Go_Ly_Dow
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As was said above, moving in with your partner is the only way to really know if it's going to work long term. You learn a LOT about your partner AND yourself when you live with them. When you're earlier on dating and living apart, seeing eachother 3-5 times a week, that's like a greatest hits package for both of you - you're basically only seeing eachother at the top of your game. When you live together, you're going to see eachother in every single messy situation of life. Had a big fight? Too bad, you still live together so you can't disappear for a day to cool down! Hate her inlaws? Too bad, they are coming over to stay for a week! Hate her mangy little dog? Too bad, he's you're dog now!
I know that makes it sound awful, but it really isn't. But it WILL change your relationship in countless ways. It takes the mystery out of both of you, so you'd better have a really solid base to build off of. And just remember, everyone poops.
My girlfriend and I have had 3 living scenarios:
- the first 6 months I lived in my own place and she lived with 2 other girls. In this scenario, we both lived apart and were honeymooning hard, so it was heaven every time we managed to get together, usually 3-5 times a week. I didn't even think she pooped at this time. She was just this sexy angel who descemded upon me several times a week.
- between 6 months and 2 years she lived with me in my condo. My condo was quite large and spacious, had 2 bathrooms, and was quite comfortable. During this time we really got to know eachother's quirks (and trust me, you both have a ton of them) and adjust to them. During this time I was aware that she pooped. But we had 2 bathrooms and opposite schedules, so it usually happened when I was away or in another room.
- between 2 years and 3 years we relocated for work and rent a teeny tiny little one bedroom, one bathroom place. I now know it is built to last because we asre basically living on top of eachother and still making it work. Now we have to hear eachother poop because we currently live in a prison cell.
Well put. Thank you.
I'll make sure we have a proper conversation about it soon once the time comes!