weekends and after the job and if she is out a lot and she replied with that she rarely goes out and rather spends time at home
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Just because she rarely goes out doesn't mean she doesn't like going out. I tell people the same thing but mostly so they can fuck off with their small talk.
 
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